The rudest thing anyone said to you about your weight?
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My ex dumped me because I'm fat. You can imagine how it could break one's confidence and self esteem. It was the most painful one for me.
Are you serious?? what an AssH**e!!!
Yup, But it kinda jump started my weightloss journey. I dropped nearly half the amount of weight I want to and I ran into him recently. His reaction?? His jaws hit the floor and he said "You look really pretty". He's been texting and I ignoring..lol.Revenge is the best dish served!
That is the best feeling EVER!0 -
At least when you were pregnant you didnt have someone say that you didnt look pregnant. Mind you at the time I was like 7-8 monthes pregnant and weighed 290+.
I also had a patient say that my husband must really love me because I was so fat.(mind you she was confused, but still)
When I was pregnant with my first child I was publishing an A&E weekly in the DC area, and working as an adjunct professor, teaching 2 classes. When I finally informed my journalism students that I was going on maternity leave they didn't believe me. They hadn't realized I was pregnant. Their collective shock confused me at first and then I was unbelievable sad and hurt. I was about 250 at the time (I would get heavier). So much for their power of observation. There were clearly no budding investigative journalist in that bunch.
A childhood memory has stuck with me for over 35 years. I was about 10 when moved into a new neighborhood in Toronto. I was walking to the park excited to find other kids to play with when a kid playing on the street yelled out "brown cow." I stopped and asked her what she said and she had the nerve to repeat it. So I punched her a couple times and ran home. Weeks later she saw me at the park but she ran this time. Why does that memory still stick and make my heart race?0 -
A few years ago I was flying to Florida from California. Flight one to Dallas was uneventful. The flight from Dallas to Orlando started off bad but ended up great.
I was one of the first to board and was already in my window seat when a man who was in the middle seat came to the row, looked me up and down and then walked away. He comes back with the flight attendant and she says "I am sorry sir, I do not see what is wrong" and the guy says "you have to move me, I will not tolerate being squished next to a fat person the entire flight". Now I was heavy, maybe 220 at the time but I fit in my seat and was not hanging over by any stretch of the imagination. I just looked up at the attendant and said "feel free to move me, I won't sit next to an *kitten* the whole time", grabbed my stuff and stood up.
I got seated in first class.0 -
When I had started losing weight and has lost about 20 pounds my husband and I ran into this girl I went to school with. We used to be very close so we were catching up and I told her I had 4 daughters. She says " Oh are you having a 5th ?" and she's looking at my stomach. And needless to say this was coming from a woman who at that time was a good 125 pounds heavier than me !!! Can we say b**** ? Anyways, 65 pounds lost later I'm within 9 pounds from being at a normal weight... I recently saw the woman I went to school with on the news. She had been arrested and lost custody or her kids
Sad, but I'm glad I didn't lash out at her because she obviously has issues. 0 -
I had to have my gallbladder removed when I was pregnant with my son and about a week after I had surgery I was at work (I was a nanny for 2 physicans) and the "father" was at the table and he goes eating stuff like that is why you got gallstones in the first place not to mention shouldn't you try not to gain too much more weight. Ugh it makes me steam just thinking about it. I was pregnant and if I want to have coco puffs freakin a I'm going to have ceral!0
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not so much about my weight but my running time. I was at a sporting goods store today. Some how the clerk asked me about running next weekend at WDW. I'm running a half and full marathon. She asked what my time is. I said hoping for under 3 hrs for the half and 5 hrs for the full. She said "OH that's slow". Really lady! I stop and take pictures with characters plus I run for fun. I'm aiming to finish not worried about my time. At least I try and how many people run 39.2 miles in 2 days? Plus my body has never been the same since I got cancer. Still burns me 6 hrs later that she said that!
Oooh, you are running in the WDW Marathon. I am jealous! That is one of my long term goals. Right now I am just trying to work myself up to being able to do the 5k at Epcot this fall.
Don't let that dipstick clerk at the store bother you. Being able to actually complete a marathon is awesome - who give a rip how long it takes you!!0 -
We've all gotten the looks, the stares, heard the whispers behind our backs. But what was the rudest thing anyone ever said to your face about your weight? Mostly interested in what strangers have said... we all know our loved ones can be the most cruel at times, no matter how well intended.
I worked customer service and an Asian gentleman frequented our place and was always polite and quiet. After many visits, one day he said, "Where you find pants so big?"
