What do you make of my date?

pinkgigi

Oh I feel for you, I've had a few doozies myself. Like the guy who I thought was cheap and then when I dropped him he asked me why, I said "because I thought there was one person doing all the giving and another doing all the taking", he said "well if I thought there was a future I might have put more into it", I just let it go at that, lesson learnt.

I think your dude may be a nervous, newly minted single, but honey you want them pre-formed and not have to waste time making them human. However, I would also like to know if he improves with time, but that is selfish on my part.

GG

Banks01

I really wanted to see 6'9" naked... but I don't know if I can afford it... :drinker:

Uh. Where do you live?

odusgolp

I really wanted to see 6'9" naked... but I don't know if I can afford it... :drinker:

Uh. Where do you live?

Please don't stalk me.

I only ask nicely once.

Banks01

I really wanted to see 6'9" naked... but I don't know if I can afford it... :drinker:

Uh. Where do you live?

Please don't stalk me.

I only ask nicely once.

Haha. I don't. Entertaining thread though

(you see, I was reading the interesting subjects in this forum)

foodforfuel

I think you did well and it was a good investment! For only $20 and a few hours of your time, you learned that this guy is a loser right off the bat! Money well spent! I WISH I could of paid $20 on the first date to find out that my ex was a big time loser! I totally disagree with going out with him again. Have a little respect respect for yourself and keep searching til you find a real MAN. They are out there, and you deserve it!

princesshaylo

Run run as fast as you can!!! No relationship ever ended well with a man being super cheap. It screams he is a dependasauras and trust me you do not want one of those lol!!

audram420

I had to read your post twice...what an *kitten* to keep the change...drop him!

odusgolp

Run run as fast as you can!!! No relationship ever ended well with a man being super cheap. It screams he is a dependasauras and trust me you do not want one of those lol!!

Oh, I had one of those!! *LOL*

Divorce can be a good thing really

redheadmommy

I think your dude may be a nervous, newly minted single, but honey you want them pre-formed and not have to waste time making them human. ,

Haha sooo true!

BerryH

I think you did well and it was a good investment! For only $20 and a few hours of your time, you learned that this guy is a loser right off the bat! Money well spent! I WISH I could of paid $20 on the first date to find out that my ex was a big time loser!

I LOVE this attitude! :laugh:

BerryH

I think the time has come for you to post a link to his dating profile here so we can all troll him :devil:

mikeyml

I think the time has come for you to post a link to his dating profile here so we can all troll him :devil:

Hmmm....why didn't I think of that? I like that idea. What did he write about himself in the profile and what kind of impression does he give with his pictures?

carbons2k

#1 he should have paid for the meal and given you your money back.
#2 he said he doesnt like killing animals but yet he ate "some chicken instead of a greasy burger"
#3 height shouldnt matter
#4 topic of convo was a bit weird but Ive had worse
#5 when am I taking you out?

keola64

i wouldnt have even left a tip - you dont sound like much of a catch. sorry.

the lack of gentlemen are shocking,as if he has any room to be a prick,doesn't impress me Mr ljwhatevers,grow up & quit being an insensitive @$$

oldscratch

second date......order surf and turf. eat. excuse yourself to "powder your nose" LEAVE *evil grin*

mistyb47711

:laugh: He's a keeper, with today's economy u need someone frugal

hahaha

halobender

You sir, are a CHEAP SKATE. :frown:

And what does it make you if you expect a free meal out of me?

Judging from the responses of other Women stating the same as me. Tell us all, what does that make us?

Cheap? Entitled? Singularly minded? You expect a free meal, maybe you should cook for the man on the first date. [For those lacking in deducive skills, that's not intended as a serious comment.]

dont get me wrong as long as she doest assume i'm paying and at least offers to pay half i quite happily pay for the meal 21st century or not!!! its just the gentlemanly thing to do if a 2nd date is on the cards then she can take me out for dinner etc

Exactly; the assumption—or requirement of payment because you’re a man—is the problem.

Wow, a lot of you girls are a little ... psychotic. About the buying meals for you thing. Just because men on average earn more than women, doesn't mean that all men are rolling around in money. And even if we are, if all you're after is a free meal ...

All I'm saying is that if you require a guy to pay for you, you better be putting out on the first date.

You sir, are a CHEAP SKATE. :frown:

"*kitten*" would be more appropriate for this guy. Let's take this a piece at a time, shall we?

I’m sorry you lack reasonable skills of deduction. I mean, you can’t even read the words that are there. *Require* is the key word in that statement.

Furthermore ... a man's security in his masculinity is not analogous to requiring he pay for dinner. (In fact, I might argue it's entirely the opposite.)

