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My mother-in-law offered to take me dress shopping because I'm so big that they didn't sell my size in many stores. You know, I can't think of a store that doesn't sell a size 14, but that's just me...0
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Mine were the "when's the baby due?!" comments that i used to get (at least three seperate times) when i was frist in recovery for anorexia and had gone from being at least thirty pounds underweight to pretty normal. my belly was still distended from refeeding so i looked bloated.
this is terrible. i respect dancers very much. However, the whole industry is so f**ked up. How could anyone say things like that to a young girl? To ANYONE, but especially young women who are still growing! and we wonder why our society is plagued by eating disorders of all kinds. (i'm not implying it's only in dancing that this happens but that i have seen a HUGE increase in the amount of girls who are dancers and are having things like this said to them)
What will you do to fight these things next time you hear or see something that is just so blatantly wrong? Will you step up and defend the person (including if it's yourself)? How can we be agents for change in our own lives, every day? THAT is the only way it can change. If people who care and are sensitive to eating disorders and simply the fragile nature of self-esteem stand up and say "NO MORE" to bullying, teasing, judging others based on weight and appearance.
Sorry- I was so sick for so long and to know that there are so many others who are facing awful situations like this makes me really effin mad. I hate our shallow, self-centered global society. I appreciate meeting others who recognize that it has to change unless we want another generation of young people killing themselves in the name of food and weight.0 -
My teacher has said to my face:
"your thighs and butt are getting bigger/you need to lose weight in your legs and butt."
"you look like a fat cow."
Has anyone ever been insulted like this...this is why I began dieting.
And you, my friend, are not any of the things they have ever told you. you are a lovely young woman with obvious talent (just from your pictures you can see that!) who is just fine the way she is. I can understand wanting to be fitter and have more muscle but DO NOT hurt yourself over what shallow, ignorant, and ultimately insignificant people say. It's easy to fall into the rabbit-hole of an eating disorder and much, much harder to figure out your way back.
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Never had anything like the above said to me, but my dad said something like "So you're finally doing something" when he found out I had started running.
He honestly thought that was the best way to show his support, though, and I must say it stings a lot less now.
my dad said something kinda similar once which one day we were all supposed to go out to dinner, but I had to stay late at work so they went without me (although my mom said they would wait) when i got home I was crushed they didn't wait, and when they got home I told them that it upset me that they didn't wait. My dad said "well you could stand to miss a few meals anyway."
I don't know why he said it like that, I just assumed he felt guilty and kinda lashed out.0 -
I was like 125lbs or less in high school (I am 5'7.5" tall) and my dad said that I needed to firm up my thunder thighs. Nice.0
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Ironically, my former stalker (long story) said that I "was fat and looked more pregnant than she did."
I don't understand how that's possible since I am 5'7 and (at that time) weighed 173-75, yet she's 5'3 and 220+.0 -
My teacher has said to my face:
"your thighs and butt are getting bigger/you need to lose weight in your legs and butt."
"you look like a fat cow."
Has anyone ever been insulted like this...this is why I began dieting.
No one has ever said anything to my face. They're probably all saying it behind my back! :-/0 -
This teen asked his girlfriend to guess how much I weighed and laughed when she said no. ._. Even though they didn't say much, it hurt.0
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Hmmm. My middle school/high school bully was walking behind me. I was 12 at the time and he threw a breadstick at my face and said "eat it I know you want it" he walked off and I started crying. I found it in my heart to forgive him then one day we were on the bus years later in high school, and it was Halloween, he said to me "take off that mask. It's not night time yet" so I cussed him out. He got in my face and called me a "*****" and all the fat names in the book.. This dude was 6'3 in the face was a 5'4 girl.. He had a history of hitting girls so i backed off.. I knew if he would have hit me my dad would have killed him.I started balling crying. Me and him have had many run ins in my life and most of them were him calling me fat. Sadly he has a child now and I fear for that generation because of the terrible person he is.. It's funny because he tried to befriend me after that. HA.I've had many bullies but this one is the one who helped desinagrate my self-esteem.