At that time I was in about a size 18-20... I wore jeans to work, and had many different pairs. I just smiled and said, "Oh, there are LOTS of places!" lol
in this gentlemans defense, in (many) certain cultures the topic of weight is not private or something not to be commented on. It is like any other feature of a person, like their hair color or height. I grew up in Turkey where people will openly tell loose acquaintances as well as loved ones what they should or shouldnt eat, that they should lose or gain weight, etc. It isnt considered rude, in fact oftentimes quite the opposite.. showing that you have concern for the other person in regards to their health or appearance.
he probably meant nothing hurtful, but possibly was genuinely curious. But, he could also have just been a ****..0 -
I saw this many times in Nashville. A guy who is chubby or fat would be just standing there an then a women in her 20s-early 30s would walk by him and then the guy would just say "hi" and the girl would say "ugh, gross, youre "fat" and walk away. I would see this every week.
This happened to me a couple weeks ago in the gym:
Me: {walking up to pretty girl sitting on a machine} hey how's it going
Her: **** off
Me: alright then.
seriously? what a Byotch. I commend you for having to balls to do what most guys dont and that is walk up to a girl and simply say hi!
any decent girl thinks its nice and appreciates it as long as it is sincere and not coming on too strong!0 -
I have a book of quotes. Here are some for you lol
* My ex wife used to gag when having sex. And say "get it over with", then run to the toilet and throw up afterward because fat people disgusted her.
* An ex girlfriend dumped me because she said she "deserved better than a fat guy"
* Soccer practice at the park, I'm running with my team up front, and a college girl running at the park with her friends/team points at me and says "ew look at that guy's belly"
* Running at the park I pass up a thin girl running, who is running like she doesn't know how to run. Her meathead athletic boyfriend turns around and sees I'm passing her and runs back to her and screams "You didn't just let that fat **** pass you!! You better get your *kitten* in gear!"
* Running at the park I pass a guy and his little girl running. She says "Daddy why did you let the fat man pass you?" He replies "shhh honey we don't call people fat, that's rude"
* Meeting a woman I met online, she I guess thought I was thin because I said I played soccer. I had body shots up and all but ... I guess people will thnk what they think. She walks into the indoor arena to watch my team play, sees me, and her smile disappears immediately and the face she has kind of resembles what she would look like if she saw a cockroach skitter across the floor.
We talk a bit but I can tell she's hitting the door. She ends up saying "how can you play soccer and run with a belly like that?"
She ended up emailing me a day later pissed that I "misrepresented myself" and that she has no desire to date "big men".
I have about 19 quotes in my book from this year alone. The above except the ex wife and gf were from this year alone.
The comments stopped once I dropped weight. I'm only 15 lbs overweight now and strangely enough I'm not treated as poorly now. Fancy that lol.
People are so insensitive. Even when I was thinner I loved big men. I'm happily married to a big man and couldn't imagine my life without him. I'm glad people treat you better now.0 -
4. I've had multiple doctors tell me that nothing was wrong with me and that it was my weight. When I was below what I should have weighed, the doctor told me I was fat and that's why I was having asthma problems (refused to prescribe or diagnose me). I'm also currently in a situation where I no longer go to my doctor because she doesn't look at me, just walks in, takes a look at my weight and says that I'm overweight and diabetic - thus ending up with me in the hospital because the unchecked boil on my chest finally burst and I couldn't move without pain. . .
I recommend that you find a new practitioner. Geez, what a B****!!! I'm surprised she has any patients with that kind of bedside manner.
I would if I weren't on the State's Health Plan They only allow me access to doctors in the area so I have my pick between this one, the one that will keep me in her office chatting without looking at me (total wack-o) or the one that doesn't speak a word of English. . .
I'm almost considering going to Mr. No English, actually xD0 -
I was at the gym (where I worked out regularly and was in a weight loss competition) and this cocky jock type of idiot walked up to me while I was lifting weights and said, "why do you even bother, it's obviously not doing you any good -why do you waste your money coming in here?" I looked at him and laughed and said, "well I lift more weight than you do with my arms and I push more weight than you do with my legs and not only that but I work out longer than you do each time you are in here so truth be known maybe you are the one wasting your money:. I never saw him in that gym while I was working out again!
That reminds me of two women who were in a class I used to take at my former gym. They came up to me after class once and said "could you please stay in the back row during class. You block to much of the mirror and none of us want to look at you". I quit going to that gym. The one I am at now is so much nicer, the people more encouraging and it is not filled with a bunch of women who mostly want to strut around in their work out clothes and talking to guys.0 -
4. I've had multiple doctors tell me that nothing was wrong with me and that it was my weight. When I was below what I should have weighed, the doctor told me I was fat and that's why I was having asthma problems (refused to prescribe or diagnose me). I'm also currently in a situation where I no longer go to my doctor because she doesn't look at me, just walks in, takes a look at my weight and says that I'm overweight and diabetic - thus ending up with me in the hospital because the unchecked boil on my chest finally burst and I couldn't move without pain. . .
