MEN!!!!!!
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Go to the gym right after work. Let him figure out the rest ; ). He only does it because he can.
this! it's amazing how once I started going to the gym right after work my husband started cooking, feeding the kids and doing the dishes...all because he didn't want to wait another hour and half for me to get home! It works!!0 -
Yeah, but they are ALL taken!!!0
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Women treating their husbands like a puppy that can be trained is part of the problem in some cases.
If you can't get him to clean before you get married or his place is trashed don't expect that to change when you get married. If he doesn't change the problem is yours, not his.0 -
All of that and more. Every day.0
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mine does.... doesn't necessarily 'clean' the house, but he does the dishes, makes dinner (most nights) and is out driving the kids to school right now! keep the faith!0
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My dad always did these things when I was living at home.0
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I do it every day. If I asked the same question in reverse, like can any woman change her oil, keep of the phone, or stop a home invader, I would be considered a sexist. Gender roles are defined by upbringing and society, not our bits and pieces.0
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I do it every day. If I asked the same question in reverse, like can any woman change her oil, keep of the phone, or stop a home invader, I would be considered a sexist. Gender roles are defined by upbringing and society, not our bits and pieces.
I can do all that except the home invader, lol...still working on that. You do have a point there though, if this was a man asking all that stuff, the drama would ensue.
In any case, I'm lucky enough to say that my partner does all that: the cleaning etc.0 -
I can and have changed the oil in my car, I can do a lot as far as a car goes (thanks to my Ex husband) I cant stay off my phone....texting not talking......I hate talking....and I would definitely attempt to stop a home invader....not sure if id be successful but i'd give it my all......I do it every day. If I asked the same question in reverse, like can any woman change her oil, keep of the phone, or stop a home invader, I would be considered a sexist. Gender roles are defined by upbringing and society, not our bits and pieces.
I can do all that except the home invader, lol...still working on that. You do have a point there though, if this was a man asking all that stuff, the drama would ensue.
In any case, I'm lucky enough to say that my partner does all that: the cleaning etc.0 -
<~~This guy.
No medal please. I believe that the chores around the house are not gender based.
Any man that truly believes that this 'housekeeping' is a woman's job. Is still dragging their knuckles on the ground. Also they disrepsect the woman in their life with the childish notion that it's somehow a woman's place to take care of everything.
Women work too and they need to come home, put their feet up, have their man bring them a drink, a hug, a kiss. Sometimes women need to know their man cares that much to share the responisblities around the house.
Can I marry you now, my Zebra Head????
Pushes Cecy out of the way...me, me, me!!!0 -
I told my hubby before we got married that if he wanted me to do all the housework and such (like his mom did) that he would have to work as much as needed to pay the bills and I would stay at home. To this day (17 years later), we split the household chores and raising of the girls and both work full time! :laugh: In fact, I think he does more than I do these days.... and now the kids are old enough that we have them doing more and more too so they can function when they're on their own. It's great to have 4 people doing chores instead of just 2! :drinker:0
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Read the book Love and Respect.
It was a good book to read about relationships.0 -
me. i do all that stuff and i don't even have a house or kids.0
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I have not met one. I am sure they do exist tho, then again I believe in fairies and ghosts too! J/K..... I also do the lawn the weeding the landscaping, painting, and minor home repairs (the internet is a great home owners tool).
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Fantastic post. That you are wearing Mavs gear in your profile pics just makes you that much cooler.Are there any men in this world that clean a house, make dinner and drive kids around?
yes! my man does. I started changing the way i treated him and talked to him about these things. I talked to him sincerely and explained to him how overwhelmed i was and didnt yell at him about it. I talked to him respectfully and its amazing what happened. He helped and still continues to help.
Ive come to the realization that all i had to do was ask. The problem with that is I asked but he didnt do it when i wanted him to. I had to learn that regardless, its still got done.
Plus, I just started delegating to him tasks i need him to do. He was totally cool with it. I think he didnt really know what he needed to do cause i handled it all and then resented him for it.
Be specific and respectful. Men need to feel respected. Period.0 -
Mine will do pretty much anything i ask, but i have to ask. sometimes i wish he'd just look around and see what needs to be done then do it, but remembering his place before we lived together, i know he just really doesn't see it! he's a great dad and will do anything and everything for the kids. when i do ask, i have to give very specific instructions too! but it'll get done! :-) He's recently taken it upon himself to vacuum regularly, which was a nice surprise. This weekend, he mopped the floors because he knew they needed to be done, and i wasn't going to have time. Maybe he's learning after all...0
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Fantastic post. That you are wearing Mavs gear in your profile pics just makes you that much cooler.Are there any men in this world that clean a house, make dinner and drive kids around?
yes! my man does. I started changing the way i treated him and talked to him about these things. I talked to him sincerely and explained to him how overwhelmed i was and didnt yell at him about it. I talked to him respectfully and its amazing what happened. He helped and still continues to help.
