OT: Falling For A Boy Makes You Crazzzy!

Marla64

I realize you are very very young.

get some counseling

God Bless your babies.

:flowerforyou:

All these I will SOUNDLY second-- :noway:

MyaPapaya75

i found out this boys a loser.
big time loser.
huge loser.
i think ill stick with my husband 0_0

Stability works wonders for children....perhaps take time to think on why your are tiss tossing between staying married and not. Your kiddies deserve for you and your hubby to really look into the issues you obviously have and resolve them somehow. Good luck..Im not sure if your weight loss plays a part in the new found adventures but perhaps when you look more into the reasons you may find out.:ohwell:

mrsyac2

in my honest opinion it sounds like a "REBOUND"-

as far as you becoming seperated because you wanted to be single I don't know your situation by any means but "The grass is always greener on the other side until you get there"

Marriage isn't easy it is isn't meant to be easy but to have that commitment with someone-

If your not into love and all the gushy things then why did you get married? (it isn't my business its a retorical question)

just because he hasn't come at you like other guys doesn't mean he isn't trying to get in your pants some guys play the game differently then others--

mrsyac2

Also you did lose alot of weight which gives you something either you haven't had in awhile or never had and it also brings more attention

I also see that your young- With having kids a marriage or any relationship is a big deal and alot on someone who just wants to get out and party like all their friends are doing-

-you have kids to take care 1st and foremost your time shouldn't be about any "BOY"- who wants a boy anyway a boy is a child-


You need to focus on your star players and that is you and your children.

ChubbyBunny

Wow... that's all I got.... just.... WOW!
:noway:

MissGorgeous

well...weight loss has a big thing to do with it
and i realize that...iw as over weight my whole life...got no real attention
now i have men throwing them selfs at me left and right
i recently started modeling and doing some promotional modeling events also and am now a go go dancer at this club...and now i have a manager who is trying to get me signed with a record label
that my friends run...none of this was my idea...they came to me and said i would be really easy to market and could go far

to me the only part i like is the dancing and promotional modeling
its fun...the singing thing....i like to sing and have fun but i just like to karaoke
im not big on it ..like for a livingggg

so i did tell them no on the singing
but im down for modeling gigs and events

i just wont miss my kids events
ju jit su and dance class and mommy and me class

as long as i can go have fun with my family and then have my own fun...im fine with that


but last night got a little out of hand and it just made me realize thats not the crowd i want to be in
im married and have kids...i need to start acting like it

last nigth was VERY scary and i just...know that im not going to be playing around anymore
ill still dance on friday and saturday nights and still do the promotional modeling for this club
but im not gonna be going out and partying anymore

i realized that "friends" dont have you back and they are just drama
ive been in the wrong crowd for a few weeks and that is def OVER!
im not willing to lose my life behind some drama
too many crazy peoople in the world

ive been hanging out with nice people
but they have a differnt life than i do

they get drunk and do drugs
and they are all Djs and rappers and all affilated with that record label business
and they lead a life that is not for me
and last night was a prime exaple of that

ChubbyBunny

I am sorry you had a scare. That's never good.
It's nice to see you are evaluating some in your life....

I guess I am struggling.... are you married or are you not?
One second you are "gushing" over some boy....
Then mentioning a husband....
Then mentioning separation....
Then back to being married....

19 with 3 kiddos... that's a lot to take on and as many above mentioned should be the center of your life, not particularly "having your own fun." Making it to their events is very important and admirable....but there is more to parenting then that, which I am sure you know.

Then again, I don't know your situation... or where you are coming from.
So, I am sure you will do what is best for your family.... cause some things are more important then ourselves.

Good luck, be safe...
:flowerforyou:

mrsyac2

just cause you have kids doesn't mean your life is over- I am a young mom and I still go out once in a while- Not all the time like other people my age but I do go out- but its not what I live for- You have to act accordingly- you are a mom and a wife-

MissGorgeous

doubt anyone cares but here was my night last night..
just so you can follow along...BOW is a guy i hooked up with in vegas and MIKE is the guy ive been seeing for a few weeks or whatever and dominic is my husband....


so dominic and me head to dinner downtown
with mike and dustin and cory
we drink alot....we walk down to another bar
we meet up with lonny and his sister and her ex boyfriend and his buddy in the middle of the street
so...we all go ahead and walk to this other bar
the boys go in NO PROBLEM

i wak in and walk out to make a phone call
the bouncer yells at me and throws a drink at me and kicks me out
saying i knocked over the sign???

im usually very calm but i had alot to drink so i started yelling at him for throwing a drink at me
the girl we meet up with gets kicked out also
and her drink thrown at her because she was standing up for me...

the boys were inside somewhere we couldnt find them and they didnt know
what had happened ...so we walk down to another bar and have a few drinks with some random guys
im calling my husbands phone but it died....so no luck..