I recommend that you find a new practitioner. Geez, what a B****!!! I'm surprised she has any patients with that kind of bedside manner.
I would if I weren't on the State's Health Plan They only allow me access to doctors in the area so I have my pick between this one, the one that will keep me in her office chatting without looking at me (total wack-o) or the one that doesn't speak a word of English. . .
I'm almost considering going to Mr. No English, actually xD
I've been to both a No English doctor and a doctor whose english i ended up back with my childhood doctor.. it's a nightmare isn't it? I have a rare asthma problem and all they keep doing is blaming it on weight.. yet i've gone from a (UK) 28 to a 22/24 at the bottom in jeans and a (UK) 26 top to a 18! yet i have no relief! I'm fed up of it.. it's horrible when people are like this.. i hope you find someone who listens to you
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putting anything down to being over weight, yes im biger than ideal but that doesnt mean my shin splits (sporting injury) from really pushing my exercise is cus im fat. - thanks doc! i think 4hours exercise aday would do that, weather your alittle big or not. xx0
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I allways remember a stick insect bodied so called friend saying to me one day "oh i need to go on a diet , i think i may have put a pound on" then looked at me and said your lucky in one way you could proberly put a stone extra on and with yer been so fat you wouldn't notice, where i notice even a pound
I just thought you stuck up miserable cow0 -
Oh sheesh more than one thing, as most of us have had, I am sure!
Here's one I overheard at an eating establishment -- "She really should order a salad or something instead of _______" mmhmmmm you go there with your 200+ pound self scarfing down a huge double bacon cheeseburger with cheese fries. :grumble:
Oh and another from my grandmother with dementia when I went to visit her in my wedding dress because she couldn't come to the wedding -- "That's a big dress!" I said, "Well yes it is. Otherwise it wouldn't fit!" :indifferent:
And when I was in my early 20s driving down the boulevard to work one night (grew up in a seaside resort area) a group of BOYS in a car next to me drove up next to me and shouted, "Hey you fat pig! Why don't you just go wallow in the mud!" :explode:
People can be so rude. But it is how we react to them that WE can control. For instance, you should probably not retort to any of the above comments with, "At least I can lose weight! It's harder to fix stupid." Just saying...0 -
Things I have learned from this thread:
If you are fat:
Don't date
Don't have friends
Pray you never get hurt in an accident because the doctors the insurance company will send you to will inevitably blame all injuries on your weight and will potentially cripple you by ignoring the real reasons you are hurt.
Never walk on a public street.
Never go into a mall.
Never go into a convenience store.
Never go into a restaurant.
Stay far, far away from grandparents!
Avoid family gatherings.
Don't go into the sports store.
Never try to exercise.
In fact, stay locked in your house ordering pizza because everywhere you go, and no matter what you do, people will see your weight as an excuse to mistreat and abuse you.
Wow, what a world we live in.0 -
I have a friend who is about the same size as me, and she has several health issues that are completely non weight-related. Her dad, any time she brings the problems up, says "Well, if you'd lose weight, that would go away"0
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Congratulations on your pregnancy!
I wasn't.
Been there! More than once. Way more than once...
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He did you a huge favor.My ex dumped me because I'm fat. You can imagine how it could break one's confidence and self esteem. It was the most painful one for me.
Are you serious?? what an AssH**e!!!
Yup, But it kinda jump started my weightloss journey. I dropped nearly half the amount of weight I want to and I ran into him recently. His reaction?? His jaws hit the floor and he said "You look really pretty". He's been texting and I ignoring..lol.Revenge is the best dish served!
Too often we kill each other with too much kindness.
My Doctor just told me all the medications I needed or I could drop 50lbs and take no medication.
I acted like I didn't quite know what he meant, and he blurted out "you're too fat!"
We need more of this and less fat acceptance.
I agree that we need less fat acceptance. I wish I had owned 1) a bathroom scales 2) a tape measure and 3) a full length mirror the whole way through college and I wouldn't have put the weight on in the first place. I never realised I was putting on weight. It took me a while to realise I was overweight and by then I was getting the rude comments.
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i disagree- this all just shows if you are rude, mean and cruel enough to a person- they might change themselves to look more pleasant to you/who ever said it. How many of these posts are people going on just fine and even happy with their day and all of a sudden someone feels is appropriate to be mean to them/ hurt thier feelings because they do not like the way they look.
I don't call it fat acceptance. its called keep your personal opinions about a persons body to yourself.
