cruel people

anikab

I had a lady ask me if we were having another baby, I said no, and she patted her belly and said, "It looks like you are"

Some people! A teacher did the same thing to me.. she walked up smiling and motioning to my tummy. I was like "no... uh... I'm not" (all akward). Then she replied "oh, then I guess you just gained weight over the summer."

Out of curiosity, how did you repond. I just walked away without saying another word. But I wish I had told her off, I still don't know what I would have said tho....

This happens to me a lot. I have a hernia and it makes my stomach stick out so it looks like I'm pregnant. I dropped my kids off at daycare one day and a teacher said " Oh my! You're getting bigger by the day! " and rubbed my stomach. She was extremely loud and I wanted to die I was so embarrassed. I told her I wasn't pregnant and she was really embarrassed But I actually cried when I left.

moniquelessard

I had a lady ask me if we were having another baby, I said no, and she patted her belly and said, "It looks like you are"

Some people! A teacher did the same thing to me.. she walked up smiling and motioning to my tummy. I was like "no... uh... I'm not" (all akward). Then she replied "oh, then I guess you just gained weight over the summer."

Out of curiosity, how did you repond. I just walked away without saying another word. But I wish I had told her off, I still don't know what I would have said tho....

This happens to me a lot. I have a hernia and it makes my stomach stick out so it looks like I'm pregnant. I dropped my kids off at daycare one day and a teacher said " Oh my! You're getting bigger by the day! " and rubbed my stomach. She was extremely loud and I wanted to die I was so embarrassed. I told her I wasn't pregnant and she was really embarrassed But I actually cried when I left.

Oh gawd, I'm so sorry. Some people are socially inept. Rule: if you're not sure if someone is pregnant, SHUT UP. If they want you to know, they will tell you eventually. UGH I feel angry for you!

anikab

I had a lady ask me if we were having another baby, I said no, and she patted her belly and said, "It looks like you are"

Some people! A teacher did the same thing to me.. she walked up smiling and motioning to my tummy. I was like "no... uh... I'm not" (all akward). Then she replied "oh, then I guess you just gained weight over the summer."

Out of curiosity, how did you repond. I just walked away without saying another word. But I wish I had told her off, I still don't know what I would have said tho....

This happens to me a lot. I have a hernia and it makes my stomach stick out so it looks like I'm pregnant. I dropped my kids off at daycare one day and a teacher said " Oh my! You're getting bigger by the day! " and rubbed my stomach. She was extremely loud and I wanted to die I was so embarrassed. I told her I wasn't pregnant and she was really embarrassed But I actually cried when I left.

Oh gawd, I'm so sorry. Some people are socially inept. Rule: if you're not sure if someone is pregnant, SHUT UP. If they want you to know, they will tell you eventually. UGH I feel angry for you!

It's really crappy! Until I can afford to get the hernia fixed there's nothing I can do besides wearing spanx and body shapers but since it's not fat I'm concealing, it doesn't push in so its basically pointless. I had a customer once shout "WHENS YOUR BABY DUE?!"I told her I wasn't pregnant and she said "OH WELL IT LOOKS LIKE IT.YOUR SHIRT IS TOO TIGHT HONEY " it's like wow! What is wrong with people?!

Lala521

In high school I applied for a job in a shopping centre food court but didn't get the job. Later on my 'friend' who also worked there told me the reason I didn't get it was because the boss said I was so ugly my face would turn the customers off the food. And people wondered why I had no desire to find a job until I was 18 and had to.

I know the feeling. Several years ago I was working at a high school attending classes with a young lady with physical limitations. I was thin at the time and as I walked past a couple of the coaches, I heard one of them say, "That one there has a good body, but the face isnt much to look at". I wanted so badly to tell him off, as he sure didnt have a face to look at either, but I just walked on by. I wonder sometimes if he thought I was deaf or something. If only people would look at what's inside of us and not the outer shell. Because Ive found that the most beautiful people in the world are the most nasty and disrespectful. And one of the other most hurtful remarks is when they say "You would be pretty if (fill in the blank). I always wanted to say "Arent I pretty enough now?" But your feelings are so hurt that you just turn and walk away. And usually cry yourself to sleep that night.

emyishardcore

This may sound weird, but I think its cruel if I ask for an honest opinion about how I look and I get lied to. I realize they are trying to be nice and spare my feelings. But I just cant stand it when people lie. I asked for a honest opinion and I can handle it no matter how bad it is why can't people understand that.

katdouce

My ex-husband told me one time that the reason we didn't go out anymore is because I was too fat to be seen in public. :frown:

Good thing that he's an EX! You deserve so much better than that!

