Negative Comments on the Boards

245

Replies

  • avk9802
    avk9802 Posts: 84 Member
    I totally agree with you. Like when I first started mfp I would post things asking for people advise and such and I'd get comments like "I'm so tired of hearing about the 1200 calorie diet" etc. I was like whoaaaa.

    I feel like we're all on here for the same reason and we can all relate to each other so we should be encouraging and uplifting.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Instead of having to click that ignore button arrow for each poster that's overly negative, wouldn't it make more sense for MFP to become the supportive community that it's intended to be?

    You can click the ignore button after you've read a post/comment that you find offensive, but at that point, it's too late- the negativity has been planted in your head.

    Well which do you consider an easier and more realistic approach? Setting users you don't want to hear from to "ignore user" (listed under the arrow next to their name) or controlling what every person who uses the site says before they say it?

    I see people being supportive here all the time. I also see negativity. I accept that because it's kind of how life works. Insisting that everything be supportive and positive all the time is simply not realistic or possible. After all we're people and we're friggin' starving!
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    You can click the ignore button after you've read a post/comment that you find offensive, but at that point, it's too late- the negativity has been planted in your head.

    these aren't the droids you're looking for
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    This is the internet. If you post on public message boards, you should have thick skin. If someone says something offensive to you, ignore them.

    It's a shame MFP does not have an ignore option.

    There is an ignore option now. Click on the down arrow under a user in the forums.
  • YassSpartan
    YassSpartan Posts: 1,195 Member
    Says the guy who posted videos about the alkaline diet

    Exactly my point ^^^

    When I posted the video I didn't say "This is what it is!" It is something I saw and found interesting. In my mind it would make sense, specially since the food they refer to in the video as acidic is actually not the "healthiest" food when it comes about weight loss. So my question, aside from the information being right or wrong and stating so in a more educating way, was it anything that would harm a person? Not at all.

    If the problem is that someone posts something here MUST be 100% right and have an approved certificate from a doctor and specialist, then 98% of all the posts in this site should be removed right away.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    This is the internet. If you post on public message boards, you should have thick skin. If someone says something offensive to you, ignore them.

    It's a shame MFP does not have an ignore option.

    Not everyone has thick skin. Some people turn to these boards becasue they do not have people in their lives who support them through their fitness goals. When those people get bullied and hurt on here, they lose any support system they may have. Words can cause serious damage to someone's life. And un-provoked meanness is never acceptable, no matter where it takes place. I'm not saying we should form some sort of vigilante group that seeks to destroy the nay-sayers... I am saying that if you are here to HELP and SUPPORT people through their fitness goals, make your voice louder than those who are here to be cruel.

    I'm sorry but if your life long fitness and health is not enough motivation to get healthy than you arent going to suceed regardless. People can be all super-happy-supportive all they want or they can be rude-mean-jerkbutts all they want its up to YOU to decide whether or not this is worth it.

    Its up to each individual to make the changes on their own accord, for themselves, for their loved ones, for whatever their reason may be. Those that fail because someone disagrees with someone else's opinion on whether "CLA" is an essential amino acid" "no its not", or "foods can have negative calories" "no they cant", "diet soda makes you fat" "no it doesnt"... well there's just no helping people like that.

    And to be even more clear I do not feel sorry for ANYONE who doesn't want to make changes or finds it "too hard" because their family doesn't support them. Let's have some self accountability here.
  • rubystar07
    rubystar07 Posts: 52 Member
    I have noticed negativity too and took a break from message boards. There were a couple of offensive messages made toward other members that I ended up reporting.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    It's funny you're posting this...I literally JUST finished reading through a post that was 80% people being nasty and rude simply because they disagreed about the infamous "negative calorie foods". My mom always taught me that if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all. Some of these people need to speak to my mom. :wink:

    That post was not people being nasty and rude. It was people disagreeing with the topic of the post.
  • ShapeUpSidney
    ShapeUpSidney Posts: 1,092 Member
    Well I don't know about you people, but I've been shamed into altering MY behaviour.
































    oh, wait...no I haven't
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    This is the internet. If you post on public message boards, you should have thick skin. If someone says something offensive to you, ignore them.

    It's a shame MFP does not have an ignore option.
    actually i think they do(not sure am using mobil) that lil arrow next to the users name
  • MrsSullivan08
    MrsSullivan08 Posts: 274 Member
    It's funny you're posting this...I literally JUST finished reading through a post that was 80% people being nasty and rude simply because they disagreed about the infamous "negative calorie foods". My mom always taught me that if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all. Some of these people need to speak to my mom. :wink:

    Same here!
  • Di3012
    Di3012 Posts: 2,247 Member
    This is the internet. If you post on public message boards, you should have thick skin. If someone says something offensive to you, ignore them.

    It's a shame MFP does not have an ignore option.
    actually i think they do(not sure am using mobil) that lil arrow next to the users name

    Yes, it is, I just saw. Didn't realize that was there lol
  • Acg67
    Acg67 Posts: 12,142 Member
    Says the guy who posted videos about the alkaline diet

    Exactly my point ^^^

    So my question, aside from the information being right or wrong and stating so in a more educating way, was it anything that would harm a person? Not at all.

