fit & butt ugly OR fat with and stunning??.
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Wow! I would want someone because of their personality, not what they look like on the outside. This is a really sensitive subject for me because I grew up being called ugly a lot.
Edited to add, I'd go with the butt ugly and fit person because he'd probably be less judgemental.
Why does someone always have to throw in the 'this wasn't an option but you all are jerks for not picking it' argument???<- fat & pretty
Katie, you're crackers lol. You're NOT fat, and pretty doesn't even come close do describing you properly...tyvm!
For me, if I had to choose a partner, I'd probably choose attractive and overweight (I'm going with the spirit of the question here, not the letter...but at least I'm closer than option 'c' which wasn't even offered). Eyes I can drown in (which usually are framed in a relatively attractive face) are part of the required packaging for me. Ugly is a difficult hurdle...ALTHOUGH (and here's my disclaimer), I've met women I found less than attractive before, and after a few times of hanging around with them...found myself very, very much more attracted to them. A warm smile that reaches her eyes, and a great personality have won me over to date more than one woman that people might not expect. One of my favorite girlfriends (we never really got serious...but it's because I think she was scared to =l) was the opposite of my 'typical' girlfriends. She was pretty, blonde, moderately overweight, and was probably one of the most awesome people I'd ever met.
Anyway, for myself...I'm already fit and butt ugly (shush Von!)...so I guess the choice was made for me lol.0 -
Fat & stunning.
You could always lose the weight (: then be skinny & stunning.
can't change ugly (even with surgery), but you can change fat.0 -
How is this even a question. I have seen woman who have amazing bodies but have the ugliest faces I have ever seen. I have seen fat women with the most beautiful faces I have ever seen. The way I see it YOU CANT FIX UGLY. She may be fat now but that can always change. What about the best of both worlds. Stunning face and a Curvy body!! Now thats sexy0
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hmmm.... but you left out the group of people like me...... fat and but ugly with a great personality..... geez.... im always left out.... :laugh:0
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I hate guys with big muscles, I hate skinny guys even more.
I vote for fat and attractive :bigsmile:
there is just no pleasing some ppl
Nah, I'd say guys with bug muscles or really skinny guys are not the majority. I'm very easy to please.0 -
Wow! I would want someone because of their personality, not what they look like on the outside. This is a really sensitive subject for me because I grew up being called ugly a lot.
Edited to add, I'd go with the butt ugly and fit person because he'd probably be less judgemental.
Why does someone always have to throw in the 'this wasn't an option but you all are jerks for not picking it' argument???<- fat & pretty
Katie, you're crackers lol. You're NOT fat, and pretty doesn't even come close do describing you properly...tyvm!
For me, if I had to choose a partner, I'd probably choose attractive and overweight (I'm going with the spirit of the question here, not the letter...but at least I'm closer than option 'c' which wasn't even offered). Eyes I can drown in (which usually are framed in a relatively attractive face) are part of the required packaging for me. Ugly is a difficult hurdle...ALTHOUGH (and here's my disclaimer), I've met women I found less than attractive before, and after a few times of hanging around with them...found myself very, very much more attracted to them. A warm smile that reaches her eyes, and a great personality have won me over to date more than one woman that people might not expect. One of my favorite girlfriends (we never really got serious...but it's because I think she was scared to =l) was the opposite of my 'typical' girlfriends. She was pretty, blonde, moderately overweight, and was probably one of the most awesome people I'd ever met.
Anyway, for myself...I'm already fit and butt ugly (shush Von!)...so I guess the choice was made for me lol.
thanks Cris.. youre such a sweeeeeetie pie
& you're fit & so so handsome. who's crackers now? :P0 -
Fat and attractive. Too expensive to fix ugly. And... everything works the same in the dark.
lmao!!0 -
How is this even a question. I have seen woman who have amazing bodies but have the ugliest faces I have ever seen. I have seen fat women with the most beautiful faces I have ever seen. The way I see it YOU CANT FIX UGLY. She may be fat now but that can always change. What about the best of both worlds. Stunning face and a Curvy body!! Now thats sexy
This is an interesting point of view. I totally get what you are saying about how you can lose weight but if you're ugly, you're just ugly. But if we're talking about being in a relationship with someone, I have to look at the mental and emotional aspects, as well, and 9 times out of 10 a person who has made a commitment to being fit has far less emotional baggage than someone who has made a commitment to eating everything in sight. I would be truly concerned about why that person doesn't care any more than that about their body, their health, their future, etc. The same can be said for smokers and people who drink excessively.
