Getting hit on by freaks

Gwen7121

I think it's funny that several of the guys on here (ahem Scott613, msf74 and others) are complaining about men being lumped into the "creeper" category (because according to some of you, EVERYONE is a creeper in our eyes), but they have basically lumped all women into the b*tch category based on a few catty people.

You want to be the pot or the kettle, guys?

Nice strawman argument. I've seen better though...

Now I would be most grateful if you didn't cast insidious aspersions about my decision making ability using an idiom referencing skin colour (I am clearly brown rather than black in any event) to cast doubts in the reader's mind *

(* see what I did there?)

I like the way you think.

Oh, wait. Does that make me a creeper?

paulaGetshealthy

I'd be lying if I said I read all of the replies to this, because no matter what I post, someone is going to be offended. So, whatevaaaaah.

catshark209

What I got from this thread is just don't hit on women!?!?!? Why the hell am I working out then??

You can hit on women. So long as you are physically attractive to her. Otherwise you are creepy.

Hey now, the man with the baby teething ring around his neck is seriously creepy no matter what, the security guard straight up told me he didn't pass psych evaluation and the Native guys always hang around the gas station Downtown picking up prostitutes...so that IS major creepy.

Even if a guy is butt ugly I try to be nice to him if he's nice to me. If he's leering at my chest, then no....I won't be.

I've been cut down by guys before and so I know it sucks to be told to eff off. I've been on both sides of the fence.

sunkisses

It's very rare that I think someone isn't good enough to flirt with me. I don't know how to flirt even when I want to, but I'm chilled out with everyone, even the hobos. I talked to one outside of Starbucks once. He was upset 'cause someone turned the sprinklers on him when he was sleeping. I'm not even kidding. People are interesting as hell.

SMarie10

Bump..
on a visit to Chicago with four of my friends, we were waiting on a train platform when the local homeless guy picked me out of the crowd and started hitting on me. It always happens to me, and always when I'm with a group of women. I must have one of those kind faces that attract those misfortunate men. I'm always polite with my "please leave me alone", but I'm getting paranoid about it

NightOwl1

Did anyone actually read the threads before just lumping them together as women not appreciating compliments? With the exception of a couple of posts that were about looks, the vast majority were about guys who either said things that were inappropriate or refused to take know for an answer.

There are plenty of guys who intentionally creep on girls for sport because they get amusement out of it, and frankly, I'm sick of more men not standing up and calling BS on it. The truth is, whether you're attractive or not, nothing makes it acceptable to harass a girl. Most of the men in these stories knew full that their behavior was inappropriate, but they did it anyway because they thought they could get away with it. I don't have any problem with women reacting negatively to this type of behavior.

It's easy as a guy to say "oh, well I would be flattered no matter who hit on me," but we living in a country where 1 in 6 women is a victim of sexual assault in her lifetime. We have a lot less reason to be cautious than your average women does. So I don't blame women for being guarded or abrupt when strangers come up and approach them in random and inappropriate situations.

monocot

This one isn't about a man But a boy. when I was 16, I was baby sitting for a lady who had just moved to town, and the little Boy always had a crush on me, I didn't think much of it til one night, I was tucking him into bed and he asked if he could ask me a question. and I was like um Okay. He then asked if he could have sex with me. I was all weired out but asked where he learned about that. he claimed his old babysitter in saskatoon used to do it. I left him in his room and called his mom asap.

monocot

This one isn't about a man But a boy. when I was 16, I was baby sitting for a lady who had just moved to town, and the little Boy always had a crush on me, I didn't think much of it til one night, I was tucking him into bed and he asked if he could ask me a question. and I was like um Okay. He then asked if he could have sex with me. I was all weired out but asked where he learned about that. he claimed his old babysitter in saskatoon used to do it. I left him in his room and called his mom asap.

monocot

damn double post.

Elzecat

i must be invisable, i havent been hit on for years. im not countin the old boys on site who are looking for a bit on the side. cheating *kitten*. i never want to be the other woman or a home wrecker.

Mind you i do work away so my opportunity to meet people is serverely retarded, but if someone has the balls to come up & start a convo, or ask me out then id at least meet them somewhere public for coffee

this is also my problem! lol

although...I went to a concert a couple weekends ago and some guy about half my age copped a feel...I don't look as old as I am apparently (or he's looking for a mom)

RaeLB

Now I have to ask what is the best way to approach a woman?

*Guys take notes!*

I have to say this thread was really bothering me until I saw your response to some of these stories. What makes these guys creepers? they're unattractive? socially awkward? maybe they have a mental illness? - To me a creep is not a guy with bad teeth and cheesy pick up lines, a creep is a cocky chauvinist guy who makes inappropriate comments

Thanks for your refreshing responses

Elzecat

Aw.. there, there.. maybe someday an attractive person might hit on you. Have hope.

I'm taking this one to heart.

Elzecat

I had a 40-year-old double amputee hit on me once. That was weird and just awkward.

The nerve of him. Daring to speak to you as if he were a whole person.

Some ladies shouldn't be hit on period. They aren't worth it.

Agreed man, that guy must have had balls of stone, he probably knew he would be ridiculed but tried anyways, you gotta keep living life, wish I could buy him a beer.

there's a guy like this in my social circle...I see him out at a lot of shows. He gets turned down not because he's 40 something and he uses a wheelchair, but because he's a raging drunk and when he's hitting on people he's slurring and dropping his beer on them...I've never seen him sober so I don't know what he's like then...but drinking, not a pretty picture.

Elzecat

What's the difference between a creepy guy and a not-creepy guy?

A: If the woman wants you to hit on them, you're not creepy. Otherwise... you are creepy.

To some people: please get over yourself. I'd hate it for you if life threw you a curve ball where your physical looks were altered in a way that going to the gym and losing weight couldn't help you. You would be screwed.

