Not trying to bash on men

jamerz3294

I hear that P90

I was at the bar the other day and a girl smacked my behind on her way out!
It definitely woke me up!
Needless to say my girlfriend wasn't pleased, as she was standing right next to me.

And 1 out of 20 is AWESOME odds, lol, I think most guys would hang in there for 1 out of 500.
(giggity) lol

oh sorry i didnt mean to offend your GF the other day at the bar....

its okay, but was the squeeze necessary? lol

:laugh: yes it was!!! Ali told me that we needed to check and see if the muscles in the hiney area are getting firmer from your dance routines.... now i gotta go check the other PIT men to make sure they are firming up too

Hey fellas! jackeh says line up and assume the position! :huh:

jlwhelan1

Sad thing is that people in general are habitual. We do what works the most consistantly right, so the sad thing is if some of the men being spoken of are using primitive tactics it may be that unfortunately that those primitive tactics occasionally work. For some 1 for 20 is enough of a statistic to continue. In baseball we always said you can fail 7 out of 10 times and still be a millionare, I wonder if some men adopt this same stat :laugh:

Now as always I have to speak up for the fellas, lately I've noticed a much more bold and assertive species of woman. Ones that have no problem telling a man who is a complete stranger what they want from him (usually it is not hugs/cuddles and sweet nothings). Is the tide shifting or is society just more tolerable to aggressive females?

You know, I really think it is so. I am on a large university campus and even though I usually am busy in a relatively insulated environment, I have overheard some absolutely incredible cell phone calls. One very attractive blond co-ed female in all seriousness..."well, next time we're ***king I'll just keep my pillow over my face so I don't distract you."

One of my male colleagues was seriously stalked by a student during open tutor hours. She would sit next to him and rub his legs with her foot and be very blatant in her attentions. He came to me for advice and I took him to our supervisor to be reassigned so, the student could not claim harassment...she seemed a lawsuit waiting to happen.

I think, in many ways, the media portrays the very aggressive female as the heroine. Girls grow up seeing this type of female get the man she wants in movies or tv. In this way, many are convinced that being aggressive is the only way to get _______(fill in the blank here...recognition, be popular, find love, be adventuresome...etc.)

magichatter06

Ugh, I was at a family type restaraunt today and it's one of those stares that you see out of the corner of your eye....three guys at the table ahead of me....ugh...and I hear like snickers so I hope they weren't talking about me! :grumble:

jlwhelan1

Worst lines.

Shake it shake it baby, but don't break it.

Oh, I'd like to take you home and dress you up. (What am I, a doll? a toy? I don't know how to choose my own clothing???)

You're a spinner (what the heck??? I didn't stay to ask, his tone grossed me out)

(in a club) You dance, (clap), Yeaaaaahhhhhhhh (two thumbs up) (I think he was Italian?)

nichols

i dont know what to say im pretty secure and dont mind when guys check me out at all. :laugh:

alifelessevident

i dont know what to say im pretty secure and dont mind when guys check me out at all. :laugh:

its the way they leer that gets me:blushing: although i think this may be one of the differences between guys and gals, i don't mind if a girl stares at me, but in a good way- not like shes gonna be sick from what shes looking at:sick: ... again doens' happen very often so you can take that with a grain of salt.. ack well:grumble: :grumble:

Quenofcrazzy

Hey, it is my goal to be one of those moms whos teenage son gets embarrassed because his friends say "Your mom is hot!!" :laugh: :laugh: That's my motivation!! haha!

My 15 year old son gets told that all the time. Now, before I go to any of the events at the high school, I have to check with him to make sure what I am wearing is ok. He says he doesn't like it when his friends talk about me like I am some high school tease..Poor kid.

jlwhelan1

i dont know what to say im pretty secure and dont mind when guys check me out at all. :laugh:

Ah, ya probably like it when the fellas check ya out, eh?

Carrie6o6

I have no idea if guys check me out or not. I once had a guy ask me out and I didn't know he was asking me out and I turned him down by accident. I've never been in the dating scene or anything! If a guy is looking at me or comments me, I would never know if they are hitting on me or just being nice. I have had many guys say that im pretty, but I would always pass it off as them being nice. I cant tell its all the same to me. I guess it dont really matter anyways since im married, but it would be nice to tell the difference. hahaha

Carrie6o6

Woot!! just wanted to be the 100th post on here. I know.. im a retard haha

jlwhelan1

More worst first lines:

Do you use the pill?

