Angry Deleted Fitness Pals?

10acity

This is not real life. It's not like you know them in person & tell them you won't be their friend. I don't know why people care so much & take friending sites (Facebook, MFP) so seriously. It's not life or death.

Srrrrrsly. I would never even know if someone removed me as an MFP "friend." I like to be encouraged by others in the same boat and I try to reciprocate, but beyond that.... sorry, but I can't even make myself care.

madameduffay

Much easier with the approach I take. I try and get my friends to delete me.

LOL. Different but effective I'm sure.

MrsSpinks

I think it would be AWESOME to be a legal giant....well maybe better as a guy.
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It's definitely fun being married to one!!

CallmeSbo

How do you know someone deleted you and who it was? Sorry if this is a stupid question. :ohwell:

lol. I was about to ask you. Unless they message you. I have no idea how you 'd know.

madameduffay

Somebody deleted me once with no explanation. At least this was the only person I've noticed. I didn't need one though. At the time, I wasn't being as supportive as she was so I completely understood. I also deleted one person, not becuase it was personal. I just couldn't keep up with her posting and felt like she needed more then I could give. I didn't tell her that though. It's an interesting etiquette question.

It's the same with Facebook. People get very sensitive about things and read into things too much.

elliejmoore

My month and a half experience has been drama free thankfully. I have deleted people along the way, but they hadn't logged on in weeks. I could probably trim a lot of folks I don't interact with.

Ive just deleted people that havent logged on for over 2 weeks...just wanted to share that.....

onedayillbamilf

I've never deleted anyone and got hate mail. My situation was someone ranting on her status whining about me deleting her then making up all kinds of crap about me so that her friends would send me hate mail. She, herself, never sent me anything though.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

It's very unfortunate that people have 'forgotten' the reason for being on MFP. I hate to say this but most females just don't make the best friends, whether in real life or cyber world. As I stated on Monday, this journey is ALL about me. If I had NO friends on here, I would still be doing fine and changing my life for the better. You control who you allow in your circle and if they can't handle that, oh well. Life will continue to go on....

gotta agree on the about me journey. I got to where I needed to by myself. This place and the friends I did make on here are a bonus. If I feel there is no connection, since I try to support my friends, I expect the same in return and will delete if there is no interaction. I also make it very clear up front about that, too.

FireSwan

Really?? :huh:
Ugh, life's way too short for needless junior high drama. Put on your big girl panties (or big boy underoos) and move on!

I'm not the best rah rah cheerleader so I really choose not to have too many friends. If asked, I'll tell you how it is ... good or bad. I'll say congrats when something is great. Or give advice as necessary. Some folks need more than that, so if I'm not meeting that need, then please defriend me...no love lost. (I'm not trying to sound harsh...just matter of fact)

--Don't sweat the petty stuff... and for god's sake...don't pet the sweaty stuff! :bigsmile:

AntShanny

I signed up for MFP for myself...when I first joined I didn't even know you could have "friends" on here! I have a few now, but when it comes down to it I am still here for ME. If I make friends along the way great, if not I have lots of them in real life.

Gabriall

I never delete anyone. I happy with my MFP friends but if they feel the need to delete me for their own reasons I wouldn't let it bother me much. I am slowly getting to the right place with exercise and diet, and I repeat slowly. I am not a big rah rah guy as far as posting on everyone's update statuses but I read them all and wish them all well through their journey. I hope that makes me a good enough MFP friend for some.

amen to this man, I am very much the same...if i can i will offer support advice, if you feel you don't need it any more then im not going to get all upset.. if you add me without a message then thats fine too... i am here for me... if somebody else gains something from me being here too then thats great as well ...i dont have any rules, or stipulations or limitations if you want to be friends with me then thats fantastic, if your near me (unusual cause i UK) then thats great too .. ive spent too many years worriying stressing getting miserable about all this sort of thing .. and yanno what, im too old (its my birthday today lol) for all the *****ing.. positive reinforcement is where it is at

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

I've never deleted anyone and got hate mail. My situation was someone ranting on her status whining about me deleting her then making up all kinds of crap about me so that her friends would send me hate mail. She, herself, never sent me anything though.

that actually pissed me off, because said person had to get minions to do her dirty work. Bull crap. Move ON, people....

getfitdiva

So far I have not experienced it, but always read about people getting upset by being deleted. Sorry you had to deal w/ it. Really this is about your personal journey and it's whatever you decide is positive and conducive to your success. I have deleted a select few who were just over the top having issues, drama, just negative and I don't have time for. I have also been deleted but hey to each is their own - no sweat my pet (in my Urkel voice).

Do you Mel! Do you!

madamepsychosis

I've never deleted anyone and got hate mail. My situation was someone ranting on her status whining about me deleting her then making up all kinds of crap about me so that her friends would send me hate mail. She, herself, never sent me anything though.

Seriously? She was that much of a coward she had to try and rally people to do it for her? Sounds like you're better off without!

heathero76

I got deleted by someone who I thought was a "good" real life friend. She was looking for huge amounts of praise from any source possible and turned to "internet" friends. Plus, there were a ton of double standards with what she said and did and it showed in her MFP activity.

But, my opinion, is that we all have different goals and we all use MFP differently. And I would suggest thinking twice about deleting people you know personally. Good luck to everyone!

melg126

OP - That is bananas that she did that to you... :noway:

I like to have some rapport, laughs and mutual support from my MFP friends.

If that isn't reciprocated... you're toast. :devil: :bigsmile:

bigdawg025

I have done this before... not to you... however... guilty as charged... as far as I know it doesn't break the rules if you call said person out in your own status or blogs... only if you do it on the message boards.

I guess since it doesn't break the rules then it's ok for you to talk badly about people and harass them?