People have told me I look like a man, talk like a man, (when I really don't) my mom used every fat name in the book.. Living in California is hard because people go by what the stars look like and if you don't look like them then your ugly n all that.. All of that has made me so much stronger!!!!!0 -
Nobody has ever been deliberately That's what makes this comment hurt worse, because it was innocent, from a child.
While hugging (and referring to) my fat stomach: "Does it keep you warm at night while you sleep, like a polar bear?"
It made me cry. But it also made me angry that I had gotten to that point. And that's what prompted me to seek out MFP.0 -
My stepfather was always the worst with my weight, calling me "(my mom's) fat-*kitten* daughter" instead of by my name and saying that no man would ever want me.
High school was pretty awful, too (isn't it always?) with other kids making that "truck backing up" sound when I walked by or some girl saying she would kill myself if she ever got as fat as me.
The thing that bothers me the most though is my aunt; not because she's being mean but because she actually thinks she's being funny and playing around with me. I once joked how her cat was looking like Garfield (that fat cartoon cat) and she said, all laughs and giggles, "Well isn't that the pot calling the kettle black!"
Now I poke fun at myself constantly and lean heavily on my own fat jokes to get by. My friends ask why I'm so mean to myself all the time and I can't really explain that it's a mechanism--because if I brace myself for the jokes and even laugh at them myself, then they don't hurt as much as when someone says them honestly.0 -
It wasn't a comment towards me but my sister was told she looked pregnant in a certain outfit by my godmother. Now not only was it rude but my sister has been trying to get pregnant for years so it was VERY INSENSITIVE. It really struck a screw you cord with me.0
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When I was overweight I was told that I had "Dunlop disease".0
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I was going to my best friends wedding an my husband looked at me and said you know you look like a bell right. You really need to lose all that weight. And then almost every day after that he kept saying you shouldn't e eating that your just going to add on to the pounds that you need to get rid of! He still looks at me and says you know you should do something about that weight you have. I could have a small portion of food on my plate at din and he always says I don't think you should be eating that much it's just going to make you fatter! He is all of 115 pounds and can eat all day everyday and not gain weight so he thinks my body should be the same way. He NEVER compliments me and if someone else does he laughs and says really then walks away.0
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I was going to my best friends wedding an my husband looked at me and said you know you look like a bell right. You really need to lose all that weight. And then almost every day after that he kept saying you shouldn't e eating that your just going to add on to the pounds that you need to get rid of! He still looks at me and says you know you should do something about that weight you have. I could have a small portion of food on my plate at din and he always says I don't think you should be eating that much it's just going to make you fatter! He is all of 115 pounds and can eat all day everyday and not gain weight so he thinks my body should be the same way. He NEVER compliments me and if someone else does he laughs and says really then walks away.
And you're still married to him!! (then again - don't know your history - but if that was me, he'd be out the door.. ) Life hard enough without the people who are meant to be there supporting you, dragging you down..
Never had the fat comments. Wasn't heavy in my teens or 20's.. Weight gradually came on in my 30's.. Now in my 40's and trying to loose. No comments from anyone - probably because people know I care less what they think.. I just live my life as well and as good as I possibly can.. If you have issues - go deal with them.. I'm not going to let you use me to vent..0 -
a guy looking at me and saying "i only date thin girls"
which actually made me laugh because a) i wasn't trying to date him. and b) i wondered if by "thin girls" he meant stick figured humans with lady bits where external organs would otherwise be.0 -
was told by my boyfriend at the time he didn't find me attractive anymore b/c I had let myself go... that floored me and I actually gained weight afterwards b/c i figured i was hideous and just didn't try for a while.
saw a friend about a yr ago who I hadn't seen since HS and she said, "wow, getting older is cruel isn't it? You used to be so thin."
people can be shmucks.
it's fine, I'm not losing for them, I'm losing for me.0 -
when I was 135 pounds senior year of high school, I went on a blind date (worst, first, and LAST blind date EVER) and afterwards I told him I wasn't interested.. he told me he would find me more attractive if I lost 20 pounds. What.0
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I have 2:
When i was 18 (and size medium / 38 in europe) and had not seen my aunt in a few years, she said so i see you still have a fat face...