I agree with the above post. It's not fair to be cruel and mean to overweight people just because they do not fit into society's expectations! It's ok to have opinion but if its not positive, it's better not to be shared! Come on, people could obese for several reasons from being lazy to fatal hormone conditions. It's not fair judge anyone without knowing their story.
I think there's two sides in this chain of quotes. One: Yes, we need to be considerate o other people's feelings, no matter the size. Don't say rude stuff. It's not "fat acceptance" it's common decency.
Two: Doctors need to not be afraid of telling someone when they need to lose weight. Doesn't mean they have to be rude (like some of the examples on this -- wow, it's no wonder people hate their doctors!!) but it is their job to point out health risks they see - that's why we go to checkups - and I think too many of them are afraid to. They also need to help set their patients up for success by understanding weight loss or knowing who to refer patients to (because a lot of doctors are a bit dumb when it comes to helping patients with weight issues!)
In total agreement to this above post!
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She told me that too...I never knew she said the same thing to you....it sucked hearing that.My mother told me if I got any bigger then a size 16 she would not make my clothes anymore and I would have to get a job to buy my own and fat people clothes are more expensive. I was 18 . I got and job and started starving myself.
When I was in my 20's and only gained a little weight back (I was a size 12) a guy I dated told me when we were breaking up I was really pretty and I could be a plus size model but to forget my dreams of straight modeling because I liked to eat too much and I was only eating one meal a day around that time. (it was all junk food)
People are mean ..sucks except she told me I would have to wear a potato sack..cause I was 13 and too young to find a job. lol
well at least she didn't play favorites ;-) She wanted us all to be shinny now she says my boobs are too small and I am too thin...why can't people just be happy? I am . And JohnnysWife (aka sissy) your beautiful , stunning even. That's what Andy said when he 1st met you that you were stunning and the lab coat and glasses were the sinker cause nobody but really hot girls look good in that. Just saying :-):flowerforyou:0 -
You must glean the good from the bad.Things I have learned from this thread:
If you are fat:
Don't date
Don't have friends
Pray you never get hurt in an accident because the doctors the insurance company will send you to will inevitably blame all injuries on your weight and will potentially cripple you by ignoring the real reasons you are hurt.
Never walk on a public street.
Never go into a mall.
Never go into a convenience store.
Never go into a restaurant.
Stay far, far away from grandparents!
Avoid family gatherings.
Don't go into the sports store.
Never try to exercise.
In fact, stay locked in your house ordering pizza because everywhere you go, and no matter what you do, people will see your weight as an excuse to mistreat and abuse you.
Wow, what a world we live in.
Some of this applies to people but not all. If I were single, I would not even consider dating until I was in peak condition.
I'd want to attract the best, youngest and most beautiful lady possible.
And in the dating process assess "personality" - lol
I think the bottom line is we all are here for a reason, and that is the reality of a whole world cut off from us because of our obesity. Again, we're not here to put on fat but take it off.
And I HATE that the world is so cruel.0 -
My parents roll their eyes whenever I eat something....my dad calls me 'moose' as a joke......I grew up with that so it doesn't bother me anymore....much...0
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I went to an orthopedic doctor for my knee pain. The little man (he was about five inches shorter than my 5'6") said to come back when I was as thin as I could be and then he would look at my knee.
My friend had the same issue. She's a small frame for the weight she was. After she did lose the weight (bypass surgery) she's a lot better. Still did the surgery, but not on both knees like they had planned. Sometimes the facts are cruel, but our bodies are not made to support the extra weight.
Oh yeah, and I was once told by a driver that I had not seen for a couple years. He says to me, "Wow, you've really put on weight since I seen you!" My reply was, "Yeah I did, and I noticed you've lost alot of hair as well!" (After he slammed out the door, I went in the bathroom & cried!)0 -
When i was about 15-16 this girl i hadnt seen in awhile, who was a year older than me, came up to me and my best friend and started talking to us....all of a sudden she punched me right in the stomach :sad: ...i stood there shocked for a moment when my friend asked "what you do that for!" ..her responce? "Well i just wanted to know if fat people got hurt when you punched them in their stomachs...i mean im skinny so if she punched me- or sat on me - i would break ...but she is soo fat i doubt it hurt her" ....i didnt know what hurt more...being punched or her comment :grumble: ...but luckily my friend's older brother saw and chased that girl down the street with a hockey stick :drinker:
SHE PUNCHED YOU!?!?!?! That is horrible!! I hope you never saw her again!!! Im glad your friend's brother was nice enough to stick up for you ...but why didnt your friend?? (hehe i laughed at the hockey stick part)0 -
When i was about 15-16 this girl i hadnt seen in awhile, who was a year older than me, came up to me and my best friend and started talking to us....all of a sudden she punched me right in the stomach :sad: ...i stood there shocked for a moment when my friend asked "what you do that for!" ..her responce? "Well i just wanted to know if fat people got hurt when you punched them in their stomachs...i mean im skinny so if she punched me- or sat on me - i would break ...but she is soo fat i doubt it hurt her" ....i didnt know what hurt more...being punched or her comment :grumble: ...but luckily my friend's older brother saw and chased that girl down the street with a hockey stick :drinker:
SHE PUNCHED YOU!?!?!?! That is horrible!! I hope you never saw her again!!! Im glad your friend's brother was nice enough to stick up for you ...but why didnt your friend?? (hehe i laughed at the hockey stick part)
Yeah she punched me :grumble: but no i havent seen her since and im glad....i'd feel the need to punch her ...and at the time my friend was only 13 maybe so she didnt really know what was going on...
