The rudest thing anyone said to you about your weight?

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  • CrazyDaisysMommy
    CrazyDaisysMommy Posts: 472
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    In 2007 I lived in the Middle East and was studying Arabic. A friendly neighbor who I saw every day stopped to talk to me as I was walking to class. He said in Arabic "You really are becoming [a word in Arabic I didn't know]" I was thinking, "wow, did he say I was really becoming fluent? really becoming a local? really becoming what..." So he switched to English and said, "You're really becoming FAT! Like...you like to eat too much pita." Ouch.
  • sweetsarahj
    sweetsarahj Posts: 701 Member
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    Not rude but hurtful.
    My wife confessed that I was just no longer attractive to her.
    But she loved me...:huh:

    That is what got me off my fat butt and in the gym and pushing away from the table.

    Had I chosen to remain fat, our marriage would not have survived.
    She's very fit and that after having 5 of my kids, so there was no making excuses around her. If anybody had a right to bloat up like a blimp, it was her!
    But no.
    After each kid, she'd buckle down, lose the fat and get back in peak condition. And the guy she married was in peak condition: ME, but after an accident, I ballooned 75 lbs, and let's face facts.
    Fat is just UNATTRACTIVE!
    I lost the weight and won back her affections. Today, I've set newer and even higher goals - FOR MYSELF!

    It is nice to have a passionate relationship once again, and it also is wonderful feeling great, looking good and being healthy.

    My whole life is transformed.

    FANTASTIC story! Congrats :)
  • freckledbean
    freckledbean Posts: 30
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    My ex: "You are definitely a lot bigger than you used to be."
    Me: "I know, and I'm trying to lose weight. I've been more active and eating better, but it takes time."
    My ex: "I guess you aren't trying hard enough; look what's in your hand."
    I was drinking a light beer.

    This was the first of MANY comments about my body, and the fact that they were mostly drunken did not really do anything to ease the sting. I am between 5'5 and 5'6, I was 19 years old and weighed about 135 at the time. These kinds of remarks literally whittled away at me as I now suffer from an eating disorder and have lost over thirty pounds.

    We have to watch what we say to one another. If you don't have anything nice to say, keep your damn mouth shut.
  • lessyes0707
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    We've gotten better since I've lost ~20 lbs but my boyfriend dealt with some of my depression issues this summer and I gained 35 lbs on my 120 lb frame. We got into a fight and he said "I'm not physically attracted to you anymore. I like the old you."

    Hit hard. My achille's heel in a sense.
  • CrazyDaisysMommy
    CrazyDaisysMommy Posts: 472
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    I had a coworker who was 100 lbs soaking wet and got asked allll the time if she was pregs :( Some people...
    Congratulations on your pregnancy!

    I wasn't.
    Yep, I got something similar although it was "When are you due?" My response was "I'm not but my son is 4, thank you" and walked away

    There was a horrible woman in my office building who used to make frenemy comments to me all the time. One was "You're doing well with getting the baby weight off" I was never pregnant. Another time she said "I love your boots! It's so hard to find good boots for such thick calves." They were always driveby comments and I never had a quick enough response!
  • embersfallen
    embersfallen Posts: 534 Member
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    In junior high...they called me *Jabba the Hutt*....

    More recenlty...... a grown woman, 42, who has KIDS..... called me *Massive*, and has nicknamed me *Shamu*....and also keeps telling my hunni that I will never lose all my weight....and that *she knows because she's a medical professional*...... ( she's a Physical Therapist.... NOT a weight loss specialist...) ...... this was after I had already lost 50.... I now have gone from a 4X Sweatshirt, top of plus size... to an XL sweatshirt... top of regular sizes... a TIGHT 28.... to 18's in most jeans.....a few 16 pants... depending upon fabric and cut.... and a few 14/16 shirts.
  • scarlettd12
    scarlettd12 Posts: 111 Member
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    Definitely got the pregnant one a couple times.

    One time I was bartending and an intoxicated man flagged me over. He said "excuse me miss, but are you pregnant". I was mad! "No" was all I replied then walked away. Then when I walked by again he said, "well did you just have a baby?". Really??? Not only did you have the nerve to ask me that but when I said no you continued on??? I asked him if he would like to stick his foot in his mouth any further. He then continued to apologize saying he was drunk, he was blind in one eye, excuse after excuse.

