Would you cheat?

JennieAL

I married my husband knowing full well that he would age, change, sag, get wrinkles, etc. He married me knowing full well that my breasts wouldn't always be perky, I'd sag, get wrinkles, etc. I have never seen an 85yo man or woamn who was physically as attractive as they were at 25 or 35 or even 55. But I have see that 85yo man holding hands with his 85yo wife and looking at each other as if the entire world around them has completely dissolved.

My grandma was a stunning beauty when she was young. When she was 72 she had a stroke an brain surgery. She went from looking like someone who could pass for 40 and still be a hot 40 to someone who was drooling, bald, had half her face sagging, and aged 40 years literally overnight. My grandpa never once looked at her any differently. I've been fortunate enough to see and be around a lot of loving, committed couples in my life but the look on my grandpa's face when he brought grandma home from the hospital and helped her out of the car - that was absolutely the purest love I've ever seen. It wasn't an "addiction" or "fake" or any of the other silly things people have said in this thread. He loved her because of who she was, not what she looked like.

There is hope after all! Thank goodness.

I hope that my new husband and I will be this way many years from now. I've only been married for 3 months, and some of these posts here really scare me.

Laura_Ivy

I would honestly break up with my SO if they got fat. Lack of self control is a complete turn off to me and makes me feel sick to my stomach. Its not so much that they got fat, its that they didn't have the discipline and that they were in denial about their weight gain.

Dude,how vain and shallow could you be?

I've come to realize there isn't really any such thing as too shallow when it comes to relationships. Everybody has different preferences and has a right to be happy, not be stuck with someone that no longer fits their personal preferences.

How is not taking charge of one's health any different than not taking charge of one's finances? We would all find it acceptable to dump an SO who decides they are too lazy to pursue their career, why can't the same apply to someone who lets their health go?

Why,because its an unrealistic expectation to assume that someone will always remain physically attractive and never,ever, heaven forbid, let themselves go. We end up pregnant things change,you get sick or injured and end up gaining weight because you can.t be as active as you once were. We get old and change, that's part of life.

grinch031

I would honestly break up with my SO if they got fat. Lack of self control is a complete turn off to me and makes me feel sick to my stomach. Its not so much that they got fat, its that they didn't have the discipline and that they were in denial about their weight gain.

Dude,how vain and shallow could you be?

I've come to realize there isn't really any such thing as too shallow when it comes to relationships. Everybody has different preferences and has a right to be happy, not be stuck with someone that no longer fits their personal preferences.

How is not taking charge of one's health any different than not taking charge of one's finances? We would all find it acceptable to dump an SO who decides they are too lazy to pursue their career, why can't the same apply to someone who lets their health go?

Why,because its an unrealistic expectation to assume that someone will always remain physically attractive and never,ever, heaven forbid, let themselves go. We end up pregnant things change,you get sick or injured and end up gaining weight because you can.t be as active as you once were. We get old and change, that's part of life.

Let me clarify this point then. If someone is really that concerned about pure physical attractiveness, then they probably shouldn't get married or expect to stay in a long-term committed relationship because surely their looks will degrade over time, and maybe that should be explained upfront if getting into a relationship.

But I think that is a bit different than getting into a relationship with someone who is living a healthy lifestyle and active, and then down the road they gain 100 lbs and stop taking care of themselves. I think the partner has a right to expect much more from their SO, and I wouldn't blame them for leaving.

tashaa1992

I have always cheated on every boyfriend I have been with, except my last one. I didn't cheat because of looks though, I cheated because I liked knowing I had some sort of control over them and their feelings. None of which makes it right and I am actually ashamed I spent most of my life purposely hurting people, but I would never ever cheat now. I believe when you're with someone it is because you love them for who they are, flaws and all. So no, I wouldn't cheat now, no.

Tasha
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good2bthaking

Hell no, i love my wife and she loves me.we have both seen each other at our worst. I intend to grow old and sit on the porch drinking coffee when we both fall apart. Wouldn't want it any other way!! Don't get me wrong. I still love to look at pretty women, but that's only the surface. With my wife I have the full package, Love, Trust, and a BEST FRIEND!!!

carlie_carl

never ever would a real man cheat if he truley cared for his partner, I see nice girls get messed around all the time, it makes me sad that they are attracted to bad people. cos I know some great people who would put smiles on them nice peoples faces

Karrix

I would never cheat in any relationship.

If my partner/spouse were to gain weight, id try and motivate him to eat healthier and work out. I expect my partner to age over time, we can't always remain youthful.

However, we can put effort to keep up our appearances (weight wise). Keeping fit & healthy is important to me. If my partner gained a enormous unhealthy amount and refused to do anything about it, it could be a reason to end the relationship. (Assuming it's not a medical issue.)

Karrix

Double post, my bad.

Amber82479

Hell no. My husband is awesome whether he's 150 or 200 pounds.

cindy4mica

Never. I've been cheated on several times and I wouldn't wish that feeling upon anyone. Be supportive, or if it's too much for you to handle, just leave him/her and move on. It will hurt initially, but in the long run, you'll both know you were loyal.

TheUnwritten

I was not raised to be an *kitten*! I'm single but I would never do that.

Hootsmamma

Nope. I adore my husband. We were friends first before becoming husband and wife, and now we are best friends plus so very much more. I am happy and so is he. Heavy or Thin/Fit --we are in this together for the long haul. My husband is wonderful just by being who he is.

A_Fit_Mom

No, never will. You have control of what you do. So it's silly that I saw someone say that you never know the situation, or what you will do. Actually, you have 100% control of your actions. So if you do not want to cheat, you will never cheat. So, once again, I would never cheat.