A lot of fat people (who still haven't accepted the reason they are fat) will come back and say being fat doesn't mean you don't care about your body or your health, but, on some level, it absolutely does. Keep in mind, I'm not talking about fat people who are trying to lose weight. But if you're an adult, you simply can't be scarfing down McDonald's three times a day, never working out, and then say you care about being healthy. It just doesn't compute.0 -
Well if we go with the majority here, then I'm outta the running - I'm slim and would like think I'm attractive...
Overall, id be drawn to someone's personality more than their looks..,
My partners overweight, although I worry about his health, I love him for who he is.
On a friends level, it doesn't matter, personality counts! And yes I would still worry about your health because I'm a great friend!
Otherwise beauty / attractiveness comes in all shapes and sizes! :-)0 -
LOL! Great question!
As a man:
Fit & butt ugly!
After a few hard drinks and the closer to last call it gets. The handsomer I get! :-)
Besides, better to have the cardio when needed! A good reputation for performance & endurance will counter balance a lot of butt ugly!!
I would actually have to agree with this one! When you say "fat" are you talking unable to walk fat or just lives life by enjoying food? Just saying if you are too fat then there isn't much bed time fun so what is the point of being with you?? Oh that's right the emotional and spiritual part...NOT!! If the person is ugly they might have a kick *kitten* personality and that will get me. I would rather enjoy spending time with someone then sitting with a fat, stunning person who I can't have a conversation with because they always have food in their mouth! Just saying...0 -
Alright, can we hold up for just a second?
I don't eat everything in sight. I didn't become fat by "letting myself go." I'm not lazy, I'm not gross, and I don't come with a crap ton of emotional baggage.
Why are you making all of these assumptions about overweight people? In some cases, we eat the exact same as that skinny gal on the corner, but call it genetics or metabolism, whatever, we gain the weight and she doesn't. That makes me gross?
I am frigging gorgeous, regardless of what size I currently am. The fact that I wear a 16 instead of an 8 doesn't make me a less suitable partner for you, doesn't mean I have low self esteem, doesn't mean I don't care about my body.0 -
I'm pretty sure I specifically said I wasn't referring to people who are actively trying to lose weight.
But for the record, the whole "genetics made me fat" thing just doesn't work with me. I do believe genetics play a role in where you store fat on your body, but for an overwhelming majority of obese people, the only weight-related things they inherit from their parents are poor eating habits and a total lack of respect for physical fitness. Of course a child who is raised by parents who believe it's perfectly acceptable to eat fast food every night of the week and have twinkies for breakfast has a much higher probability of being fat than a child raised by parents who believe in eating mostly fresh, whole foods. That doesn't make it genetic; it means the first kid has parents who are almost certainly fat and who simply don't care what goes in their kids' mouths.
Face it, if obesity were largely a genetic issue, it wouldn't be so simple to correct (note that I said simple, not easy), nor would it be such a recent epidemic ... humans have been around forever, but obesity wasn't a serious problem in this country until the past 25 years or so.0 -
In my world i am Fat and stunning ... so i am going to have to go with that.0
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I'm pretty sure I specifically said I wasn't referring to people who are actively trying to lose weight.
But for the record, the whole "genetics made me fat" thing just doesn't work with me. I do believe genetics play a role in where you store fat on your body, but for an overwhelming majority of obese people, the only weight-related things they inherit from their parents are poor eating habits and a total lack of respect for physical fitness. Of course a child who is raised by parents who believe it's perfectly acceptable to eat fast food every night of the week and have twinkies for breakfast has a much higher probability of being fat than a child raised by parents who believe in eating mostly fresh, whole foods. That doesn't make it genetic; it means the first kid has parents who are almost certainly fat and who simply don't care what goes in their kids' mouths.
Face it, if obesity were largely a genetic issue, it wouldn't be so simple to correct (note that I said simple, not easy), nor would it be such a recent epidemic ... humans have been around forever, but obesity wasn't a serious problem in this country until the past 25 years or so.0 -
Depends on how fat or how ugly we're talking here.
yeah I kind of have to agree -- how fat are we talking here? "ugly" is kind of i the eye of the beholder, but I'd rather be ugly and super fit than 'pretty' and 400 pounds. If we're talking pretty and 50 lbs overweight instead of 250 lbs overweight the fat and pretty.
