ever been told you werent good looking?

mickipedia

My ex decided to tell me every day how fat and unattractive i was and when i finally had enough of him and left his response cut me really deep.. which is why i'm here..

He said "i thought dropping my standards and going for a nice girl rather then a pretty one would mean i won't get hurt"

That hurt.

Ya can I have his address so I can punch him for you???

Ha he's not worth it.

I realise now that the only reason he said these things was so that i felt too insecure to leave him.. he bullied me into believing that i wasn't good enough for anyone and that i had to stay with him or die alone.. its a pathetic tactic and i am so glad i got away from him while i could.

Sianarella

Oh I’ve been told I’m the grenade of the group.
I used to hang out with a group of people who always made snide comments but it wasn’t until we fell out over something else that I realised how damaging they had been to my self esteem. So I’m glad I don’t see them anymore.
My ex used to always say I was ugly and fat and if I didn’t have him I wouldn’t have anyone.
Part of me really wants to loose weight to show people that under all of this there is someone pretty inside.

janessac

My dbag ex tried to say that I "wasn't hot anymore" as an excuse for cheating...3 times! :grumble: And he wasn't exactly prime material himself :noway: Anyway it didn't do anything for me in terms of motivation because at the time I was only 130lbs so I wasn't entirely sure what the insult meant lol. My nasty 'friend' once commented that she was so glad she had such a nice "ugly friend" when we were getting ready to go out :frown:

Edit: funny enough I haven't had any insults since I gained weight :laugh:

GrahamBarwick

i used to get called oliver hardy when i was big, putting people down only adds to there problems. :mad:

havingitall

My ex husband told me that....then when he say me after I lost 80+ lbs his eyes almost popped out of his head..

But he is an ex for a reason

katloaf

yes, frequently when growing up - now if I walk past people in the street, I'm convinced they are all laughing at this hideous looking woman. I've never had anyone other than my husband tell me I'm beautiful.

I still have awful self-esteem and zero confidence, but hope to change that one day. My husband and kids tell me I'm beautiful every day

GrahamBarwick

My ex husband told me that....then when he say me after I lost 80+ lbs his eyes almost popped out of his head..

But he is an ex for a reason

serves him right lol.

When i was 17 stone i was on holiday in dom republic and my ex cheated on me, my self esteem was the lowest ever and my catalyst for me getting my bum in gear and losing weight.

I'd love her to bump into me now or maybe have seen me on Hollyoaks on a tv commercail athough she prob wouldn't recognise me now lol

BlackmetalCoffee79

I personally don't find myself as very attractive at all, but i can't remember really ever being told i wasn't. Maybe back in high school or something, but i don't recall.

saturnine15

I have been barked at, called a dog, guys would loudly pretend to ask me out and then laugh amongst themselves...um, a family member opened my bedroom door without knocking one day while I was getting dressed and when he closed the door said " I thought I saw a walrus"...to the other people in the house. Needless to say it was difficult to come out of that room without feeling humiliated.
My favorite are the "friends" who feel it would be a good idea to tell you all of the awful things others say about you.

Darlingir

I was told I was ugly once....but as a kid I was mostly made fun of for being fat.

♥ChUbByCoyLe♥

Judging by your photo, she needs glasses. You are HOT!!!!

Yep, been told i wasn't good looking before, but who cares? They were as ugly as a bulldog chewing a wasp

NoAdditives

This probably sounds so conceited or maybe I shouldn't even post this, but no I've never been told I wasn't good looking.

Same here.

Darlingir

I have been barked at, called a dog, guys would loudly pretend to ask me out and then laugh amongst themselves...um, a family member opened my bedroom door without knocking one day while I was getting dressed and when he closed the door said " I thought I saw a walrus"...to the other people in the house. Needless to say it was difficult to come out of that room without feeling humiliated.
My favorite are the "friends" who feel it would be a good idea to tell you all of the awful things others say about you.

That has to be the most horrible thing i ever heard....((hugs))

BAMFMeredith

I guess the only time I've been flat out told I'm ugly or whatever was in middle school...and I mean...it was middle school. Everybody's a d!ck in middle school.

Vench

Quite often, but I've accepted a while ago that I'm fugnasty.

DietingMommy08

Ive never been told I wasnt good looking.

I do get the occasional you gotta pretty face (That whole "you gotta pretty face for a big girl" comment)

Never that i wasnt good looking tho...

rammsteinsoldier

I have been told I wasn't good looking and it hurt a lot. I look back and realize that it was their lack of confidence that caused them to put me down but at the time I was really upset.

I have definitely gotten more confidence since starting MFP but still have a long way to go before I will be able to just blow off someone saying I am gross.

DietingMommy08

I have been barked at, called a dog, guys would loudly pretend to ask me out and then laugh amongst themselves...um, a family member opened my bedroom door without knocking one day while I was getting dressed and when he closed the door said " I thought I saw a walrus"...to the other people in the house. Needless to say it was difficult to come out of that room without feeling humiliated.
My favorite are the "friends" who feel it would be a good idea to tell you all of the awful things others say about you.