This happened to me over the weekend. I've been told that I should approach more women because I'm introverted and because I don't go out of my way to talk to strangers, that this impedes my ability to date.

This sounds fairly reasonable. So I gave it a try. Even MFP says that the gym is a good place to meet women because you have similar fitness goals right? Well this goes beyond what I would normally do... but I see a woman who I thought was attractive working out. I was next to her. I said "hey how's it going?"

Her answer? "**** off"

\m/

Women are just as physical-minded as men are.

aw...if you said hi to me at the gym I'd probably drop my weights on my foot out of shock...but when I recovered I'd at least say hi. :embarassed:

Johnnyswife

Only creeper that bugged me was someone who wouldn't take no for an answer. One day, I drove past him and he FOLLOWED me!! I pulled into the local grocery store and ducked into the womens room and waited until he left. I even called my dad to let him know what was going on and he offered to meet me there and drive back with me, but I was so close to home, i declined and hightailed it home. :noway:

I don't care what a guy looks like, or how awkward they might seem, if they asked me out, even though I would say no, I would thank them for asking. Maybe cause I was fat and awkward (in my head) and thought no guy would ever pay attention to me, so I thought even though I didn't want to go out, i would make sure they didn't feel bad about asking....maybe in hindsight, I shouldn't have been nice to the one creeper I met.:ohwell:

Elzecat

Many of my friends are guys and so when I'm out at a show or whatever with them, I suspect I don't get hit on because people think we're "together." I also tend to get hit on by married men who try to lie about being married--the last guy who seriously hit on me AGES ago was married, tried to tell me he was separated (although he was still wearing a ring) and did not realize that he and I have mutual friends who KNEW he was still married (and his wife was at the show!) and gave me the heads up. And that behavior made him a total creeper in my eyes, even though he's very attractive and a successful musician in the local scene...and I still take photographs of his band so I occasionally see him...I just try not to make eye contact lol...:ohwell:

TheBraveryLover

This thread is hilarious. I agree with a couple of the posters who say people are being nitpick. Maybe I just love attention, but I get hit on pretty regularly (from both sexes) and even if I don't find the person attractive, I still flirt back. It's fun to me. If they try to take it too far, I'll let them know I'm not interested. I'd never categorize them as "freaks". That's just me though.:blushing:

greg331

Makes me fearful for my daughters...bad behavior by men, involving them if I'm around, will probably get me locked up someday...hopefully not. They are more sheltered than I was growing up, but very capable and strong. My brother is a therapist who has seen too many young woman date-raped in college. It really disgusts me.

godricshollow

This thread is hilarious. I agree with a couple of the posters who say people are being nitpick. Maybe I just love attention, but I get hit on pretty regularly (from both sexes) and even if I don't find the person attractive, I still flirt back. It's fun to me. If they try to take it too far, I'll let them know I'm not interested. I'd never categorize them as "freaks". That's just me though.:blushing:

Exactly! I think it is so hilarious and endearing when guys use cheesy pick up lines. It always makes me laugh/smile and... well, isn't that the whole idea of a bad pick up line?

It must be so stressful to hit on a girl, I mean look at this thread! Poor guys, they must need balls of steel to approach us. Generally though, I think most of them are alright. My only bad experience was when a customer I had only talked to twice randomly started stroking my hair, haha.

PBJunky

What happened to clubbing the girl over the head and drag her to your cave?

ScrewyChars-13040707

i knew i was missing out on something *sad times*

ejohndrow

Hmm it seems my post was changed a bit, but it was true. I live in a place where certain people from certain cultures and places tnat are not western, do not seem to understand that females do not want to be stared at, gawked at etc. There are two specific countries these people come from since come here to work- apparently naming them is not allowed.

ejohndrow

I had a 40-year-old double amputee hit on me once. That was weird and just awkward.

when I worked at Borders books there was a stroke victim who always came in. He had the wheelchair and always looked disheveled, it had obviously affected his motor skills and speech a lot. He always invited me to sit on his lap.

ejohndrow

Jamaicans. I know I sound like a total a.s.s, but I'm sick and tired of the old Jamaicans who work here asking me to go over to their place and watch movies, and I'm sick and tired of them staring at me while I shop. Also, in general, it seems that only freaks (and not the good kind) like me. I'm a fan of giving everyone a chance, but more and more I've noticed that if someone is a loner and has few to no friends, well there is probably a good reason for it.

Introverted people tend to be your best soul mates and got their **** pulled together financially, why? Well they were alone the majority of their life so they focus on their career(instead wasting it away at parties) and fantasize about their perfect soul mate and how they would cherish that person once they have found them.

Would you settle for the gigolo or the more innocent type?

I am quite introverted and work focused myself- nothing wrong with this.
Too bad all quiet people aren't like this. However, I still believe in giving people a fair shake.
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auticus

Introverted people who have few friends aren't bad people. They just don't go out and socialize with a bunch of people and call them "friends".

PepeGreggerton

Introverted people who have few friends aren't bad people. They just don't go out and socialize with a bunch of people and call them "friends".

It's called quality vs quantity.

PepeGreggerton

Also people associate introversion with shyness. I am not afraid to talk to people, I'll talk to anyone. I'd just rather not. Things like going on dates and meeting new people don't make me nervous in the slightest. But I have a small tight social circle and I like it that way.

ElizabethRoad

Give a compliment (a nice one, not a creepy one) and try to make it funny somehow. A little backhanded compliment, when properly implimented, will go a long way. For example:

"Are you buying 2% milk because you think you're fat? Cuz you're not. You could totally buy whole milk if you wanted to."

That is a seriously weird thing to say to a complete stranger.

auticus

It's a Napolean Dynamite quote...

ElizabethRoad

I rest my case.