did you just say i was pregnant EXSUSE YOU?

hutc9939

This is great! I love this subject. When I WAS pregnant and people would ask, I would love to tell them that I wasn't pregnant just to see that look of humiliation on their face!! LOL! Oh...it was great!

servilia

This is great! I love this subject. When I WAS pregnant and people would ask, I would love to tell them that I wasn't pregnant just to see that look of humiliation on their face!! LOL! Oh...it was great!

So you think you're any better than the people who ask the question in the first place? weird

maidentl

YES. It has happened to me no matter what the weight. When I was overweight AND even a few weeks ago. And I'm a size 6 now! People are buttheads, and RUDE!

Well, according to some people here you are clearly at fault. Apparently size six just isn't small enough and you should starve yourself to emaciation so no one will ever think such a thing. *eyeroll* We wouldn't want people to have to learn manners or anything.

christibear

I think it is incredibly rude to say something to someone just because you think they are pregnant. Yes pregnancy is a wonderful time for a woman, but its also a personal time and people think just because they think someone is pregnant that suddenly their body is up for public discussion. People should mind their own business, because obviously worst case scenario she is not pregnant, best case scenario your intruding on someones personal business.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

People ask me all the time, not because I'm big but because I'm always sick. I swear every time I'm nauseous (which is a lot) someone, student, teacher, friend, etc, will ask if I'm sure I'm not pregnant. I do think it's rude, since lupus means I am most likely infertile and it just reminds me that no, I'm not pregnant, I'm just chronically ill. But I try not to hold it against them because SO MANY people ask that I would be ticked off at everyone all the time.

mwest11

I had my mother in law ask "when's it due?" when she knew full well i could not be pregnant because my husband has had "the snip"! I was so angry with her because when i lost 3 stone, she didn't say a word, but when i had put a little bit back on, she felt the need to be a COW!

what a b*tch!! i would ask her when she was going back to the doctor for her anti-a**hole meds!

Oh, and whenever i read a post by a person from england i can't help but read it in my own english accent in my head... do you do that same for people from the states?

bluejuiseritsma

When I started puttin the weight on, my co-worker at the time had spread rumors about me in my workplace. She told everyone that I "had to be pregnant and hiding it". I gave her the silent treatment. When she walked in the room, I would immediately drop what I was doing and walk out. If she said hi to me, I would glare at her for like 3 seconds, then turn around and walk away. After a year with no belly & n baby, she knew she was wrong. Still to this day, it pisses me off....

ItsLessOfMe

All the time! I hate it. I'm only about 16 lbs to my goal weight. After that I guess I will have to take it up in the gym cause I will have a healthy BMI and there's nothing more I can do

as24242

I've had the opposite happen to me. We'd just been to visit my dad in hospital and mum decided she needed a cuppa to help calm her down. The only table left was one with bench seats and very little room between the table and benches and as I was about two weeks off of my due date,I had to sit length ways on the bench.We had our cuppa and I then had to wriggle my way off the bench as I struggled to get off the seat I jokingly remarked that wouldn't it be just like the thing if the baby decided to come now, mum looked at me then at my bulge and said don't you dare. The guy at the other table looked at us then said ' Gee I'm sorry I didn't realize you were pregnant or I'd have given you this table I thought you were just fat.' Now that I think is rude.

havalinaaa

Seriously rude! I was in a store the other day and the guy behind the counter kept saying something I didn't quite understand (English is clearly not his first language), but I eventually made out he was asking me if it was a boy or a girl. First off, I didn't look pregnant AT ALL, maybe my jacket was a little poofy, but not preggers poofy, and second you just don't ever assume someone is pregnant!

People used to offer me their seats on the subway/bus, I assume because I looked like I might be pregnant (why else would they offer me their seat and not the other dozen or so people standing on the train?). Now that I've lost 25 pounds I don't get that as often.

DannyMussels

I believe Ace of Base wrote a song about this.

2004Jessica

YES!!

At work earlier this year the manager started giving me weird looks all day....and then she patted my belly and asked how far along I was!! I was mortified!

She even patted your belly? sheesh! Totally in your space. I hope she was embarrassed.

ummommyme

Several times in the past few years i have gotten that. One time in a yoga class with only three women and the teacher. One woman actually was pregnant and not there yet and the other woman turned to me and asked where the other pregnant woman was. I said i'm not pregnant, i'm just fat, but im on weight watchers.:laugh:

withchaco

I just don't get why people get so offended about it. More to the point it frustrates me how annoyed they get when somebody tries to innocently share in their celebration of being pregant.

In a nutshell, you WOULDN'T be reacting like this if you were pregnant would you??!??! You'd want to share.

Even though people who ask usually have good intentions, it's a personal question and should not be asked. What if the woman is being pressured by her man to abort? What if the woman got pregnant following a rape? etc. If the woman is a stranger, it's none of your business. If you're friends/ relatives/ etc with the woman, the woman will bring it up when she wants to.

