Men...... Grrrrrr
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wow.... in my lifetime i wonder how many women i have caused to get fat cause i told them i liked them?. i feel so horrible0
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I love how everyone is responding and answering FOR the OP. I like to make up stories about people, too. Generally, I'm watching them when I do it, though. Makes it easier to give them a story. :flowerforyou:0
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He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.0 -
So this guy that I liked a few months back came to me Thursday or Friday of last week and we hung out watched movies and chilled. Nothing new.... Until he tells me that he needs to talk to me.... He goes on to say how good I was looking and how much he liked me and couldn't stop thinkin about me... And wants to start a long term relationship. So this event should have kicked or encouraged me to keep going, but NOOOOOOOOOOO, it spiralled me into a 5 day eating binge that left me sicker than a dog....
Well I am back and not going to be side tracked again by a dumb guy who thinks a lil sweet talk will work...
I totally get this --- this has happened to be and I told them to get lost too.
If didn't see it before you lost a little weight, he's not worth your time.
This SHOULD have spiraled you into an diet binge to make it regret it even more.
(I'm assuming this is what you're getting at...but I'm not sure)
Only a woman can make this logical...
Well of course we can! She has a deep fear of getting into a long tern relationship....so she did the first thing she knew to sabatoge it, emotional eating binge...
She just needs to come to terms with that.
Also, if you read what I just quoted, the person responding was trying to tell OP they "should" binge. Being someone who has struggles with binge eating since at least the beginning of high school, I think that's some bull**** advice.
OKAY let me clear this up....I was saying that we can make logic of the oringinal post. It was more about her emotions. I wasn't encouraging her to "binge".0 -
He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?0 -
He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
See, since you did not STATE this, you left everyone making half-assed lame attempts at guessing what in the world was going on and WHY it would happen... it now makes MUCH more sense.
I do hope you let him know how you feel and that the binge has since stopped.0 -
Once upon a time there was a girl.....nvmI love how everyone is responding and answering FOR the OP. I like to make up stories about people, too. Generally, I'm watching them when I do it, though. Makes it easier to give them a story. :flowerforyou:0 -
What the balls is this about?
EMOTIONAL EATING....and that for us women, men are usually the reason why we do it.
Lol, sorry, just being honest!
Okay. I'm a woman and I don't get this.0 -
wow.... in my lifetime i wonder how many women i have caused to get fat cause i told them i liked them?. i feel so horrible
Men are terrible creatures.. I'm not sure how we get up in the morning. Little did I know telling women nice things would side track them so much. I must never smile at one again, or look them in the eyes. I wonder if passing notes is okay? Wait..that is probably how this frail egosystem started. We should ban note passing for it is the gateway into adult conversation and compliments which leads to the dark path!0 -
Did you just say penis?He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?0 -
He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
So let me get this straight. Is he a tool because he wasn't clear with his intentions? Or was he a tool for not resisting mthousands of years of evolutionary pressure to have sex just because we live in an LolPuritan society?0 -
He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?
Surprise me. :happy:0 -
Once upon a time there was a girl.....nvmI love how everyone is responding and answering FOR the OP. I like to make up stories about people, too. Generally, I'm watching them when I do it, though. Makes it easier to give them a story. :flowerforyou:
and she grew up to become godmother of the threads. The End. :glasses:0 -
I've never seen what I say to a woman hurt her feelings. I've never seen any sweet-talking of mine hurt a woman either. Like I'd stick around for that part....0
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This now makes sense. I understand completely. He still doesn't want a relationship.....he's trying to get you to "open" up "emotionally" :bigsmile:He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.0 -
Since we don't know the back-story to the relationship you have with this guy, it's a little hard to understand.
I will say that from what you wrote, it looks like the binge has more to do with you, than with the guy. It may have to do with your own fear of being close to a guy, maybe this made you nervous, and caused you to binge?
People are always going to say the wrong thing, but we have to admit that we choose our reaction to what people say, not them.
Your binge only hurt you, this man is fine at home watching TV not giving it a second thought or even completely unaware that what he said upset you. Again, not sure what he said wrong.0 -
Did you just say penis?He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?
this made me think of the "penis, penis, penis. Vagina, vagina, vagina" thing from that one movie. :laugh:0 -
Bless you godmother. Can I borrow 5g's and a throw away .38?
