Angry Deleted Fitness Pals?

MsQt

Wow, isn't it something that when you delete pals that just don't have a good connection with you and they turn and send you hate messages? It's it something that they go out of their way to secretly make a hate statuses about you? Isn't it something how they are still able to follow your journey and make side way comments discounting what you have done? I only keep pals that go hard in the gym or at with at home working outs, are serious able their clean eating, and exchange mega support back and forth. If you post comments about inappropriate things, it's my right to not carry on in conversation or delete you if I see it fit. Yes we all share other things that goes on in our lives because through out this lifestyle/journey we will make friends; but some things are completely unnecessary. I use this site for what is was created for. I track my meals, greet and support my friends, log my workouts, share my success, give tips when I can, and try to lead by example. I've been on this site for a year now and have met many people and I'm thankful for that! I'm happy with how far I've come and cheer on those who are doing just as well; not try to shoot them down. I always give credit when it's due. I don't think it's right at all for you to follow me around through shared friends just so you can try to find something wrong which you won't so you compensate by make things up as you go; but I guess that's called free speech. I say put a little more effort into you and then you'll be happier with yourself. This is how you distinguish the pro's from the wanna be's! I only keep pro's and pro's in progress so that's why you're deleted. Good day!

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myopus

If you feel you're being harassed, you could try messaging one of the moderators; they might be able to help.

bigdawg025

I have done this before... not to you... however... guilty as charged... as far as I know it doesn't break the rules if you call said person out in your own status or blogs... only if you do it on the message boards.

WhittRak

Meh. I don't think I care enough. I know why I am on here, if you want to show support, your gone. That easy.

mea9

It isn't the people who do that who surprise me, creeps are everywhere, it's the ones who go along. I mean REALLY??!! This isn't Jr. High. Do these people have a brain of their own and are this person's values and goals what they're willing to settle for? Because I'm not.

Edit to add: BTW go you for sticking to your goals for so long and develping standards for yourself and the people around you.

Cindy_Fit4Life

SMH, some people never grow up!

Food for thought:
"If people talk behind your back it's because you're ahead of them"

Gwendalyne

So sorry Mel you have to go through any of this! This is a place to be supportive and to help reach our goals. I think you are wonderful friend on here Keep being your wonderful self!

WhittRak

Sorry...if you DO NOT want to show support..lol

therealangd

If someone is the type of person to do that sort of stuff, you don't want to be friends with them in the first place.

You were smart to ditch them. You don't need that type of drama.

angied80

Or when someone just tries to add you in general and you decline them? Sorry, I did not read in the MFP rules just because someone request to be your friend you have t oadd them. I personally have only females on my friends list.. except one. So when a guy tries to add me I decline. I have had 3 diffrent instances where I got a rude email back. Sorry but nothing against you, just my personal preference to have females only.

TriumphNow

That's just ridiculous and childish. You can chose to keep or delete whoever you want. If I were you, I would have an issue with mutual friends allowing the bashing of you or sideways comments about you on their page. Obvious, you push past the negativity and produce results. Keep on keeping on girl

MsQt

It isn't the people who do that who surprise me, creeps are everywhere, it's the ones who go along. I mean REALLY??!! This isn't Jr. High. Do these people have a brain of their own and are this person's values and goals what they're willing to settle for? Because I'm not.

Edit to add: BTW go you for sticking to your goals for so long and develping standards for yourself and the people around you.

Agreed! I amazes me how many people reply to the messiness; which only encourages the mess starter to continue with this daily.

jconnon

I never delete anyone. I happy with my MFP friends but if they feel the need to delete me for their own reasons I wouldn't let it bother me much. I am slowly getting to the right place with exercise and diet, and I repeat slowly. I am not a big rah rah guy as far as posting on everyone's update statuses but I read them all and wish them all well through their journey. I hope that makes me a good enough MFP friend for some.

BrienJD

Interesting dilemma. I have just recently joined and I have thought (not that it will happen) what do I do if I actually end up with so many friends that I can't keep up and give them the attention they deserve? I know on Facebook, it becomes extremely difficult (at least for me) to follow the comments of so many people at times. I am not an avid Facebooker, so maybe I just haven't figured it out. I definately wouldn't want to insult/offend/hurt anyone here by "unfriending" them. I enjoy their support. Something to ponder. talking trash and abuse belittles the person doing the talking.

TriumphNow

Food for thought:
"If people talk behind your back it's because you're ahead of them"
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Yup, that's right.

1WorkoutAtATime

:noway:, people really do this?

Skeemer118

This is not real life. It's not like you know them in person & tell them you won't be their friend. I don't know why people care so much & take friending sites (Facebook, MFP) so seriously. It's not life or death.

