Dr. Phil - Open Marriage

Asheea

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Would one of these help?

Symphony6

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Would one of these help?

Those are beautiful. I love you.

Symphony6

Ahhh, can ya smell the predisposed religious notions of morality?

Smells like... prude.

I wasn't gonna say it. Glad you did..lol.

mrmarius

Meh, no for me but I know some who swear by it. I don't agree with it but I don't judge.

mjf0461

It's a simple issue. To each their own... No judgement, no critism..Keep your personal opinion's out of it..

SammyPacks

To each their own.

saragato

I was an active member for a long distance relationship forum for a year before I left for personal reasons and I came across a lot of couples who, because they could not be physically together and felt like they were holding one another back, would enter open relationships. Some worked but plenty didn't because of jealousy issues that would arise or, in one case, the guy left the girl for the other one he'd been seeing locally. Like any relationship as long as you're both on the same page and both actually agree with what will be going on, and I've also seen it work better if the couple is open with who they are with and when, then it should be alright. However really for strangers or casual sex I would heavily promote condoms and regular STI checking.

Personally I don't agree with open relationships or even ones that are between three people (as was the case with a now ex-friend of mine) but really someone's bedroom business isn't mine to know and if it works and makes them happy without running risk of tearing them apart, then let 'em. An older cousin of mine (I'm talking late 50s) just married another woman not even a year after his wife of some 30-odd years died. A lot of the family doesn't agree with that because they believe it's too soon or he's only feeling what he's feeling because of being lonely, etc but she makes him happy, he makes her happy and their relationship works. Everyone's always going to have their opinions.

Lib_B

certainly not for me. but whatever floats your boat. as long as all involved are of legal consenting age - whatever. i feel the same way about polygamy, homosexuality, etc. i wouldn't want to live that way, so i don't. but i certainly don't judge others who do. everyone deserves love and to be loved and to be as freaky or as uptight and conservative as they want. just stay out of my bedroom and i'll stay out of yours.

Tiggerrick

Wow, I can't believe we rolled this thread and it didn't get locked for content.

I was typing that I would love to be face to face with most of you to discuss this in an open forum - non judgement, just voice opinions. It's discussions like these that make me come back to the chit-chat area. I just wish there was a 'bookmark' feature so that I knew which post was the last one I read.

Marie92281

this is just my opinion and you may not like it but I will put it out there!!

Maraige was designed to be between 1 man and 1 woman. If you are married and you are sleeping with someone else you are comitting adultry and thats wrong!!!! It makes me sick how little people value marriage these days! Where are kids involved in this what example are you showing your kids they may not know whats going on now but they will when they get older.

jimmie25

I understand open relationships. But open MARRIAGE is somehow contradictive. Marriage itself is all about committment and all the eternal love bla bla cr*ap. When open relationships are meant for people like me who get bored way too easily.

Elizabeth_C34

Tiggerrick

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trixirn

oh yay! a second thread

:drinker:
I would typically enjoy spectator sports with a cool alcoholic bevie and possibly an artichoke dip platter. Too bad I'm on a diet.

ooh man, now im craving my jalapeno artichoke dip lol thanks ;p
@seattlerain - its no use trying to reason with her. she was the same way in the Friend with Benefits thread. basically called us all immoral *kitten* and told us to keep our legs closed

This is where a soft pretzel and beer would be good, nice spectator sport food.

Elizabeth_C34

oh yay! a second thread

:drinker:
I would typically enjoy spectator sports with a cool alcoholic bevie and possibly an artichoke dip platter. Too bad I'm on a diet.

ooh man, now im craving my jalapeno artichoke dip lol thanks ;p
@seattlerain - its no use trying to reason with her. she was the same way in the Friend with Benefits thread. basically called us all immoral *kitten* and told us to keep our legs closed

This is where a soft pretzel and beer would be good, nice spectator sport food.

Can I come? I make really good homemade pretzel bread and an amazing german-style homemade mustard! :flowerforyou:

MikeSEA

Can I come? I make really good homemade pretzel bread and an amazing german-style homemade mustard! :flowerforyou:

As long as you don't bring corn. I read that stuff will kill you.

Elizabeth_C34

Can I come? I make really good homemade pretzel bread and an amazing german-style homemade mustard! :flowerforyou:

As long as you don't bring corn. I read that stuff will kill you.

No, only evil tater can kill....

rejs1170

I have no issue with people having a open marriage, at least they are being honest with each other, and they are not cheating on there contract with each other (unless they promised to be exclusive in their vows).
Personally it would not work for me, but that is my decision based on my personal views of marriage. Mind you I am married to a pretty hot lady!

saragato

this is just my opinion and you may not like it but I will put it out there!!

