Right age to get married??

maserati185

Mad_Dog LOL Just awful!

samb

When you care more about BEING married than GETTING married.

agreed!

samb

I would say as soon as you knock her up and you cant get a passport to leave the country.... whatever that age may be! :smokin:

lmao

rfcollins33

I would say as soon as you knock her up and you cant get a passport to leave the country.... whatever that age may be! :smokin:

:laugh:

yep, sounds about right!

jesstroxel

I got married when I was 21, but we had 2 children and was expecting our 3rd child. I, too, think it depends on the person. If I could go back in time I would do it all over again. Now at 27 and have 5 kids, I dont feel like I have missed out on anything. We just plan to after the kids are grown to do what we want.

icandoitgood

I got married at 18 to the love of my life. I was one of those teen pregnancies in high school, after I gave birth to my beautiful daughter, I realized I wanted to be a complete family. Then my husband asked me to marry him on Thanksgiving of '09 We were married on January 11, 2010 when our daughter was almost four months old. Many people ask me if I could go back and change anything I did, what would I change, Nothing. My husband is amazing. Yeah, we are young but we still act like two crazy teenagers in love. Our beautiful daughter is turning two at the end of this month To me, any age is the right age.

rfcollins33

yeah, there is nothing wrong with having kids right after or shortly after marriage as long as you are happy and READY!!! Oh and almost nothing prepares you for this. haha.... But, I do just fine. It's to each THEIR OWN!!!

WattsJA

There is no "right age" because it is different for everyone ..

Having said that, the right age is when you find the person you can spend the rest of your life with. It's not a race to the alter (unless you are on reality TV), but a commitment for life.

bachooka

P.S.: Marriage doesn't mean babies for everyone. And certainly not immediately. It always boggled my mind how people get married and instantly pop out kiddos. Don't you want to enjoy your marriage, kid-free, for at LEAST a year or two?

I honestly got married BECAUSE I had kiddos... We lived together our lives were totally entwined, and there is really no way to back pedal from a marriage proposal without severely damaging someones feelings... So I figured I would go for it. I was 18.

Kristhin

I got married at age 22, and it failed miserably.
Now I'm 27 and going for marriage #2 sometime in the near future. I feel like I'm much more mentally equipped to handle working on and being in a long term relationship and being happy with that.

sunkisses

I don't want my comment misunderstood. My "only if they want to have kids" comment is based strictly on legal reasons, not moral. I think it keeps everyone in the household covered with medical insurance easier, creates an easy family unit to keep track of, and holds both parents accountable for their offspring. I'm simply not a proponent of marriage. If there were something that did all of the things that I believe marriage does for children, then I wouldn't think there was a point for marriage at all.

jessie580

never!

heidiqt

Everyone is different, and gets married for different reasons, but if the "first thing you think about when thinking of marriage is the wedding(s)" you are not ready. I am 40 and have been happily married for 20 years, and I have the freedom and support to pursue and live my dreams, maybe that's where the "happily" comes in.

kunibob

Depends totally on the person.

29 was right for me, though I was living common-law with my husband at 26. I was previously engaged to my ex at 22 and we went in completely different directions...so glad we didn't marry, as it would have made our separation so much more complicated!

Meanwhile, my sister was married at 21 (in 2004) and has a very happy and stable marriage, so age isn't everything. She was always more family-focused, while I was more career-focused.

DancinSMartiPants

Marriage won't cramp your style if you have legitimately found the right person-- a room mate, a best friend, a lover, a person you can grow with and look up to even as they look up to you. Kids, on the other hand. That's a different story.

futurefitgirl88

Don't get me wrong, I cant wait to be married (after I've made some mad cash!).... I think my parent's marriage is what made me who I am toda!! and I want that for my kids!! however I also want my marriage to be stress free (unlike what my parents had)...I've already been with my bf for 3 years...maybe 3 years more...before I really know him well!!

Sasssy69

I think a good age to marry is 95. By 95 I won't much care what happens to me and anything will be better than death, even marriage. But until then, I'd rather have my toenails pulled out by a rabid dog tyvm

I was going to say never. But I agree - I think 95 is the PERFECT age. And I agree with the toenails/rabid dog thing. Or eating hot coals. Whichever.

sherismb

Marriage really doesn't have an age (of course you should be legal), LOL. I'm saying that to say it really depends on what you and your partner want out of life. Do you want to travel, have a family early, etc. Getting married young has it's advantages and disadvantages, sometimes people grow together, sometimes they grow apart. Getting married older is the same....... advantages/disadvantages. Sometimes when you are older you are more grounded and you know what you want in a relationship and you've experienced a lot, but you are also more set in your ways and sometimes more difficult to deal with.

