ever been told you werent good looking?

susanloveszumba

i was raised by my mom as the ugly one compared to my sister. just yesterday my mom was trying to convince me that i am pretty. so strange that now she is trying to reverse the damage that she did to my self esteem so long ago! it doesnt work well in that order!

susanloveszumba

I'm only told I'm sexy/beautiful/pretty when someone wants a booty call.

been there!!!

SwagataaDutta

i told my colleagues that i was the most sought after gal in college, but they didnt believe , coz they saw me as this fat, ugly gal....now that i have lost weight and look good again, all of their attitudes have changed! They are in awe of me now and accept that i really look good!!

UltraRoyal

@DeeJTj.......shes not worth knowing, so keep her on the lock off. She showed her true self. And you look good to me....

cloud2011

I have been told I'm unattractive or plain or ugly since I was in elementary school. Even now being married, my husband's dad has informed me if I have another baby I won't be allowed to eat at their house (our two kids are only fourteen months apart and the baby is eight months old). When we were dating he informed me that it was good his son found a plain girl so he wouldn't get too distracted. In my family I consider myself the "ugly" sister (there are five of us).

People are crazy. You're very pretty...I don't understand why anyone would say that to you.

I'm also from a family of 5, so I understand comparing yourself. I'm pretty sure my mother thought I was the least attractive of my sisters. My youngest sister especially was very cute, and people used to tell me all of the time. And, the girls would crawl out of the woodwork for my one of my brothers.

In any case, I think the whole family dynamic can play tricks with your mind.

sarahbear1981

I've never been told I was ugly. However, I have been told multiple times that I have such a pretty face and if I would just lose some weight I would be beautiful. I am often called cute. Only two people in my life have ever told me I'm beautiful. My mom and a really good guy friend. My boyfriend thinks I'm pretty though so that's all that matters to me. Honestly one of the small reasons I started this journey was so I wasn't the fat friend anymore...

foodjunkie26

Yes...since I was a little girl. I had a horrible time at school from all the kids and then I would come home and hear it from my mom. Now that i'm married I still hear it from my husband every now and then when he is upset:( I guess thats why I always take photos from a distance and the main reason why i'm trying to lose weight and get in shape. Every holiday at his family's house is my worst holiday. His aunt will catch me getting a plate of food and she will scream in her "degrading voice", "WOW! If anyone wants any food they had better get it now...Debra is in the kitchen". Or she will bring desert and say, " You better hide this from Debra r there won't be none left". My least favorite is..."Matthew Debra must be saving all the food in the house for herself because you are way too skinny".

fiberartist219

Thanks for posting this. I've been the idiot before that has called someone ugly. It usually happens when I want to distance myself from someone. Obviously, for every person I thought was "ugly" there really was someone else out there that thought they were hot stuff. I can think of three guys off the top of my head that I find utterly unattractive, but each one of them has a gorgeous woman that finds him to be the hottest guy ever.

I have been told over the years both pretty and ugly comments. In high school, everyone said I was a "dirty scrub." More recently, the ugly comments are more along the lines of "are you pregnant?" I have also gotten lots of pretty comments though. My hair seems to be popular, but even then, when I was a child I got "I'd rather be dead than red in the head" comments all time. I get a lot of comments about my skin, both good and bad. My face shows very openly whether or not I feel healthy. I try to wear makeup so that it's more consistent, but somehow everyone can figure out when I look tired or sick. It's like my pale skin turns gray or something.

I could probably go on and on all day about every nice or horrible thing anyone has said to me, but the moral of the story is that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. It is incredibly subjective. I hope that each of us can find the people that think we are beautiful and keep them close. Disregard what anyone else has to say.

I look the way I look as a result of what I want to do. I think I might grow my hair longer because everyone seems to like that, and I try not to wear holey or ill fitting clothes, but otherwise, I do what I want and I don't care what others have to say about it.

triciaj66

I was told I was chunky since I can remember, I guess when you get past a certain age is not cut anymore...girls at school would make fun of me and try to hurt me in the bathroom.. guys well lets just say I had no boyfriends in school.. I woke up one day 2 years ago and stopped saying i was going to do it and just did it.. I just wish I would have done this years ago..that is what keeps me going.. I don't want my kids to go though what I did.. :happy:

rovernio

when i used to be chubby they said i was cute now that i workout and look like i workout they say you look hot.

asgard825

Big boned--handsome face "but"-- the usual things people say to fat kids that they think are compliments

mrFerris

I'm only told I'm sexy/beautiful/pretty when someone wants a booty call.

Hmmm . Simple answer to that. The booty store is closed for renovation.

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

again, i am really surprised at all the responses! i was expecting this thread to die early!

most of you say how you have been told you were ugly or whatever yet you have husbands and wives.. im 27 and not married... i think im single for life!

but i dont think something is wrong with me... im just sayin.. some of you guys seem to be VERY hard on your own opinion of how you look and you have NO reason to feel anything but GREAT about yourself!

I wasn't married until 30.

Hey young ladies please stop making me jealous. I'm already 33 but still single & my ex-fiance had just left me for another woman for the 2nd time around.

allisonshaw710

My mom tells me I'm a "diamond in the rough" - I think she means it as a compliment/motivator, but I just think "why am I in the rough?"

laineyluma

I am always told that when they can't find a valid insult. Always resort to either "fat" or "ugly", sad really.

