Do you think it is inappropriate..

Karleyyy

I'm trying to convince my wife to take a pic of my *kitten* in my undies to post....

Lmao!

Hearts_2015

This is my personal opinion, and has nothing to do with being a mod - as a mod, I enforce the rules set out by Mike and Al, as that's what I've been tasked with doing.

But my opinion is this: There is a reason for the rules they've set in place. They've attempted to create a supportive, open community that assists people in reaching their health and fitness goals. The site age limit is 18. So why should the rules be PG-13?

Well, because in any community (society, group, etc) there must be compromise. Otherwise, groups don't work. The simple fact is, you will never find a group of more than 2 or 3 people who agree on EVERYthing and all have the same ideals, values, mores, and experiences. So when you have a group of people, there will be varying opinions and desires. To make the group functional, there has to be some sort of consensus and compromise for how each person in the group behaves and contributes to the group. Some people will want one thing, some will want another. You either find a compromise that everyone can live with - or the group disintegrates.

There are people from all walks of life, all ages, all religious and political views, on MFP. It would be great if "live and let live" worked... But it doesn't. Just as some of you are offended by religious discussion, others are offended by swearing or risque pics or bad attititudes or ads or whatever. The forum rules were created out of the desire to keep the community from becoming one of those sites where fighting, drama, gossip, attacks and negativity are rampant. I've been on sites like that. They suck. And that environment is certainly not conducive to helping people overcome their personal demons.

Do I have a personal problem with some of the risque pics - eh... there are some I don't find attractive, but I wouldn't say they bother me. I have risque pics of my own. Do I think this is the proper arena to display them? No. That's not what I'm here for. I don't think there's any great benefit from displaying those kinds of pics. And no, we're not talking about simple before/after underwear pics. There's a difference between standing in front of a mirror in undies and taking a progress pic --- and laying on your bed with your legs spread or shoving your tatas out and baring everything but the nipple or pulling your thong up your crotch and sitting on the camera. :huh: The point being that without rules there will always be someone to push the envelope. Someone who doesn't know where that line is.

Since I know there are 70 yr old ladies on here (hello, that's someone's grandma), or people who find a certain style of photo offensive, then compromises can be made for them. Just as there are compromises made for lots of other things, like no religious discussion or no ads. I think it comes down to having a little bit of respect for other people and making some accommodations for the benefit of the group. Personally, I think the rules are pretty reasonable and go a long way toward keeping this site a place I want to be on and interact with people. Not because I'm offended by pics... But because compromise keeps the community from turning into a negative and destructive environment.

ETA: Wow, that ended up way longer than I intended (as usual :ohwell: ) Sorry.

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I agree the profile shots seem to have taken on a world of their own these last couple months.

Achoooo

I usually don't care either - if it's in the correct context, sure, I mean this is a website for weight loss. It is smart to not show your face. But some people just put up a posey avatar obviously looking for attention or fishing for comments. But then that's just annoying not really offensive per say. I wouldn't really take offense to much, but the person who mentioned "dirty" underwear has a good point. I would at least keep it clean and make sure nothing is really hanging out or showing, etc.

Hearts_2015

Personally, those pictures don't bother me at all, except when people post them for the sole purpose of thumbing their noses at the forum rules and are trying to see how far they can push the envelope. I think that's just childish and silly.

^^This, is where I stand. I find trends like b00bie or b00tie Friday to be utterly ridiculous. I don't care about people's particular assets (mine are plenty), but when people choose to post photos of their breasts and butts simply to give an eff-you to this web site and the people who work so hard to maintain it, then I would prefer that those users would take their disrespect and calorie counting somewhere else. Nude bodies and partially clothed bodies do not offend me, but that doesn't mean that this site is the place to post your MySpace-ready, soft p0rn photos.

The creators of this site are happy to give us a place to share our stories and cheer for each other's success. But if you need people to see everything in order to feel like your journey was worth it, then you need to do some serious internal work and get in touch with who you are. There simply aren't enough compliments to fill that kind of emptiness.

That is why I wholeheartedly disagree with those who are saying that posting an underwear pic takes confidence. I think it shows a complete lack of confidence. I have seen users with absolutely amazing bodies who manage to show off their hard work without a single image in their underwear. When you know that you have worked hard and your results show, you do not have to show everything in a desperate hunt for compliments.

Since you agreed with me, I felt like I need to chime in again because I don't think we're completely on the same page. It doesn't bother me when people show off their bodies. I don't think that means they have a personality disorder. And even if they do, it's no skin off my nose. Heck, we're all needy in one way or another. Semi-nude or even completely nude pictures aren't the issue to me personally. They bother me only if they're being posted deliberately to break the rules. I figure the site founders have the right to run this place the way they see fit, and I appreciate so much what they do for us that it bugs me when I see people doing things to deliberately make it run less smoothly. That's all.

Definitely agree with Jill on this one! No reason to make the Mods/Site Owners work harder than they already do simply for game playing effect. :huh: I don't understand the point of trying to get threads locked by "shock value" or butt or boob profile shots.

Tomhusker

As long as there are no skidmarks.

Anidorie

well i mean i know my profile picture can be a bet too sexy but we are all big people and can handle my collarbone showing

warmachinejt

what is a colarbone

Cait_Sidhe

A collarbone is the layman's term for clavicles.