Dating/Relationship Dealbreakers...
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To the obvious alcoholic, incapable of fidelity, etc type characteristics.... I'd add that I find it hard to love a man who can't keep his mouth shut when chewing. Lipsmackers. Ugh.
HAHA, so true. Eating noises and lipsmacking drive me absolutely insane. Also, I'd like to add slurping and chewing loudly with their mouth open.0 -
um...
Smoker
Alcoholic
Kids
An extensive past
Been previously married
Poor grammar
annoying voice
Negative attitude
Lying
Unhealthy lifestyle
Small hands (Lol...)
and shorter than me... but I may make an exception
and the list goes on... lol
I am not picky
Just none of the above applies to me... So. 0 -
Mine are
* Exceedingly (Like, stalkerish) Clingy
*Living under the belief that they have the power to tell me what I can and cannot do, and how I can or cannot do it
*Expecting more out of a relationship than they are willing to give in return
*Talking about me behind my back
*CHEATING
*Deception
*Abuse (Physical / Mental / Emotional)
*Weaponising / Ultimatums ("Either you do this or.....")
*Only concern is getting married / having kids ASAP
*"What's mine is mine, and what's your's well....is also mine" attitudes
*Texting as a primary form of communication0 -
I forgot poor grammar. I can't overlook the double negatives,0
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Okay another:
Dislikes oral sex0 -
THIS. Especially when the responses consist of single-word answers.*Texting as a primary form of communication0 -
Deal-breakers for me, in no particular order.
- Married or in a committed relationship (BTDT, and it's not based on morals that I say this)
- Cheating
- Abusive in any way (to humans, animals, and the earth)
- Addictive personality (drugs, alcohol, gambling, ho's)
- No job
- Does not like children.
- Rigid in beliefs (religious, political, etc.) Gonna need you to respect the other sides of your own argument otherwise I'll think you don't know WTF you're talking about.
- A lack of ambition (I'd like my partner to be able to look forward and set goals for himself, even if they're small)
- Felonious criminal record or recent misdemeanor.
- Poor character.
- Dishonest
- Financially dirt-poor. (I've been struggling my whole life, and I've helped my partners up as far as I could along the way. It's time for me to keep going and enjoy my life without someone else's financial burden.)
Wow, this is basically my same list. I was reading through looking for someone who shared it.
I will expand on financially.
Someone who has a poor credit score. A big indicator of how they handle their financial obligations. And someone who does not live within their means.
Also Rigid in beliefs.
Someone who really believes that adherence to a particular political ideology will solve their problems, their country's problems, the worlds problems. That's just ignorant in my opinion.0 -
Okay another:
Dislikes oral sex
Giving or getting or just in general. lol0 -
In general. I like to give and would expect the same.
Giving or getting or just in general. lol0 -
Okay another:
Dislikes oral sex
Until marriage... just kidding! a former spouse of mine's view anyway.0 -
Okay another:
Dislikes oral sex
Until marriage... just kidding! a former spouse of mine's view anyway.
Never understood why women pull the old bait and switch.0 -
Alot of these are on my list as well.
I will add love of movies is a must, I dont discriminate my movies and neither should you with exceptions of course, ie one of my ex refused to watch any cartoon/animation, subtitles, or movies not told in chronological order (you know too many flashbacks or back and forth) :huh: (he took out over half of what I watch)
Deciding you need to change your religious beliefs but knowing nothing and doing no research on belief you wish to convert to.
Being older than me but still telling everyone your my age and posting on your fb and such.
Low/average sex drive
Must not love sports (I have never dated a guy who watched them)
Tell me you love your kids and you want one with me which makes 4 kids total but then consistently tell me you would have been better off with 1 kid or none and that you do have a favorite out of your 3 (true story)
actually all are true from one guy I dated lol
Oh almost forgot to add my ex does watch Fox News religiously and was very closed minded about alot of things which I hated0 -
Have lots of buds that tell me the misses doesn't do it anymore unlike when they were dating. Sad for them.Never understood why women pull the old bait and switch.0 -
Re: Bait and Switch -- It's not just women... I've had more than one man pull that switch on me in longer relationships.0
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Bad Breath
Bad Hygiene (Same as Above i guess) lol
No Humor (Life is too short not to laugh)
Hates dogs (My Dog is my daughter #NoKids)
Celebate (Hate to sound shallow, but I need to test drive before Marriage) lol0 -
I'm with your expansions as well.Deal-breakers for me, in no particular order.
