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  • Glact
    Glact Posts: 9
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    I have no problem if my significant other would want to go to a strip club with me or without me, I do believe that you are with that one person but i also do belive it is hard to expect one person to fill all your needs. with that being said i have never cheated but i think that going out and with friends, strip clubs, watching porn, and just experiments are not all wrong or bad. i think everyone should at least go to a strip club once even if it is just to kill the curiosity.
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
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    Some men actually like to use the excuse that they're "not allowed" by thier significant other b/c they don't want to get crap for not really wanting to go. Not all men like to be teased until thier wallets are empty, but to each thier own, right?

    My husband does this. For everything. If he doesn't wanna do something with his friends, be it going to a strip club/playing paintball/watching a UFC pay per view/whatever, he says that I said he can't or that I said we have plans. It annoys the crap out of me. If you don't wanna go, just freakin' TELL them that. Why do I always have to look like a controlling *****? Rant over.

    As for the strip club thing, I don't care if he goes. I don't think that all women who care are insecure though. I have friends who are very religious and they feel that going to a strip club goes against the teachings of the bible.
  • penelepurr
    penelepurr Posts: 204 Member
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    I've never understood the minds of women when it comes to this kind of thing. I could never imagine being THAT insecure. My boyfriend and I had our second date at a titty bar...... which was my choice. We go quite often, have a few drinks, a few dances, and just have fun. We are human, no matter what we are going to look at the opposite (or in my case same) sex and find beauty or sexual attraction. I would much rather see a beautiful woman taking her clothes off and dance for me than have some, most likely gay, ripped man do the helicopter in my face. :noway: My boyfriend and I are completely monogamous, we don't have an open relationship or three ways, but he, we, or I can go to a strip club and never have a problem with it. A relationship is about love, trust, and commitment. You shouldn't tell your significant other what they are "allowed" to do and expect a good relationship out of it.

    agree with all of this. I don't make excuses for anyone being human and enjoying the nicer things about it. I've seen both dance and I'd rather have the girls too. And I wouldn't have a problem with my bf if he wanted to go. I'd probably invite him to go before he would invite me lol.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
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    As for the strip club thing, I don't care if he goes. I don't think that all women who care are insecure though. I have friends who are very religious and they feel that going to a strip club goes against the teachings of the bible.

    That's my parents. No strip clubs, no porn because their church preaches against them.
  • Ephena
    Ephena Posts: 615 Member
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    I have no problem with my guy going to strip clubs, wouldn't mind going with him at least once to check it out since I've never made it inside one, but I don't have to be there.

    I think time out with friends without your partner is necessary to help maintain a healthy relationship.
  • penelepurr
    penelepurr Posts: 204 Member
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    My wife's response:

    "I don't care where you get your appetite, just make sure you eat in your own kitchen".

    That said, I haven't been to a strip club in several years....I got me a winner!!

    fuh-reakin' awesome :happy:
  • cekeys
    cekeys Posts: 397 Member
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    Never been. Don't plan on going.
  • Daysednconfused
    Daysednconfused Posts: 975 Member
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    I didn't mind my husband going when we were together, but I probably should have considering I found out he drops like $400-$500 each time he goes. My guess is he's getting more than a lap dance.
  • LordBezoar
    LordBezoar Posts: 625 Member
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    Never been. Don't plan on going.

    Ditto to this.
  • vaderandbill
    vaderandbill Posts: 1,063 Member
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    For all of you saying you would choose not to do something because it makes your partner uncomfortable...how far are you willing to take that?

    I just feel like there has to be that middle ground, I've known people who are uncomfortable with a lot of things when it comes to their spouse.

    Girls/Guys night out? (even if its just movies, shopping etc)
    Having a friend of the opposite sex?
    Having porn?
    Or posters of other women/men (like a picture of carmen electra on a car or something)?
    *kitten* (I know someone personally who is uncomfortable with their spouse doing this, considers it a form of cheating) ?

    If this^^^ is true then apparently I shouldn't have ever had a girlfriend/wife!!

    As for the strip club stuff...a couple of thoughts;

    * I think guys that go out and brag (lie) to other friends about all the stuff the dancer did to them in the VIP room and what he could've done tot he dancer tend to get SO's upset.

    * Also, I think it has lost is luster recently for stag parties as other things seem to be a better way to spend money.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
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    Read a lot of replies. I have to say that my wife doesn't care, and, if she did, I probably wouldn't be with her. Not because I need to go to a strip club. I think it would be a problem with her own self esteem and confidence.

    I don't tell my wife what she can and can't do and she doesn't tel me. We love each other for who we are; not for what one can make the other into.
  • shanlynt
    shanlynt Posts: 754 Member
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    Wouldn't be too thrilled with the idea. Not sure what the attraction is anyway.
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,849 Member
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    Wouldn't be too thrilled with the idea. Not sure what the attraction is anyway.

    Um... a bunch of hot chicks, scantily clad, dancing around...
  • pineapple1989
    pineapple1989 Posts: 195 Member
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    My boyfriend says its a waste of money etc cos why would you want a dance from people who would never look twice at you in a real bar, he could just be saying that as he doesnt want to admit it, but even if he did go he knows I wouldnt mind about anything like that, its me he is coming home to!
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
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    Neither one of us cares. He can go. I don't care to go to male strip clubs, so I don't. He rarely goes. I would not be okay with lap dances or touching, but I don't think he would do that.
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,874 Member
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    Read a lot of replies. I have to say that my wife doesn't care, and, if she did, I probably wouldn't be with her. Not because I need to go to a strip club. I think it would be a problem with her own self esteem and confidence.

    I don't tell my wife what she can and can't do and she doesn't tel me. We love each other for who we are; not for what one can make the other into.

    Awesome post!
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
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    I didn't mind my husband going when we were together, but I probably should have considering I found out he drops like $400-$500 each time he goes. My guess is he's getting more than a lap dance.

    My guess is you are right!
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
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    Eh, I go about once a year or so with the guys. It's fun once in a while. My wife doesn't really care unless I was frequenting one all the time.
  • JaySpice
    JaySpice Posts: 326 Member
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    He can look but not touch or give up ANY money.

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