It's amazing how many of you that don't pay attention.
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Who the f.... cares ? ... get off your high horse.
Appreciate people were taking the time out of there day to acknowledge it and wish you well.
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You have the wrong "attitude" toward this. If you are below your goals for the day or exercise, then it's an awesome feeling to have well wishers. It's for encouragement. We don't have time to go into everyone's daily diets.
If it was more specific it would say "hey she is destroying her body by starving it. Don't applaud but get on her case". People STILL wouldn't because it's not our job to get down on people who aren't taking care of their OWN business.
I only responded to this because it was one of the first "negative" posts that I've seen on this site. Others have people who may be sad or depressed because of their situation, but this is the first one I've seen that's actually malicious.
I fall under goal everyday. One day I was 3,650 calories under. I burned 3500 calories one day and didn't eat enough to maintain it. I had people saying good job and I took that time to explain my challenges. I suggest you do this instead of criticizing people who are only trying to encourage and uplift you.
Good luck to you. You're gonna need it. But change your attitude and you'll go a lot farther.
Could have not said it better myself! WOW I also fall under my goal. Plain and simply put, if I am burning 1000 calories, and only netted 300 to 400 calories and I am full and do not feel sick....then that is what may work for "MY" body. I think maybe you are looking at this the wrong way. But to each his own. Good luck to you on YOUR individual journey and wish people well on theirs. That is what this site is about, our own journey and learning from others.0 -
Yeah, this used to make me mad. Now, I've kinda taken a different view. Hollow "grats" are my way of weeding out people. It's a little funny to see people auto-grats, though.Case in point:
Last night, I took a short, leisurely stroll around the block. The weather was nice, and I just wanted out of the house. 15 minute leisurely walk that burned a whopping 77 calories. I got "Nice burn" comments about that. Nice burn? REALLY? It's 77 calories. That's not a nice burn. That's laughable.
If I don't actually look at your food log, then I don't comment on your day. I do have a handful of people in recovery on my friend's list. If they are well below calories, I won't berate them. I'll comment on what they did eat ("Oh, Chipotle sounds great!"), or I will just not comment at all. There are one or two people in recovery who have asked for friends keep nudge them if they slip too far, and I don't mind doing that. But I'm not going to tell anyone that they have to eat more or eat less. Also, if your food choices look like *kitten*, then I don't congratulate you. (Ex, my choices today are terrible. Don't grats me for blowing 1200 calories at McD. That was a poor choice.)
For those of you who "WTG" based on the mere act of logging alone, maybe consider changing your messages to "Nice logging today" or something like that. Your encouraging message is more accurately directed toward the act of logging rather than what the person did or didn't eat/log for the day. I can get behind supporting people to log honestly. That should definitely be encouraged. However, I feel like the messages should be written in such a way as to not be confused to congratulating unhealthy eating.0 -
Wow, she does go to Mc Donald alot.
You should expand the amount of real food that you eat. All that processed and fast foodis not good for you.0 -
I understand your point. But it's unreasonable to expect everybody to read everybody else's food diary every day. Seriously.
Sure, but if you can't take the time to evaluate whether or not praise is actually deserved...why offer it in the first place?
I have noticed before that someone is under their calorie goal, and they ate absolute **** all day. Like 2 oreos, mac n cheese, and maybe a ham sandwhich and NOTHING else. I need to double check on them, because if that's a pattern, I can't really be supportive of them.
That's your personal choice and you're entitled to it. For me it just isn't that serious. I know how hard it can be to stay under goal and consistently track your calories every day and I will give praise when I see someone doing that. I'm not going to sit here and nitpick and make sure the person's food is up to my "standard" in order to say "good job." This is a website not brain surgery. Perfection not necessary!0 -
the site is here for encouragement not to put people down. If you dont like that then maybe this site isnt for you. Even if you are under it's okay for one day. we praise people for that. yeah if its every day then we might say something. but you should really blame yourself for how you are eating...0
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Yeah, this used to make me mad. Now, I've kinda taken a different view. Hollow "grats" are my way of weeding out people. It's a little funny to see people auto-grats, though.Case in point:
Last night, I took a short, leisurely stroll around the block. The weather was nice, and I just wanted out of the house. 15 minute leisurely walk that burned a whopping 77 calories. I got "Nice burn" comments about that. Nice burn? REALLY? It's 77 calories. That's not a nice burn. That's laughable.
If I don't actually look at your food log, then I don't comment on your day. I do have a handful of people in recovery on my friend's list. If they are well below calories, I won't berate them. I'll comment on what they did eat ("Oh, Chipotle sounds great!"), or I will just not comment at all. There are one or two people in recovery who have asked for friends keep nudge them if they slip too far, and I don't mind doing that. But I'm not going to tell anyone that they have to eat more or eat less. Also, if your food choices look like *kitten*, then I don't congratulate you. (Ex, my choices today are terrible. Don't grats me for blowing 1200 calories at McD. That was a poor choice.)