Maraige was designed to be between 1 man and 1 woman. If you are married and you are sleeping with someone else you are comitting adultry and thats wrong!!!! It makes me sick how little people value marriage these days! Where are kids involved in this what example are you showing your kids they may not know whats going on now but they will when they get older.

I'm not saying this is exclusively how it's done but every open relationship I've encountered where the couple is married, they do not have children. Often times this is a temporary 'phase' that the couple will go through and eventually stop once they decide to settle down and raise a family. I'm fairly certain if there was an open marriage going on with children in the home, child services would be called.

Tiggerrick

It's a simple issue. To each their own... No judgement, no critism..Keep your personal opinion's out of it..

But isn't life all about opinions? I mean you don't REALLY know who's right. Ultimately we all die and no one comes back to tell us.

rockerbabyy

I understand open relationships. But open MARRIAGE is somehow contradictive. Marriage itself is all about committment and all the eternal love bla bla cr*ap. When open relationships are meant for people like me who get bored way too easily.

im still in love with my husband, and im still commited to him and our children. family always comes first - always will.

rockerbabyy

Can I come? I make really good homemade pretzel bread and an amazing german-style homemade mustard! :flowerforyou:

you can come if i can have the recipes >.>

MikeSEA

I'm fairly certain if there was an open marriage going on with children in the home, child services would be called.

Why? It's like saying you'd call child services just because you know that any marriage involves *any* bedroom activity with children in the home.

abyt42

this is just my opinion and you may not like it but I will put it out there!!

Maraige was designed to be between 1 man and 1 woman. If you are married and you are sleeping with someone else you are comitting adultry and thats wrong!!!! It makes me sick how little people value marriage these days! Where are kids involved in this what example are you showing your kids they may not know whats going on now but they will when they get older.

This is a fairly narrowly delineated definition of marriage, one based on a specific version of a Judeo-Christian world view. It's not a (traditionally) Mormon version; nor is it how marriage is defined in multiple regions of the world or in various historical periods. Nigeria has a tradition of plural wives, for instance. Chinua Achebe and Miriama Ba have written eloquently on this topic, as have many Chinese authors (from prior periods in history).

The world is a big, varied and amazing place, and human beings have adapted to their surroundings in a variety of ways, including both plural marriage (polyandry and polygamy) and monogamy.

Additionally, that biblical handmaid's tale and the "judge not" part both seem pretty clear that 1) there are acceptable alternatives and 2), to sing a little, "taint nobody's business if I do".

trixirn

Can I come? I make really good homemade pretzel bread and an amazing german-style homemade mustard! :flowerforyou:

you can come if i can have the recipes >.>

I am definitely interested in those recipes! Homemade mustard-yum!

Symphony6

I'm fairly certain if there was an open marriage going on with children in the home, child services would be called.

They might be called..but the person calling would be laughed at. Child services cant do anything about how you choose to spend your alone time with someone. This is sort of what I have a problem with. People who do not conform to other's moral standards are immediately assumed to be endangering their children with some sort of salacious behaviour. Having an open marriage is not endangering the welfare of a child.

rockerbabyy

I'm fairly certain if there was an open marriage going on with children in the home, child services would be called.

Why? It's like saying you'd call child services just because you know that any marriage involves *any* bedroom activity with children in the home.

i was going to ask the same thing.

Symphony6

Can I come? I make really good homemade pretzel bread and an amazing german-style homemade mustard! :flowerforyou:

you can come if i can have the recipes >.>

I am definitely interested in those recipes! Homemade mustard-yum!

See what happens when you mention food on a diet forum? Not even sex trumps it...LOL

janegalt37

Can I come? I make really good homemade pretzel bread and an amazing german-style homemade mustard! :flowerforyou:

you can come if i can have the recipes >.>

I am definitely interested in those recipes! Homemade mustard-yum!

See what happens when you mention food on a diet forum? Not even sex trumps it...LOL

Nice. I really did LOL. Probably because it's true.

KaleidoscopeEyes1056

Honest question: WHY THE *kitten* DOES IT MATTER?!

If these people are happy being in an open marriage, why does it matter what anybody else thinks? That is their decision, not anybody else's. Just like with gay marriage, it's not hurting anybody at all, so why does anybody really care? I see a lot of people saying that it's "wrong" or whatever other word you want to put in place of that, and while it might be wrong to you, not everybody thinks exactly the same, nor should they have to. Your religion dictates that it's wrong for you to be married to multiple people/somebody of the same gender, then don't do it. Not everybody believes the same things as you do, and you need to learn that because in the real world, nobody gives a **** about your opinion when it comes to this.