I lost several good friends over that crap... and I'm doing much better now. I never said I was proud of it or that it was "ok". I was in a really bad place for awhile, and it's very sad that I lost the friends I did, but I'm very grateful for the ones who stuck with me as well.

Nicola0000

Ive only deleted people who have driven me crazy by treating it like FB or Twitter. I dont mind a lot of posts if its about food, exercise, motivation etc, but just general crap just annoys me. Ive only ever deleted 2 people. If someone has deleted me (not that ive noticed but you never know!!), then I just think that not everyone always gets along. I may annoy them! Buts its up to them, like it was up to me.

mznisaelaine

I've deleted people because they never interact with me. I have numerous of times supported them, say hi etc and never not once have they return the favor. Then I go and delete them. I pretty sure I've neen deleted as well by others, which my very first MFP friend deleted me, but that's ok I can't get mad at that. She needs to do what's best for her I like to interact with my friends regarding health related topics and just everyday life topics. As long as the support continues I love to read about how people's day went etc. Everyone should be mature about things

heathero76

Girl, I love your phrases! You must have a great sense of humor!

nahralynn

I was deleted recently by someone and not sure why. I commented frequently on their posts, I even joined a challenge that they started but I guess I wasn't good enough? I know they were very religious, and I'm not, but I'm not sure that was a reason. I did send a message because I was confused but I wasn't mean about it, and I never did get a reply back. I don't see why people would get mad though unless it's a RL friend or something.

cygnetpro

That stinks!

I've deleted a few who signed up, asked for friends, and then didn't seem to ever get on again. I'm not too trigger happy-- if it's a week or two of not signing on, I suspect vacation first, lack of conviction second. If it stretches beyond three weeks, then I may give them the boot.

Can't imagine someone getting mad about that, though.

heathero76

Really?? :huh:
Ugh, life's way too short for needless junior high drama. Put on your big girl panties (or big boy underoos) and move on!

I'm not the best rah rah cheerleader so I really choose not to have too many friends. If asked, I'll tell you how it is ... good or bad. I'll say congrats when something is great. Or give advice as necessary. Some folks need more than that, so if I'm not meeting that need, then please defriend me...no love lost. (I'm not trying to sound harsh...just matter of fact)

--Don't sweat the petty stuff... and for god's sake...don't pet the sweaty stuff! :bigsmile:

Girl, I LOVE your comments. You must have a great sense of humor!

madameduffay

I've never deleted anyone and got hate mail. My situation was someone ranting on her status whining about me deleting her then making up all kinds of crap about me so that her friends would send me hate mail. She, herself, never sent me anything though.

This is very strange to me. Why would someone care?

Jipples

I've gotten deleted by a couple of people........I just figure they have their reasons.

ThereWillBeBeautyfrompain

maybe u should say what u want out of your friends in your about me due to pickiness

Wow, isn't it something that when you delete pals that just don't have a good connection with you and they turn and send you hate messages? It's it something that they go out of their way to secretly make a hate statuses about you? Isn't it something how they are still able to follow your journey and make side way comments discounting what you have done? I only keep pals that go hard in the gym or at with at home working outs, are seriousm able their clean eating, and exchange mega support back and forth. If you post comments about inappropriate things, it's my right to not carry on in conversation or delete you if I see it fit. Yes we all share other things that goes on in our lives because through out this lifestyle/journey we will make friends; but some things are completely unnecessary. I use this site for what is was created for. I track my meals, greet and support my friends, log my workouts, share my success, give tips when I can, and try to lead by example. I've been on this site for a year now and have met many people and I'm thankful for that! I'm happy with how far I've come and cheer on those who are doing just as well; not try to shoot them down. I always give credit when it's due. I don't think it's right at all for you to follow me around through shared friends just so you can try to find something wrong which you won't so you compensate by make things up as you go; but I guess that's called free speech. I say put a little more effort into you and then you'll be happier with yourself. This is how you distinguish the pro's from the wanna be's! I only keep pro's and pro's in progress so that's why you're deleted. Good day!

FireSwan

Girl, I LOVE your comments. You must have a great sense of humor!

Thanks! I try to lighten things up once in a while! :flowerforyou:

Jannie2258

I say she is right; and others on this site need to be mature enough to use the site for what it's meant for; to help yourself become healthier...and if u so choose, support others in their journey because we have a common thread...if you are on here to play head games and be hateful, do that somewhere else, if there IS such a place thats appropriate for that behavior(maybe a site called "The Self Haters Club" or something).

I say...YOU GO GIRL! and great job so far in your journey! If you have any helpful fitness tips for ME, I welcome them! I have rods on my spine(full length) and can't bend well, or lift my foot up to put on a sock due to balance and bending issues, but there are things I can do...I just am not knowledgible(sp?) enough on what those are...thanks for being on here, and I will support you in your endeavors in a positive way...take care! :ohwell: :frown: :laugh:

WolffRN

I think you can delete whom ever you choose!! I'm on this site strictly to loose weight, not social hour! I have "met" a couple very nice people who are supportive. I dont want to be someones crisis counselor or morale support for the MULTITUDE of problems they seem to have. This is a WEIGHT LOSS support website, and that is what it should be used for. Ive seen people FREAK out because someone deleted them-seriously??

I also only have females as friends, no offense to men, but I wouldnt work out with a man at the gym either-my husband wouldnt dig it!

N_BEAST_MODE_24_7

I joined this website to better myself and help others! If you not doing the same, then I will delete you. I can't manage a large group of friends on here. The number of real ppl that put in hard work are very small compare to the number of ppl on here that make excuses on why they can't lose weight. I'm not trying to be a part of someone that just wants to have a large fan club! If someone doesn't like it, I don't care! To those that know me, know I take fitness serious.....that's why I'm here