Relationship Question?? Cheating.

tashjs21

Basically you should just have this convo if you find yourself wanting to cheat...

QueenJayJay

NYCDutchess

HAHAHAHA
That is tooo fn funny!!! Whoop Whoop!

tashaa1992

I'm not proud of it at all, but I have cheated on every boyfriend I have ever had, but my last boyfriend.
My last boyfriend, mark, has apparently cheated on me but he has never admitted it. I only think it could've happened because two people have told me, one through facebook and the other rang me up. He's a naturally flirty person and he was sending explicit messages to two girls over facebook, which I saw and because I had that doubt in my mind, from the two people informing me, I decided to break up with him as I couldn't cope with it. Other than mark, none of my other exes have as far as I know. I'm friends with all my exes.

Cheating in my opinion doesn't necessarily mean you have done something physical. If you think it, it means given the opportunity you would do it. With my cheating it was always sex, nothing else. I was such a horrible person growing up, I would never ever put someone through that again.
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christibam

Basically you should just have this convo if you find yourself wanting to cheat...

Most people text these days.

Bikini27

bwahahahahahahahahaha!!!

ItsCasey

If you are going to someone else for comfort, conversation, satisfaction, or physical needs, it's cheating..

I don't know about this one. Are you saying that merely having a conversation with someone you aren't dating/married to is cheating? Do you mean just conversations that are specifically about your relationship?

I know women who will not discuss their relationship issues with men because of the potential for a Florence Nightingale effect to develop, and I understand that. But my best friend is a guy, and when I have man problems, he's who I call. He calls me when he's having difficulties with his fiancee. It just makes sense to me that a man can offer me a better perspective on what another man is thinking than a woman could, and vice versa.

Why does seeking any kind of assistance from someone of the opposite sex always have to have sexual undertones?

tashjs21

Basically you should just have this convo if you find yourself wanting to cheat...

Most people text these days.

Bwahahaha, that's awesome!

MissAlexxMarie

Basically you should just have this convo if you find yourself wanting to cheat...

Most people text these days.

Hahha that's hilarious!

Heidi_Edgi

When we play Scrabble, my wife uses the American dictionary and I use the English one. I think that might be cheating.

Hahahhah By far... The best answer here!

Heidi_Edgi

hahaha I dunno know whats better.. The saying on the shirt or this chicks dark a*s nipples showing through it.

MFPAddict

hahaha I dunno know whats better.. The saying on the shirt or this chicks dark a*s nipples showing through it.

She could definitely win a lot of wet t-shirt contests!!

Shantre

Would you and your partner be willing to switch cell phones for a week? If the answer is no, one of you is probably cheating.

This. I agree.

Jennjenn1974

If you are going to someone else for comfort, conversation, satisfaction, or physical needs, it's cheating..

I don't know about this one. Are you saying that merely having a conversation with someone you aren't dating/married to is cheating? Do you mean just conversations that are specifically about your relationship?

I know women who will not discuss their relationship issues with men because of the potential for a Florence Nightingale effect to develop, and I understand that. But my best friend is a guy, and when I have man problems, he's who I call. He calls me when he's having difficulties with his fiancee. It just makes sense to me that a man can offer me a better perspective on what another man is thinking than a woman could, and vice versa.

Why does seeking any kind of assistance from someone of the opposite sex always have to have sexual undertones?

I think it depends on the nature of the conversation. If you are talking about rainbows and kittens or random workday stuff. Fine. As soon as the conversation takes a trip to sexy town (with or without pics...your choice) it's really not right.

I get that it can be an ego boost. I really do. But think about it, how would you feel if you knew your SO was having these kinds of conversations with someone else?

MinnesotaManimal

I'm a little bit different than "normal" about this, but here's my definition:

If my significant other finds themselves emotionally attached to someone else more than me, that could be considered cheating.

What do I mean by this? If something big happens, and you find yourself wanting to tell someone else more than your SO, you're emotionally cheating. And yeah, I see that as a problem. That's kind of the gateway into the "real" cheating - physical cheating.