Agreed! ^^

My ex posted on FB for all to see "Lost 200 pounds this summer and it feels great!"

This was after I left him for hitting me in the face while I was breastfeeding our 3 week old baby. I left when she was 4 weeks old. Yeah so, he was referring to me. I was the 200 pounds. Awful huh.

well ladies you are both beautiful in many many ways!!! and ya know what? you can lose weight (if you chose to) your X's will always be *kitten*'s!!!!! And I'm so glad they are X's!!!!!! :drinker:

pph79

Usually, i'm the meanest person to myself as far as self-depreciating thoughts. But when i was my shortest and heaviest in high school years ago, people would call me "Marshmallow" because i was short, fat, and really pale. It's kinda funny when i think of it now, but at the time it was hurtful. Luckily i had a growth spurt after school from about 5'6" to 6'2" now.

nrvo

One summer I was at a family party and I was packing up a plate of leftovers desserts for a friend to take home. My grandmother looked at me with an absolutely horrified expression and said "Don't eat that! You're FAT!" in front of all of my family and friends. She also loves to pinch my waist and tell me how much I need to lose.

jasmineconley

My ex husband recently offered to "tell me where I've lost my weight" and then less than a week later told me white guys are hitting on me because the frat houses must be having a "pig party" nice huh? Loser!

DisneyAddictRW

My father in law told my mother in law he won't go to Disney world with us as a big family because he refuses to get on a plane with her due to her weight. I was pissed! She's going with my hubby and kids in 1 year! We're working together to lose weight but no matter what I will go with her and never would say that!

tattooedtwiin

The emotional abuse I keep reading (especially from the parents to their kids) is horrible.

servilia

The emotional abuse I keep reading (especially from the parents to their kids) is horrible.

Yeah I agree.
Forgot to add my own dad's gems - if I'm a little bigger, I'm "thunder thighs". If I'm thin I'm "chicken legs". Sometimes you just can't win!

karenjoy

A man who I didn't know well, told me that I was a *kitten*, ran a pornographic website, was well known and despised in my own small community,Accused me of theft and assault and then he turned to my Daughter, who had recently had a very difficult time and had taken an overdose and said to her 'do a better job of killing yourself next time'

My Father now lives with this man and has nothing to do with me or my Children. That is the cruel part. My own father chose a man that said these things over us.

oh and by the way...none of the things he said are true..just in case you thought they might be

gumigal82

My ex boyfriend used to talk about his ex- girlfriend (before me) having the "skinniest tiniest waist ever...and she did Turbo Jam just like you do"
Also, how my legs and butt looked too old for my age. (Way too flabby)

gumigal82

the cruelest person in my life has been the person in the mirror.

No one has said more mean things to me than myself.

That's been the hardest thing in this journey- UNfriending THAT person.

Wow--that would be me as well. I am my own worst critic. It is always tough shaking off my need to be "perfect"...whatever that is;)

khubbard1207

I've never had someone say anything really nasty to me and I like to think I have pretty good self esteem. I actually used to love it when my great-grandmothers would say something about my weight. They could come up with the funniest stuff. It never bothered me because I didn't care what they thought about my weight. One of them asked me if I was growing a bay window. I still die laughing over that. Where do they come up with this stuff?

HornsUT32

My ex of 5 years...he was cheating on me and I found out about the "other woman". I ended up communicating with her, to make sure she knew the kind of guy he was.

She sent me an email where he told her "he would never date someone that looked like me, and that I only wished I was his girlfriend."

The funny thing is, he still pops up out of the blue, asking for another chance and telling me how badly he messed up. Now that I am smaller, it's like my slap in the face to him. I would never date him again...5 years was 5 years too many.