Once upon a time there was a girl.....nvmI love how everyone is responding and answering FOR the OP. I like to make up stories about people, too. Generally, I'm watching them when I do it, though. Makes it easier to give them a story. :flowerforyou:
and she grew up to become godmother of the threads. The End. :glasses:0 -
I'll take slings and arrows for this, but I have a TON of experience in it. Read my profile. Believe me - one of the hardest things to handle when you lose weight is being ATTRACTIVE to the opposite sex! We have NO EXPERIENCE in this area. It's scary! You're very vulnerable right now. Believe me - fat is far more than a biological side-effect of eating too much. It is a physical barrier to intimacy! It sure takes a lot of social pressure off of us to be fat. We don't have to worry about who is going to ask us out Saturday - we already know! NO ONE! Or maybe we'll go out with another same-sex friend who is alone also. That is safe. We don't have to risk our emotional well being on what may be a highly-sexually-charged MISTAKE that will result in horrible heartache and a total tearing down of our self-esteem (what little we have).
My advice - TAKE YOUR TIME. Resist the temptation to become seriously involved with someone right now - you have to be come acquainted with your NEW self first! The first time I ever lost a bunch of weight (my early 20s), I wound up trashing a bunch of what could or should have been promising relationships because I was just too skittish and unprepared for anything serious. It's totally NORMAL that you would be not only taken by surprise by the attention of this guy, but for your DESTRUCTIVE SUBCONSCIOUS to inspire you to put up that old armor - that layer of FAT that protects us from social interaction and emotional vulnerability. Hang in there - realize that you're inexperienced at this and let him know you need to take your time to figure your way through this. If he's worth having around, he'll support you through this and wait until you're ready. If he pushes you, PUSH BACK and get the hell out of there! You've come too far to have it ruined by a horny, self-centered male!
Been there big time...
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Did you just say penis?He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?
Nope.0 -
Liar, liar......PENIS!
Did you just say penis?He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?
Nope.0 -
Ohhhh, well now I get it, so much for my speech.0
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So with all that said......
Sticking with it even though....
Even though I feel like I am only gaining weight
Even though I feel bloated most of the time
Even though I feel like I am failing
Even though I feel like I want to pig out when I eat out
Even though I feel like there is no end in sight
Sticking with it even though......0 -
Liar, liar......PENIS!
Did you just say penis?He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?
Nope.
No one said penis, it was typed.0 -
Bless you godmother. Can I borrow 5g's and a throw away .38?
Once upon a time there was a girl.....nvmI love how everyone is responding and answering FOR the OP. I like to make up stories about people, too. Generally, I'm watching them when I do it, though. Makes it easier to give them a story. :flowerforyou:
and she grew up to become godmother of the threads. The End. :glasses:
no doubt. The interest is 1,543%. If not paid back in time, ack! :smokin:0 -
He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
This information wasn't clear in the op...I guess I'm just not smart.0 -
So with all that said......
Sticking with it even though....
Even though I feel like I am only gaining weight
Even though I feel bloated most of the time
Even though I feel like I am failing
Even though I feel like I want to pig out when I eat out
Even though I feel like there is no end in sight
Sticking with it even though......
That's what matters! Good for you and good luck!0 -
fuggin hell. I have been defeated. I submit.
Liar, liar......PENIS!
Did you just say penis?He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
Okay. But.' Men..... grrrr'. No. This guy, if that truly is his motive, is not a man. He's a little boy. Not all Penis people are superficial tools. Let's not group them as such.
When someone says Penis people how am I supposed to behave?
Nope.
No one said penis, it was typed.0 -
He didn't want anything more than a FWB with me BEFORE I lost any weight... And now suddenly I lose a little weight and he wants a relationship?
Fear of LTR, no, I want one. With the RIGHT guy.
This information wasn't clear in the op...I guess I'm just not smart.
It's just that you're not a woman~0 -
No one said penis, it was typed.
I said penis. Out loud. To myself.
Actually, I liked the term "penis people". I might start using it.0
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