Dating/Relationship Dealbreakers...

amelia_atlantic

Pessimistic
Reliant on drugs or alcohol
Playing the victim in life
unmotivated
lazy
unintelligent
critical
prone to passing on negative news
unsupportive
unwilling to communicate openly
super religious or conservative
judgemental
homophobic/sexist/anti-choice
violent
easily angered

YES! This is pretty much my list exactly.

bigdawg025

My dealbreakers in no particular order -

Lazy
Doesn't take care of themselves
Gives me no sympathy
Wants to completely change me... yes... I love gambling and drinking!
Wouldn't support my weight loss journey
No job - this isn't 1950.
SMOKING!

Luckily I don't have to worry about any of these! haha :P

JulieSD

- Has kids
- Religious
- Gonorrhea
- Vegan
- Liberal/Democrat (I'd casually date one but never take her seriously)
- Unemployed
- Uneducated

The last three usually go hand in hand.

This made me LOL for a few minutes. What a bold statement at the end. I'm still laughing. I'm an educated and surprisingly employed(!!) Liberal. I love a closed mind, just means I have a challenge xoxo

ShannaKayB

Pessimistic
Reliant on drugs or alcohol
Playing the victim in life
unmotivated
lazy
unintelligent
critical
prone to passing on negative news
unsupportive
unwilling to communicate openly
super religious or conservative
judgemental
homophobic/sexist/anti-choice
violent
easily angered

All of this!

MrBrown72

Doesn't understand my love of things with blinky LEDs
gets weird if I make more money than he does.
No sense of adventure or need to travel and see new things

the biggie: hates kids

Everything should have LED's it's how you know it's important and functioning. Okay breasts don't "have" to have LED's however...

loristroud

Has to be able to survive a zombie apocalypse.

chocolateandvodka

bad hygeine
average intelligence or below
height of less than 72" (men)
bad grammar/spelling
they MUST have a vocabulary above 8th grade level
does hard drugs - ever
codependent on anything - me, parents, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, anything.
little or no concern for health and wellbeing
low or average sex drive
unwillingness to explore the unknown
wants children
has children
narrow-minded in any way
Vegan or ultra-religious - these are basically the same for me
doesn't think for themselves
doesn't handle anger well
unmotivated
more than 15 years my senior.
belittling
STD's of course
does not understand the meaning of "woo".

i'm sure there are more - i'm a picky person.

mjshmily

-must be employed
-must be reasonably stable (ie. not homeless)
-must be sincere and honest
-should be younger than my dad
-should weigh less than my horse
-must not smell (unless he's just getting off work or some other reasonable excuse)
-must have an IQ higher than a houseplant

Seriously though, I just want someone that would be willing to get to know me and not be judgemental.

blue4myeyes

- Has kids
- Religious
- Gonorrhea
- Vegan
- Liberal/Democrat (I'd casually date one but never take her seriously)
- Unemployed
- Uneducated

The last three usually go hand in hand.

This made me LOL for a few minutes. What a bold statement at the end. I'm still laughing. I'm an educated and surprisingly employed(!!) Liberal. I love a closed mind, just means I have a challenge xoxo

I totally agree!! Educated, employed, Liberal -- and proud of it!

I'm sure there are plenty of uneducated and unemployed Conservatives and Liberals just as there are plenty of both Liberals and Conservatives that ARE educated and employed. I don't find that the education and employment have any relation to political views.

Saruman_w

Think my main ones are

smoking
drug-use
alcoholic
already has kids ( would rather have my own one day)
excessive tattoos ( I can tolerate a few.. but all over? A turn off )
somewhat healthy eating habits ( not a requirement, but it would be nice to have someone keep me in line )
whackjob in either end of the political spectrum ( I like a middle-ground )

adrian_indy

Why no military? If I weren't married, I nail every other requirement.

I can relate to this. I would never have married someone in the military. My father was military. I could not endure what my mother went through.

But are you forsaking all men in the Military, or just lifers? Her original post said uber patriotic/military, which leads me to believe she lumped all military men into the same category. Just asking.

Fair question. I could not be married to a man currently in the military. If he had served before our relationship, that's perfectly acceptable. I can't speak to what the other poster meant, but this is how I feel.

Thanks. I just wanted to know if she meant it as she didn't want to be in the military life sytle, if her experience with military men in general had turned her off, or maybe she was a pacifist that could never date a soldier. Not arguing with it, but if some one had said, No Doctors, or no Fireman, I would have asked why as well.

sleepytexan

kinda surprised at the religious/conservative/republican hate...but to each his own. there is always someone for everyone out there.

ill stay a proud conservative that believes...

a good man.

bregalad5

When the guy calls you by your sister's name in the middle of sex. It kinda ended that relationship fast!

What... the... :noway: :noway: Yeah, I can see how that would end your relationship fast!

ninerbuff

Needy/clingy
Hairy
No sense of humor
Girls named Debbie or Angela

WTH? I'm not in the market, but why would my name exclude? Some personal baggage there?

BTW, I'm Debra. Debi was my young, evil twin. :laugh:

Probably has them tattooed on already.

sleepytexan

ninerbuff, I think your profile pic is too sexual-looking. I might have to report you.

Dona_Maria

Clingy, Cheater, Liar, No sense of humor, Aggressive, Macho-man, Has no job!, Thinks he knows it all, Republican (Bible Thumper type), Overly extrovert, Doesn't like animals, Has too many kids, Self centered, Arrogant, Bad hygiene, Reliant on drugs or alcohol, Playing the victim in life, unmotivated/ lazy, unintelligent, critical, prone to passing on negative news, unsupportive, unwilling to communicate openly, super religious or conservative, judgmental, Hates, homophobic/sexist/anti-choice, violent, easily angered, Racists

Geesh I'm tired.