Darkskinned88

never really had too many ppl pick on my weight...being a big black dude has its perks, i was more teased on being a nerd/hopeless romantic/dark (damn chappelle/charlie murphy for "darkness")

ahelsel1970

I can't imagine wanting to "deck" someone saying nice things.

What would you do if she said something nasty?

Just be grateful!!

catshark209

From the other end of the spectrum:

1. Ohmygawd are you sick?? What's wrong?
2. Youre hella sucked up looking, wtf, are you tweaking monica?
3. Ummm not to be mean but you look like a skeleton
4. I bet on Halloween you guys don't put skeleton stuff out, cuz you're enough.
5. You need to eat a cheeseburger
6. Seriously you and your friend look like Laurel and Hardy, what does she steal your food? Is that why she's so fat and you're so bony?
7. Men don't like women that look like boys, no wonder you haven't remarried.

weighlossforbaby

My ex-husband told me one time that the reason we didn't go out anymore is because I was too fat to be seen in public. :frown:

What a jerk! :mad: I am glad he is yor EX now!!! Nobody should say that to you!!!!!!!! :flowerforyou:

caraiselite

i call myself worse things than anyone else ever has. (to my face anyway)

i'm my best motivator.

wolverine66

In 5th grade a teacher told me, in all sincerity, that I was the worst kid she had ever had in her class.

Trechechus

I was bullied a lot when I was younger. I was always artsy and dreamy and not really coordinated or sporty. People used to get angry and vicious when I could catch a baseball or run fast. People would hit me in the head with dodgeballs on purpose (after that game had ended.) I wasn't a pretty kid, I was a dork so the pretty girls used to make snide comments behind so I could hear them, or talk trash on me in Spanish as though I couldn't understand...

Now, they can screw themselves. I'm comfortable with the woman I have become and if I could see them again, I'd tell them that I forgive them because resentment is only hurting me, and I don't need any more negativity in my life.

isabel88g

I work in a hospital, and a patient asked me if I knew where the stairs were, and to be honest I dont know, cuz I work on the first floor, I told him that I did not know where the nearest stairs where but the information desk would gladly tell him where to find them, he then responded by saying, I didnt think you would know where the stairs where, you dont look like someone that uses them much, but you could afford to use them a couple times a day!

delaney056

A man who I didn't know well, told me that I was a *kitten*, ran a pornographic website, was well known and despised in my own small community,Accused me of theft and assault and then he turned to my Daughter, who had recently had a very difficult time and had taken an overdose and said to her 'do a better job of killing yourself next time'

My Father now lives with this man and has nothing to do with me or my Children. That is the cruel part. My own father chose a man that said these things over us.

oh and by the way...none of the things he said are true..just in case you thought they might be

Woah.

Trechechus

No matter what, remember this!

Gallen67

From the other end of the spectrum:

1. Ohmygawd are you sick?? What's wrong?
2. Youre hella sucked up looking, wtf, are you tweaking monica?
3. Ummm not to be mean but you look like a skeleton
4. I bet on Halloween you guys don't put skeleton stuff out, cuz you're enough.
5. You need to eat a cheeseburger
6. Seriously you and your friend look like Laurel and Hardy, what does she steal your food? Is that why she's so fat and you're so bony?
7. Men don't like women that look like boys, no wonder you haven't remarried.

#7 must of been said to you by another woman, amiright?

catshark209

From the other end of the spectrum:

1. Ohmygawd are you sick?? What's wrong?
2. Youre hella sucked up looking, wtf, are you tweaking monica?
3. Ummm not to be mean but you look like a skeleton
4. I bet on Halloween you guys don't put skeleton stuff out, cuz you're enough.
5. You need to eat a cheeseburger
6. Seriously you and your friend look like Laurel and Hardy, what does she steal your food? Is that why she's so fat and you're so bony?
7. Men don't like women that look like boys, no wonder you haven't remarried.

#7 must of been said to you by another woman, amiright?

Yeah lol. But 1 & 2 were guys. So was 6. I had an overweight friend in middle school. I was very skinny back then. The jokes about us two were horrendous.

kansasbelle

I was in NYC 3 years ago and a woman asked me "When is your baby due? " I Miscarried 6 months ago but thank you for reminding me you heartless *****! I bet she will never ask that question again.