Nobody has noticed

iuangina

For me, people noticed that my clothes were starting to sag. So if you buy new clothes they may not notice as quickly.

gottagethealthy

Ohh I feel your pain. I have been going thru the same thing. All thru the holiday's no one has said a word and then we had a family shower and still nothing. So yes we are doing this for ourselves it would be nice if someone noticed but heck with them. I have now turned it into a challenge to myself to see how much weight I will lose before someone notices. I have 4 family wedding's this year and I plan on being smaller for each one. In my family I have always been the biggest so I am looking foward to family wedding pictures when I'm not. Stay on track and you will succeed.

amelia_atlantic

Just keep going!

haha YES! Exactly what I said two seconds after you said it! It's great advice though, truly.

christabeltoria

It took twenty five pounds before people said anything for me, and then some of them wanted to know if I'd lost weight on purpose. Some people may be thinking you are sick, and that's why they don't say anything. Your mirror and your scale are your best friends right now. Because YOU know you are looking FANTASTIC, and that's what counts for now. Congratulations on your success! Keep up the good work!

audram420

As long as you notice. Get yourself a new fitted outfit. :flowerforyou:

Yes! You're feeling great and that's what matters! Plus, a new outfit that fits better might get more people noticing your change!!

Maggie_Pie1

Meanwhile, not one person has said a word. Coworkers, friends, nothing.

In the past, I have lost less weight and had people ask if I had been losing weight. I know I have much more to go, but I would have thought I would have someone notice. Ugh.

Well, I've lost about 90 lbs over the last year and none of my co-workers have said anything to me. But I work with mostly men, and they just don't, in general, say things like that. But, I have noticed that in the past, most of these men wouldn't hold the door for me or make eye contact when passing in the hall, that kind of thing - like I was invisible. Now, they do hold the door open, make eye contact, make conversation in the elevators, etc. So, I take that as a 'compliment' of sorts.

charmainecurrie

people will notice in time...what matters is what you say to yourself!!

yummummum

I know how you feel because I went through that too!!!! But then ALL OF A SUDDEN around 20-25 pounds EVERYONE noticed.
Also, I had not mentioned I was trying to lose weight so I think sometimes co-workers feel funny commenting on your body not knowing.

Also, are you wearing you old clothes still? It is when I went down a size and ditched my old baggy clothes for fitted that people started commenting.

Stick with it. It will come.

BRANDYLYNETTE

Agree that people that see you every day dont notice the drastic changes. I work in the school system....I started in MArch.....and I had lost 15 or 20 pounds by June and noone noticed because they saw me everyday. I was down.....but then....summer came....I walked and walked and walked....and was so excited to get new clothes for the new school year. When I returned....EVERYONE had noticed!!! It took thirty pounds before those around me everyday...noticed. Dont give up or get down.....it has happend to so many of us. Wait til you go to the grocery store and see someone you havent seen for awhile! Their eyes will pop out!!! Keep it up!!!!: )

busyPK

At the 15lbs mark (which I just hit recently) only two people have said something to me - a co-worker that is very fit and exercises like crazy and my friend I don't see that much who is gaining weight slowing and not like it. You will get those lovely comments soon I'm sure!

jeffarthur

have to agree with monkeyfeet...when people see you everyday it's not noticable. it'll come...as long as YOU fell better. Keep it up....it a long road

TheDoctor90

I've put on over 30lbs and my flatmates haven't noticed. But when I went home for Christmas my entire family commented.

Pkiddy

It wasn't until i lost 25 pounds before my co-workers started noticing. And just last night my best friend made the first comment ever on my loss. (my coworkers don't know i'm trying to lose). Perhaps it is because they see me everyday? I feel good and that's all that matters!

laurashapiro

Hi there. I was feeling the same way, and then, one day, people started saying things. Now, let me ask you... have you started pulling out your skinny clothes again yet? I think that its harder for other people to notice our weight loss when we wear the same old stuff, even if it is fitting much looser.

Now, all of THAT said... who cares if they notice! YOU know youre doing a great job and soon enough everyone else will too! Keep up the good work and dont get discouraged!

AzLo85

Sometimes people are hesitant to comment on a person's weight loss because they don't want to seem like they are making a negative comment about how the person looked prior to losing the weight. Perhaps they notice and they are just trying to be polite? Sixteen pounds is significant weight loss - I'm sure you look great!

deliak2010

I was actually just thinking the same thing the other day about nobody noticing my weight loss when out of no where a coworker asked me about it. I had been pretty crabby about the issue all month because nobody else (not even my husband or family!) had mentioned anything about it but don't worry, like many of the other posters on here said, people that see you every day may not notice weight loss/gain so don't let it discourage you and just keep up the great work! God Bless

