I'm too sexual looking...........accusation from a gym membe

janet_pratt

Oh Please! Its a gym. You're wearing gym clothes. Maybe someone should suggest she find a Curves.

LauraMacNCheese

What about gi bottoms? They aren't too constricting...

channa007

I'm thinking a fire-shooting cod-piece, like Blackie Lawless of WASP used to wear.

Best idea yet!

sunkisses

Gosh, I'm always getting accused of looking too sexual too. *hair flip* What are we to do?

koosdel

I got a warning from my Group Fitness Supervisor today to be aware of my clothing at the gym. In my avatar, I'm wearing the same spandex that I was accused of being "too sexual looking" in when a complaint was put in the suggestion box! I wear them because if I just wore shorts, every time I kick (and I kick high) in kickboxing instruction, you'd see my "junk". At least this way I'm "contained". Through the grapevine, apparently it's from a very "religious and conservative" woman who attends my classes.

So your opinion: If I wore that to an instruction class, would you be offended?

BTW, I have no choice but to "cover up" more.

I don't really see a problem with what you're wearing.. but then I'm not looking at your toodles. Though, I think some of the other guys here in the correctional facility may have a few sexy thoughts about you.

garysgirl719

I'll give the unpopular answer.... If it's only "Through the grapevine" that it was one lady, maybe that's the problem. If the supervisor felt the need to approach you about the attire, it seems like they have gotten more than one complaint about it.

mommared53

How did you find out it was me that complained?

Ok, it wasn't really me. I'm a very conservative Christian though but I've never thought of you as being too sexual looking in that outfit. Seems appropriate enough to me.

skinnywithin

CRAB EYES SHOWING !!!!!!!!!!!!

jeffsgal105

If she's in your class, maybe wear something loose but appropriate that might fling your junk in her direction. Next time you wear the container-wear she might be more appreciative :-P What you're wearing in the pic looks like normal gym apparel to me.

THIS!!!

ninerbuff

I'll give the unpopular answer.... If it's only "Through the grapevine" that it was one lady, maybe that's the problem. If the supervisor felt the need to approach you about the attire, it seems like they have gotten more than one complaint about it.

My supe is up front with me. She told me it was the very first complaint, so she hasn't taken it seriously and wanted to give me a heads up. She has told me yet that I have to change my attire, but now that I'm aware, I may just have to just so it's not an issue. We'll see. I may not change and see if the complaint comes in again.

channa007

Kinda reminds me of Ben Stiller's character from the movie Dodgeball :drinker:

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TluvK

Sounds like a clear case of sexism - she wouldn't be complaining if you were a female wearing tight shorts. I think you should leave the solution up to your supervisor. You clearly have a very good reason for needing to wear what you wear - wearing something more inhibiting (or less, depending on how you look at it) will possibly affect your teaching. So, if you need to buy those $50.00 things, then the gym buys them for you.

Or, you could just get it over with and satisfy this woman's pent-up sexual urges.

Nina74

What do the male instructors at your gym wear to teach spin class? I would assume it would be bike shorts like what you have on. Maybe you could be like one psycho spin instructor I had who was constantly yelling "eyes" and doing the whole two fingers at his eyes, two fingers at our eyes. Maybe you could do the same and keep her eyes on your other "parts" besides what she is obviously focusing on! :laugh:

emariec78

Is what you are wearing allowed by company dress code? If it is then its really not fair of them to single you out based off one compliant when you're actually doing nothing wrong, unless of course they're planning to change their policy and tell everyone they can't wear shorts like that.

I'd also say that's in a pretty normal range of gym clothing, not offensive.

odusgolp

Well, if you wore some white spandex with taint stains that should avert those sexual predators' eyes from staring at the crotchal area.

Taint stains?? WTF is coming out of your taint area, love?? :huh:

keola64

Lol I walk around in my underwear so to me you look quite modest,some people got to get a life.I git hate messageson this site because of my profile pic,I happen to be proud of my achievement + us Hawaiian never wear shirts ,so maybe you should look into an official dress code policy with that gym and if you are in the rite to wear what u have on than tell every1 to shove it

CaptainGordo

Here's a solution...

pammyedmunds

Wear your spandex and then shorts on top...that is what my UMA instructors do.

Becca_007

I'll give the unpopular answer.... If it's only "Through the grapevine" that it was one lady, maybe that's the problem. If the supervisor felt the need to approach you about the attire, it seems like they have gotten more than one complaint about it.

I wondered this myself. Unless you know for sure (as in the women talked to you personally) that's the particular student that's troubled by it, you really don't know for sure where the complaint is coming from.