On the positive side, I love someone who is down to earth, artsy, geeky, into MCM, likes self-expression, open-minded, family originated, with not much baggage (see above).

Kalrez

Why no military? If I weren't married, I nail every other requirement.

I can relate to this. I would never have married someone in the military. My father was military. I could not endure what my mother went through.

But are you forsaking all men in the Military, or just lifers? Her original post said uber patriotic/military, which leads me to believe she lumped all military men into the same category. Just asking.

Fair question. I could not be married to a man currently in the military. If he had served before our relationship, that's perfectly acceptable. I can't speak to what the other poster meant, but this is how I feel.

Thanks. I just wanted to know if she meant it as she didn't want to be in the military life sytle, if her experience with military men in general had turned her off, or maybe she was a pacifist that could never date a soldier. Not arguing with it, but if some one had said, No Doctors, or no Fireman, I would have asked why as well.

Been busy around the house and haven't checked the forums since I posted.

My reason for the whole "No military" thing is that I'm not patriotic. I am a pacifist. I don't ZOMG LOVE AMERICA, so I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who potentially thinks that way. I don't want to be with someone who is pro-war or pro-military. Someone who gets worked up over 9/11 or thinks that the Middle East is evil and out to get us ... that's just not gonna work for me.

Active duty is a definite no-go. But if someone served in the past to pay for college but doesn't look at this country through rose colored glasses, then it's a maybe.

TK266

Smoking and/or other addictions. would be a deal breaker, even if the person was perfect in everyone way. most other things I would raise would not wash someone out immediately, but might affect long term status.

fbmandy55

- Has kids
- Religious
- Gonorrhea
- Vegan
- Liberal/Democrat (I'd casually date one but never take her seriously)
- Unemployed
- Uneducated

The last three usually go hand in hand.

I love this. Thank you for the laugh!!!

voluptas63

- Doesn't watch football
- Doesn't know what football is
- Thinks football is silly
- Vegan/Vegetarian
- Non-alcoholic
- Hates mushrooms
- Liberal
- Anti-American
- Doesn't watch cartoons
- Hates guns

juliesummers

bad hygeine
average intelligence or below
height of less than 72" (men)
bad grammar/spelling
they MUST have a vocabulary above 8th grade level
does hard drugs - ever
codependent on anything - me, parents, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, anything.
little or no concern for health and wellbeing
low or average sex drive
unwillingness to explore the unknown
wants children
has children
narrow-minded in any way
Vegan or ultra-religious - these are basically the same for me
doesn't think for themselves
doesn't handle anger well
unmotivated
more than 15 years my senior.
belittling
STD's of course
does not understand the meaning of "woo".

i'm sure there are more - i'm a picky person.

How are vegan and ultra-relgious AT ALL similar?

sleepytexan

- Doesn't watch football
- Doesn't know what football is
- Thinks football is silly
- Vegan/Vegetarian
- Non-alcoholic
- Hates mushrooms
- Liberal
- Anti-American
- Doesn't watch cartoons
- Hates guns

sheesh Volupta, you knocked me out with the first 3! and we would have been so cute together I really love mushrooms, though.

ninerbuff

ninerbuff, I think your profile pic is too sexual-looking. I might have to report you.

I'll be in San Diego in November. You can cuff me then.

ninerbuff

Forgot these:

Compulsive spender
Hoarder

Iamfit4life

Forgot these:

Compulsive spender
Hoarder

oh my gosh I didn't even think about hoarder.

i_love_vinegar

mean
evil
poor
lazy
rude
depressing/pessimistic
uses drugs or abuses alcohol
no chemistry
dangerous/thrill seeker (as in extreme sports, speeding on the freeway, throwing away money at the casino etc).
selfish
crazy
unfaithful
unstable
dislikes animals
STD like Aids

vanessaclarkgbr

Oh dear, I'm so fussy nowadays the list would be long and tedious. Not because I think I'm the dog's doodah's more that I've had plenty of on/off time on my own and other than missing the hugs and stuff it's better to be single than in a bad relationship for me - I've generally got one eye on the emergency exit!!

barbarajean3

-unmotivated to work/job
-rude/nasty
-didn't want more and didn't like children
-smoke
-drugs
-no sense of humor or adventure

otherwise we're good to go lol

Damn you must have dated my ex husband:laugh:

meerkat70

To the obvious alcoholic, incapable of fidelity, etc type characteristics.... I'd add that I find it hard to love a man who can't keep his mouth shut when chewing. Lipsmackers. Ugh.

hikeout470

1. a spending or money management problem
2. unhealthy relationship with his mother (emotional incest)
3. unable to enjoy alcohol responsibly
4. doesn't like fox news
5. unfaithful or untrustworthy
6. a Bible thumper or anyone in his family is a Bible thumper
7. Illegal activity (or anyone in his family participating in anything illegal)
8. not on the same page about sex
9. not on the same page about affection
10. not over a previous relationship
11. not on the same or similar page about politics
12. doesn't work out
13. smoking
14. can't pass the dog test
15. over 40 and never been married
16 not on the same page about the roles of men and women
17. jealous or insecure
18. Uninteresting

I guess many of these things would never make it to pre-relationship status. But unfortunately, many of them were discovered after several dates.