Tell me if this is creepy, or if I am just overreacting....

3ball

Thanks so much everyone. :-)


How her mom and step-dad handled the situation last night kind of raises the red flag even more that there is more going on that I know. I mean, she asks her step-dad to stop creeping on her FB so much and the reaction is to remove him and my wife as friends on FB and take away her cell phone. WTF? And that's just the things that I know.

My timing was horrible. I don't have her again until next Wednesday. That's a long time to have to wait to find out what really happened.

penrbrown

What a sad situation. ):

Hopefully everything turns out. Good for you for trying so hard to take care of her.

PlanetVelma

Bad mouthing you is one thing (she's old enough to recognize it for what it is), unfriending both step parents on fb to "remove" the problem is stupid, but when those a-holes think they can cut off or monitor all communication with you, THAT crosses the line.

It's time to get serious and talk to an attorney. I went through a divorce in the past year and was hoping not to have to get an attorney involved (did you know that they are really expensive?), but I was glad I did. You have more parental rights than this. And your daughter is at the age where her choices matter.

Dude, if money is an issue, I will gladly donate a couple bucks. It might not be enough to do much good, but from the fact that there are so many people following your story on this thread, I have a feeling I wouldn't be the only one.

How do you think this stress is affecting your daughter??? It has to be taking a big toll on her. :frown:

Attorney costs aren't always super expensive, if you have an "Employee Assistance Program" (EAP) at your work (or your spouse's job), many times that program will refer to you to an attorney. My mom did that for me and I received 1 hour of free legal advice. The attorney I ended up hiring allowed me to make payments and gave me a discount (it was like 10-15% off) due to the EAP referral.

There are great attorneys out there, it's just a matter of finding one that will work with you.

I don't agree with your ex punishing your daughter, honestly, I would be consulting an attorney and at the bare minimum asking that the court mandate co-parenting classes for EVERYONE involved, therapy for your daughter and have the court evaulate the current custody/visitation arrangements. (Make sure you take in screen shots of the FB posts, start keeping a detailed journal w/ dates/times of these types of incidents and have all your ducks in a row before you visit with an attorney).

It does sound like there's more going on...my dad used to tell me there are 3 sides to every story - your side, their side and the truth. It's all about perception.

So who knows how the conversation went with your ex, it sounded like it was a total meltdown and your ex and her husband handled it poorly by allowing their emotions to dictate their response (instead of acting like rational beings). Unfortunately they probably just proved to your daughter that she cannot be honest and open with them...