You're a girl! A real girl! (granted this was at a drag party, :laugh: )

p90x_Dude

I hear that P90

I was at the bar the other day and a girl smacked my behind on her way out!
It definitely woke me up!
Needless to say my girlfriend wasn't pleased, as she was standing right next to me.

And 1 out of 20 is AWESOME odds, lol, I think most guys would hang in there for 1 out of 500.
(giggity) lol

LOL, now if the roles were reversed you may have been hauled off in cuffs with an new charge stamped on your record. Glad you GF kept her cool, many people wake up stunned after a vicious right cross after touching someones significant other.

mjfer123

well, lets just say she wasn't keeping her cool by her choice, it was more like I had to calm her down and talk her out of the situation, yeesh!
Last thing I need is to be in the middle of a cat fight!
But yea, there are other stories... but most of them are the same.
Women brush up on me all the time, and its not accidental,
its usually the top or rear and they are leaning into it....
What gets me is the guts these ladies have, cuz Im always out with my girlfriend, and they are usually doing all this with my gf right there!

p90x_Dude

Yep pretty amazing these days, I must admit I don't have women getting close enough to me to brush against me, but I do avoid those types of places. Must be tough for the misses, I hope she doesn't start packing :laugh:

Carrie6o6

Now as always I have to speak up for the fellas, lately I've noticed a much more bold and assertive species of woman. Ones that have no problem telling a man who is a complete stranger what they want from him (usually it is not hugs/cuddles and sweet nothings). Is the tide shifting or is society just more tolerable to aggressive females?

I also find that a lot of younger women my age and a bit younger (16-mid 20s maybe) are... a lot... how would say that.. promiscuous thats the word! hahaha They treat themselves as pieces of meat! I did once as well. With that being said

Father figures these days are quite low... A father is a very important role and with a father missing or even a bad relationship with your father (like I had) you still need that male figure love. So where do girls turn? To guys looking to fill that void that their father never could.

Im positive that the media plays a HUGE role in this as always! We are always being taught how to look and act from that and now a days it seems you cant watch a comedy movie (lots of others) with out there being nudity in it, or it being all about sex.

Another reason I was very promiscuous was that my husband used to watch porn so I would try to compete with that. Women are very competitive and when the media is coming from all angles we (or at least I) felt that i needed to step it up to become desirable. had to compete with porn, media and other women. I thought the more sex I would give to my husband in any which way he wouldnt turn or look at any of that.. but of course that didnt work hahaha

i dunno.. those are some of my theories and experience with it all.. Perhaps thats why women now act these ways *shrugs* Thank God, he took me from that state of mind!

mjfer123

My gf is pretty level headed most of the time.
But there are those few "promiscuous" girls that set her off.
She never does anything but yell at me for it.
Which I find odd, cuz Im usually clueless until she points them out to me.

Carrie6o6

My gf is pretty level headed most of the time.
But there are those few "promiscuous" girls that set her off.
She never does anything but yell at me for it.
Which I find odd, cuz Im usually clueless until she points them out to me.

I remember when I was first with my husband I would get mad over little things. I was very jealous. Even if another girl looked at him I would be fuming!! i remember this one time I was sitting inside and my husband was skimming the pool where I worked. These girls in the pool kept telling James (husband) how they loved him and all this junk.. wow.. I almost died! I could have ripped there heads off!! I used to get mad at him for it but I realized it wasnt his fault haha Now if girls hit on him I could care less cause I know he loves me. I have nothing to worry about! haha

wanderinglight

This is an interesting topic.

I used to get really jealous/ mad at my ex because he had the worst wandering eye ever. I let it make me crazy. I became that girl who used to say "just go and talk to her if you want her so badly!!!" and I hated him for doing it and myself for letting it get me so angry.

Lately though, I've gotten over it and I think it's because I have so much more confidence in myself. It's more a matter of now I know what I'm worth, and I choose to believe that he (I'm talking a future "he" now since I'm currently single lol) wants to be with me and thus will be with me.

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Then, on the flip side, I'm also the person that is checked out. I get checked out a lot, and have my whole life. Not that I'm the best-looking person in the world (and especially not in Southern Calif) but I am tall and am usually friendly and smiling and that might have something to do with it. I used to HATE it, which I'm sure has to do with having had big boobs since I was 14 and the creepy old men would follow me around. Lately though I've realized, I'm not going to be hot forever. Nobody is. And one day I might look back and wish that people still whistled at me. Or maybe I'll just gracefully realize my time is over and have good memories of being able to turn heads.

HOWEVER, one thing I can't STAND is not being able to run or walk along the side of a road without guys shouting stuff. I truly, truly hate that I'm made to feel uncomfortable doing something that 50% of the population can do without thinking about.

kimber607

Hi

I think when I was younger in my early 20's...if I thought a guy was checking me out it made me feel insecure (and I had a..how dare he kind of attitude...not that I thought I was better than anyone, just that it shouldn't be done)
Now that I'm ----ummmm......in my 30's, I think as long as it is tasteful and subtle.... a look here and there is fine with me

I think we're all human.....no big deal


Kim

sculley

This is an interesting topic.

I used to get really jealous/ mad at my ex because he had the worst wandering eye ever. I let it make me crazy. I became that girl who used to say "just go and talk to her if you want her so badly!!!" and I hated him for doing it and myself for letting it get me so angry.

Lately though, I've gotten over it and I think it's because I have so much more confidence in myself. It's more a matter of now I know what I'm worth, and I choose to believe that he (I'm talking a future "he" now since I'm currently single lol) wants to be with me and thus will be with me.

****
Then, on the flip side, I'm also the person that is checked out. I get checked out a lot, and have my whole life. Not that I'm the best-looking person in the world (and especially not in Southern Calif) but I am tall and am usually friendly and smiling and that might have something to do with it. I used to HATE it, which I'm sure has to do with having had big boobs since I was 14 and the creepy old men would follow me around. Lately though I've realized, I'm not going to be hot forever. Nobody is. And one day I might look back and wish that people still whistled at me. Or maybe I'll just gracefully realize my time is over and have good memories of being able to turn heads.

HOWEVER, one thing I can't STAND is not being able to run or walk along the side of a road without guys shouting stuff. I truly, truly hate that I'm made to feel uncomfortable doing something that 50% of the population can do without thinking about.

I had a hard time just walking down the road in Norfolk Va without someone yelling out the window what they would do to me....

The other night my first time in about 5 years at a bar/club with a few friends and some guy out of no where grabbed my butt.... I was like wow who gave you that right.

nichols

should have turned around and knocked him on his butt maybe teaching him just a little humility and manners wouldnt hurt him any. just my opinion though.

ChubbyBunny

should have turned around and knocked him on his butt maybe teaching him just a little humility and manners wouldnt hurt him any. just my opinion though.

See.....you understand my point of view!
(I got it being raised with/by 5 older brothers)

FitJoani

Honestly I would love to get checked out. It would be quite an ego boost. But I live in a land of superficial morons so they will look at me look at each other say something nasty and laugh at me. that is enough to make you feel terrible, and lose confidence in yourself, but think of it this way sweetie YOU ARE TURNING HEADS WAHOO!!!!!!!!!!

obliged

well ok, mas my friends birthday a a gay bar becuase it was my friends birthday and she really wanted to go coz we had this competition to see who would get hit on the most - our friend nick won but i came second
i had my butt grabbed 5 times (4 chicks, one gay guy) my boobs three (not sure which sexes) and some random chick threw herself on me trying to drag me to the bathroom so i ... well lets just say there was a guy involved as well:noway: needless to say i pushed her off of me and she went onto the next person

so i guess that counts.... right?:indifferent:

oh and yesterday there was guy at uni that came over to our group and we were talking, sitting at chairs and tables (he was opposite me from the table) and we put our feet up on the tables and randomly he starts kicking my feet off the table even though there was plenty of room for his feet and he kept kinda staring at me:sick: :frown:
help a gal out, does that count as flirting? :huh:

p90x_Dude

Now as always I have to speak up for the fellas, lately I've noticed a much more bold and assertive species of woman. Ones that have no problem telling a man who is a complete stranger what they want from him (usually it is not hugs/cuddles and sweet nothings). Is the tide shifting or is society just more tolerable to aggressive females?

I also find that a lot of younger women my age and a bit younger (16-mid 20s maybe) are... a lot... how would say that.. promiscuous thats the word! hahaha They treat themselves as pieces of meat! I did once as well. With that being said

Father figures these days are quite low... A father is a very important role and with a father missing or even a bad relationship with your father (like I had) you still need that male figure love. So where do girls turn? To guys looking to fill that void that their father never could.

Im positive that the media plays a HUGE role in this as always! We are always being taught how to look and act from that and now a days it seems you cant watch a comedy movie (lots of others) with out there being nudity in it, or it being all about sex.

Another reason I was very promiscuous was that my husband used to watch porn so I would try to compete with that. Women are very competitive and when the media is coming from all angles we (or at least I) felt that i needed to step it up to become desirable. had to compete with porn, media and other women. I thought the more sex I would give to my husband in any which way he wouldnt turn or look at any of that.. but of course that didnt work hahaha

i dunno.. those are some of my theories and experience with it all.. Perhaps thats why women now act these ways *shrugs* Thank God, he took me from that state of mind!

Hit the nail on the head. A good father shows a daughter what love is so every word of seduction from a predator won't work. Likewise good father shows his son what is means to treat a woman with respect even if sometimes she doesn't display that she deserves it. I'm teaching my son to NEVER disrespect (don't be stupid now) a woman whether with words or actions.

p90x_Dude

should have turned around and knocked him on his butt maybe teaching him just a little humility and manners wouldnt hurt him any. just my opinion though.

Not in this day and age, men don't mind hitting a woman back or worse so I would never advise a violent response even though I know it's almost a reflex.

jamerz3294

Now as always I have to speak up for the fellas, lately I've noticed a much more bold and assertive species of woman. Ones that have no problem telling a man who is a complete stranger what they want from him (usually it is not hugs/cuddles and sweet nothings). Is the tide shifting or is society just more tolerable to aggressive females?

I also find that a lot of younger women my age and a bit younger (16-mid 20s maybe) are... a lot... how would say that.. promiscuous thats the word! hahaha They treat themselves as pieces of meat! I did once as well. With that being said

Father figures these days are quite low... A father is a very important role and with a father missing or even a bad relationship with your father (like I had) you still need that male figure love. So where do girls turn? To guys looking to fill that void that their father never could.

Im positive that the media plays a HUGE role in this as always! We are always being taught how to look and act from that and now a days it seems you cant watch a comedy movie (lots of others) with out there being nudity in it, or it being all about sex.

Another reason I was very promiscuous was that my husband used to watch porn so I would try to compete with that. Women are very competitive and when the media is coming from all angles we (or at least I) felt that i needed to step it up to become desirable. had to compete with porn, media and other women. I thought the more sex I would give to my husband in any which way he wouldnt turn or look at any of that.. but of course that didnt work hahaha

i dunno.. those are some of my theories and experience with it all.. Perhaps thats why women now act these ways *shrugs* Thank God, he took me from that state of mind!

Hit the nail on the head. A good father shows a daughter what love is so every word of seduction from a predator won't work. Likewise good father shows his son what is means to treat a woman with respect even if sometimes she doesn't display that she deserves it. I'm teaching my son to NEVER disrespect (don't be stupid now) a woman whether with words or actions.

dude... you totally rock, brother! Wish there more of us Y chromosone carriers with your attitude!

p90x_Dude

Now as always I have to speak up for the fellas, lately I've noticed a much more bold and assertive species of woman. Ones that have no problem telling a man who is a complete stranger what they want from him (usually it is not hugs/cuddles and sweet nothings). Is the tide shifting or is society just more tolerable to aggressive females?

I also find that a lot of younger women my age and a bit younger (16-mid 20s maybe) are... a lot... how would say that.. promiscuous thats the word! hahaha They treat themselves as pieces of meat! I did once as well. With that being said

Father figures these days are quite low... A father is a very important role and with a father missing or even a bad relationship with your father (like I had) you still need that male figure love. So where do girls turn? To guys looking to fill that void that their father never could.

Im positive that the media plays a HUGE role in this as always! We are always being taught how to look and act from that and now a days it seems you cant watch a comedy movie (lots of others) with out there being nudity in it, or it being all about sex.

Another reason I was very promiscuous was that my husband used to watch porn so I would try to compete with that. Women are very competitive and when the media is coming from all angles we (or at least I) felt that i needed to step it up to become desirable. had to compete with porn, media and other women. I thought the more sex I would give to my husband in any which way he wouldnt turn or look at any of that.. but of course that didnt work hahaha

i dunno.. those are some of my theories and experience with it all.. Perhaps thats why women now act these ways *shrugs* Thank God, he took me from that state of mind!