    You are putting silliness into people's heads which is doing nothing to further educate them, if someone watched that and didn't have the where with all to do a little research themselves, they might actually beleive the video, making them more ignorant to the how things actually work.
  • chauncyrenayCHANGED
    chauncyrenayCHANGED Posts: 788 Member

    Not everyone has thick skin. Some people turn to these boards becasue they do not have people in their lives who support them through their fitness goals. When those people get bullied and hurt on here, they lose any support system they may have. Words can cause serious damage to someone's life. And un-provoked meanness is never acceptable, no matter where it takes place. I'm not saying we should form some sort of vigilante group that seeks to destroy the nay-sayers... I am saying that if you are here to HELP and SUPPORT people through their fitness goals, make your voice louder than those who are here to be cruel.

    OP, you rock. :) Exactly this.

    This and this!
  • PeaceLoveVeggies
    PeaceLoveVeggies Posts: 673 Member
    And the snarky comments have begun. YAY.
  • TheGoblinRoad
    TheGoblinRoad Posts: 835 Member
    Insisting that everything be supportive and positive all the time is simply not realistic or possible. After all we're people and we're friggin' starving!

    Definitely starving. I need another apple. :)

    But I do disagree with it not being realistic or possible. Moderators, or at least the site owner, could close accounts of habitual bullies, could they not?
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
    rude-mean-jerkbutts

    :laugh:
  • RaeLB
    RaeLB Posts: 1,216 Member
    Agreed.

    I think they just feel comfortable behind the safety of their computer to type nasty things... because WOW I'm sure they'd get punched in the face if they had the b@lls to say what they say to someone's face

    When I first joined MFP I was blown away by the supportive community but lately I have noticed a lot of tear-downs (I'm thinking specifically about women's bodies)...I don't know if it is new or if I was not around long enough to notice

    I have a lot of dumb fitness questions to ask but no way would I post them because I would be ripped to shreds
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    rude-mean-jerkbutts

    :laugh:

    <3
  • RaeLB
    RaeLB Posts: 1,216 Member
    And the snarky comments have begun. YAY.

    it was only a matter of time lol
  • ItsJustK
    ItsJustK Posts: 159 Member
    Hey, I heard there is an ignore option. Anyone care to tell me how to do it?
    :heart: :heart: :heart:
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Insisting that everything be supportive and positive all the time is simply not realistic or possible. After all we're people and we're friggin' starving!

    Definitely starving. I need another apple. :)

    But I do disagree with it not being realistic or possible. Moderators, or at least the site owner, could close accounts of habitual bullies, could they not?

    So instead of clicking the ignore button you feel the mods should deactivate people who say things you or someone else considers to be negative?

    This would make for a very bad website and very busy mods working hard to kick off users they need for revenue.

    Again, why not just use the ignore feature if you don't want to read what someone says?
  • YassSpartan
    YassSpartan Posts: 1,195 Member
    You are putting silliness into people's heads which is doing nothing to further educate them, if someone watched that and didn't have the where with all to do a little research themselves, they might actually beleive the video, making them more ignorant to the how things actually work.

    And you still don't get it right? Didn't I say that people, including myself, are not professionals in the field or specialists? And if you are going to talk about research, what kind of research are you talking about? Because if you are as smart as you trying to sound, then you should be aware that the internet is full of useless information as much as good material.
  • MrsSullivan08
    MrsSullivan08 Posts: 274 Member


    auticus - There is an ignore function. Next to everyone's user name in a forum thread there's a little arrow that will open a drop-down box, and the bottom option is "Ignore User".

    Did not know that!
  • I agree
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    You are putting silliness into people's heads which is doing nothing to further educate them, if someone watched that and didn't have the where with all to do a little research themselves, they might actually beleive the video, making them more ignorant to the how things actually work.

    And you still don't get it right? Didn't I say that people, including myself, are not professionals in the field or specialists? And if you are going to talk about research, what kind of research are you talking about? Because if you are as smart as you trying to sound, then you should be aware that the internet is full of useless information as much as good material.
    I don't think he's referring to Google.
  • caretheaton
    caretheaton Posts: 90 Member
    This is going to be my last reply on my own post, because I don't want to somehow continue to fuel any of the negativity that is happening here. I am just going to seek out people who need support and encouragment on other boards, and do my best to give it them :-)
  • YassSpartan
    YassSpartan Posts: 1,195 Member
    I don't think he's referring to Google.

    Maybe he is not, but plenty of people in this site are :)
  • MrsSullivan08
    MrsSullivan08 Posts: 274 Member

    Not everyone has thick skin. Some people turn to these boards becasue they do not have people in their lives who support them through their fitness goals. When those people get bullied and hurt on here, they lose any support system they may have. Words can cause serious damage to someone's life. And un-provoked meanness is never acceptable, no matter where it takes place. I'm not saying we should form some sort of vigilante group that seeks to destroy the nay-sayers... I am saying that if you are here to HELP and SUPPORT people through their fitness goals, make your voice louder than those who are here to be cruel.

    AGREED!!!!!!
  • TheGoblinRoad
    TheGoblinRoad Posts: 835 Member

    This would make for a very bad website and very busy mods working hard to kick off users they need for revenue.

    Again, why not just use the ignore feature if you don't want to read what someone says?

    Using the ignore feature burns no calories. ;)

    I can use ignore feature, but I believe more people are unaware of this option than are aware. It's not so obvious. I acknowledge it's simply a preference issue- I prefer the moderators keep the site full of supportive people, but I know that's just my preference. Yep, they'd be busy, unless more mods were added.

    As for lost revenue, people do leave sites because of negativity. That's also lost revenue, isn't it?
This discussion has been closed.