The rudest thing anyone said to you about your weight?

mdorisi

I got a watch as a gift and it didn't fit, so I went in to get an extra link added to it. The girl behind the counter was like "we don't have extra links because we make our watches to fit normal people."
She's lucky I didn't follw her home lol

bllowry

I went to bridal shower a few weeks ago and discovered my eldest niece was expecting her fourth child and was having a nice chat with her. She knows I'm losing weight and asked me how it was going, so I told her I've lost 42 pounds. The woman next to her made the comment that losing pregnancy weight was the hardest and asked me how old my baby was now. I told her he was 34 on his last birthday....:huh:

Then my younger and toxic sister made the comment that 'your earlobes do looked thinner'; and they wonder why I don't make the 300 mile trip more often :mad:

KellieNause

About three years ago (at my heaviest weight in my life) I was at my fathers family Christmas party. My aunt came up to me as I was making my plate for dinner, and criticized every single thing I put on my plate. She said, "Ya know Kellie Jo, you ought not to eat this stuff and try to lose some weight, instead. You never know when you might get married. It'll take you at least a year to look good enough for a wedding dress."

Because apparently, being thin and engaged is what will define my value as a human.
At the time of her saying this, I was receiving treatment for exhibiting EDNOS behaviors.

I haven't spoken to her since.

Also, my boyfriend is dead freaking sexy. I hope that gives her hell.

ShalisaClam

I have both laughed and cried reading ALL 14 pages of this topic...and found myself nodding my head more than once. I sympathize with each and every one of you that has had horrible things said/done to them. People ARE rude, and there's nothing that can change that. Be kind to yourselves... you've gone through enough.

And with that:

1) Members of my family telling me that I will never find anyone to love me since I was fat (I was about 8 or 9 years old)
2) Ramdom people yelling things at me on the street
3) A girlfriend telling me in grammar school that fat people are smarter....and you're really smart
4) A boy I liked asked me out and when I said yes he told he he would never go out with a fatass like me. His friends were waiting around the corner, and they were all laughing, and then one punched me in the stomach so he could see what it felt like (apparently, he thought it was 'like punching a bowl of jelly")
5) And most recently, although it was not said *directly* to me.... "We need more of this and less fat acceptance." It was in a previous post here, and I am not looking to start a fight or more of a debate. I found it offensive because I am not asking you to accept my fat - that is you judging me on what you see, and not what you know about me. I am a wonderful, kind, loving person. I have a handsome husband who loves me for who I am. This is not 'fat acceptance"; it's HUMAN acceptance.

There's so much more. Thanks for reading, and posting. Good luck to everyone on their journey.

Scorpioangel

I hate when people tell me I need to "eat a burger or two" when the people saying this looks like they have had too many.. sounds mean of me but that's what I am thinking LOL

TheFitHooker

Today in the car my husband and I were chatting and he bought me a bike a few years ago, and I was at my heaviest 250lbs, my bike had a 200lbs weight limit on it. He asked me if I remembered when he asked me how much I weighed every time the tire went flat. I started thinking, back then I did not know my weight and never thought I was 250lbs.

This thread got me thinking about a lot of other things done or said. My mom who is also not thin, and even making these comments was bigger then me, has made comments like "You have a pretty face, just need to work on the rest of you." My mom is pretty blunt always has been, I know I get my bluntness from her. I replied back "Yeah mom, you also have a pretty face, but since I look like you I guess so right? You also need to work on the rest of you because you are no longer 20 years old and 110lbs." My mom and I get alone great, and she's been very supportive of my weight loss, and shes even now saying she wants to do it. I know my mom was probably kidding then, but it did strike a nerve.

When I was pregnant with my daughter I was dropping weight, I had Gestational Diabetes and it was caught in the first trimester. I ended up losing 70lbs in my pregnancy. My cousin called me and we were chatting, she asked me how my pregnancy was going. She new I was losing weight. She asked me "How much weight have you lost?" I told her at the time "50lbs" she said "WHAT? OMG it's no wonder you are on bed rest, what are you doing? Starving yourself? You shouldn't be so damn selfish and eat woman, that baby needs her nutrition, people like you make me sick, and should not be allowed to have kids."

Honestly I know that was not a fat remark, but I think that one hurt the worse. My doctor was praising me and she knows it, and she is also a big girl so she was probably jealous I was losing in my pregnancy. I went off on her but I don't remember everything said. I just know that our friendship hasn't been the same since.

bigtwagner

not so much about my weight but my running time. I was at a sporting goods store today. Some how the clerk asked me about running next weekend at WDW. I'm running a half and full marathon. She asked what my time is. I said hoping for under 3 hrs for the half and 5 hrs for the full. She said "OH that's slow". Really lady! I stop and take pictures with characters plus I run for fun. I'm aiming to finish not worried about my time. At least I try and how many people run 39.2 miles in 2 days? Plus my body has never been the same since I got cancer. Still burns me 6 hrs later that she said that!

Jellyphant

My mom would always tell me to suck my fat in when we took pictures and whatnot. Not as horrible as some of you guys had to endure though!

mznisaelaine

I've gotten that I'm fat and ugly....I already had no confidence.. And still don't... But I'm working on it...