I learned this lesson multiple times as a child. I will share two of the most memorable ones. Once, I saw another girl my age, walking to school on a rainy day. Her mom was holding the umbrella for her. She moved her feet in a weird way and was getting her socks all wet. I thought she was playing around (as I used to, myself -- jumping in puddles and stuff) and pointed out, "hey, you're getting your socks all wet." Her mom replied, "she has polio."

Another time, I was at a hospital to visit a relative. I don't remember the circumstances clearly, I was in third or fourth grade and it's been a while -- I think we went into a wrong room. The room we were in, we didn't find our relative, but there was a boy on a bed. Apparently he just had a major surgery. He was talking excited about how now that his surgery is over, he can go back to playing soccer with his friends. Some guy on another bed joined the conversation, and they chatted about soccer. Meanwhile the boy's mother looks like someone just died, and she eventually walked out of the room quietly. My mom, concerned, followed her, and I followed my mom.Turns out they had to amputate the boy's leg... He didn't know it yet because his "legs" were covered in a blanket, and he couldn't feel any difference yet.

The guy on the other bed had good intentions. I can't blame him at all. But the whole situation had such a great impact on me: keep your mouth shut. You don't know what they're going through. Extreme situations can and do happen all around us.

We live in a world where having good intentions isn't enough... You have to have more than that. You have to be prudent.

firedragon064

I never ask event if it's my siter. I wait for her to tell me if not I know when to shut my mouth.

traceracer

Awhile ago I had an aquaintence that I hadnt seen for a long time come into my place of employment. He said,"Congratulations!! How far along are you??" He is a very arrogant guy and thought it was very funny when I told him that I was just fat.He proceeded to go on and on about it, telling me how I really looked like it so how could he have known and yada yada.... So when I got home, I went on his facebook wall and I wrote..."Hi there Chad, I just wanted to ask you if you were gay?? You really look like you are gay but if you arent, I apologize....have a great day!!" All of his friends went crazy over it! He shortly emailed me with an apology:)

treesloth

Nope, I've never been asked that. But I'm a dude, so I guess that's to be expected. :-)

A comedian gave good advice... Never, ever, ever imply that a lady is pregnant unless you are actually seeing a baby emerging from her at that very moment. Otherwise, just shut up!

My grandmother was the "never shows" sort... She'd just show up at church with a new kid and everyone would wonder where she got it. She also went grey only down the middle of her head and dyed her hair to avoid looking like a skunk. That's not relevant... I just think it's funny.

unsuspectingfish

It's called being polite, taking a interest in someone, being friendly...

It is not polite to ask someone about what is going on in their uterus. Ever. To quote the great Dave Barry, "Never ask a woman if she is pregnant unless you see an actual baby emerging from her".

THIS.

Vmsunderland

I've had that happen to me one to many times.... its sucks because I carry all my weight in the love handles & tummy. I always reply with "I'm 0 weeks pregnant, just fat. but thanks"

cherdan

Awhile ago I had an aquaintence that I hadnt seen for a long time come into my place of employment. He said,"Congratulations!! How far along are you??" He is a very arrogant guy and thought it was very funny when I told him that I was just fat.He proceeded to go on and on about it, telling me how I really looked like it so how could he have known and yada yada.... So when I got home, I went on his facebook wall and I wrote..."Hi there Chad, I just wanted to ask you if you were gay?? You really look like you are gay but if you arent, I apologize....have a great day!!" All of his friends went crazy over it! He shortly emailed me with an apology:)

THIS is brilliance.

cherdan

I believe Ace of Base wrote a song about this.

WHAaat?? Nooo! What song? "Barely Blooming 18"?? hahaha

cherdan

I was thinking about it.. not only is this question completely rude/tactless/presumptive/etc, I just find it inherently offensive from a womanist/gender standpoint. It's one thing for a woman to look heavy/overweight, but to think she is pregnant is another thing entirely. The person, above all, has to ASSUME you're a) sexually active, b) having unprotected sex, and c) physically able to have children!! What if you are none of the above?? I am celibate, but have been on birth control for over 10 years for health reasons. I have made the mistake in confiding in a few individuals that I was on the pill, and before I could even explain, their eyebrows arched and a few gave me disapproving looks. One asked, "But, why?" As they knew I was celibate. Weeelll, let's see, because I had horrible acne, insanely heavy periods in which I was doubled over in pain, etc., etc. Why do people, other women included, know so LITTLE about women's health??? It's scary. I think this question speaks of not only a sheer lack of tact and common sense, but a lack of knowledge and respect of women and their bodies!

lucysposaro

wow thanks for all the responses lol im glad i was not the only one but gez i felt so fat after people starting that to me and made me really upset but it encourged meto lose weight