ever been told you werent good looking?
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I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.
I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!
There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.
Yup I totally agree.....gorgeous. NO WAY you are the ugly friend....I agree..beautiful0 -
I was told I was pretty...not beautiful....just pretty
I was working in a barber shop one day and this guy came in and said that they should have beautiful people working there....0 -
When compared to my siblings, I've been called the fat one or the ugly one many times by many different people from when I was a child up to this past summer. I think it bothers me more now than ever.0
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I've been told I'm hideous, revolting, ugly.. And I've been told I'm pretty, cute and all that as well. Unfortunately, it wasn't until my mid twenties the nice comments started to stick. I would forget whatever compliment I might have been given, thinking they were just saying it to be nice... And still dwell forever on the insults, instead of writing them off the same way ("only saying it to be mean").
Initially, the ugly-comments what part of what fueled my love-hate relationship with food, but now I've learned to take compliments. I'm also lucky enough to have some supportive friends helping me keep my head straight and not take one persons opinions to seriously. I mean, if I'm not attracted to someone, and right now..If they're not my boyfriend, why would I care that I'm "ugly" to them? It's a really rude way of saying "you're not my type", really. And if they're rude, they're not my type either.0 -
Yes. And this girl doenst sound worth knowing0
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I live in the UK and some of the guys here are HORRIBLE. I've been called ugly, fat, dog, doghead, heard them say 'nahhhh' (as in to go near me). Ive had food thrown at me on a night out with them saying 'eat that you fat cow'. I've had stuff like 'oh my god you're really pretty......HAHA AS IF YOU FAT *****' Umm I could go on and on and ON AND ON!! I've had so many horrific incidents. They really are s**theads!!
But you are so pretty..why would men behave like that? I'm sure they are upset because they have tiny ****s..0 -
I am thankful she was honest.
How unloving was it of me to let myself go, knowing that when we married, I was a guy in peak condition?
Love is neither blind nor unconditional.
We've been married 28 years and she's in peak condition and expects to be equally yoked.
If I had not lost the fat, she would have divorced me for sure.
And I would have had ONLY myself to blame.
Further, not that it would ever be, but if she was the fat one, same deal.
I could never be married to that.
In the dark, all cats are not grey.
:noway:
Thank GOD my husband doesn't think this way!
seriously!!!!!!!!!!! my husband loves me for me and THANK GOD for my husband not thinking that way!! luckily some people out there know beauty isnt just whats on the outside
The only thing I could think of is how shallow is this marriage? What happened to "for better or for worse"? This is one of the reasons why divorce has risen - people just don't understand that love is deeper than the looks of your mate.
Tell me about it! But, somehow they've made it 28 years...0 -
Yes, my whole life. My brother was especially cruel. Even though I was a kid then it is still hard to get over that. It's funny that my mom never made him stop or apologize to me. Boys in school were bad too, especially Jr High. I still have the worst memories of that period of my like. It has taken me 46 years to think I may not be so bad after all, but that is only on good days.0
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Of course I have never been told that. I don't associate with people who would say that! WTF is wrong with her????? She wants to be "friends"? Friends would never be mean like that. If she did feel that way, she needs to keep her mouth shut.
I'm sorry that you were treated that way. I would NOT hang with her and I would tell her that I didn't think she was good enough to hang with me.
Sorry, but this post really got to me. I really wonder what people are thinking when they open their mouths.0 -
And how is someone who tells you that you arent good looking your "friend"? Thats horrible!
I used to be told that I had "such a pretty face". Translation: the rest of you is not so hot. Women get pretty mixed messages about what is beautiful. We start out thinking the epitome of beauty is our Barbie doll. If a Barbie were build to scale, it would have the bust of a grown woman, the hips of a teenager, and the waist of a child. Pretty unrealistic.
As teens we become interested in fashion mags... when I was a teen the modeling industry was into the "waif" look. I'm doomed there.
Then we get older and dont have a clue what we are supposed to look like.
After all that programming we get told that "noooo, being skinny isnt healthy. men actually like curves. being thick is a good thing. blah blah blah"
Too confusing. Im feeling comfortable now.... getting there anyway. My wonderful fiance met me when I was chunky and loved me the way I was. Not to say he isnt thrilled with how I look now! What matters is what You think of you. Everyone else can piss off.0 -
I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.
I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND! Same thing happened when I was a little younger and with my cousins. I was the ugly duckling of the group
Guys say I'm "hot" just to see how far I would go. I just laugh and tell them "yeah I'm more like luke warm"
I'm sad now all over again
You've been getting wrong information from all of these people...from your pic, you are very pretty. You have a wonderful smile, too. So, I don't get why people would say that to you, except if they have some other motive.0 -
And the reason is HONESTY about what we each need in a relationship.I am thankful she was honest.
How unloving was it of me to let myself go, knowing that when we married, I was a guy in peak condition?
Love is neither blind nor unconditional.
We've been married 28 years and she's in peak condition and expects to be equally yoked.
If I had not lost the fat, she would have divorced me for sure.
And I would have had ONLY myself to blame.
Further, not that it would ever be, but if she was the fat one, same deal.
I could never be married to that.
In the dark, all cats are not grey.
:noway:
Thank GOD my husband doesn't think this way!
seriously!!!!!!!!!!! my husband loves me for me and THANK GOD for my husband not thinking that way!! luckily some people out there know beauty isnt just whats on the outside
The only thing I could think of is how shallow is this marriage? What happened to "for better or for worse"? This is one of the reasons why divorce has risen - people just don't understand that love is deeper than the looks of your mate.
Tell me about it! But, somehow they've made it 28 years...
My wife needs a fit husband, because fat is a major sexual turn off.
REALITY - hello.....