Besides that one of the worst comments i got was: "You remind me of a beached whale" ...i got this from TWO boyfriends and one of my friend's boyfriends v.v0 -
You must glean the good from the bad.Things I have learned from this thread:
If you are fat:
Don't date
Don't have friends
Pray you never get hurt in an accident because the doctors the insurance company will send you to will inevitably blame all injuries on your weight and will potentially cripple you by ignoring the real reasons you are hurt.
Never walk on a public street.
Never go into a mall.
Never go into a convenience store.
Never go into a restaurant.
Stay far, far away from grandparents!
Avoid family gatherings.
Don't go into the sports store.
Never try to exercise.
In fact, stay locked in your house ordering pizza because everywhere you go, and no matter what you do, people will see your weight as an excuse to mistreat and abuse you.
Wow, what a world we live in.
Some of this applies to people but not all. If I were single, I would not even consider dating until I was in peak condition.
I'd want to attract the best, youngest and most beautiful lady possible.
And in the dating process assess "personality" - lol
I think the bottom line is we all are here for a reason, and that is the reality of a whole world cut off from us because of our obesity. Again, we're not here to put on fat but take it off.
And I HATE that the world is so cruel.
I disagree with your priority list. The last thing I want is a pretty 18 year old guy with no sense!
I have no intention of dating until I'm happy with myself, but I sure as heck wouldn't date a guy who would yell rude things out the window at fat people. What kind of loser does that?
As for cruel people, to be honest, my biggest regret is that I can't legally do anything to them and they're not quite worth the hassle of sitting in a police interrogation room lying my head off.
Almost worth it. But not quite!0 -
I wanted to be in ballet when I was around 8-9 years old and I mentioned it while we were on the weekly scheduled visit to my father's parents house. My Grandmonther responds with "your too fat to be a ballerina". The kids at school had always teased me about my weight, but I had never heard it said by my family until that day. Its amazing how some little words can affect a child. I can still remember what chair I was sitting in, what color the shirt was that my Grandmother was wearing and so on. Reality, I was fat. I grew up in the house that deep fried everything,fed the children adult super sized portions, and thought when the dr. said their child was in the 95% for weight that meant they got an A! Those words affected me for years. I struggled with my weight my whole life and to this day have struggles and continue to log my calories. I eventually decided those words would no longer hold a negative cloud over my head, I would use them as positive motivation. My children only know fruit as a snack, have never drank a soda, and love to walk 5ks. When my twin daughters looked at me and said "we want to be ballerinas".....I signed them up right away and watched through my video camera as two healthy smiling girls twirled with ribbons. My first born twin, who looks just like me, turns and smiles through the glass while skipping around the studio, and I realize, I finally got to dance :-)0
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I learned that I had been the subject of factory-floor discussion on this very subject. "how has she lost all that weight? She must be ill"I've had a few people ask me if I'm sick, since i've lost weight. Rude!!
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I'm another that the worst thing was said by my Mom.. when I was a teen.
I wasn't even heavy, maybe 120 lbs at the time and fairly fit from swimming and she said:
"I was a lot skinnier at your age." And she was quite heavy at the time she said this. I should have just rolled my eyes but I was at that awkward self conscious age and I felt devastated and angry.
How awful it is when Mothers are that petty.0 -
At my heaviest I was 233.5. I don't recall anyone saying anything rude, at least not to my face. I got down to 160 and was feeling pretty happy when a guy I was dating said, "You aren't fat, just flabby." Um, OKAY!!! We were at the gym and I was weight training so I am trying to tone up. BUT what he said was the truth while I was shocked that he said it, I know it's true.0
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