That has to be the most horrible thing i ever heard....((hugs))

Or when you have those friends that talk about how "ugly" other friends are...
Kinda makes you wonder what they say about you.

sculley

I have been told plenty of times in my life that I was ugly....Picked on ALOT during my middle school years. I was the type of girl that they would tell me they liked me and then go laugh with their friends because they thought it was funny to play a joke like that on someone and get their hopes up. I used to be told that I had a huge forehead!..... It sucked

Dtho5159

Yes... All the time in school.... Didn't date anyone until I was 17 and wound up with a REAL winner :grumble: Then I found my husband when I was 18 and he was the only one who EVER told me I was pretty..

Fockertots

I once had a guy friend, who claimed that he was my BEST guy friend, look me in the face and say, "Sara, we both know you're a gorgeous person on the inside. As a guy, and I say this because I'm your friend, you'd be so pretty if you lost weight. Cause you've got a good heart, I mean you'd be the perfect package if you were pretty on the outside too. I mean, I like you now, but... well... you know what I mean."

Uhhhhh..... not really. And we're no longer friends.

hiker282

Nah, but I can never be told how good looking I am enough, so bring it! I know you wanna touch the beard. Go ahead! Touch it! It's okay!

saturnine15

I have been barked at, called a dog, guys would loudly pretend to ask me out and then laugh amongst themselves...um, a family member opened my bedroom door without knocking one day while I was getting dressed and when he closed the door said " I thought I saw a walrus"...to the other people in the house. Needless to say it was difficult to come out of that room without feeling humiliated.
My favorite are the "friends" who feel it would be a good idea to tell you all of the awful things others say about you.

That has to be the most horrible thing i ever heard....((hugs))

Aw it's ok. It has given me walrus-like thick skin. :P Thanks though. Awful right?!

VirginiaWoof

In high school I used to get bullied quite a lot...there was a group of girls who used to write 'dog' on my stuff. They also used to sing 'I like big butts and I cannot lie' whenever I walked in to the room. One day they stuck a sticker saying 'wide load' on my *kitten* and then pulled down my shorts in Physical Education to highlight to the whole school just how 'fat' my *kitten* is.

I was also out clubbing and a guy came up to talk to me. A few seconds later his friend walked up to him and said 'what the hell do you think you're going? she's absolutely rank'.

When I was very slender I overheard two guys saying that I looked like a 'f***ing rank skeletal freak'.

I had a guy friend say to me 'i know you think you're gorgeous but I don't think you're that great to be honest'. He was a close friend and I was shocked that he felt the need to bring me down in such a way. I don't know why he thinks that I believe I'm 'gorgeous' anyway.

Obviously I've had other comments but these are the ones that stick in my mind. I try not to take any of them to heart.

DietingMommy08

I once had a guy friend, who claimed that he was my BEST guy friend, look me in the face and say, "Sara, we both know you're a gorgeous person on the inside. As a guy, and I say this because I'm your friend, you'd be so pretty if you lost weight. Cause you've got a good heart, I mean you'd be the perfect package if you were pretty on the outside too. I mean, I like you now, but... well... you know what I mean."

Uhhhhh..... not really. And we're no longer friends.

Wooowww.
Some friend.
Sorry to hear that.

IndyInk

In the physical sense, yes. Many, many, many times.

Sculley and Virginia Woof: I got picked on for it in school too. Then I turned 13, and it stopped for a while. It picked back up again once I graduated college. Women never call me ugly. It's always men. I ignore it.

CoryIda

I spent the first 27 years of my life being told I was unattractive. Examples...

My father: "With that frizzy red hair and those freckles and red skin, no one will ever think you're pretty."

My first boyfriend: "I don't think you're pretty, you just have great boobs."

My (almost) ex-husband: "I don't find you attractive, but I am attracted to you anyway."


It makes it harder to believe when people tell me otherwise now, but I'm working on it.

carlynn13

My son was very upset because this mean kid at school called me ugly. He was so sweet, and told me that he's stupid, you're beautiful Mom.

Fockertots

I once had a guy friend, who claimed that he was my BEST guy friend, look me in the face and say, "Sara, we both know you're a gorgeous person on the inside. As a guy, and I say this because I'm your friend, you'd be so pretty if you lost weight. Cause you've got a good heart, I mean you'd be the perfect package if you were pretty on the outside too. I mean, I like you now, but... well... you know what I mean."

Uhhhhh..... not really. And we're no longer friends.

Wooowww.
Some friend.
Sorry to hear that.

Oh yeah. Thing is...... I am a pretty girl. Eff him. I don't need people like that in my life anyway.

IndyInk

I spent the first 27 years of my life being told I was unattractive. Examples...

My father: "With that frizzy red hair and those freckles and red skin, no one will ever think you're pretty."

My first boyfriend: "I don't think you're pretty, you just have great boobs."

My (almost) ex-husband: "I don't find you attractive, but I am attracted to you anyway."


It makes it harder to believe when people tell me otherwise now, but I'm working on it.

First off, you're gorgeous. Secondly, my Dad has always hated my hair, and still hates it to this day. (You can see it in my profile pic.) He told me he was ashamed to be seen in public with me because my hair was so ugly. I love him, but he's totally full of crap.