It's amazing how many of you that don't pay attention.

odusgolp

I THINK WE ALL WOULD BE SKINNER, AND HEALTHIER IF WE DIDN'T STRESS AND DWELL OVER STUPID THINGS... LIKE THIS THREAD.

Unless you're an accountant, I deny your use of the caps lock.

I like to think I have the power.

cmonskinnylovee

I think it's nice of people to offer their praise. It's thoughtful and always makes me feel as if I have support. You shouldn't be so uppity

dawnw30

I must say that I always try to leave positive comments - only because I am saying you're doing an awesome job by being here and taking responsibilty for yourself by logging everything - the good, the bad and the ugly. I have explained that to my friends as well...so even if they have a crappy day I will atleast put "Great logging in" to let them know I think they're awesome for trying and messing up occasionally doesn't mean I am going to be nasty or not bother to comment at all.

patty9013

If someone truely criticized your diary and told you that you were eating bad and needed to change. You would be crying foul at that too.:sad:

maria25428

in all seriousness, i can't f****** read the small font, i'm like a granny. when i use the caps, i'm doing myself a favor LOL i'm squinting as we speak.. going blind for you mo'fo's, right now!!!

killagb

in all seriousness, i can't f****** read the small font, i'm like a granny. when i use the caps, i'm doing myself a favor LOL i'm squinting as we speak.. going blind for you mo'fo's, right now!!!

Here...do this....hold down CTRL then use your mouse scroller to zoom that font bigger...lol

ShrinkingNinja

This is part of a rant... so if you're thin skinned then stop reading.

But seriously? If the point of this website were to just give mindless praise without really paying attention... then most of you are doing great. When I complete my food diary at only about 850 calories.. don't say "great job" or "Way to go" to that.. if you had actually looked I'm sure most of you would say "That's dangerous" because it is. I have another friend who is trying to gain weight and having a VERY hard time. She lost more weight last week and a whole group of people congratulated her.. which is just further incidence of not paying attention.

I'm not saying that as a friend you need to read into every situation and know what every diary says or whatever.. but I am saying that sometimes it would be beneficial to actually know what you are saying. There are only like 10 of my friends who will put a detailed comment or actually have something to say.

Praise is a terrific confidence booster.. but when you realize how empty it is then suddenly it means nothing.

Think about it.

Also.. if you're the kind of person into a "snappy" comeback or whatever, the person inclined to defend themselves to me.. don't waste your time. You don't have to read this.. and it doesn't matter what I say if you don't consider what you're doing in the end.

Thank you for posting this. I had been thinking about this for a couple of days know.

cmonskinnylovee

Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.

Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.

im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.

As an overweight person recovering from an ED, I kinda take offense to that. EDs aren't just for the very thin. And there's more to EDs than just starving.

Not trying to inflame, only inform. Also not implying anything about you. Just throwing information out there in an effort to clear up a well-believed misconception.

As a thin girl who was fat when she had an ED, I also agree. This is a horrible misconception, and for many people in the ED world it is an insult. "You're not thin enough to have an eating disorder" is what I heard from a lot of people when i was sick. Which only made me MORE sick.

Oh and plenty of people have really slow metabolisms that only need 800-1000 calories to function. 1200=/= your bmr. Your bmr is YOURS and whoever pulled this 1200 number out of their *kitten* is an ... *kitten*. For some people, 1200 is WAY too low, for others its a bit too high.

My BMR is 1400 so I should be eating at LEAST that amount daily in order to function. My full metabolism on the other hand is 2000, so if I wanted to maintain I would eat around that number.

So, lets stop judging people before we understand that basic fact.

maria25428

i didn't realize i was blind until i created this account. thanks fitness pal. thanks.

Iceskatefanrn

This thread has got me to thinking that we need "buttons" under each post, kind of like the "like" button on Facebook. No one has to "comment", they can just choose the button that best reflects their reaction to your post or diary.

So here are the buttons I think would be useful - feel free to add any that you think are needed...

LIKE

LOVE

DISLIKE

IDC (I don't care)

WTG!

BOL! (best of luck)

WTH?

RUKM? (are you kidding me?)

ONYD (oh no you didn't!)

AYDY? (are you done yet?)

BYTM (Better You than Me!)

HTWFY? (how's that working for you?)

