MEN!!!!!!

boomboom011

Are there any men in this world that clean a house, make dinner and drive kids around?

yes! my man does. I started changing the way i treated him and talked to him about these things. I talked to him sincerely and explained to him how overwhelmed i was and didnt yell at him about it. I talked to him respectfully and its amazing what happened. He helped and still continues to help.

Ive come to the realization that all i had to do was ask. The problem with that is I asked but he didnt do it when i wanted him to. I had to learn that regardless, its still got done.

Plus, I just started delegating to him tasks i need him to do. He was totally cool with it. I think he didnt really know what he needed to do cause i handled it all and then resented him for it.

Be specific and respectful. Men need to feel respected. Period.

Wow! You get us. I'm super impressed. You will live a happy and healthy life.

This could be the most insightful post I've ever read.

Thank you. I love my life and my marriage. Now, if you had said that to me 5 years ago i would have peed my pants laughing. Im a grown up now. lol

pain_is_weakness

my husband does a lot, if I cook he cleans and he does most of our laundry. They are out there and they are awesome! He also wanted to take turns wakin up with the baby every night even when he worked, and I breastfed. he would have me pump so i could sleep. I got very lucky!

siabevis

haha mine sometimes cooks

brianward81

I cook, clean, drive and do whatever needs doing. She does the same. We are partners and that's how partners do. I love her so why would I dump my share of living in our house on her? I think guys that need to be told that they should help out around the house should be nut punched.

Johnnyswife

Are there any men in this world that clean a house, make dinner and drive kids around?

My husband does, but I'm not sharing. :flowerforyou:

ahinescapron

My husband does all of that, but not all the time. We kind of switch off. He is an awesome husband and daddy!!

WifeNMama

I caught myself one of these. :-) he even takes the three year old with him to run errands while the one year old is napping so I can get a break. :-D I'm unabashedly bragging about him. He's great. And hunky too. A big muscly Viking type. Rowr. :-D

pain_is_weakness

I cook, clean, drive and do whatever needs doing. She does the same. We are partners and that's how partners do. I love her so why would I dump my share of living in our house on her? I think guys that need to be told that they should help out around the house should be nut punched.

that is how my husband and I do things, as partners

WifeNMama

Are there any men in this world that clean a house, make dinner and drive kids around?

yes! my man does. I started changing the way i treated him and talked to him about these things. I talked to him sincerely and explained to him how overwhelmed i was and didnt yell at him about it. I talked to him respectfully and its amazing what happened. He helped and still continues to help.

Ive come to the realization that all i had to do was ask. The problem with that is I asked but he didnt do it when i wanted him to. I had to learn that regardless, its still got done.

Plus, I just started delegating to him tasks i need him to do. He was totally cool with it. I think he didnt really know what he needed to do cause i handled it all and then resented him for it.

Be specific and respectful. Men need to feel respected. Period.

Wow! You get us. I'm super impressed. You will live a happy and healthy life.

This could be the most insightful post I've ever read.

Thank you. I love my life and my marriage. Now, if you had said that to me 5 years ago i would have peed my pants laughing. Im a grown up now. lol

Did you by any chance read Love and Respect. Because you sound like you're quoting it. :-) good stuff about relationships. I highly recommend it for anyone in a committed relationship.

cobracars

Married 26 years, empty nester as the 3 kids are all grown and moved out and have kids of their own. We both work, therefore we both do stuff around the house. I cook meals, she cooks meals. I clean and straighten up, so does she.
We've naturally fallen into roles where there are things she normally does and things I normally do, typical stuff like she does laundry and I do yard work. Sometimes we trade off and sometimes we share. She pays about half the bills and I pay the other half, but we always do the same ones so we can stay on top of things.
I remember our anniversary, she usually forgets. I pile the dishes in the sink and wash them when I'm good and ready...plus I like to wash, dry, and put away. She prefers to throw everything in the dishwasher for a few days until its full, then finally run it when we're getting low on spoons and such.

Biggest thing, and I think its been mentioned, is you can ask me to do something, but don't then try to tell me HOW to do it. I'll get it done, and it will be done when I'm ready to do it. If you don't like it, do it yourself! Its funny, I don't recall asking her to do stuff for me...if it needs doing I just do it. She'll remind me in the morning when its garbage day and sometimes that's pretty damn irritating..I've been taking the garbage to the curb for over 20 years and I don't think I need a weekly reminder. Why do women always feel the need to tell us what to do and how to do it? I care for my "disabled" sister too. She constantly does that. I think her only disability is the inability to get along with ANYONE. Fixing a fence at the farm and she will be hovering around and looking over my shoulder asking "are you sure that's the way you want to do that?" Well NO, I REALLY want to do it a different way and thanks for reminding me!!! Duh! Again, if you don't like the way I'm doing it, DO IT YOURSELF! ...Except she doesn't have the knowledge and refuses to learn the basics of hand tools :noway:

Jennyisbusy

I think my point was taken wrongly. I'm not saying a woman coudln't do those things. I was stating that the OPs post was sexist in nature, and pointing out that if a man said various things about the female sex, he would be just as bad.

But to further the point, how many women actually fill the "mother" role well. These generalizations that men don't do housework and can't care for children aren't true, I know many who do, I know many who do not. But the comparison was a bogus one to begin with because I know a lot of mothers who aren't good at child rearing and housework as well.

Just because I have testicles doesn't mean that the meth-head mom in the trailer park, the woman smoking in a car with her infant, or countless other slackers are better than me at caretaking because of their milk glands.

How about the moms who don't work outside the house, have full time daycare, and different grandparents watching the kids on the weekends while they have their lunch time martinis and pop pills to "even them out". Better than me? I rather doubt it. Generalizations about gender roles are best left to comedians.

She wasn't actually talking about you. She asked a question to see if she was alone in a scenario.

MiNiMoNkI

God, we women do moan. We all brings different roles to a household, im sure there are things that you man does you dont or cant, ive never dreamt of making my other half do housework, for a start hes rubbish at it, always has been besides his list of duties probably far outweigh mine maybe not time wise, but i couldnt service our car, or work 70 hours a week, protect our house from intruders, make every feel safe, taxi every around, remember how the wiring works for the tv, dvd, stereo system, etc. My other half does so much i couldnt dream of making him wash dishes, i think at the end of the day, its about time mamagement, and organisation. I work 37 hours a week come home to housework, and kids and a dog etc. This is life, we each have roles to play and as long as we know what they all are we can get on with them. I bet theres loads your man does you dont! I feel sorry for you poor men with us winging moaning women!

HMonsterX

Why does this thread remind me of this picture...the bravest man in the world...