MsQt

Or when someone just tries to add you in general and you decline them? Sorry, I did not read in the MFP rules just because someone request to be your friend you have t oadd them. I personally have only females on my friends list.. except one. So when a guy tries to add me I decline. I have had 3 diffrent instances where I got a rude email back. Sorry but nothing against you, just my personal preference to have females only.

I only have females pals.

Gemini_1980

Some people just need to put a little more effort into them and then maybe they will not have so much time to spread messiness throughout:grumble: but we do live with unhappy people in the world and sometimes they like to find others and share that unhapiness:devil: they just betta not come over here with that mess:laugh: :happy:

P.S. I think you are the best:flowerforyou:

_binary_jester_

Much easier with the approach I take. I try and get my friends to delete me.

mrsdizzyd84

It's like junior high all over again, huh? For some people, the internet is their life. They take it all waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too seriously, IMHO.

whit1108

I had the same problem once. I had a friend that posted something about her and her losing weight and i gave her good remarks back and also I shared my success and something i was going through and instead of that person being supportive and maybe concerned and helping me and talk to me between me and her she thought it was a good idea to tell me i had an eating disorder so like 15 ppl could read it and then tell me the only reason i share my weight loss is to get attention and make her feel like ****. When that is not what i was doing at all. The convo got way out of hand and it ended us being not on good terms right now and her unfriended me. This website is suppose to use for tracking good and sharing things no matter if they things you need help with and being there for your friends through there ups and downs with weight loss cause it is a huge mind game. Hopefully one day we can talk it out and explain each side of the eachothers storys.

MsQt

SMH, some people never grow up!

Food for thought:
"If people talk behind your back it's because you're ahead of them"

Love it!

Poetic_

My month and a half experience has been drama free thankfully. I have deleted people along the way, but they hadn't logged on in weeks. I could probably trim a lot of folks I don't interact with.

MsQt

That's just ridiculous and childish. You can chose to keep or delete whoever you want. If I were you, I would have an issue with mutual friends allowing the bashing of you or sideways comments about you on their page. Obvious, you push past the negativity and produce results. Keep on keeping on girl

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This too!

i_love_vinegar

I had someone delete me -- but before doing so, post on my wall, "Im deleting you because I don't like your eating habits and think you are anorexic. bye"

First I was like: :indifferent: and then I was like :mad:

I called the person out on my wall.

If you did something similar, then I think you got what you asked for.

If you simply deleted the people without feeling the need to say why they weren't good enough to be your friends, then...yeah...good for you. You don't want those kinds of friends anyway!

ps: I'm not anorexic just to clarify. I was eating less than 1,200 calories because I'm a legal midget and have never been *that* large.

AwesomelyAmber

I deleted one of my "best friends of 16 years" because she was never on here and I got tired of the "So and So hasn't logged in for blah days, she may need some encouragement". She never mentioned that she knew I deleted her, but apparently stalked my blogs in secret and then used my words of "being so damn tired of the BS excuses people make in their lives" as all about her... People can be crazy... it is what it is :blushing:

mrstotal180

WOW, people take this deleting thing way too seriously!! I have been deleted by a couple of pals who for some reason or another feel that I am not good enough to be their pal...Those are just the folks that I wish to no longer associate with anyway, so no rejection feelings here. I never message them, look for them or anything else again. There are too many awesome pals with awesome results that have the desire to motivate others without having their ego stroked on every post! I love MFP and would still log on if I had no pals on my profile, my schedule is unusual so I don't get the chance to participate on the site as much as I would like, but I joined for a reason and it's definitely not to be someones fan or apart of the in crowd. I want to send a BIG thanks to all my pals that hang in there with me that motivate and support me! I would rather you send me a personal message (one did) than QUIT me. For those that deleted me because I was good enough to Pal but not good enough to keep...THANKS...for QUITTING me....I don't need ya...because you have something I don't...There is no QUIT in me!!!!!!!

LeanerBeef

“Oh well, you smell” That’s what I tell people that get cranky after I’ve deleted them.

I actually do feel bad sometimes but as a wise friend once told, it’s your journey do what works for you….true story.

Nothing personal.

phinners

I had someone delete me -- but before doing so, post on my wall, "Im deleting you because I don't like your eating habits and think you are anorexic. bye"

First I was like: :indifferent: and then I was like :mad:

I called the person out on my wall.

If you did something similar, then I think you got what you asked for.

If you simply deleted the people without feeling the need to say why they weren't good enough to be your friends, then...yeah...good for you. You don't want those kinds of friends anyway!

ps: I'm not anorexic just to clarify. I was eating less than 1,200 calories because I'm a legal midget and have never been *that* large.

Ive never heard of that term 'legal midget', what does it mean?

thanks