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Ice

killagb

Also, some people are full at 800 calories. I could eat 1,000 and sometimes less and not be hungry the rest of the day. I could burn all those calories off so i would have net 0 or even a negative net and i wouldn't be hungry. i do agree that YOU dont deerve a good job though for your horrible eating.

Just because you're malnourishing yourself and don't feel hungry while doing it, does not make it positive.

im not malnourishing myself. i weigh around 220. im way overweight for my weight. im not some skinny chick that has an eating disorder. its not like that. I eat and im full. im not hungry. does that make me a bad person? does that mean im not feeding myself and making myself lose weight no.

As an overweight person recovering from an ED, I kinda take offense to that. EDs aren't just for the very thin. And there's more to EDs than just starving.

Not trying to inflame, only inform. Also not implying anything about you. Just throwing information out there in an effort to clear up a well-believed misconception.

As a thin girl who was fat when she had an ED, I also agree. This is a horrible misconception, and for many people in the ED world it is an insult. "You're not thin enough to have an eating disorder" is what I heard from a lot of people when i was sick. Which only made me MORE sick.

Oh and plenty of people have really slow metabolisms that only need 800-1000 calories to function. 1200=/= your bmr. Your bmr is YOURS and whoever pulled this 1200 number out of their *kitten* is an ... *kitten*. For some people, 1200 is WAY too low, for others its a bit too high.

My BMR is 1400 so I should be eating at LEAST that amount daily in order to function. My full metabolism on the other hand is 2000, so if I wanted to maintain I would eat around that number.

So, lets stop judging people before we understand that basic fact.

So do you think a female that weighs 50lbs more than me could have a metabolism so slow that they need only half of what I personally intake? Sorry...but the math on that doesn't add up. I could understand her eating the same as me roughly or a bit less....but half? I really don't think I'm assuming too much here....am I?

maria25428

:drinker:

Articeluvsmemphis

Original Poster, I agree with you. Good Post.

Rworthy

If you complete your food entry in MFP and ate less than 1200 calories, it will tell you you're eating Too Few Calories *(in RED, so you SEE it).

HappyLuna

"As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise."

— Byron Katie

lucky1ns

Just like the old WW message board days.

A good, old fashioned melt.

Want some fries with that melt?

odusgolp

Just like the old WW message board days.

A good, old fashioned melt.

Want some fries with that melt?

Now I'm wondering who this could be ;-)

kaymac1908

You have choices here. You can choose to make your food diary public or private. You can choose to limit access to your diary to the people you trust to give meaningful feedback and provide them with a password. You can choose who you accept as your virtual cheerleaders. You can choose how many calories you eat every day. You can choose whether you log those calories in MFP, on a piece of paper, or not at all. If you are not satisfied with the comments you get, you may want to re-evaluate your choices.

Frankly, I appreciate anyone who CHOOSES to take the time to acknowledge me in whatever way they wish.

Angelabec

OK, so I lost the point of this thread ages ago, but can someone tell me WTF 'small caps' are??? surely there are just 'CAPS' or 'lower case'??? Or did I fail basic typing? (probably, I can't remember anymore!)

momogogo

Guilty..... I didn't realize I was doing it until someone said to me that my food diary looked great. Well I don't enter detail on my diary. I only quick add calories under breakfast everyday. I have a personal trainer who does my meal planning and everyday the calories are a bit different as well as fat, protein etc. I am too busy to try and custom enter each daily meal log. I thought it was funny that they didn't even look. So now I give credit to excersize only. I don't really care what you ate, but I do believe in giving positive reinforcement when due.

melindacook

My thoughts exactly!

voluptas63

Just like the old WW message board days.

A good, old fashioned melt.

Want some fries with that melt?

Now I'm wondering who this could be ;-)

Yesssssssss.

ceeshelman

This is part of a rant... so if you're thin skinned then stop reading.

But seriously? If the point of this website were to just give mindless praise without really paying attention... then most of you are doing great. When I complete my food diary at only about 850 calories.. don't say "great job" or "Way to go" to that.. if you had actually looked I'm sure most of you would say "That's dangerous" because it is. I have another friend who is trying to gain weight and having a VERY hard time. She lost more weight last week and a whole group of people congratulated her.. which is just further incidence of not paying attention.

I'm not saying that as a friend you need to read into every situation and know what every diary says or whatever.. but I am saying that sometimes it would be beneficial to actually know what you are saying. There are only like 10 of my friends who will put a detailed comment or actually have something to say.

Praise is a terrific confidence booster.. but when you realize how empty it is then suddenly it means nothing.