- Married or in a committed relationship (BTDT, and it's not based on morals that I say this)
- Cheating
- Abusive in any way (to humans, animals, and the earth)
- Addictive personality (drugs, alcohol, gambling, ho's)
- No job
- Does not like children.
- Rigid in beliefs (religious, political, etc.) Gonna need you to respect the other sides of your own argument otherwise I'll think you don't know WTF you're talking about.
- A lack of ambition (I'd like my partner to be able to look forward and set goals for himself, even if they're small)
- Felonious criminal record or recent misdemeanor.
- Poor character.
- Dishonest
- Financially dirt-poor. (I've been struggling my whole life, and I've helped my partners up as far as I could along the way. It's time for me to keep going and enjoy my life without someone else's financial burden.)
Wow, this is basically my same list. I was reading through looking for someone who shared it.
I will expand on financially.
Someone who has a poor credit score. A big indicator of how they handle their financial obligations. And someone who does not live within their means.
Also Rigid in beliefs.
Someone who really believes that adherence to a particular political ideology will solve their problems, their country's problems, the worlds problems. That's just ignorant in my opinion.
I was with the "poor credit score" guy and...it really limited the things we could do in life. He's married to someone now and his credit has prevented him and his new wife from buying a house...3 years after we split up.
And the rigidity thing - I can't deal with extremes of any kind really. I'm mostly balanced in everything. I don't even have a favorite food, shoes, or band. Being able to neatly wrap up my political beliefs sounds even more impossible.0 -
Re: Bait and Switch -- It's not just women... I've had more than one man pull that switch on me in longer relationships.
oh no way. That's a DEALBREAKER!!!0 -
Narcissistic personality disorder!0
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Here's my list
Smokers
A man with no sense of humor
A man I cant hold a good conversation with
Pessimistic
Animal hater
People hater
Liars0 -
Here's my list
Smokers
A man with no sense of humor
A man I cant hold a good conversation with
Pessimistic
Animal hater
People hater
Liars
Hold up! I got more!
Ex cons
and men who say they are looking for a "Short Term" relationship! Wtf does that mean?!?!
I know im young and 21 and never had a boyfriend but I want a long term no drama no BS relationship!
K im done....I think. :P 0 -
Fair question. I could not be married to a man currently in the military. If he had served before our relationship, that's perfectly acceptable. I can't speak to what the other poster meant, but this is how I feel.
But are you forsaking all men in the Military, or just lifers? Her original post said uber patriotic/military, which leads me to believe she lumped all military men into the same category. Just asking.
I can relate to this. I would never have married someone in the military. My father was military. I could not endure what my mother went through.Why no military? If I weren't married, I nail every other requirement.
Thanks. I just wanted to know if she meant it as she didn't want to be in the military life sytle, if her experience with military men in general had turned her off, or maybe she was a pacifist that could never date a soldier. Not arguing with it, but if some one had said, No Doctors, or no Fireman, I would have asked why as well.
Been busy around the house and haven't checked the forums since I posted.
My reason for the whole "No military" thing is that I'm not patriotic. I am a pacifist. I don't ZOMG LOVE AMERICA, so I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who potentially thinks that way. I don't want to be with someone who is pro-war or pro-military. Someone who gets worked up over 9/11 or thinks that the Middle East is evil and out to get us ... that's just not gonna work for me.
Active duty is a definite no-go. But if someone served in the past to pay for college but doesn't look at this country through rose colored glasses, then it's a maybe.
Wow:noway:
Call me old school.
I actually prefer men with prior or current military service.
I believe this is a valuable experience for them to have in developing their character.
And on that note? :flowerforyou: A big shout out of OO-rah, Hoo-ah, Aye-Yeah Navy!0 -
is possessed or haunted0
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Doesn't like kids
Does drugs, smokes or drinks a lot
Too into himself
Selfish
DOESNT LISTEN(the biggest)
Doesn't like animals
No humor0
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