Could be the supervisor is uncomfy bringing it up and so she put it off on this one person. Seriously would you get a warning as an instructor for ONE complaint from one person? That is hard to believe at least with the class sizes around here. I don't know how big your classes are but that's seems a bit strange to me.

just some thoughts..

ninerbuff

Is what you are wearing allowed by company dress code? If it is then its really not fair of them to single you out based off one compliant when you're actually doing nothing wrong, unless of course they're planning to change their policy and tell everyone they can't wear shorts like that.

I'd also say that's in a pretty normal range of gym clothing, not offensive.

Spandex is allowed by females and males. It's just that instructors have a different standard because we are at the front of a class. I'm waiting it out and seeing what happens with this.

ninerbuff

Wear your spandex and then shorts on top...that is what my UMA instructors do.

They slip down when I kick. Part of the reason I don't wear them over them.

ninerbuff

I wondered this myself. Unless you know for sure (as in the women talked to you personally) that's the particular student that's troubled by it, you really don't know for sure where the complaint is coming from.

Could be the supervisor is uncomfy bringing it up and so she put it off on this one person. Seriously would you get a warning as an instructor for ONE complaint from one person? That is hard to believe at least with the class sizes around here. I don't know how big your classes are but that's seems a bit strange to me.

just some thoughts..

One thing about my gym is that they look at EVERY suggestion and complaint. They don't wait till the last minute to address it. Part of the reason why our membership, though not huge, has great retention.

dad106

dude, just wear Under-Armour type shorts/boxers with some unrestrictive soccer shorts over it. That's what I'd wear to some of these MMA classes and such.

I've looked into it. I'm just a cheap *kitten*. $50 bucks for those shorts is a lot to me. I may well just have to go that direction.

Do you have an Under-Armour Outlet by you? You can find all that stuff for a lot cheaper then in their normal stores/online.

Back to your original question.. I don't think the outfits a problem. You gotta wear what you gotta wear to keep the goods in place.. and if she doesn't like it, then maybe suggest another class she can take.

millionsofpeaches

Hahaha.... this is hilarious. I think you look fine... and should be able to wear what ever the heck you want. In fact, just to push their buttons you could invest in a circa 1982 style mesh jersey to wear at the gym.

brianward81

Keep doing what you are doing. If she just can't keep her eyes off you and keep complaining, what's the worst that could happen? So the gym bans you from being too sexy for the other people... then you get new shorts with a caption on the front part of them reading; "I got banned from FridGym from being too sexy, wanna go out?".

Win win.

SusanRenee35

she cant stop looking at your goods & it is making her have naughty thoughts that she cant get control of lol....i say go tighter!!!
people are a joke!
if you dont like it!!! DONT LOOK AT IT B**CH! :P

ThePhoenixRose

Here's an unpopular opinion, and maybe a little surprising... I HATE spandex. With a passioin. I don't care to see anyone's business in that much detail. I am a HUGE fan of the human body, men and women, and am all about seeing it naked! But packaged up tight in spandex is not flattering, to anyone, IMO. It's really easy to buy a pair of cheap shorts to wear over the spandex, just make sure they have a drawstring so you won't have the slipping down issue.

I do feel uncomfortable about someone in spandex (only), whatever gender, however fit. Not so much that i'd complain about it, but since you asked...

Rachaelluvszipped

Lol..that's too funny! She can't stop looking is what it is...for shame! Oh well, she just can't concentrate..wow! Oh well, you gotta do what you gotta do for your job...Haha..just curious..do you know who the "woman" is?

TourThePast

My supe is up front with me. She told me it was the very first complaint, so she hasn't taken it seriously and wanted to give me a heads up.

There is customer service, and there is pointless pandering to the more "challenged" members of society.

For every one woman who is disgusted by your (presumably "God given" in her addled mind) physique, there will be a dozen sane women who quietly and harmlessly enjoy seeing what a fit guy looks like. Or even *gasp* actually take notice of what you're trying to teach them, rather than leering over your body.

All too often, employers take notice of the loudest non representative voice, rather than the quiet voice of the overwhelming majority.

My recommendation? Ignore the stupid b*tch.

There is NOTHING disgusting or immoral about the human body, anyone who thinks there is has issues of their own that need addressing.

To answer your question "would you be offended?", no I wouldn't find your attire offensive, nor in fact would I find it at all offensive if you turned up stark bollock naked. I've seen a lot of naked men in my life, really, unless they're a sexual partner, it's no big deal.

What would be offensive to me is if you couldn't teach a good class, or if your warm up / cool down routines were inadequate.

Dkenny74

Your Boss needs to grow a pair and back his employee.