Amy_nz

I'm very not a looker - got a funny face and not in a good way. Plus I'm fat - ugly and fat is a bad combination! (The fat thing is changing though, one kilo down and only about a billion to go.)

BUT I'm nice, I'm friendly, I can sometimes throw out a good joke or two, and I'm lucky enough to be around people who value character above appearance. Some insults were thrown my way as a young'un, but nothing that I really took to heart. Now if I get any comments it's on my good qualities. I have quite a robust little self-esteem!

MUByM

Yes a lot of times because of my weight. My ex boyfriend didn't want me anymore because of my weight and he was fat himself. Crazy how I ended up marrying someone that was half his size and better looking.

jmvmisc24

Im not very fat but i have been told my weight is a problem for some guys. ALso i have a health condition called strabismus that occurs when i intensely exercise or stress my body. i had surgery to fix it and yes people treated me like i was more of a person. When the lazy eye crops up people just want to laugh and taunt or not meet me in the eyes.

ngory07

All the time when I was younger....ppl probabaly thought it when I got older. Since losing 150 lbs guys and I've noticed girls treat me better. I get hit on and women seem friendlier but then I get the snarky stares sometimes.

smantha32

Yup. All the time. I'm ugly. Sad but true. Oh well, I guess.That's why I settled for the loser I'm married to and spend everyday miserable. I let other peoples opinions define my life. Want to see what I look like? There's another pic in my profile. Enjoy.

Yeah I looked at your pic. Stop telling yourself this, because you're not!

PeaceLoveVeggies

I heard it A LOT when I was a kid, mostly when I was around 11 and 12 years old. It stopped for a while, then when I hit 19 yrs old, it started all over again. I still hear that I'm ugly as *kitten* from time to time.

People have even told me to go kill myself or jump off a bridge because the world would be better off without my ugliness plaguing it.

Go figure.

shreyaj

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND! Same thing happened when I was a little younger and with my cousins. I was the ugly duckling of the group Guys say I'm "hot" just to see how far I would go. I just laugh and tell them "yeah I'm more like luke warm"

I'm sad now all over again

Ugh, people are such freaking jerks, like the other's said NOT ugly you are beautiful! Only time someone called me ugly wasn't to my face there was this guy that was mutual friend's with a lot of my friend's they were at a bar one night (I wasn't there) when one of them found out I was roommates with one the girl's he went off on this ridiculous tangent about how I was ugly, loud, and obnoxious, thankfully I have awesome friend's who didn't take his crap, but it really hurt my feelings! I never did anything to this kid and it was hurtful I must admit, but I learned to shrug it off because he's just a worthless hater!

cjpg

my journey has never been about attention. it's always been about health.

but i would think it's naive to believe someone could go through their lives without being told they weren't good looking, by 'someone's' perspective out there.

lr8812

Once... when I was around 13. It was gym class, I was sweating... my hair was a mess. I was chubby and short then... so that day, I didn't look the best. A kid was like, you know you're ugly? Ew. Look at you! I took it hard at first, but you learn to laugh it off eventually. Looking back, it's quite funny! I couldn't care less what people have to say about me. I look good in my own right and will live confident. Plus I'm in the best shape of my life!

DevanEve

I've never been told I'm ugly flat out but there have been some comments...

My sister once told my boyfriend at the time, "Wow. You should've seen Devan back in the day, she was beautiful when she was thin and would dress up." That kinda hurt so I asked, "What does that mean?" Then she replied with, "Oh you know what I mean. Back then when you really cared about your appearance."

That hurt ... pretty bad. I think the reason it hurt so bad was because my sister said it. It's just comments like that, that I receive from other family members also.

abigailm83

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!

There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.

I second this

megmo_7

I get told this all the time! I used to be attractive and tiny but due to an injury and medical issues i packed on the weight. People laugh at me and moo at me and tell me to stop eating fast food. I havent eaten fast food since I was 14. People are ignorrant and rude and do not realize the pain people are going through. I think the biggest kicker for me was a very serious relationship I was in (5 years), he told me he want to have a friends with benefits on the side until I was hot again. Now that my meds are being reduced I am slowly losing the weight.

xXHeatherRaeXx

Sounds to me like your "friend" has a thing for you, she just went about it in a very rude, immature, and hurtful way. You're a really nice looking guy, so don't let what she said get to you because comments like that can demolish a person's self-esteem (been there/done that). I'd definitely weed out negative people like her from my life if I were you.

agentscully514

oh gosh yes. When I was in junior high and high school (in the 80s!) I was extremely awkward and funny looking. You can see my hair! I had an orange afro and huge glasses and I was a huge nerd. it was bad. The boys I knew all made fun of me for how I looked. They had names and even songs. And with fairly regular frequency, random boys on the street would make loud comments. Sometimes they made barking noises at me.

None of that has happened in a LONG time, but I will never forget. not ever.

ACEgirl1

At the wedding reception for my first marriage, a woman came up to my new MIL and said, "Oh, have you met Shelby? (Shelby is my sister) She's the pretty one!"

I can laugh now, but at the time, it really hurt. :explode: