Why is MFP so mean??
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100% of the questions asked here are fully answerable by googling, or my using the MFP search box. 100% of them.
Those who answer with accurate information should be thanked, even if they're d!cks about it.
MFP has a search box?
<snort>
and I'm a newbie that says dumb **** that everyone already asked about and I think that's funny....0 -
100% of the questions asked here are fully answerable by googling, or my using the MFP search box. 100% of them.
Those who answer with accurate information should be thanked, even if they're d!cks about it.
Except for bang/date/marry of course.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.0 -
Yeah...I don't really understand this post?0
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Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
Why you so mean?0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
Yup. And some of us are clearly chaotic evil0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.0 -
WRONG! You are all so mean!
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Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
The thing is that it doesn't matter if my point is considered or not. I am not the one looking for information.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
Yup. And some of us are clearly chaotic evil
Lawful good usually gets further.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
Every single one of the helpful, nice posters on these boards has been called negative, mean, bully, troll, etc. at some point or another. Every single one who's been here long enough. It's hard to talk about the "mean people" and the "mean advice" when everything and everyone is called mean at some point or another.
Please, can we not turn this thread into an actual mean people thread? Because then I have to do my spiel about how mean people threads are actually discouraging those helpful users from posting advice.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
Why you so mean?
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Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
For real
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Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
Every single one of the helpful, nice posters on these boards has been called negative, mean, bully, troll, etc. at some point or another. Every single one who's been here long enough. It's hard to talk about the "mean people" and the "mean advice" when everything and everyone is called mean at some point or another.
Please, can we not turn this thread into an actual mean people thread? Because then I have to do my spiel about how mean people threads are actually discouraging those helpful users from posting advice.
I didn't turn it into a mean people thread. It started out as one. And I'm not talking about people being nice but being called mean. Mean is mean, no matter what you call it.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
Yup. And some of us are clearly chaotic evil
Lawful good usually gets further.
I'd rather be right. Let the hyper-sensitive fail0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
In all seriousness... The honest, straight-forward answers are the most honest and correct answer. Those are the responses that really sunk in for me and made me realize that all foods are okay in moderation and all I need to do is eat at a calorie deficit to lose weight. There's no need to sugar coat it when it's been said over and over again. There's a search button on the forums for a reason. Plus, it keeps the forums entertaining when there's sarcasm and gifs.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
at least someone here displays common sense :laugh: :flowerforyou:0 -
Well, for one thing we're hungry and that makes us cranky.
For another many of the ladies here seem to hang with this shady dude named TOM. He seems to put them in a bad mood.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
In all seriousness... The honest, straight-forward answers are the most honest and correct answer. Those are the responses that really sunk in for me and made me realize that all foods are okay in moderation and all I need to do is eat at a calorie deficit to lose weight. There's no need to sugar coat it when it's been said over and over again. There's a search button on the forums for a reason. Plus, it keeps the forums entertaining when there's sarcasm and gifs.
I can agree to that to a point. Being a new member myself, I was pretty shocked at the tone of many of these threads. Sometimes it's funny, and sometimes it is mean and nasty to a disturbing point.
Again, I must wonder why people feel the need to post something over and over again if it is so frustrating that they can't be at least civil. If it was worth sugar coating the first time, why not the 10th or 100th or 1000th time?0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
at least someone here displays common sense :laugh: :flowerforyou:
This, right here, the implication that no one else here has common sense, this is the kind of thing that causes the nice users to get fed up and start posting gifs. Yet we're the mean ones and you're the nice ones?0 -
You know you're one of the meanies when you see a title like this and go "Oh, it's ONNN" and then come in here and are like "shucks..."
THANKS!0 -
Again, I must wonder why people feel the need to post something over and over again if it is so frustrating that they can't be at least civil. If it was worth sugar coating the first time, why not the 10th or 100th or 1000th time?
Because, maybe just maybe, everyone is different? I know shocking...0 -
Well, for one thing we're hungry and that makes us cranky.
For another many of the ladies here seem to hang with this shady dude named TOM. He seems to put them in a bad mood.
Ah, point taken. That is an answer I can relate to.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
In all seriousness... The honest, straight-forward answers are the most honest and correct answer. Those are the responses that really sunk in for me and made me realize that all foods are okay in moderation and all I need to do is eat at a calorie deficit to lose weight. There's no need to sugar coat it when it's been said over and over again. There's a search button on the forums for a reason. Plus, it keeps the forums entertaining when there's sarcasm and gifs.
I can agree to that to a point. Being a new member myself, I was pretty shocked at the tone of many of these threads. Sometimes it's funny, and sometimes it is mean and nasty to a disturbing point.
Again, I must wonder why people feel the need to post something over and over again if it is so frustrating that they can't be at least civil. If it was worth sugar coating the first time, why not the 10th or 100th or 1000th time?
You're kind of missing the point many of us are making. Many of the people being called mean are sugar coating it the 1000th time. Or at least presenting their information in a neutral tone. Many of us have copy-paste paragraphs that we use or links to better explanations. And yet over and over again OPs argue with us, call us mean, call us trolls, even when we're sugar coating that information for them.