I was married young and stayed married for a long time and divorced as I was older. I really didn't come into my own until much later in life. I also have several friends who married right out of high school and are still together today.

Said all that to say "It's all about the individual".

maab_connor

i am selfish, private and easily bored. the right age for me is NEVER.

hell, i have someone i can stand for more than two weeks and i consider it an accomplishment.

maria25428

To each there own I guess.
I am 24, married at 22 and had a baby 5 months ago. i enjoy my job and wouldn't trade any of it for the world. If you consider marriage as being 'tied down', you'll be miserable from the start, regardless your age. To say there is a right age to get married is crazy.

smccarron1

I'm 23, and ready to get married. I've finished college, I'm in grad school part-time, I have a career, and more importantly, I live with the man I know without a shadow of a doubt that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't think it's age, it's when you're prepared. Some people never are, and some are at 18. When you find the right person, you know.

Agreed! Well said :0)

voluptas63

I'll be 28 in October and I finally feel like I'm ready for marriage. Been with my man friend for a year now, but we're in no rush. No desire to have kids either. We're too selfish for that business:)

TiffanyA2008

For me, I can't give you an age because it depends on a persons maturity level. I am 24 turning 25 in a few months and I am married. I know a lot of people my age and older that just don't act very mature :-\

Ge0rgiana

I'm 34, and I'm SO glad I never got married. Anyone I would have married would have been an absolute mistake. I do plan to go ahead and take the plunge in the next couple of years or so. I found someone who really fits me. It's funny, but it took finding him to see just how mistaken I was about every other relationship that I'd had that I thought was good enough for marriage.

I say that if you're not yet over 30, don't. Seriously. If you've found THE person and all that, then it's not a big deal to wait. If you really are right for each other, neither of you is going anywhere. If you find, like I did, that you were mistaken about this person's suitability, then you'll have saved yourself a lot of problems.

I guess maybe it's different if you choose to have kids, though.

La_Amazona

Got married at 22. I'm 32 now and I'd say I am still not ready for marriage! haha

No really, I think around 30 would had been good. The 20's were all about self discovery and growing pains and sometimes that's not very fun. Alot of mistakes were made because of immaturity. If I could do it all over, I would had waited.

Fat_2_Fit_Mommy

Well I am 21 and I have been with my hubby for 3 years and have a daughter with him. But we are really not married legally we are trying to save money first before we get married. But we love each other and we know what our plans are. I think it is different for every body.

KayteeBear

I'm almost 19, and I know it's a little silly, but I'm waiting for him to pop the question. However, I could also see myself in a long (year or more) engagement.

I know that I love the man I'm with enough to marry him this instant, or wait 5 years. I highly doubt that will change over time (call me naive, sure.)

Yup, kinda the same. I'm 19, been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, and currently living together and things are great. We just seem so compatible and we just get along so well and I love him so much. And honestly all I've ever wanted was to get married and have kids. I LOVE kids. Absolutely LOVE taking care of kids. I don't mind staying at home and doing the housework. Honestly, I'd happily marry him right now if he proposed. Though don't think it'll happen for a few years, but ideally I'd love to get married around 22/23 and have kids around 25 or younger. I have a condition that means I might not be able to have kids...my mom has it and it took her 5 years to get pregnant with my older brother and I don't want to take that long. I want to be a younger mother so I don't want to get married and wait five years before trying for kids.

And some people say it wouldn't hurt to wait but for me...to wait longer might mean I'll never have kids and if I couldn't have kids I would totally adopt but I really want at least one kid of my own. I have babysat since I was 12 and I love it no matter how annoying the kids were, or when I was holding a screaming baby in the middle of the night and I know it'd be hard but I really want a family.

kbeach08

Got married at 22. I'm 32 now and I'd say I am still not ready for marriage! haha

No really, I think around 30 would had been good. The 20's were all about self discovery and growing pains and sometimes that's not very fun. Alot of mistakes were made because of immaturity. If I could do it all over, I would had waited.

I completely agree!! I am 27 now got married when I was 23. I definately do not regret my amazing daughter but I would/should have waited on the getting married part.

godroxmysox

I got married at 22. We had already been together for a little over 4 years before he proposed. I absolutely think it depends on the individuals. As far as I'm concerned, if you know you're going to "eventually" get married, why wait?

Iamfit4life

P.S.: Marriage doesn't mean babies for everyone. And certainly not immediately. It always boggled my mind how people get married and instantly pop out kiddos. Don't you want to enjoy your marriage, kid-free, for at LEAST a year or two?

I wanted to wait 5 years.
He didn't want to wait at all.

Thankfully I gave in, otherwise I'd not have my children. We divorced after 6 years. lol

I am also the perfect example of what not to do!
I was 25 when I married.
I've already told my daughter she has to be 30 with a masters degree