    Another time I was at a deli counter. My grandpa always used to take me there when I was little and get one of those huge pickles that are in the jars. So that's what I wanted. This little old lady was in line in front of me, but she couldn't decide what she wanted so she told me to go ahead. When I told the worker all I wanted was one of the pickles, the little old lady kind of looked at me funny. She then looked down at my stomach, put her hand on it, and said, "Oh, now I understand". REALLY??

    I don't understand where this ignorance comes from. I would NEVER mention anything about being pregnant unless I was positive the person was, as in they had told me themselves! Rude!
  • marketThis2
    marketThis2 Posts: 3 Member
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    Yes, it hurt.. The extra step of grabbing my fat just in case I couldn't see it was super sweet. Oh well, she went on a birth control (after deciding she wasn't ready for babies I suppose) and gained 30 lbs. She is still thin in my opinon at 5'11 and 140 pounds, but she says she is a cow and understands my weight issues now.
  • Deathscall
    Deathscall Posts: 31
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    I've gotten the "when are you due?" question too many times to count.... unfortunately, my stomach is always the biggest part of my body, even after losing almost 50 lbs.


    Ironically, my sister and I have always struggled with comments from people... she weighs 85 lbs, and at my highest, I weighed 180 (136 now!). We obviously have extremely different body types, but we look a lot alike (height, face, hair, etc.) so people will always say things like "Wow, you two would be perfect if you could meet in the middle!", "Shannon, why don't you just give your sister some of your fat?", or "I have an idea... you two should trade diets for a day!"

    Fortunately for me, my sister is my best friend and she understands what it's like to struggle with body size and proper nutrition. I think it proves a point, though- people don't only get harassed for being overweight, they get it for being underweight too!

    In the words of my sister, "It seems like society knows it's wrong to call fat people 'fat', but people don't get that calling a skinny person 'skinny' hurts too!" Lesson learned: keep ALL of your opinions to yourself!
  • erinw1011
    erinw1011 Posts: 86 Member
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    I cannot believe what some people's parents say. The worst thing from a family member was from my stepfather. I came home from college and had gained probably 10 pounds, he said, "What are you trying out for the football team?" I think I was maybe 145 at that time at 5'7". My mother and father have always told me that I am beautiful and would never say anything hurtful. The ***** I work with is another story. I had just had my daughter maybe three months prior and had put on a pair of pre-pregnancy pants. I went up to her and said, "I can't believe I've got on pre-pregnancy jeans, do they look alright?" To which she replied, with a smirk, "Not really." I guess my fault for asking but we were friends at the time. I know some women don't ever make it back into their pre-pregnancy clothes and was looking for some support. Needless to say I try to avoid her at all costs now.
  • marketThis2
    marketThis2 Posts: 3 Member
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    Oh I forgot this good one, in my last year of college (yes, I had gained 30 lbs) I was at a bar and a guy bought me a drink and asked me to dance. We had like 4 dances and he kept buying me drinks, I thought he was cute :) He gave me his number at the end of the night and said "Call me when you lose 20lbs"

    It was a low blow, but I decided if he was being mean, I could too. He was definitely an Abercrombie boy who cared about his appearance and so I said "Call ME when you come out of the closet and we'll go shopping together"
  • MissMisery1313
    MissMisery1313 Posts: 119
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    My dad and my older sister ruined my 26th birthday by telling me I had a big butt.


    Now my sister is morbidly obese. All she does is stuff her face with mac and cheese and sleep. I shouldn't gloat but I'm going to anyway. :devil:
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
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    My ex dumped me because I'm fat. You can imagine how it could break one's confidence and self esteem. It was the most painful one for me.

    Are you serious?? what an AssH**e!!!

    Yup, But it kinda jump started my weightloss journey. I dropped nearly half the amount of weight I want to and I ran into him recently. His reaction?? His jaws hit the floor and he said "You look really pretty". He's been texting and I ignoring..lol.Revenge is the best dish served!
    He did you a huge favor.
    Too often we kill each other with too much kindness.

    My Doctor just told me all the medications I needed or I could drop 50lbs and take no medication.
    I acted like I didn't quite know what he meant, and he blurted out "you're too fat!"