7xgrandma

Just yesterday I heard someone quote that when you lose weight, it takes you 4 weeks to notice, it takes 8 weeks for your friends to start noticing and it takes 12 weeks for the world to notice. I lost nearly 30 pounds before people started commenting on how great I was looking, even though I feel like I still need to lose another 30 pounds. My sister-in-law said she's always hesitant to mention it because she's afraid to offend anyone by suggesting that they had it to lose, especially if their weight has fluctuated before. Don't be discouraged. Just keep at it and eventually you'll be getting lots of compliments!

jackiebo

It's always nice when someone else notices, but who cares?? When people see you every day, they don't notice. It's probably like when a man has a mustache or a beard and then shaves it, and you think, "what's the matter with him?" LOL Just keep at it, you're doing it for yourself, not others! Good luck.

journalistjen

The people you see everyday won't notice. I don't even notice the weight I've lost, and I've lost 14 pounds. The only person who complimented me was the gym owner who I had not seen in nearly a month because she is working another job.

monkeymouse74

I've enrolled the support of my friends and family. So even though I've only lost 15lbs, they notice because they have a vested interest in my success and are looking for the change. I'm almost evangelical about mfp and getting healthy. I think because I'm so open about it, it give's people around me the freedom to ask questions without fear of being misunderstood. Also My success becomes their success, because they get involved with helping me reach my goal. I have a friend who walks with me everyday and has now asked if I'd like to arrange a liftclub to gym in the mornings. Another is going swimming with me on Sundays, and they all call me on weigh in day to see how I've done. Not everyone feels comfortable with going the way I have, and that's fine. As long as you're doing it the way that helps you reach your goal. But if you dont talk about your journey with people, I can understand why they might not be to comfortable commenting on your success.

berv0009

the people you see everyday are usually that last to notice, but if you run into someone who hasn't seen you in a while they will notice right away...:flowerforyou:

This!!

Keep working hard -- and the most important thing is to remember you are doing this for YOU!!! Soo as long as you feel great, try not to let it get you down!!! I know it feels good to hear - but it'll come!!!!

pucenavel

For me, it would be really awkward to ask a female co-worker if she's lost weight. In this day and age, it can be misconstrued as sexual harassment.

The line between complimentary and creepy is rather vague....

jrussoalesi

The only person that needs to notice is you! It actually deters me when people start commenting. I yo yo a lot. People never say, "
hey Jennifer you must be putting on weight, but they are quick to ask when I lose. I think folks just don't want to hurt people's feelings by mentioning it in your case. Remember 15 lbs is one dress size, so the next 5 your friends and coworkers will be FOOLS not to notice it. Check yourself out tonight in the mirror and BE PROUD! 16 lbs is awesome - Congrats from the ATL! Keep up the good work!

katherinemm31

Sometimes people give subtle compliments instead of saying things like, "Hey, you've lost weight! You look great!" because they don't want to offend you by implying you looked bad before. Has anyone told you, "You look really good today!" or, "That outfit looks nice on you"? If so, they might be noticing more than you think. Just a thought.

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Beth720

Have to remember who you are doing this for...YOU!!!! The praise from others feels good but putting on jeans several sizes smaller is better than any compliment someone could pay me!! Keep it up they WILL notice Good Luck!!!

THIS!!!!

Jipples

Not true babe......YOU'VE noticed. While we all look for outside affirmation, you're recognizing of your progress is most important. During the times that you maybe felt guilty for eating this or that, or maybe felt miserable in your own skin because your clothes don't feel the same, it was YOU dealing with and feeling that anguish. You need to embrace your success thus far and keep doing what you're doing.....the outside recognition will come.

MochaMixAZ

It could be that they have noticed, but don't know how to bring it up nicely. It's one of the things that make people uncomfortable. A simple, "WOW, you look great!" could be construed as, "Man, you looked terrible before!"

If you're brave, maybe hop into the office one day, grinning, and say, "I JUST HIT MY 15 POUND LOST MARK!!!!!!" I guarantee a little tooting of your horn will open up the lines of communication.

AND - if that's not your style - wrap yourself in how good you are feeling, keep going, and enjoy all the benefits you listed.


Oh, and another note - my fiance never says a word when I lose. But he never says a word when I gain - so it's win-win. I'd have to kill him if he said, "Hmm... have you been putting on a few pounds lately?"

madamepsychosis

If people haven't noticed, it's probably because they see you every day. I always find that if I've lost weight and bump into someone I haven't seen in a while, it's one of the first things they comment on.

They also might have noticed, but feel like it would be impolite to say so. Some people don't like saying 'Have you lost weight?' because it infers they thought you were fat before and people can be really overly sensitive, even when it's a compliment. Don't be disheartened. You've said yourself that you look and feel better and I'm sure the further you go along, the more people will HAVE to say something.

snkojoian

I am one of those people who don't notice until someone has lost a lot of weight. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I never pay attention to people's bodies, it is their faces that I look at. Also, I'm hesitant to comment on weight because I know how touchy people are about their weight. Don't waste another minute thinking about it. Enjoy looking and feeling good for yourself!!