When i was 25 (and by then size xl / 42 in europe) i went to my favourite store and asked for a specific color pants, the sales worker looked me up and down and said: we don't sell anything for people of your size.
I was just blown away and didn't even know what to say.
I can still bring back what i felt at those moments. I mean today i weigh much more and it would make more sense, but back then i still don't understand.0 -
Nickname in middle school - Spam and Ham (my name's Sam)
It's a good thing your proportional - you're big everywhere.
Fat f***ing b!tch0 -
The worst was my ex (a real arsehole), he told me that I should lose weight, told me to what weight and would often tell me that my belly made him want to barf and that I was the cause of all social issues we had with others because they thought I was so disgustingly fat. I am 5'8, I was 170lbs at that time and was told to lose weight down to 140lbs (which in my case in unrealistic, that my muscle weight, I would be real skinny).
To this day 170 lbs is my ideal weight and I understood that later, I lost 150 lbs by dumping him too :laugh:
I often get the pregnant comment, I am often bloated, i'm doing tests for intolerance, possible digestive issues, etc. I don't look fat elsewhere apparently (I am more rough on myself that others are I guess).0 -
Can I just tell all you ladies how beautiful you are?0
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I lost 40 lbs over 6 months and plateau hit. I saw my family doctor who checked my height and weight. He looked at his little chart and said, "you're obese!"
I'm 5' 7" and 170lbs at the time. I was running 5 miles a day and lifting weights for an hour a day. What I wanted was a nutritionist referral. What I got was a total reversal of my progress.0 -
Can I just tell all you ladies how beautiful you are?
Yes you can :blushing:0 -
I was called Miss Piggy all throughout middle school. In reference to my nose AND my weight.
You have a cute nose.0 -
Can I just point out that a lot of you are saying these comments were made by exes. And therefore, it should not bother you, that's why they are exes
They missed out! 0 -
But any way, mine is a coworker who is 200+ lbs heavier than me and pointed out after I came back from maternity leave, "Oh look, the baby gave you a pooch."0
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Man, these are depressing. I guess since everyone else can laugh and post their insults, I can do the same.
Incident 1: Dad: "You're looking less Peter Griffinish these days" -referring to my double chin-
Incident 2: I bet if you lost 15 pounds, guys would break down the door to get to you. Don't get me wrong, you're pretty.. but you're just so.. so damn big. There's so much of you! (Said to me between the ages of 15-24)
Incident 3: You've gotten rid of your double chin.. well there's still some more left that you need to work on but it's not nearly as much as it was before. -proceeds to make a grabbing type motion at his chin to sort of mock my chin(s) <--lol-
Incident 4: -Said to me JUST last night- Dad: *Stares at her* You need to work more on this *pats her belly* before the rest of this *points to legs* get any smaller. You're big in the belly, but your legs are small.0 -
My grandma asked me when I was going to lose the baby weight from my first daughter, when she was like 8 months old and I had already lost 40lbs.
My best friend and I always joke about our bingo wings (flabby arms) and our cottage cheese thighs (want some pineapple with these cottage cheese???!) but its not meant to be rude to eachother.0 -
I have been working seriously on my weight since January of this year. In February, I had lost about 25 pounds. My sister took notice and asked if I was losing weight. I said I was working on it. My mother said "Oh, you're trying to lose weight again?" I said yes. She sighed and said "You'll never be thin. You've always been heavy. I'm not being mean but you'll never be thin. Just get used to it." I was so angry because I was trying so hard. And this was my MOTHER.
Well, that was 112 lbs ago. I joined MFP to help with the last 48 to go.0
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