bow sees me and that girl and im like bro...go get my husband right nowwww and goes and tells dominic and dom comes out ....so goes inside and closes his tab and walks me and the girl to another place and we drink a few rounds

we were there for TEN mins and they kicked us out
because we were loud and "fighting"
my husband goes to the bathroom
MIKES ex girlfriend got in my face...saying i slept with her man and i got right back in her face and was ready to fight her...again kicked out and dom was upset with me....AGAIN

so we go back to the first bar and dom goes inside and gets his friends
and makes me swear to stand there and not move....
and he gets his boys and we walk down to the
club i dance and do promoting for

we get a few bottles of patron and a few bottles of wine and champagne....

by this time its
me and dominic
bryan and kristin
mike and dustin
cory and bow
three of bows friends
lonny and sister lacey
ex boyfriend and buddy
four of my rapper friends
3 of the girls that dance with me and our manager
and the dj and his girlfriend

well mike decided he wanted beers
so he opens a TAB and near the end of the night
tab is 2200 and mikes card is expired!!!

mike cant go to ****ing jail
he just got off house arrest this week!!!!!
so they take his ID and tell him to pay before he leaves or hes going to jail

so then im telling dominic that we should go ahead and just pay for it
dominic tells me NO mike needs to learn a lession
and tha everyone takes care of mike which is why hes so irresponsable.....

then we hear yelling and see the crowd running
1 of my rapper friends is getting choked by security
because he was fighting

but then they let him go cause we are all with the DJ
and work there and preform there
the club closes
we all head outside


so one of the rappers is outside and i see some tall girl
push him and is screaming and some guy yelling at him and trying to fight
(rapper is 19 and short and young...this girl was like 30 years old)

so i walk over and yell
HEY GET YOUR HANDS OFF MY HOMEBOY...ARE YOU KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW??? BACK THE UP OR I SWEAR TO GOD IM GUNNA KICK YOUR :mad:

so then she gets in my face and we are yelling and screaming and christina got the rapper away and then another rapper pulled me away

that guy who was with the tall girl...guy who tried to fight my friend then comes over and gets in my face RIGHT when my boys turned their backs....looking for everyone else

everything happened SO quickly
i literally missed everything
i went to get in the guys face and i got pulled away

i turn around and my 3 rapper friends are in handcuffs and my husband is getting talked to by the cops and...
DJ and his girlfriend and security come outside
talk to the cops and everyone gets let go because noone of us started it

then everyone leaves because our manager told everyone to go home
well....everyone left i guess

dominic and i and the Dj and his girlfriend
stayed and cleaned up the club and stuff
then we see mike outside running fromt he cops
and all night long i was getting collect calls from him
in jail!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and as we were walking back down the street to the hotel we were all staying at
this guy walks up and tries to fight my husband because he saw my husband talking to someone he didnt like...

it was a bad night....
my husband and i agreed that ...no more partying
i can go and promote and dance but no partying for us

kimber607

Oh boy!
I couldn't agree more...leave all the drama behind and focus on your family. all of that drama is going to cause big trouble and it's SO not worth it....working things out with your HUSBAND and your CHILDREN

Good luck!
Kim

mrsyac2

Sounds like too much drama for me- I don't have time for stuff like that-

Ok but I do have a question the Mike guy did you say that you have been talking to him for a couple of weeks? and if so your husband is cool with that?

My husband would flip his lid-

MissGorgeous

I am sorry you had a scare. That's never good.
It's nice to see you are evaluating some in your life....

I guess I am struggling.... are you married or are you not?
One second you are "gushing" over some boy....
Then mentioning a husband....
Then mentioning separation....
Then back to being married....

19 with 3 kiddos... that's a lot to take on and as many above mentioned should be the center of your life, not particularly "having your own fun." Making it to their events is very important and admirable....but there is more to parenting then that, which I am sure you know.

Then again, I don't know your situation... or where you are coming from.
So, I am sure you will do what is best for your family.... cause some things are more important then ourselves.

Good luck, be safe...
:flowerforyou:

my husbands amazing
i never doubt that

hes really patient and understanding
so we would be seperated and he still treats me as if we arnt
we still hang out...i didnt move out or anything
we still shared a bed and did the zoo and park and picnics with the kids
nothign changed our home life...nothing changed...cept i was allowed to do what i wanted...
and he made me get work....but i ended up qutting my jobs

i need to be home with the kids
and the go go dancing pays ALOT
its 15$ an hour plus any tips we make
also i take an hour during the night and walk around and do photos and shots and ect
and make good tips doing that

i work friday and sat 10pm-2am
if i feel like it
thats the hours im allowed to be there
but its up to me if i want to come or not

Dave198lbs

I say we all meet at this club next weekend and have some hummus and club soda and rock the house!

mrsyac2

also where do you go that they allow 19 year olds in the clubs to drink-- Where I am at they banned anyone younger than 21 because they cause too much drama in the clubs/bars- Obviously what you went through last night shows why they don't let young bucks in the clubs here.

MissGorgeous

Sounds like too much drama for me- I don't have time for stuff like that-

Ok but I do have a question the Mike guy did you say that you have been talking to him for a couple of weeks? and if so your husband is cool with that?

My husband would flip his lid-

we were....or are seperated (gunna talk about it later tonight)
so i was seeing like 4 or 5 guys during that time

MissGorgeous

also where do you go that they allow 19 year olds in the clubs to drink-- Where I am at they banned anyone younger than 21 because they cause too much drama in the clubs/bars- Obviously what you went through last night shows why they don't let young bucks in the clubs here.

everyone else is over 21
him and i are the only 19 year olds
but i dance there...and promote
and he preforms there and is friends with the DJ
the DJ is actually is recording manager
so he has to be allowed to go in order to preform
also he has fans...and they come to show their support

ChubbyBunny

I am sorry you had a scare. That's never good.
It's nice to see you are evaluating some in your life....

I guess I am struggling.... are you married or are you not?
One second you are "gushing" over some boy....
Then mentioning a husband....
Then mentioning separation....
Then back to being married....

19 with 3 kiddos... that's a lot to take on and as many above mentioned should be the center of your life, not particularly "having your own fun." Making it to their events is very important and admirable....but there is more to parenting then that, which I am sure you know.

Then again, I don't know your situation... or where you are coming from.
So, I am sure you will do what is best for your family.... cause some things are more important then ourselves.

Good luck, be safe...
:flowerforyou:

my husbands amazing
i never doubt that

hes really patient and understanding
so we would be seperated and he still treats me as if we arnt
we still hang out...i didnt move out or anything
we still shared a bed and did the zoo and park and picnics with the kids
nothign changed our home life...nothing changed...cept i was allowed to do what i wanted...
and he made me get work....but i ended up qutting my jobs

i need to be home with the kids
and the go go dancing pays ALOT
its 15$ an hour plus any tips we make
also i take an hour during the night and walk around and do photos and shots and ect
and make good tips doing that

i work friday and sat 10pm-2am
if i feel like it
thats the hours im allowed to be there
but its up to me if i want to come or not

Ahhh... well... your husband seems practically saintly... if not extremely tolerant.
Okay....saintly would be pushing it. :laugh:

mrsyac2

Sounds like too much drama for me- I don't have time for stuff like that-

Ok but I do have a question the Mike guy did you say that you have been talking to him for a couple of weeks? and if so your husband is cool with that?

My husband would flip his lid-

we were....or are seperated (gunna talk about it later tonight)
so i was seeing like 4 or 5 guys during that time

My husband doesn't play and he would be damned if he was hanging out with someone that I talked to regardless if we were seperated hell even divorced it would have to be alot longer until he accepted something like that- Same goes for me it all comes down to respect.

I mean no disrespect to you- but just reading your post and lookin at your profile and you talking about your new confidence you need to be careful- when it comes to everything men,partying, and life in general- You already have 3 babies at a young age im sure you don't want to get prego right away-You don't want to get a bad reputation.You are now a role model if you don't want your kids doing it when they get older then you shouldn't do it either you need to lead by example--

mrsyac2

Sounds like too much drama for me- I don't have time for stuff like that-

Ok but I do have a question the Mike guy did you say that you have been talking to him for a couple of weeks? and if so your husband is cool with that?

My husband would flip his lid-

we were....or are seperated (gunna talk about it later tonight)
so i was seeing like 4 or 5 guys during that time

My husband doesn't play and he would be damned if he was hanging out with someone that I talked to regardless if we were seperated hell even divorced it would have to be alot longer until he accepted something like that- Same goes for me it all comes down to respect.

I mean no disrespect to you- but just reading your post and lookin at your profile and you talking about your new confidence you need to be careful- when it comes to everything men,partying, and life in general- You already have 3 babies at a young age im sure you don't want to get prego right away-You don't want to get a bad reputation.You are now a role model if you don't want your kids doing it when they get older then you shouldn't do it either you need to lead by example--

MissGorgeous

I am sorry you had a scare. That's never good.
It's nice to see you are evaluating some in your life....

I guess I am struggling.... are you married or are you not?
One second you are "gushing" over some boy....
Then mentioning a husband....
Then mentioning separation....
Then back to being married....

19 with 3 kiddos... that's a lot to take on and as many above mentioned should be the center of your life, not particularly "having your own fun." Making it to their events is very important and admirable....but there is more to parenting then that, which I am sure you know.

Then again, I don't know your situation... or where you are coming from.
So, I am sure you will do what is best for your family.... cause some things are more important then ourselves.

Good luck, be safe...
:flowerforyou:

my husbands amazing
i never doubt that

hes really patient and understanding
so we would be seperated and he still treats me as if we arnt
we still hang out...i didnt move out or anything
we still shared a bed and did the zoo and park and picnics with the kids
nothign changed our home life...nothing changed...cept i was allowed to do what i wanted...
and he made me get work....but i ended up qutting my jobs

i need to be home with the kids
and the go go dancing pays ALOT
its 15$ an hour plus any tips we make
also i take an hour during the night and walk around and do photos and shots and ect
and make good tips doing that

i work friday and sat 10pm-2am
if i feel like it
thats the hours im allowed to be there
but its up to me if i want to come or not

Ahhh... well... your husband seems practically saintly... if not extremely tolerant.

he is older...and wiser...and smart
and loves my guts....a little too much haha