There is actual rudeness on these forums and I think that it should be reported or pointed out where it occurs. But the "mean people" threads that pop up every week tend not to be about those people. Once you look into them they're almost always started by someone who was given actual, factual information in a neutral tone that they didn't like.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
at least someone here displays common sense :laugh: :flowerforyou:
This, right here, the implication that no one else here has common sense, this is the kind of thing that causes the nice users to get fed up and start posting gifs. Yet we're the mean ones and you're the nice ones?
I hope that you didn't say "ones" (plural) to include me. I did not suggest, nor do I agree, that others don't have common sense. I did not mean to offend anyone.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
at least someone here displays common sense :laugh: :flowerforyou:
This, right here, the implication that no one else here has common sense, this is the kind of thing that causes the nice users to get fed up and start posting gifs. Yet we're the mean ones and you're the nice ones?
well, this is a "mean people defense thread", you are trying to justify being jerks to new people by saying you are frustrated with the question. common sense would suggest to simply close that thread again and not pick a fight, if the whole thing is so tiresome and frustrating to you.0 -
it gets sugar coated. time and time again.Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
In all seriousness... The honest, straight-forward answers are the most honest and correct answer. Those are the responses that really sunk in for me and made me realize that all foods are okay in moderation and all I need to do is eat at a calorie deficit to lose weight. There's no need to sugar coat it when it's been said over and over again. There's a search button on the forums for a reason. Plus, it keeps the forums entertaining when there's sarcasm and gifs.
I can agree to that to a point. Being a new member myself, I was pretty shocked at the tone of many of these threads. Sometimes it's funny, and sometimes it is mean and nasty to a disturbing point.
Again, I must wonder why people feel the need to post something over and over again if it is so frustrating that they can't be at least civil. If it was worth sugar coating the first time, why not the 10th or 100th or 1000th time?
doesn't change the facts.
...and the "mean" comes out only when OP starts bickering with the folks that are trying to give them a shortcut to advice.
Hell, I got called mean by someone just yesterday... who thought I was seeking them out to say they were giving bad blanket advice.
They get snippy and butthurt... and probably think I'm mean because I told them "Stop telling everyone to eat 1400 calories because you do."
Do I care? Not really. Will I keep telling that poster that they're wrong for giving crap advice? Absolutely.
Now, am I mean for correcting the poor advice time after time... or am I mean because the poster got butthurt?0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.
Perhaps. But some posts are just mean. Honest, straight-forward, right or wrong, is there ever a reason not to be nice?
Nice is overrated.
I disagree. Present your point in a nice friendly manner and it's far more likely to be considered. State your point in a mean or demeaning manner and it's highly unlikely that it will be given any heed at all.
In all seriousness... The honest, straight-forward answers are the most honest and correct answer. Those are the responses that really sunk in for me and made me realize that all foods are okay in moderation and all I need to do is eat at a calorie deficit to lose weight. There's no need to sugar coat it when it's been said over and over again. There's a search button on the forums for a reason. Plus, it keeps the forums entertaining when there's sarcasm and gifs.
I can agree to that to a point. Being a new member myself, I was pretty shocked at the tone of many of these threads. Sometimes it's funny, and sometimes it is mean and nasty to a disturbing point.
Again, I must wonder why people feel the need to post something over and over again if it is so frustrating that they can't be at least civil. If it was worth sugar coating the first time, why not the 10th or 100th or 1000th time?
You're kind of missing the point many of us are making. Many of the people being called mean are sugar coating it the 1000th time. Or at least presenting their information in a neutral tone. Many of us have copy-paste paragraphs that we use or links to better explanations. And yet over and over again OPs argue with us, call us mean, call us trolls, even when we're sugar coating that information for them.
There is actual rudeness on these forums and I think that it should be reported or pointed out where it occurs. But the "mean people" threads that pop up every week tend not to be about those people. Once you look into them they're almost always started by someone who was given actual, factual information in a neutral tone that they didn't like.
I see. I guess I read the original post incorrectly, I thought it was suggesting that people were driven to meaness by having to repeat themselves, which led me to ask why they felt the need to repeat.
You are right that there is rudeness on here and it's new to me, as I am new to this site. I don't understand it. Other forums I belong to are not like this.0 -
Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?
at least someone here displays common sense :laugh: :flowerforyou:
This, right here, the implication that no one else here has common sense, this is the kind of thing that causes the nice users to get fed up and start posting gifs. Yet we're the mean ones and you're the nice ones?
well, this is a "mean people defense thread", you are trying to justify being jerks to new people by saying you are frustrated with the question. common sense would suggest to simply close that thread again and not pick a fight, if the whole thing is so tiresome and frustrating to you.
99% are not jerks and do not pick fights. OPs just get butthurt when they get honest and direct answers they don't like. Common sense would be to listen to the majority of the advice, even if direct and not full of sugar, rainbows and unicorn poop, than to get all defensive and call everybody mean.0
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