    We need more of this and less fat acceptance.
  • xginanax
    xginanax Posts: 333 Member
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    I used to be a CNA at a nursing home. The men in the home were so rude, and it wasn't like they didn't know what they were saying like some of the patients. One guy I took care of would say good morning fat *kitten* every time I went into his room. Another called me pregnant when ever I took care of him and another would call various farm animals-pig, cow, horse, etc. Every time I eat something that doesn't look like diet food (even if it is) my family will tell me you shouldn't eat that you need to lose weight. My whole family has weight issues and they weigh more then me! My 3 yr old niece pulls my shirt up and tells everyone to look at my fat. Now that I have lost weight my stomach is kinda gross and hangs a little bit and she also makes it a point to ask me why it hangs and tells everyone about it.

    for the old men that you took care of them you should of said hey at least i can still move and do stuff on my own, how about you? if you were so fit you wouldn't where u are now.. I know that's sad but hey! and for the guy that called you FAt==*kitten* every morning you should of said Oh hey OLD MAN, Thought you wouldn't be live today with a big smile!

    and for your niece honestly, where's her mother to tell her to respect you? I know she's just a kid but you need to smack her and give her "I'm older and you should respect me" talk to her or look! Kids from young age should know that older people also have feelings.
  • Angierae81
    Angierae81 Posts: 28 Member
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    Wow the women in your life suck, I always says it takes all kinds to make the word go round, but damn what is wrong with people?!?!?!?!! I gotta to say at least the father of that little girl told her she was being rude.
  • neveahnadira
    neveahnadira Posts: 197
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    My ex dumped me because I'm fat. You can imagine how it could break one's confidence and self esteem. It was the most painful one for me.

    Are you serious?? what an AssH**e!!!

    Yup, But it kinda jump started my weightloss journey. I dropped nearly half the amount of weight I want to and I ran into him recently. His reaction?? His jaws hit the floor and he said "You look really pretty". He's been texting and I ignoring..lol.Revenge is the best dish served!




    hahah i was actually going to ask you if you have ever ran into him.. ahahaha !! must feel great that now hes trying to get your attention while you just giving him Kiss my A attitude.. :)

    It is definitely satisfying:laugh:
  • Acatlett77
    Acatlett77 Posts: 52
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    I have to stop reading this thread! It is making me very angry!! :mad:
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    ^^^THIS!!!!

    I can't believe some of the things y'all are saying that your parents & best friends have said to you!!! What is wrong with these people!

    I do have something that happened to me tho. I used to watch my 2 nephews & niece while my SIL worked & her oldest (he's 11) saw my jacket on the back of one of my kitchen chairs. He asked if that was my jacket. I said' "yep" He then said "well, it looks like its way too small for you." Kids can be so brutal!
  • saadler
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    Ex and I were having our first really romantic moment and our first kiss. After holding me a bit, he grabbed one of my love handles and said "You could stand to lose a little weight." He added a couple seconds later "We both could" but it still hurt quite a bit.

    But he was also a jerk in general :P
  • Ilovedrinkingtea
    Ilovedrinkingtea Posts: 597 Member
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    My ex dumped me because I'm fat. You can imagine how it could break one's confidence and self esteem. It was the most painful one for me.

    Are you serious?? what an AssH**e!!!

    Yup, But it kinda jump started my weightloss journey. I dropped nearly half the amount of weight I want to and I ran into him recently. His reaction?? His jaws hit the floor and he said "You look really pretty". He's been texting and I ignoring..lol.Revenge is the best dish served!
    He did you a huge favor.
    Too often we kill each other with too much kindness.

    My Doctor just told me all the medications I needed or I could drop 50lbs and take no medication.
    I acted like I didn't quite know what he meant, and he blurted out "you're too fat!"

    We need more of this and less fat acceptance.

    I agree that we need less fat acceptance. I wish I had owned 1) a bathroom scales 2) a tape measure and 3) a full length mirror the whole way through college and I wouldn't have put the weight on in the first place. I never realised I was putting on weight. It took me a while to realise I was overweight and by then I was getting the rude comments.

    xx
  • Ilovedrinkingtea
    Ilovedrinkingtea Posts: 597 Member
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    Ex and I were having our first really romantic moment and our first kiss. After holding me a bit, he grabbed one of my love handles and said "You could stand to lose a little weight." He added a couple seconds later "We both could" but it still hurt quite a bit.

    But he was also a jerk in general :P

    What a serious mood killer!!! You're well shot of him!!! xx

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