Stranger or Spouse?

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  • sparrows7
    sparrows7 Posts: 59
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    Either, I'll take it when I can get it. :D
  • peripah
    peripah Posts: 120
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    I live near a cfb so I get hit on by strangers all the time so it's nothing special to me. Sure, my husband tells me I look good if I ask, but I really relish the times when I come downstairs and his eyes get a little wide and he says "Wow. You look good". Then I know I really DO look good.
  • casirdms
    casirdms Posts: 145 Member
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    Stranger. I like to feel hot/wanted by other people and flirted with.

    My husband really doesn't even look at me I feel like .. much less a compliment
  • writtenINthestars
    writtenINthestars Posts: 1,933 Member
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    Being totally honest... strangers. Your spouse kinda 'has' to find you attractive, don't they? When a stranger takes notice, it makes you feel good and lets you know you still got "it".

    This.
  • writtenINthestars
    writtenINthestars Posts: 1,933 Member
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    I live near a cfb so I get hit on by strangers all the time so it's nothing special to me. Sure, my husband tells me I look good if I ask, but I really relish the times when I come downstairs and his eyes get a little wide and he says "Wow. You look good". Then I know I really DO look good.

    haha this too! :tongue:
  • Buddie616
    Buddie616 Posts: 167 Member
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    i would rather be noticed by my husband! He is the one that has to look at me everyday!
  • TheBraveryLover
    TheBraveryLover Posts: 1,217 Member
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    Definitely my mate. I get hit on all the time so it's not really a big deal to me. Don't get me wrong, I like when strangers flirt with me, but I don't care about it as much as I would someone I'm dating. I make an effort to look as attractive and feminine as possible so the guy I'm dating can be turned on by me aesthetically and stay turned on by me. If you get past the honeymoon stage of a new relationship and *still* have your guy talk about how hot and sexy you are, that's the best feeling in the world. I love knowing that he's still that passionate about me on a physical level.

    Now when I'm single, obviously strangers who notice me are a good ego boost, but not when I'm taken.
  • Tiff_09
    Tiff_09 Posts: 5,627 Member
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    I live near a cfb so I get hit on by strangers all the time so it's nothing special to me. Sure, my husband tells me I look good if I ask, but I really relish the times when I come downstairs and his eyes get a little wide and he says "Wow. You look good". Then I know I really DO look good.

    haha this too! :tongue:

    I'll second that.
  • millermichellelea
    millermichellelea Posts: 226
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    Always the one I am with because he sees me at my worst and can still find me so beautiful he stops and tells me I took his breath away. [Not that it happens a lot....lol]

    A stranger is a passing person and it makes you feel good, but they are only looking at the outside of you for a fleeting second :happy:
  • Tiff_09
    Tiff_09 Posts: 5,627 Member
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    Always the one I am with because he sees me at my worst and can still find me so beautiful he stops and tells me I took his breath away. [Not that it happens a lot....lol]

    A stranger is a passing person and it makes you feel good, but they are only looking at the outside of you for a fleeting second :happy:

    Well said.. so true
  • fionarama
    fionarama Posts: 788 Member
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    my husband because really he can be quite fussy and brutally honest!
  • Foofyknickers
    Foofyknickers Posts: 37 Member
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    I like a compliment, or to find a stranger checking me out (like that happens anymore!) but for me I prefer when my Mr gives me a compliment. Because he knows I'm a sure thing anyway, so he can't be after anything! :wink:
    Seriously though, he has seen me look like hell, first thing in the morning, hungover, just after having our babies, and at my fattest... and after nearly 15 years together he still looks at me like I'm a godess. Way better than some creepy lech at the pub on a night out. Shall I pass the sickbucket round now? :laugh:
  • bunchesonothing
    bunchesonothing Posts: 1,015 Member
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    Maybe if my partner rarely complimented me it would be more of a big deal but I'm lucky enough to have my partner compliment me frequently enough that I know he thinks I'm beautiful even when I look like hell.

    Maybe you are beautiful when you look like hell. Maybe you looking like hell, is all in your head.

    I don't think love blinds anyone.

    *EDIT: I'm more likely to believe our self-perceptions are poop.*

    My husband is fully willing to acknowledge when I don't look my best. But me not looking my best doesn't mean I've suddenly become ugly or unattractive.

    And my husband compliments me all the time too... It doesn't mean I believe him any less.

    We discredit the opinions of the ones who are supposed to mean the most to us...
  • totustuusmaria
    totustuusmaria Posts: 182 Member
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    For me it would be both, but in different ways and how its said. I would feel giddy and smiley if a stranger found me attractive. i would feel sexy and genuinely happy if my spouse let me know he thought i was looking really good. It also depends on how the spouse says it... if it just flippant or i have to prod it like, "look, i lost another lb." ... "yeah, you are looking really great baby *whistle*" uhhh... no. But if he initiated it and it wasn't just some little comment then it could probably make me feel things that a stranger couldn't.

    But a stranger does cause a special, unique feeling... you are always sure your being told truth by an absolute stranger.
  • bunchesonothing
    bunchesonothing Posts: 1,015 Member
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    And, I'm not trying to tell anyone to not like getting flirted with by a stranger. I'm just sayin' don't discredit what your husband says because he has to... because, really, he doesn't.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,022 Member
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    But a stranger does cause a special, unique feeling... you are always sure your being told truth by an absolute stranger.

    Not really. 99% of men who check out and/or whistle at random women are NOT thinking "She's beautiful." They're thinking "She's bangable." To me, that's gross. It doesn't make me feel attractive at all; it makes me feel cheap.
  • KMcBandit
    KMcBandit Posts: 65
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    Well since my husband loves me no matter what I would have to say spouse because if you get the eyeballs from a stranger you know mamma still got it :D
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
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    But a stranger does cause a special, unique feeling... you are always sure your being told truth by an absolute stranger.

    Not really. 99% of men who check out and/or whistle at random women are NOT thinking "She's beautiful." They're thinking "She's bangable." To me, that's gross. It doesn't make me feel attractive at all; it makes me feel cheap.

    Ya that's right. I used to get all giddy about random men whistling at me or whatever but then it dawned on me that they do that to EVERY OTHER woman they think they could get. So nothing special and now it iritates me.

    I for some reason do appreciate when female acquaintances/strangers compliment me because that like NEVER happens and its just based on how I look and not whether they are attracted to me or not. The oppisite sex though I could care less as I know its just something easy to say.

    So I really appreciate my spouse's compliments as he compliments me often and geniunely! He's the only person I care about impressing (save for family lol, they are fun to prove wrong about weight loss) as that's who I come home to every night and also love!
  • Tiff_09
    Tiff_09 Posts: 5,627 Member
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    And, I'm not trying to tell anyone to not like getting flirted with by a stranger. I'm just sayin' don't discredit what your husband says because he has to... because, really, he doesn't.

    Indeed
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,954 Member
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    Can I answer differently? I like it when my husband notices a stranger checking me out and gets jealous! :D

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