And rather than kill me with kindness and lies, she told the truth.
People who don't value truth are the ones getting divorced, cheating and in unfulfilled relationships.
Think People!0 -
Not to my face but I learned not give a damn what other people think of me:)0
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I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.
I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!
There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.
This!! You are stunningly beautiful.0 -
I'm always the girl with the pretty face and "it's a shame she's so fat" - my husband's friends decided to share this with him one day. I'm always the fat friend and the one that guys want to be friends with just to get with MY friends. It's annoying. This weight loss journey I'm on is for a few reasons.
1. I want to be here for a long time for my kids and my husband
2. I want to not be the fat friend for once
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3. I want my kids to realize that being healthy can be fun and enjoyable.0 -
Don't be upset. Her words are meaningless. She is obviously unstable.0
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I'm sure plenty of people have thought it, but no - I've not been told that.
Sounds like she's got an elementary school type crush on you.0 -
The mirror tells me everyday but hay ... I have other qualities that many people don't have so swings and roundabouts.
When god gave out looks I could have sworn he said books and got to the back of the queue.0 -
I tell myself every day lol0
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I'm always the girl with the pretty face and "it's a shame she's so fat" - my husband's friends decided to share this with him one day. I'm always the fat friend and the one that guys want to be friends with just to get with MY friends. It's annoying. This weight loss journey I'm on is for a few reasons.
1. I want to be here for a long time for my kids and my husband
2. I want to not be the fat friend for once
and
3. I want my kids to realize that being healthy can be fun and enjoyable.
Also take the satisfaction that one day you will be able to say ... I'm not pretty and fat now, I am gorgeous with a stunning figure.0 -
okay seriously....everyone that is posting that they have been called ugly.....IS NOT UGLY......holyyyyyy jeeze!!! LIKE who is calling who ugly?!?! And on top of that everyone has their own look and everyone has their own taste. I see people that ya they look good...but their not my type or there is no attraction. Its all individual. Overall, its what you think about yourself, tell yourself and know that you are beautiful. Im attracted to confidence and people that know themself.
When I was younger I looked like a repitle (worst eczema ever!!!!) and I was uuuuuugly....after awhile I just stop caring what everyone thought and said, I focused on myself and confidence, took awhile but now I am happy with myself....and if you dont think im attractive.....well hey, thanks for your opinion......and on to the next!0 -
I'd given this guy a ride home and we sat in the driveway talking (I didn't know him all that well...we'd see each other for a week once a year for about 5 years...he was a friend of a friend who'd come for a week vacation once a summer). He said "I don't understand why you don't have a boyfriend." And I replied, "Well, I think it's because not many people find me attractive." And his reply..."Yeah, but you're really smart." So, he didn't flat out tell me I was unattractive, but he didn't argue with it, either. When I gave him this sort of shocked look, he said, "I mean, I'm in no position to lie to you." Nice, eh?0
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I've been told I was unattractive many times. I am the "smart"sister in a family of (3 sisters and 1 brother) beautiful thin people. I would love so much to be one of the pretty people. I am working on my self esteem, which includes losing weight.0
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I'm always the girl with the pretty face and "it's a shame she's so fat" - my husband's friends decided to share this with him one day. I'm always the fat friend and the one that guys want to be friends with just to get with MY friends. It's annoying. This weight loss journey I'm on is for a few reasons.
1. I want to be here for a long time for my kids and my husband
2. I want to not be the fat friend for once
and
3. I want my kids to realize that being healthy can be fun and enjoyable.
Also take the satisfaction that one day you will be able to say ... I'm not pretty and fat now, I am gorgeous with a stunning figure.
Aww thank you so much!0 -
Honestly,
I have never been a guy magnet. Even considering when I was the most fit and I thought I looked good. It is great that you are experiencing more attention. I would take it as a compliment... all the attention.
As for the chic you are posting about.... it appears she is playing games. Glad you already have a feel for the type of person she is.
Sorry she said what she said, even as you noticed her actions don't line up with her words.
Congrats on your loss of 50lbs! Absolutely awesome!0 -
How mean. Obviously she doesn't feel good about herself. Remember it is not how you look but, what is inside.0
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First, I'd tell this girl to go f*&^ herself and I'd only 'hang' out with her if she were there and someone else invited her.
I was never told I wasn't good looking but I was called fat in school. What's funny is, the people who said it were always ugly so while it hurt, it didn't hurt that bad. You can always lose weight but you can't change ugly!
When I lost weight after college I was already dating my now husband. Naturally that's when everyone started asking me out and noticing me. I like the fact that my husband loves me regardless of my weight issues. Though now after a baby I have to lose all that weight over again! Good times lol 0 -
Yup. All the time. I'm ugly. Sad but true. Oh well, I guess.That's why I settled for the loser I'm married to and spend everyday miserable. I let other peoples opinions define my life. Want to see what I look like? There's another pic in my profile. Enjoy.0
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have you ever been told you weren't good looking? if so, did it bother u? or did you think they were an idiot..
a person who i used to hang out with just as friends - she told me that i wasnt even good looking.
it didnt really bother me, but i was shocked to hear her opinion so bluntly like that haha.
the weird thing is, now she wont leave me alone! she is blowing up my phone with txt and "oh lets hang out this weekend!"
she seems desperate now to "hang out" and i always tell her im busy - ill hang out with her as a group, but it would never be a date, i would NEVER date her because of her shallow personality and she kinda sluts it up....
its just amazing to me how much more attention i get from people these days as opposed to when i weighed 50lbs more than i do now.
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blimey she must have needed her eyes testing:blushing: :blushing: :blushing:0 -
I'm only told I'm sexy/beautiful/pretty when someone wants a booty call.0
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