Dating/Relationship Dealbreakers...

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Iamfit4life
Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
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Mine would be( If I wasn't happily taken)



*hate kids
*not close with family
*does drugs
*smokes(sadly my sig other still does)
*no job(I'm a single mom, I need a stable dood)


What are (or would be) yours?
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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,112 Member
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    can I just copy and paste yours?


    and then add:

    Must have their own place, preferrably not a jail cell.
  • prestonmay
    prestonmay Posts: 107 Member
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    not emphatic
  • brandimacleod
    brandimacleod Posts: 368 Member
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    No alcoholics. Recovering, ok....but active? Nuh uh... Not again.
  • carolinedb
    carolinedb Posts: 236 Member
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    Bad manners is an absolute deal breaker for me!
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
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    -unmotivated to work/job
    -rude/nasty
    -didn't want more and didn't like children
    -smoke
    -drugs
    -no sense of humor or adventure

    otherwise we're good to go lol
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
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    Pessimistic
    Reliant on drugs or alcohol
    Playing the victim in life
    unmotivated
    lazy
    unintelligent
    critical
    prone to passing on negative news
    unsupportive
    unwilling to communicate openly
    super religious or conservative
    judgemental
    homophobic/sexist/anti-choice
    violent
    easily angered
  • Goldenwoof
    Goldenwoof Posts: 535 Member
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    Smoking.
    Racists (I had recent experience with this one...just plain ugliness).
    Not being able to let go of the past.
    No sense of humor.
    Not being active (maybe not as active as I am, but no couch potatoes).

    I'm sure my list is actually longer, but hey...I'm tired. :)
  • Ireshgurl
    Ireshgurl Posts: 559
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    Still married...... true story.
    Doesn't like teenagers, no vehicle, no job, no house, partakes in any type of illegal activity (unless it's of the sexual nature with me, lol), smokes (i just quit), doesn't like dogs, and is lazy.
  • foremant86
    foremant86 Posts: 1,115 Member
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    - has no job and isn't trying to find one
    - drinks a lot
    - does drugs
    - doesn't like kids or believes kids "should be seen not heard"...i probably don't want kids but i love my nieces and nephews to death
    - can't take sarcasm(i am the queen of sarcasm)
    - bad hygiene
    - self centered/doesn't care about other people.
    - sits inside all day...i like browsing forums and playing computer games too but god damn don't make it a lifestyle, go out and enjoy the fresh air!
    - doesn't like animals
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
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    Pessimistic
    Reliant on drugs or alcohol
    Playing the victim in life
    unmotivated
    lazy
    unintelligent
    critical
    prone to passing on negative news
    unsupportive
    unwilling to communicate openly
    super religious or conservative
    judgemental

    Ohh the super religious or conservative one is good
  • fromaquasar
    fromaquasar Posts: 811 Member
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    All the obvious ones (drugs etc)

    And then:
    - no ambition/passion/fire for life - i.e. lazy and unmotivated
    - no compassion/empathy/tolerance of other people and their perspectives
    - negative, judgemental and narrow minded
    - treats waiters rudely :)
  • Rikki444
    Rikki444 Posts: 326 Member
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    An unduly jealous man who is overbearing and possesive... insecure and always uncertain. I don't like to be treated like I can't be trusted!
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
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    All the obvious ones (drugs etc)

    And then:
    - no ambition/passion/fire for life - i.e. lazy and unmotivated
    - no compassion/empathy/tolerance of other people and their perspectives
    - negative, judgemental and narrow minded
    - treats waiters rudely :)

    The waiters one good.

    One of the things that made me realize I was married to the wrong man...
    We were out to dinner. The kids had made a HUGE mess. HUGE. And the waitress who has just finished taking our credit card asks "is there anything else you need"
    And he says "NO, but I know that YOU"RE GOING TO NEED A BIG BROOM AND DUST PAN TO CLEAN UP THIS MESS"

    ughhhhh
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
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    1. Drugs aren't ok, addictions aren't ok (of any kind)
    2. Has to like my dog (I'm not budging on this)
    3. My dog has to like them (she is a better judge of character than I am)
    4. Not want to marry me on date 3 (yes this happened, yes, I continued to date him until he dropped the "L bomb" and I dropped him)
    5. Has to understand I'm his girlfriend, not his property of any kind, I will my my own choices and he can kiss my boots if he doesn't like it.
  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
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    deal breakers:

    * long hair
    * living with their parents or more than 1 roommate
    * anti-choice
    * racist
    * active addiction
    * irresponsibility

    pretty much everything else can be worked with :tongue:
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
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    I forgot racist and intolerant (sexual preference, etc)
  • alienblonde1
    alienblonde1 Posts: 749 Member
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    All the above :smile:
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
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    I forgot racist and intolerant (sexual preference, etc)

    Amen (I always assume this is a given). My past dating experience would prevent a bigot of any kind from dating me though...
  • dayzeerock
    dayzeerock Posts: 918 Member
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    Lives in mom's basement
    Bad tippers
    Halitosis
    Watches Fox News
    Blonde
    Small cockadoodledoo, if you know what I mean

    Yeah, I'm vain, I admit.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
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    Here WERE my dealbreakers...

    living at home
    no job
    has kids
    shorter than I
    weighs less than I

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