For those of you who "WTG" based on the mere act of logging alone, maybe consider changing your messages to "Nice logging today" or something like that. Your encouraging message is more accurately directed toward the act of logging rather than what the person did or didn't eat/log for the day. I can get behind supporting people to log honestly. That should definitely be encouraged. However, I feel like the messages should be written in such a way as to not be confused to congratulating unhealthy eating.
Crappy walk burn and terrible lunch choices, WTG! :drinker:0 -
Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.0
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We are not responsible for you eating poorly. I don't look anyone's diary but my own. I am responsible for me and only me. Good luck to you.
I don't really think it's fair of you to imply that she was blaming others for her eating poorly. She just said that it seems people don't even bother to look at how she's done before they offer empty praise.
Simple solution is make your diary private then. If you are eating under 1200, unless under a doctors order, is eating poorly and not caring for yourself. It's rude to call people mindless especially for your own mistakes. It's shifting the blame, plain and simple.
You are just heinous aren't you. I disagree. I struggle with an ED, having people call me out on what I eat is vital, I can't "just do it" on my own. It's not a "mistake" often it is a sort of intentional lack of eating. I don't think it's shifting the blame, I think its more like...picking friends who are helpful, and not friend who aren't.
Heinous??? LOL Because I feel people are responsible for their own actions? Really??? Of course friends can be encouraging, but they aren't responsible to keep you going. That is your job. And the name-calling is just plain childish.
***Edited to add, just in case you didn't know...
hei·nous [hey-nuhs] Show IPA
adjective
hateful; odious; abominable; totally reprehensible: a heinous offense.
Origin:
1325–75; Middle English heynous < Middle French haineus, equivalent to haine hatred (derivative of haïr to hate < Germanic ) + -eus -ous
Related forms
hei·nous·ly, adverb
hei·nous·ness, noun
non·hei·nous, adjective
non·hei·nous·ly, adverb
non·hei·nous·ness, noun
Synonyms
wicked, infamous, flagrant, flagitious, atrocious, villainous, nefarious.
Antonyms
admirable.
I wasn't name calling, I was describing. Also, I know what it means, that's why I used it.0 -
But seriously? If the point of this website were to just give mindless praise without really paying attention... then most of you are doing great. When I complete my food diary at only about 850 calories.. don't say "great job" or "Way to go" to that.. if you had actually looked I'm sure most of you would say "That's dangerous" because it is. I have another friend who is trying to gain weight and having a VERY hard time. She lost more weight last week and a whole group of people congratulated her.. which is just further incidence of not paying attention.
I'm not saying that as a friend you need to read into every situation and know what every diary says or whatever.. but I am saying that sometimes it would be beneficial to actually know what you are saying. There are only like 10 of my friends who will put a detailed comment or actually have something to say.
Have you considered changing your settings so it only posts things you specifically want to share on your newsfeed? This way your calorie count, etc doesn't autopost for people to mindlessly comment on. Additionally, if the comments are coming from people you have friended, wouldn't this rant be most appropriate in your newsfeed so the offenders see it and can change their behavior?0 -
yeah you see the kind of protein shakes I like are.....errrr ...um ...wait what are we talking about again?I guess I wasnt paying attention0
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Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.
Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.0 -
I wasn't name calling, I was describing. Also, I know what it means, that's why I used it.
LOL Well if heinous is expecting others to be responsible for their own actions, then heinous I am.0 -
I wasn't name calling, I was describing. Also, I know what it means, that's why I used it.
LOL Well if heinous is expecting others to be responsible for their own actions, then heinous I am.
OH! No, the heinous wasn't about you expecting people to be held responsible for their actions, I'm all about that. It was that you didn't seem to think that you owed anything to your friends, support, encouragement...those kinds of things. Sorry, I assumed, what with your ability to look up words, you could follow that. My mistake.0 -
Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.
Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.
im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.0 -
I wasn't name calling, I was describing. Also, I know what it means, that's why I used it.
LOL Well if heinous is expecting others to be responsible for their own actions, then heinous I am.
OH! No, the heinous wasn't about you expecting people to be held responsible for their actions, I'm all about that. It was that you didn't seem to think that you owed anything to your friends, support, encouragement...those kinds of things. Sorry, I assumed, what with your ability to look up words, you could follow that. My mistake.
My friends and I encourage one another all the time. But none of us are responsible for each others actions. Grow up.0 -
Every time I write a good blog I get 10-15 friend requests. It clearly states in my profile that I have neither the time nor the inclination to read other people's diary on a daily basis and yet I still get flooded with requests. If you want personalized attention, focus your requests on people who have less than 30-50 friends. If you're friending people with 200+ friends you're just not going to get the attention you want. Sorry.
ETA: And I don't feel I'm here to babysit anyone. Unless you specifically ask for advice on your food diary, I will not try not to offer it. You're a big boy/girl and I'm not your Mommy.
Woah. I'm not friends with anyone on here so that they can give me specific attention. How about you've written something inspiring and people want to be your friend? I've never read you're writing, so I don't know what it's like, but you know, maybe you could take it as a compliment.0 -
Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.
Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.
im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.
If you're 220lbs...800 calories in a day is FAR too little. I eat more than that(nearly double) and I'm 171lbs....just sayin. And no, I'm not saying it makes you a bad person...not sure how you would arrive at that conclusion. It means you're not eating enough to be healthy, that's exactly what it means. Malnourished is the word for such a thing.0 -
I wasn't name calling, I was describing. Also, I know what it means, that's why I used it.
LOL Well if heinous is expecting others to be responsible for their own actions, then heinous I am.
OH! No, the heinous wasn't about you expecting people to be held responsible for their actions, I'm all about that. It was that you didn't seem to think that you owed anything to your friends, support, encouragement...those kinds of things. Sorry, I assumed, what with your ability to look up words, you could follow that. My mistake.
My friends and I encourage one another all the time. But none of us are responsible for each others actions. Grow up.
Oh, but the OP shouldn't expect encouragement, and someone to call her out when she wants/needs it? I'm not following why you are so special...
Don't tell me to grow up, you aren't in charge of my actions, remember?0 -
Op--- you do realize that Mcdonalds is horrible for you even if you do get a salad the sodium is soooooooo bad. Not saying you cant go there you just shouldnt go everyday!!!!0
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No I'm not, thank God. It was merely a suggestion. But I'm going to end it here, you may have the last word if so wish. Have a lovely weekend, prayers for those in the path of Irene.0
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Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.
Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.
im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.
If you're 220lbs...800 calories in a day is FAR too little. I eat more than that(nearly double) and I'm 171lbs....just sayin. And no, I'm not saying it makes you a bad person...not sure how you would arrive at that conclusion. It means you're not eating enough to be healthy, that's exactly what it means. Malnourished is the word for such a thing.
How am i supposed to eat when i'm not hungry? Why should i? just to go back to eating whenever I want and how much of it I want. to make me overeat again0 -
It's amazing how crazy people get over inane things like this. However, this thread has been a thoroughly amusing read; almost on par with a Taso thread.0
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Not sure how to take this.... some ppl ***** cause ppl talk about their diaries... some ppl ***** because ppl don't... hmm...
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Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.
Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.
im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.
If you're 220lbs...800 calories in a day is FAR too little. I eat more than that(nearly double) and I'm 171lbs....just sayin. And no, I'm not saying it makes you a bad person...not sure how you would arrive at that conclusion. It means you're not eating enough to be healthy, that's exactly what it means. Malnourished is the word for such a thing.
How am i supposed to eat when i'm not hungry? Why should i? just to go back to eating whenever I want and how much of it I want. to make me overeat again
You obviously are going to do what you want. I'm telling you the facts...if you prefer to lose weight by eating far too little...I guess good luck with that. Obviously the key isn't just eating whatever you want and over eating....but eating HEALTHY options...and if you aren't getting enough in a day...well guess what...you boost up what you are eating with some calorie and nutrient rich foods to get where you need to be...preplanning does wonders. Anyhow...I'm sure this won't change your mind so good luck.0 -
Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.
Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.
im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.
As an overweight person recovering from an ED, I kinda take offense to that. EDs aren't just for the very thin. And there's more to EDs than just starving.
Not trying to inflame, only inform. Also not implying anything about you. Just throwing information out there in an effort to clear up a well-believed misconception.0 -
I THINK WE ALL WOULD BE SKINNER, AND HEALTHIER IF WE DIDN'T STRESS AND DWELL OVER STUPID THINGS... LIKE THIS THREAD.0
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I THINK WE ALL WOULD BE SKINNER, AND HEALTHIER IF WE DIDN'T STRESS AND DWELL OVER STUPID THINGS... LIKE THIS THREAD.
Your caps make me fatter.0 -
Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.
Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.
im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.
If you're 220lbs...800 calories in a day is FAR too little. I eat more than that(nearly double) and I'm 171lbs....just sayin. And no, I'm not saying it makes you a bad person...not sure how you would arrive at that conclusion. It means you're not eating enough to be healthy, that's exactly what it means. Malnourished is the word for such a thing.
How am i supposed to eat when i'm not hungry? Why should i? just to go back to eating whenever I want and how much of it I want. to make me overeat again
You obviously are going to do what you want. I'm telling you the facts...if you prefer to lose weight by eating far too little...I guess good luck with that. Obviously the key isn't just eating whatever you want and over eating....but eating HEALTHY options...and if you aren't getting enough in a day...well guess what...you boost up what you are eating with some calorie and nutrient rich foods to get where you need to be...preplanning does wonders. Anyhow...I'm sure this won't change your mind so good luck.
I do understand what you are saying. But when I eat fruits for veggies for snacks and eat healthy all day I would eat only 600 calories and be full and not get hungry the rest of the day. thats not my fault. im not going to keep eating when im not hungry just to eat 1,200 calories0 -
THE SMALL CAPS MAKE ME CROSS EYED -_- lol0
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