Why is MFP so mean??

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BombshellPhoenix

My least favorite people are the ones bashing people for why they want to lose weight. Who cares why? Maybe I want to be a super model, maybe I want to be a stick for halloween. who frickin cares?! just want to talk about losing weight not why you reason is so much better than mine haha

It's not a matter of who's got a better reason. Are you saying the community should support someone asking how to lose more weight when they are underweight or possibly disordered? Or to stop someone from making a spur of the moment decision that could effect their health?

You should care about the reasoning because yes, it matters.

ETA : context is everything

great point! I absolutely did not mean for people who are underweight. We all know that we should be within a healthy weight range for health reasons, but most of us have another kicker, wether it be a wedding dress or starting a family. Mine is because my knees and ankles hurt so bad because I'm overweight. I don't need people bashy my reason why I just want help and support getting healthy. that's why i came to this sute

I'm not saying it didn't happen, but really? Someone bashed you for your reason? That's crazy and shouldn't have happened...what thread was this in?

i don't care that my reason is whatever, but several people where mocking a group of women that want to get out of the obese range prior to getting pregnant. and that made me so mad!

oh well that's definitely not right. It is most definitely a good enough reason to lose weight for that purpose. I don't mind the initial reasoning behind wanting to lose weight, so as long as the goal is healthy and not unreasonable. We all start off somewhere and sometimes it takes something in us to trigger that first spark of desire to move forward. My initial reasoning for losing weight was to get back to the size I was in high school. By taking those first steps and meeting some amazing people on MFP along the way, it inspired me to no longer focus on that and see something more. Health, fitness, to aspire to get stronger. We all have different "aha!" Moments.

I just hate seeing someone wanting to lose 15 lbs in 2 weeks to go on a cruise kind of scenario. It's like.... why didn't we start this 4 months ago? What good could come out of starving themselves to look good in a bikini? Just the impulse immediate gratification things get me.

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Joannah700

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I do not need any MEAN help to lose weight. It is not appreciated and therefore stop saying you are helping us, you are NOT!

Psst. Let me tell you a secret:

There is a drop-down menu under everyone's names that has this nifty "ignore user" feature. A little less stress = more weight loss. Win/win!

This entire post is a remarkable tool for clearing the stressful off MFP for me. It is win/win.:laugh:

Rompers_16

^^^this

PrizePopple

One more rollin' kitty...

diannethegeek

Just bumping the roll. Nothing to see here.

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^^^this

sunburntgalaxy

Dang it I just typed up an awesome post and in that time the thread rolled so it didn't post. So basically the gist of it is that I don't get why the "mean" people keep posting because they are giving good, honest advice and getting bashed - if it were me I would just say "whatever, do what you want, I don't know you, so make a dumb decision" but they don't do that -they keep trying to help. And even though I am not friends with them on here, because I am more a loner in this (although reading how awesome they are off the boards makes me start to rethink that) I really appreciate everything the "mean" people post because it has made my weight loss journey a lot easier than I expected because I didn't do any of the dumb stuff first. So thanks Mean People!

Also cat gifs rock, and I would post one if I wasn't so lazy. Which of course, was the more important portion of my post.

rachelrb85

Geez even I can't believe this thing rolled. Thanks for keeping my shiz going peeps.

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Dang it I just typed up an awesome post and in that time the thread rolled so it didn't post. So basically the gist of it is that I don't get why the "mean" people keep posting because they are giving good, honest advice and getting bashed - if it were me I would just say "whatever, do what you want, I don't know you, so make a dumb decision" but they don't do that -they keep trying to help. And even though I am not friends with them on here, because I am more a loner in this (although reading how awesome they are off the boards makes me start to rethink that) I really appreciate everything the "mean" people post because it has made my weight loss journey a lot easier than I expected because I didn't do any of the dumb stuff first. So thanks Mean People!

Also cat gifs rock, and I would post one if I wasn't so lazy. Which of course, was the more important portion of my post.

Why do we keep posting even though we get bashed...it's not just for the OP it's for lurkers. Trust me though, after awhile with OP's that just want justification there will be a moment where someone will tell them good luck on their gurney, and then watch out!

sunburntgalaxy

Dang it I just typed up an awesome post and in that time the thread rolled so it didn't post. So basically the gist of it is that I don't get why the "mean" people keep posting because they are giving good, honest advice and getting bashed - if it were me I would just say "whatever, do what you want, I don't know you, so make a dumb decision" but they don't do that -they keep trying to help. And even though I am not friends with them on here, because I am more a loner in this (although reading how awesome they are off the boards makes me start to rethink that) I really appreciate everything the "mean" people post because it has made my weight loss journey a lot easier than I expected because I didn't do any of the dumb stuff first. So thanks Mean People!

Also cat gifs rock, and I would post one if I wasn't so lazy. Which of course, was the more important portion of my post.

Why do we keep posting even though we get bashed...it's not just for the OP it's for lurkers. Trust me though, after awhile with OP's that just want justification there will be a moment where someone will tell them good luck on their gurney, and then watch out!

And as a lurker for the most part, I have to say that I really do appreciate all you "meanies" - you have helped me (and I know a lot of others) a lot!

AmyRhubarb

Just bumping the roll. Nothing to see here.

SunofaBeach14

Is this the safe spot for all the meanies where they aren't bullied and called names by the nice people?

Veil5577

I want to apologize for the post I put in this original thread. I was NOT by any means calling the OP or anyone else stupid, I was just trying to make a point with the dry sense of humor I was blessed with. If I offended anyone, I am sorry.

GertrudeHorse

Dang it I just typed up an awesome post and in that time the thread rolled so it didn't post. So basically the gist of it is that I don't get why the "mean" people keep posting because they are giving good, honest advice and getting bashed - if it were me I would just say "whatever, do what you want, I don't know you, so make a dumb decision" but they don't do that -they keep trying to help. And even though I am not friends with them on here, because I am more a loner in this (although reading how awesome they are off the boards makes me start to rethink that) I really appreciate everything the "mean" people post because it has made my weight loss journey a lot easier than I expected because I didn't do any of the dumb stuff first. So thanks Mean People!

Also cat gifs rock, and I would post one if I wasn't so lazy. Which of course, was the more important portion of my post.

Why do we keep posting even though we get bashed...it's not just for the OP it's for lurkers. Trust me though, after awhile with OP's that just want justification there will be a moment where someone will tell them good luck on their gurney, and then watch out!

And as a lurker for the most part, I have to say that I really do appreciate all you "meanies" - you have helped me (and I know a lot of others) a lot!

Co-signed. I lurked for a while and the mean people gave me all the knowledge and info I could ever need to achieve what I wanted. They also made me see that I could eat a tonne of food and still lose or maintain. Three cheers for the mean people! :drinker:

smantha32

bumping with a mean cat!