MLAnniRoc

--- An ex boyfriend once told me that the benefit of me being so fat was my big boobs.
--- An ex-friend (who weighed at least 100 pounds more than me) told me that no matter how much weight I lost, I would always be the fat little ugly girl who nobody notices.

There have been much worse ones but these two are EXes for a reason.
I've been trying to get my self-esteem back ever since.

mdebbie1026

When are you due? (Pregnancy) Tears stinging the eyes as I tell them they are mistaken.

KOlmert

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I wasn't.

I've gotten the same thing!!

ShalisaClam

I've gotten that I'm fat and ugly....I already had no confidence.. And still don't... But I'm working on it...

You look SMOKIN"!

Shawn_Marie

I went to a psychiatrist about some severe depression I was having, and I told her I wanted a weight neutral drug if she was going to prescribe one because a drug that made me gain weight would just depress me more. She told me, "Then go get bariatric surgery, and you won't be depressed anymore." Seriously? >.<

<Raised eyebrows> WOW!

jbrugg123

When are you due? Ouch! Reality check.

amy32lynn

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I wasn't.

chefbrina

I was at work when I overheard 2 of my co workers talking about me. One of them said " Yeah she's to old and fat for you huh? ad the other one laughed and said " Yeah.. I couldn't even imagine what it would be like to do her.." Needless to say, that was all the motivation I needed to start eating better and exercising.

amy32lynn

that happen to me too........

lshinholster

I've just always hated the compliment, "You're cute... for a big girl." I never knew how to respond to that. It's not completely rude, but it isn't that nice either.

Other than that, I've gotten the pregnant thing a few times. One girl even had the audacity to touch my stomach.

silver12176

At least when you were pregnant you didnt have someone say that you didnt look pregnant. Mind you at the time I was like 7-8 monthes pregnant and weighed 290+.

I also had a patient say that my husband must really love me because I was so fat.(mind you she was confused, but still)

watchmeshrink16

I had gotten to a terrible accident, I went to a chiropractor. He did so X-rays and found out that I had some slanded bones on my back; hence, the reason I was dealing with back for so long. He told the accident didnt cause it, my weight did. He said if it was the accident I could have been paralized. He kept repeating you weight did that, you need lose weight or it will horrible for you....... I walked out in tears in tge office because he was so cruel!

Shawn_Marie

I infrequently went to this one gas station by my house to pick up drinks and gum on my way to clinical. The man behind the counter told me "If you lost weight you would be really pretty. I'll help. You can't buy these things here. Get out."

He wouldn't sell me a cappuccino and a pack of gum :sad:

I used to go to the Citgo close to my house for lottery tickets, gas . . . it had been a while since I had been in when the paticular man had been working (60 lbs weight gain time frame). He does not speak real good english which makes it even worse. I go to the counter to pay and he says (with a big smile) oh you have baby, I say no. He says you need go to the gym you gain weight . . . OMG! really?!? I refuse to spend my money there.

12skipafew99100

When I was 5 month pregnant I was asked if I was due any day now.

TheFitHooker

When I was 5 month pregnant I was asked if I was due any day now.

When I was pregnant with my son I was asked if I was having twins at 4 months pregnant. I laughed it off, cus I knew I blew up.

rebysue

The rudest weight related thing that was said to me was actually after I lost weight. Someone asked me if I had lost so much weight because I had cancer! Seriously?!

12skipafew99100

At least when you were pregnant you didnt have someone say that you didnt look pregnant. Mind you at the time I was like 7-8 monthes pregnant and weighed 290+.

I also had a patient say that my husband must really love me because I was so fat.(mind you she was confused, but still)

Awwww

megansalt

I had major back surgery when I was 12 (just shy of 13). I had a fusion and my spine is fused from nearly my neck to my waist. After the surgery, I was still in a lot of pain. I went back to the doctor and he said it was all due to my weight. About a year ago I saw another doctor that had been recommended to me. He took x-rays and immediately looked at me and said... "Wow, I know why you're in pain you have a BOATLOAD of arthritis in your back." The surgeon that originally did the surgery had left the rod a little too far and there is a part of my spine that is half frozen to this rod... and half not. It also is the part of my back where all my motion comes from.

Anyways, I'm well on my way, but a little part of me wants to lose some more and go back to that first doctor and ask him if he's smart enough to figure out why I'm in pain now. The doctor wasn't even at the perfect weight either. But, I digress.

dante8858

While getting in the back of a pick up truck..." are u to fat to fit back there?"

hedwighigh

I never got rude comments from family until I lost weight. Dad asked me if I was bulimic (he was completely serious). I had to have a long talk with him explaining I don't have an eating disorder. Made me so mad. I've had to stop talking about my diet and weight loss with my parents now.

It's also really annoying cause people ask me if I'm done losing weight and I tell them I want to lose another 10-15 pounds. Then they get all worried and tell me I'll look sick if I lose anymore. Umm, pretty sure after a year and a half that I've done enough research to know how much weight I need to lose and if I'll look sick or not. Old people aren't very supportive of my continued weight loss, younger people seem to understand more.

ogosun

I dont' really care what anyone says..... people can say whatever they want... i just don't hear them.... hahahhahahah
now tell me who is the better person.... lol.....