Think about it.

Also.. if you're the kind of person into a "snappy" comeback or whatever, the person inclined to defend themselves to me.. don't waste your time. You don't have to read this.. and it doesn't matter what I say if you don't consider what you're doing in the end.

To me it makes sense to ask for what you need from support people, get a few friends on MFP who know your situation and leave the rest of the world to pollice themselves.

EKarma

I'm bad.. I only read half of what you posted.. But I do agree with ya.

melindacook

Joined Aug 2011

Posts: 55


Fri 08/26/11 04:02 PM

"As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise."

— Byron Katie





Love that quote !

Terriann7

in all seriousness, i can't f****** read the small font, i'm like a granny. when i use the caps, i'm doing myself a favor LOL i'm squinting as we speak.. going blind for you mo'fo's, right now!!!

LOL THIS RIGHT HERE WAS WORTH THE ENTIRE READ!!! FREAKING HILARIOUS!

lucky1ns

Just like the old WW message board days.

A good, old fashioned melt.

Want some fries with that melt?

Now I'm wondering who this could be ;-)

Yesssssssss.

I toyed with the idea of posting this on the GDT but then came to my senses.

Eve1972

This is part of a rant... so if you're thin skinned then stop reading.

But seriously? If the point of this website were to just give mindless praise without really paying attention... then most of you are doing great. When I complete my food diary at only about 850 calories.. don't say "great job" or "Way to go" to that.. if you had actually looked I'm sure most of you would say "That's dangerous" because it is. I have another friend who is trying to gain weight and having a VERY hard time. She lost more weight last week and a whole group of people congratulated her.. which is just further incidence of not paying attention.

I'm not saying that as a friend you need to read into every situation and know what every diary says or whatever.. but I am saying that sometimes it would be beneficial to actually know what you are saying. There are only like 10 of my friends who will put a detailed comment or actually have something to say.

Praise is a terrific confidence booster.. but when you realize how empty it is then suddenly it means nothing.

Think about it.

it is naturally safe to consume less calories in a day or even more. People do it all of the time when they have a dinner they want to go to, or want to have a cheat day, they stagger their calories and make up for the deficit. It is not about the calories consumed in a day, it is about what is going in and out at the end of the week...whatever that may be for each individual.

Everyone should be able to eat what they want. People should be able to Lower their calories to whatever they want to lower their calories to. We aren't MFP police. Why can't we just say, "good job staying under YOUR goal?" so apparently, what people are doing is critiquing the food intake of others like they are nutritional experts. Even a nutritionist shouldn't make comments about the types of food, or quantity of food someone is consuming on this site, unless specifically asked. People will ask for help when they want it. Doctors don't go around looking for people to care for. People look for doctors. We didn't join MFP to judge someone else.

I do find it funny that people love to comment on the diaries of others. Why? What is the purpose? Really? MFP is here for everyone, regardless of what their calorie intake is. This site is about the individual, not what others think someone else should be consuming.

Yes, this is really an aggravating topic for me. I guess you have people in this world who think they are supposed to control those around them.

Logout and read who MFP is for..... EVERYONE regardless of what diet they are on. Read what MFP is all about.

MFP is NOT a program. It is a site for journaling and finding others who are on the same path as you are. Everyone isn't on the same path.

MFP is a lot like Jesus... arms open wide to the food-saint as well as to the junked-out-sinner.

Just leave people alone!!

Totally agree!

RachelSRoach1

I'm not one to generally post on things like this but... You seem to like to eat and have drinks from Mickey D's alot... That don't seem to be to healthy on your part!!! You might want to cut that out or maybe just take a few less trips. Anyhow thats just my opinion. I hope it gets better... Good luck on your journey!!!

LOL I found this waaay funny. Only because often times it is the easiest option as my Husband works as a Manager there and I end up spending quite a bit of time there.. and he gets free food every day. At least we're making healthy choices though.

sarah307

i havent read through any of the replies but just wanted to comment on the first post... i usually just put "way to go" and "keep it up!" on food diaries that i have looked at and i think are healthy and are in a healthy calorie range. and i have a lot of MFP friends on here so that being said, that would take a freakin' long time to do. haha! so i just do that on a few here and there and i mostly comment on the exercises .. i usually just scroll down the first several pages of the main page and congratulate people on burning calories and on keeping their bodies moving! that way, i know i am congratulating them on the right things!