You sound as though the only investment you have in a man is how much he's willing to spend to be with you. You're right, $20 isn't that much, but if the dinner doesn't go anywhere, or if you're just super boring—wow, I'll bet that's something you've never been called—that's a pretty bad investment. (I guess if I have fun I'm more inclined to pay.)

But then, I'm also from an area where the women are less likely to let you pay for them. More than once I've paid for a night out only to find a $20 slipped into my pocket later or something.

You sir, are a CHEAP SKATE. :frown:

And what does it make you if you expect a free meal out of me?

Definately a woman.... NOT ON A DATE WITH YOU!

Judging from the responses of other Women stating the same as me. Tell us all, what does that make us?

he was clearly implying the women are the cheap ones...

See, this girl gets it.

The thing is, firstly, I would rarely ask a girl out to dinner somewhere; namely because I don’t much care for restaurants. I cook very well and would much rather do a home cooked meal than go out somewhere and be dissatisfied with the meal.

Secondly, I get asked to go on dates. I don’t assume that the woman is going to pay for me simply because she asked me out. I assume that I should pay my own way. According to the standards of many in here, I should assume that she’s going to pay for me. That seems like bull****. If I’m interested in seeing her, I should be just as willing to put a few bucks into it. I guess if I’m NOT interested in seeing her I could let her pay for my time, but that seems pretty entitled.

Seems to me that it should be mutual investment in one another's time.

ItsCasey

If you're not interested in seeing her, you should say no. Novel concept, I know.

And a date is not an investment, Einstein. It's an invitation. Whether it's extended from man to woman or vice versa, the person who does the asking should pay. I'm sorry your parents didn't raise you with any standard of etiquette, but that doesn't excuse you from picking up a book or asking an actual man for advice once you became a big boy.

Furthermore, your investment metaphor is horribly contrived. When you buy stock (that's a real investment, not a made-up one), you don't get to say "I'm only going to pay for half of this because it could turn out to be a bad investment." You have to actually pay for ALL of the stock you want to buy.

I would love to be a fly on the wall while you're explaining to the lucky women who get to date you that you see them as investments to be bought and sold at your whim. I bet that strategy is a real panty-dropper.

GTOgirl1969

Really, he kept the change?
I'm sorry but that's just not right!

Not only a douche, but a tightfisted one at that. Next....

hazelnutflav

LADIES LADIES LADIES NEVER PAY.


a real man would stop you from taking out your purse.

halobender

Wow, you must be a lot of fun on a date.

Do you really not fully understand what an investment is, or are you just playing at being superficially intelligent?

ETA: Just read what it is you do for a job. All this makes a lot more sense, now.

mikeyml

gender roles are fun.

GTOgirl1969

the OP came on asking for advice, and it degenerated into the Internet equivalent of a playground shoving match. It's unfortunate that some people think that their opinion is the only valid one.

odusgolp

I was simply stating the facts of what happened on my date. I was curious as to what others thought. And I stand by the fact that I still think 90% of the comments on this thread are enlightening. There are different expectations depending on your gender, location, how you were raised... It's honestly interesting.

I'm personally accustomed to paying if I ask a man out, or him paying if he asks. Just what I've been around since being on the dating scene. Once the first date or two are past, I typically have gone back and forth on paying for evenings out rather than going "dutch." So... One buys dinner, the other drinks. Or one for the movie tickets, the other the concessions...

However, the keeping the change & request to drive to him after he initiated contact and asked me out I truly did find odd. Had never happened to me before.

GTOgirl1969

I think it's good that he showed his true colors so early on...better now than later on when you'd already made an emotional investment.

GTOgirl1969

gender roles are fun.

They're fun until they no longer work in your favor...at least, that's been my experience.

Johnnyswife

umm, to eat chicken, you must first KILL the chicken. Usually...

Sometimes... you just gotta choke it.

LMAO..

JellyJaks

I just got done reading the thread about your poor robe and dishes and now this :sad:

IMO, the person that does the asking is the one that should pay for the date. However this did not stop my husband from paying for our second and third date even though I was the one that suggested we go bowling and see a movie. I tried to pull out my wallet and he told me no. It's interesting to note that after we were married and I asked him when he realized I was the one he said "the day you asked me to the movies and tried to pay. I realized then that you were independent enough to be with me because you wanted to, not had to"

And of course the fact that he paid when I tried to made a big impression on me.

Anyways the moral of the story is THAT GUY IS A DOUCHE. RUN WHILE YOU STILL CAN

MLEme

I say date him again based purely on two things:

1. That dude who is going to give you $20 if it doesn't go well.
2. Because I want to hear the results of date #2.

It's for science - do it!!! (plus you get paid if it s*cks....) :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

aippolito1

He's cheap. That's all there is to it. And if you disagree on such a big thing as that, I don't see a relationship being a possibility.