Physical cheating? Kissing, sex (or near sex), going on dates... anything that would be categorized under "courting".

what about deep emotional attatchments to physical objects...... because I have a pretty sweet motorcycle now.......

And I have a lust/love relationship with Fun Dip and wine.... what's your point?

It would be cheating for you to do things to that fun dip stick that you would not do to your husband.

BeautifulRedButterfly

Ive never cheated on anyone. I was ALWAYS cheated on though!

Cheating to me:
-Kissing someone else (i really dont care for hugging, even though some consider that cheating..which is crazy).
-Sex with someone else, of course. Vaginal, oral, anal.
-Flirting.
-Sexting.
-Porn.
-Dates.


Ive been cheated on sooo many times, it really didnt bother me too much in the past. But, now it does, since me & my fiance are having a baby. If he cheated, Id still stay with him no matter what. I want us to be a family and have everything worked out. My family was broken up, I dont want the same for my baby. I want everything to be perfect.

Josie_lifting_cats

I'm a little bit different than "normal" about this, but here's my definition:

If my significant other finds themselves emotionally attached to someone else more than me, that could be considered cheating.

What do I mean by this? If something big happens, and you find yourself wanting to tell someone else more than your SO, you're emotionally cheating. And yeah, I see that as a problem. That's kind of the gateway into the "real" cheating - physical cheating.

Physical cheating? Kissing, sex (or near sex), going on dates... anything that would be categorized under "courting".

what about deep emotional attatchments to physical objects...... because I have a pretty sweet motorcycle now.......

And I have a lust/love relationship with Fun Dip and wine.... what's your point?

It would be cheating for you to do things to that fun dip stick that you would not do to your husband.

Well, I think we're good then. I apparently do not fall under "cheater" category.

MFPAddict

Ive never cheated on anyone. I was ALWAYS cheated on though!

Cheating to me:
-Kissing someone else (i really dont care for hugging, even though some consider that cheating..which is crazy).
-Sex with someone else, of course. Vaginal, oral, anal.
-Flirting.
-Sexting.
-Porn.
-Dates.

-Porn. :huh: :noway:

lisag2007

Cheating....anything you couldn't do with your spouse/significant other right there with you. I have been cheated on by my ex-husband. It sucked royally...guess he had the seven year itch. Obviously, I could not forgive him or he would not be an ex. I have since forgiven him and we are now friends to a point. He remarried and she cheated on him. Guess what goes around comes around. They are now divorced too. Go figure....he couldn't forgive her for the same thing he did to me.

blankcanvas

As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

It's really that simple.

This. Great way to put it.

Yup Totally agree:) I've never cheated, or been cheated on but relatives or friends have been in the situation.. If he/ she has cheated once, they'll do it again! Never known any cheaters who just did it once, lol I think they like the thrill of getting away with it... Because the one cheated on always takes em back for some stupid reason...

OrionMama

Cheating for me:
Kissing someone else
Having sex with someone else
Written texts / emails to someone else with the intent to do the above

I have been cheated on, but never cheated.

BenderFitness

As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there, and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

It's really that simple.

LOVE this quote, and 100% agree! Cheating is not just physical. If you're hiding something or doing something that you wouldn't do in front of your spouse it's cheating. I am big on integrity, which, to me, means being the same in private as you are in public. My husband and I have had this discussion, and I have told him that if it isn't something he would do with me standing right there it's probably not something he should be doing, and vice versa. It really simplifies a lot of things that could otherwise be problematic.

zeeeb

that is hard to say... because technically i'd say kissing or anything more.... but sexual phone calls to the same person consistently, sexual internet chatting to the same person consistently would do enough damage to a relationship for me to end it... for sure... but then looking at a bit of porn, not cheating...

MFPAddict

:drinker:

rebecky27

geez, thanks to this thread (at least that's what I'm blaming it on) I had a bad dream that I caught my hubby cheating! :noway:

bluberrygoo

As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

It's really that simple.

Agreed