Hit the nail on the head. A good father shows a daughter what love is so every word of seduction from a predator won't work. Likewise good father shows his son what is means to treat a woman with respect even if sometimes she doesn't display that she deserves it. I'm teaching my son to NEVER disrespect (don't be stupid now) a woman whether with words or actions.

dude... you totally rock, brother! Wish there more of us Y chromosone carriers with your attitude!

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Amen bro, I owe it all to two people (Christ Jesus and an awesome father - I'm very fortunate)

wanderinglight

Now as always I have to speak up for the fellas, lately I've noticed a much more bold and assertive species of woman. Ones that have no problem telling a man who is a complete stranger what they want from him (usually it is not hugs/cuddles and sweet nothings). Is the tide shifting or is society just more tolerable to aggressive females?

I also find that a lot of younger women my age and a bit younger (16-mid 20s maybe) are... a lot... how would say that.. promiscuous thats the word! hahaha They treat themselves as pieces of meat! I did once as well. With that being said

Father figures these days are quite low... A father is a very important role and with a father missing or even a bad relationship with your father (like I had) you still need that male figure love. So where do girls turn? To guys looking to fill that void that their father never could.

Im positive that the media plays a HUGE role in this as always! We are always being taught how to look and act from that and now a days it seems you cant watch a comedy movie (lots of others) with out there being nudity in it, or it being all about sex.

Another reason I was very promiscuous was that my husband used to watch porn so I would try to compete with that. Women are very competitive and when the media is coming from all angles we (or at least I) felt that i needed to step it up to become desirable. had to compete with porn, media and other women. I thought the more sex I would give to my husband in any which way he wouldnt turn or look at any of that.. but of course that didnt work hahaha

i dunno.. those are some of my theories and experience with it all.. Perhaps thats why women now act these ways *shrugs* Thank God, he took me from that state of mind!

Hit the nail on the head. A good father shows a daughter what love is so every word of seduction from a predator won't work. Likewise good father shows his son what is means to treat a woman with respect even if sometimes she doesn't display that she deserves it. I'm teaching my son to NEVER disrespect (don't be stupid now) a woman whether with words or actions.

Well said...it's really nice to hear how you are teaching your son to be respectful.

There is nothing creepier than a father making a rude comment about a girl to his son...ugggh. I've heard this more than once in my lifetime and lately have not shied away from saying "do you really want to teach your son to talk about women that way?"

jamerz3294

Now as always I have to speak up for the fellas, lately I've noticed a much more bold and assertive species of woman. Ones that have no problem telling a man who is a complete stranger what they want from him (usually it is not hugs/cuddles and sweet nothings). Is the tide shifting or is society just more tolerable to aggressive females?

I also find that a lot of younger women my age and a bit younger (16-mid 20s maybe) are... a lot... how would say that.. promiscuous thats the word! hahaha They treat themselves as pieces of meat! I did once as well. With that being said

Father figures these days are quite low... A father is a very important role and with a father missing or even a bad relationship with your father (like I had) you still need that male figure love. So where do girls turn? To guys looking to fill that void that their father never could.

Im positive that the media plays a HUGE role in this as always! We are always being taught how to look and act from that and now a days it seems you cant watch a comedy movie (lots of others) with out there being nudity in it, or it being all about sex.

Another reason I was very promiscuous was that my husband used to watch porn so I would try to compete with that. Women are very competitive and when the media is coming from all angles we (or at least I) felt that i needed to step it up to become desirable. had to compete with porn, media and other women. I thought the more sex I would give to my husband in any which way he wouldnt turn or look at any of that.. but of course that didnt work hahaha

i dunno.. those are some of my theories and experience with it all.. Perhaps thats why women now act these ways *shrugs* Thank God, he took me from that state of mind!

Hit the nail on the head. A good father shows a daughter what love is so every word of seduction from a predator won't work. Likewise good father shows his son what is means to treat a woman with respect even if sometimes she doesn't display that she deserves it. I'm teaching my son to NEVER disrespect (don't be stupid now) a woman whether with words or actions.

dude... you totally rock, brother! Wish there more of us Y chromosone carriers with your attitude!

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Amen bro, I owe it all to two people (Christ Jesus and an awesome father - I'm very fortunate)

I can actually add to that, just a wee bit... the Good Lord, and both of my fathers! Aye yup, first the Dad who adopted me, and then much later in life, my genetic father. A guy couldn't have asked for 2 more wonderful, loving examples of how to be a man.