And to the people getting upset about this post - relax, its just chit-chat. No ones saying you're unattractive to everyone in the world because you're overweight. Phyiscal attraction is a VERY individual thing.0 -
No no, wasn't upset with the topic, not at all. Just bothered by the amount of responses that were along the lines of "fat is gross, a sign of a person's ugly habits and therefor ugly." And the ones that pretty specifically said that you can't be pretty and overweight. And yeah, mostly genetics = developed poor eating habits. Still ends up being luck of the draw sometimes too though, but we won't go into that anymore on this particular thread.
No drama intended, I promise. Just need to put the keyboard down and let people have their opinions.0 -
No no, wasn't upset with the topic, not at all. Just bothered by the amount of responses that were along the lines of "fat is gross, a sign of a person's ugly habits and therefor ugly." And the ones that pretty specifically said that you can't be pretty and overweight. And yeah, mostly genetics = developed poor eating habits. Still ends up being luck of the draw sometimes too though, but we won't go into that anymore on this particular thread.
No drama intended, I promise. Just need to put the keyboard down and let people have their opinions.
Please don't take this wrong. I do not think "fat" people are gross or ugly, but most overweight people have very low self-esteem and that is UGLY. There is nothing more of a turn off then someone who thinks they are "fat and unattractive". My best friend is over weight, but by far the most beatiful person I know. I would be with an semi-overweight person, someone who has to purchase more than one seat on an airline is too big for my taste. With that being said, I do not have sympathy for anyone...we all go through things, maybe in different scales, but still situations to be dealt with. If you are overweight, then lose weight if that makes you happy because ultimately when one is happy they attract happy people.0 -
Wow- reading this whole thread just made me feel super depressed about the state of human beings.0
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I'd rather be fit. I can work towards being fit the other...i cant really change.0
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Eh, it really depends. The problem is how fat? Are we talking 400 pounds+? How butt ugly? Are we talking moles, boils, growths? Need a better definition. If I had to pick, probably the fit one
From a Biological and Medical standpoint for those who are getting offended, by either side of the response.
Attraction is not something that can be denied. Human beings are attracted to one another on a genetic and instinct level. It is not about shallowness, it is not about people being jerks, its is simply their innate opinions. Some people may act like jerks when describing how they feel, but in the end, attraction CANNOT be controlled. Now everyone is programmed to be attracted ot different things for different reasons, the typical being large breasts and wide set hips, which is really because it is better for child bearing and raising, but also a persons history can effect this aswell.
My point is, dont get offended by someones opinion. This thread has a pretty clear topic, and if one or the other may offend you, then thats the case.As I said, its a genetic and psychological answer, cant really be changed0 -
BWahahahahaahahahahahaha:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:You people must know a lot of ugly people. There are most DEFINITELY fat and stunningly attractive people. Good God.
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Fat and stunning. If they lose weight they'll be damn near perfect.0
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I'd rather be fat and stunning because it's free to lose weight but would cost a fortune just for the chance of getting pretty
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My Dad always said thin is in but fat is where its at! So I would take an over weight girl to a butt ugly one any day of the week! I think the term is a BUTTERFACE! Every thing looks good but her face!!!!!0
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Fat and stunning0
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Fat and stunning.
Can always work that fat off...ugly ain't going nowhere.0 -
I would have to go with fit and ugly. I'm too obsessed with the gym and other aspects of fitness that I would need somebody who is also into it or things just might not work... Ugly is all about perspective anyways.
Unless the option involves the person still being able to pick up exercise and healthy living, then of course I would go with the latter if they took up an interest in fitness. But I'm assuming we are discussing their current condition only..0 -
i personally would prefer to be fit and healthy, instead of fat and beautiful, if it meant my fatness prevented me from doing awesome things like...oh....being healthy, running marathons, doing races, and being "stunning" is such a superficial judgement on a person that you could be "beautiful" but not have any talent, morals, etc. So...yeah. I'd choose to be fit. And beauty is often dependent on genes, which, unfortunately, one couldn't control when one was born. ;P0
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Booyah!!! You beat me to it!! LOLWow, your a jerk! I am overweight and I do not think I am ugly. There are many overweight people out there that are attractive! There ares some skinny people out there that may be fit and healthy but are butt ugly. Somebody should blow smoke up your butt!0
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