Women prefer bellies over 6-packs

TaintedVampyre

1. What women say they want
2. What women think they want
3. What women actually respond to

So true.

MityMax96

Time to Bulk

Bry_Fitness70

What we do know:
- You sterotyping the men as obese and with a poor diet, is exactly the same type of stereotyping as women thinking 6-pack = boring and self absorbed.

Umm, if you are obese, you are eating too many calories; excessive eating = a poor diet. If that isn't your understanding, I'm dying to know where you think that body fat comes from.

shankasaurus

bummed that most of these 'meeting new people' scenarios seem to be centered around bars and alcohol. two things i've been forced to ban my childish self from lol

Dating is a numbers game. Do whatever you have to, to meet MORE people. It's why I like online dating! So many choices. There have been times I've gone on a different date every night for a week!

BusyRaeNOTBusty

bummed that most of these 'meeting new people' scenarios seem to be centered around bars and alcohol. two things i've been forced to ban my childish self from lol

Meh. There are a lot of places to meet people besides a bar.

yopeeps025

instead of the muscle shirt we got

FaylinaMeir

ehhh I guess I'm that 1/4 then. I don't find beer bellies attractive, why do I want to be a with a man who looks pregnant? :noway:
I'm all for a flat belly or toned or 6 pack.

JoRocka

yeah...there in lies my big problem....
Conversation.....
or I just talk about stupid stuff.....that they could honestly care less about.

stuff that is important to YOU is not stupid stuff.
It may be stupid to them- but it isn't to you.

But when you find someone who is engaged and passionate about what they do- and you have things that over lap- thats when it works.

Mine could give two whoots about fabric- and beads- and dance- but I get visibly excited- eyes light up- hands start going- I can't stand still.

He gets excited about boxing- or gaming.

I get the same way about motorcycles- he does too. We both have something we love- and we have something we love that overlaps- win win.
(steak- we also have steak)

You just gotta find someone who gets as excited about stuff as you do.

Someone who can engage a stranger in an enthralling conversation certainly has a lot of 'game'.

It would be wrong to assume that those who do not possess the particular gift are incapable of meaningful and stimulating conversation when they know you better or are otherwise more comfortable.

clearly this plays into the confidence thing though

Well. I agree- to a point. But if you are in a highly social setting- I expect some sort of verbal sparring. Or at the VERY least- some really confident eye contact- engaging verbally isn't all there is to confidence. Seriously. Body language and confidence are strongly tied together.

My BF has no issues being playful and throws banter about- but put him in a bar and his is miserable- but at some point- you have to come out of the shell and show that you can engage... we are at a bar- and you don't- you're getting passed over. So fi that isn't your arena and you aren't comfortable- then don't go to bars- and if you do- I don't expect you'd be approaching women.

yopeeps025

bummed that most of these 'meeting new people' scenarios seem to be centered around bars and alcohol. two things i've been forced to ban my childish self from lol

Dating is a numbers game. Do whatever you have to, to meet MORE people. It's why I like online dating! So many choices. There have been times I've gone on a different date every night for a week!

Sounds fun.

shankasaurus

bummed that most of these 'meeting new people' scenarios seem to be centered around bars and alcohol. two things i've been forced to ban my childish self from lol

Dating is a numbers game. Do whatever you have to, to meet MORE people. It's why I like online dating! So many choices. There have been times I've gone on a different date every night for a week!

Sounds fun.

What can I say. I know how to have fun. I had ice cream for breakfast.

BillRicks1

In to read later.......

Joannah700

What can I say. I know how to have fun. I had ice cream for breakfast.

No_Finish_Line

bummed that most of these 'meeting new people' scenarios seem to be centered around bars and alcohol. two things i've been forced to ban my childish self from lol

Dating is a numbers game. Do whatever you have to, to meet MORE people. It's why I like online dating! So many choices. There have been times I've gone on a different date every night for a week!

always thought i'd have better luck on line because i thought i wasn't that bad looking and the shyness thing is a non-issue... has not worked out like that in practice lol

No_Finish_Line

Well. I agree- to a point. But if you are in a highly social setting- I expect some sort of verbal sparring. Or at the VERY least- some really confident eye contact- engaging verbally isn't all there is to confidence. Seriously. Body language and confidence are strongly tied together.

My BF has no issues being playful and throws banter about- but put him in a bar and his is miserable- but at some point- you have to come out of the shell and show that you can engage... we are at a bar- and you don't- you're getting passed over. So fi that isn't your arena and you aren't comfortable- then don't go to bars- and if you do- I don't expect you'd be approaching women.

that is a good point. me going to a bar to pick up chics would be like a polar bear trying to hunt in the jungle. Does not play to my natural strengths.

not that i'm going there anyway. 90% of the girl friends i had (which isn't many) have basically fell into my lap, sometimes quite literally actually lol... well once anyway

therealblackdahlia

I think a man can be hot regardless of the size or shape of his stomach, guess it all depends on the man!

Need2Exerc1se

What we do know:
- You sterotyping the men as obese and with a poor diet, is exactly the same type of stereotyping as women thinking 6-pack = boring and self absorbed.

Umm, if you are obese, you are eating too many calories; excessive eating = a poor diet. If that isn't your understanding, I'm dying to know where you think that body fat comes from.

My point: Eating to excess is not the only criteris for a poor diet. There is no guarantee that 6-pack man eats healthier, only that he doesn't overeat.

shankasaurus

bummed that most of these 'meeting new people' scenarios seem to be centered around bars and alcohol. two things i've been forced to ban my childish self from lol

Dating is a numbers game. Do whatever you have to, to meet MORE people. It's why I like online dating! So many choices. There have been times I've gone on a different date every night for a week!

always thought i'd have better luck on line because i thought i wasn't that bad looking and the shyness thing is a non-issue... has not worked out like that in practice lol

You might be doing it wrong. You come across as kind of serious. I find humor and jokes to work the best. Don't take it or yourself too seriously. Message TONS of women, and then forget about them unless they reply. NEVER mention what they look like in your message to them (its implied that you think they are attractive just by sending the message, anything more is creepy). It's important to meet QUICKLY. The longer you wait the more time they will have to change their mind. Plus it's really fun to be spontaneous. Don't put too much expectations into that first meeting, you can really not tell enough about a person from online interaction, so don't get your hopes up. If you like them, schedule another date, if you don't, it's perfectly acceptable to ignore them.

MityMax96

What we do know:
- You sterotyping the men as obese and with a poor diet, is exactly the same type of stereotyping as women thinking 6-pack = boring and self absorbed.

Umm, if you are obese, you are eating too many calories; excessive eating = a poor diet. If that isn't your understanding, I'm dying to know where you think that body fat comes from.

My point: Eating to excess is not the only criteris for a poor diet. There is no guarantee that 6-pack man eats healthier, only that he doesn't overeat.

I guess it is possible.....
but still, 6-pack abs does require a person to be on top of his/her game.

SheBeButLittleSheisFierce

I skimmed through most of the comments and truly the "research" results can vary a thousand times over depending on who you are asking. If you are with someone who finds you attractive and you find them attractive then it's a win. Most of the connection comes from personality, but everyone's eye candy is different. Who cares about doing a study on it. If you are happy with you than that is perfect. Don't change your look to please someone else.

ilfaith

I think the flaw of the study is using Colin Firth as an example of the everyday average shlub. Most women I know would gladly take Mr. Firth, and his love handles, any day of the week.