Ive come to the realization that all i had to do was ask. The problem with that is I asked but he didnt do it when i wanted him to. I had to learn that regardless, its still got done.
Plus, I just started delegating to him tasks i need him to do. He was totally cool with it. I think he didnt really know what he needed to do cause i handled it all and then resented him for it.
Be specific and respectful. Men need to feel respected. Period.
and you are extremely cool for acknowledging my coolness. we must be friends!0 -
I do it every day. If I asked the same question in reverse, like can any woman change her oil, keep of the phone, or stop a home invader, I would be considered a sexist.
I do consider the questions you pose as sexist, but so are the OP's.
I can get my oil changed for under $20 (I can change my own, but why, if it doesn't save me money).
Fair question. Stereotyped, but fair.... on the other hand, you have to pay me to get ON the phone (literally).
I know many men who couldn't stop a home invader. Brag about it, sure. Actually do it, no.Gender roles are defined by upbringing and society, not our bits and pieces.
This, I agree with 100%.0 -
When I worked and we did not have kids he did all the laundry. Now I stay at home with the kids and honestly I do most of this stuff, but to me that is the point of me staying at home. He can and will do all this stuff if I need him to, but one a day to day basis I can handle it all. If I worked he would help more and I would know I would not even have to ask.0
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I don't have a Man or kids... But one day I would love for a man do that!!! It's a bonus
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I do.
Wait. You mean all in one day?0 -
I think my point was taken wrongly. I'm not saying a woman coudln't do those things. I was stating that the OPs post was sexist in nature, and pointing out that if a man said various things about the female sex, he would be just as bad.
But to further the point, how many women actually fill the "mother" role well. These generalizations that men don't do housework and can't care for children aren't true, I know many who do, I know many who do not. But the comparison was a bogus one to begin with because I know a lot of mothers who aren't good at child rearing and housework as well.
Just because I have testicles doesn't mean that the meth-head mom in the trailer park, the woman smoking in a car with her infant, or countless other slackers are better than me at caretaking because of their milk glands.
How about the moms who don't work outside the house, have full time daycare, and different grandparents watching the kids on the weekends while they have their lunch time martinis and pop pills to "even them out". Better than me? I rather doubt it. Generalizations about gender roles are best left to comedians.0 -
The nice thing about ur post is that he's just your boyfriend kick him to the curb and get a real man...Nothing is wrong with it.....actually its great that you do......I get home 2.5 hours after my BF , literally I walk in the door at 6:15, do the days dishes from all the kids, make dinner, throw laundry in run kids here and there , and if I dont pass out I maybe make it to the gym, FRUSTRATED!!0 -
My hubby is awesome at housework.....cooks dinner enough that I don't have reason to complain. But, it is like pulling teeth for him to go out of his way to drive me anywhere if he isn't interested in the destination. We don't have kids.....so I am thankful it is just me suffering from this side of his 'manhood' hehe.0
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Are there any men in this world that clean a house, make dinner and drive kids around?
My husband cleans half the house and does all the laundry. He only makes breakfast on the weekends and will make dinner if I am sick.........In exchange for my hubby doing the laundry, I do the majority of the cooking.
We don't have kids but drives the dogs around. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0 -
I'm sure they are out there, but i definitely did not marry one. LOL0
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i do this every 4days on my days off, since i work 4on 4off....and i love it.
i try to have my kids help me though, i want my boys to understand about keeping up with housework, organization, and responsibilities.
driving them around in my Jeep is one of the best things! specially in the summer, top down, doors off, and sunglasses on!0 -
I have not met one. I am sure they do exist tho, then again I believe in fairies and ghosts too! J/K..... I also do the lawn the weeding the landscaping, painting, and minor home repairs (the internet is a great home owners tool).
same here! i'm a stay at home mom and my husband says "hey if i'm home, i should keep up with the yard as well... " grrr and don't get me started with home repairs... I had to fix a few things up because it takes him months and months to get to it after i point it out, in fact probably even years! i just bought myself a repair kit thing with a drill and stuff, so now i'm taking over!!0 -
yup did all that at one point..hell washed the cars to 0
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Are there any men in this world that clean a house, make dinner and drive kids around?
yes! my man does. I started changing the way i treated him and talked to him about these things. I talked to him sincerely and explained to him how overwhelmed i was and didnt yell at him about it. I talked to him respectfully and its amazing what happened. He helped and still continues to help.
Ive come to the realization that all i had to do was ask. The problem with that is I asked but he didnt do it when i wanted him to. I had to learn that regardless, its still got done.
Plus, I just started delegating to him tasks i need him to do. He was totally cool with it. I think he didnt really know what he needed to do cause i handled it all and then resented him for it.
Be specific and respectful. Men need to feel respected. Period.
Wow! You get us. I'm super impressed. You will live a happy and healthy life.
This could be the most insightful post I've ever read.0
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