I hate it when really SKINNY girls complain being fat!!
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Weight is such a issue in this country I can't tell you how many mix messages I see and hear everyday. It seems like you can't win I think people need to be more compassionate on both sides and think of others wheter their "skinny" or "fat".0
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I realize skinny girls have insecurities too and they're allowed to have them, but think about who you're complaining about being fat around. Its about being considerate because you imply that your friend is even worse off than you if you think you are fat whether or not you mean to. You put your larger friend in a weird place. All the skinny girls being pissed off about this post, I imagine when you get on the other side of this situation you'll be singing the same tune.
And how do you know that all of the skinny people that are disagreeing with the OP in this thread haven't been on the other side? How do you know? You don't.
I used to weigh 200lbs. I used to be the "Fat friend" who had her skinny friends complaining about their weight. I was always confused as to why they were complaining, but also figured it was THEIR issue and had nothing to do with me. So, I HAVE been on the other side of the fence. Don't assume because someone is skinny they haven't been fat and they don't understand.
And I'm sorry, but I think it is ridiculous that a skinny person can't say "I need to lose weight" without making sure she isn't going to offend someone fatter than her. Is it okay for a fat person to comment that a skinny person should "eat a cheeseburger"? Is it okay for a fat person to call a skinny person a skinny b*tch?
There seems to be a double standard here. Apparently, skinny people need to SHUT UP and fat people can say whatever they want to say.
you have NO idea how many times I've been told to go eat a cheeseburger (very recently) or that I needed be force fed a sammich and how many times that broke my heart that people thought those were things that were acceptable to say to me. THAT is NOT ok.
ETA: I was NOT at that time complaining about weight issues. These comments were made out of the blue, except the cheeseburger one after I asked for a size XS top....
Did they think you have a eating disorder of some kind or was it just because your slim... I don't think a lot of people realize there some people who are naturally slender. BTW people even if you think a friend has a eating disorder telling him or her to eat a burger isn't really going to help!
I compete, so during season I have to eat really clean. I put away 5-6 meals a day (and this is a known fact), am 130 pounds, so I doubt that. And before, yes, I was smaller than I should have been, but I was actively TRYING really hard to gain weight, eating everything in site. Telling someone to go eat is just RUDE, especially when you tell them to be forcefed.
Sounds to me like the person was making an assumption about your apperance without all the facts which is really their problem. Don't let it get to you set them straight hold your head up high and tell them to kiss your ...0 -
How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
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It's all relative. I feel disgustingly fat right now at 147 lbs. Do I think many other people would consider me fat? No. But for my own standards it's unacceptable. People have their own ideas about what's fat and what's not when it comes to themselves.. just because someone you consider "skinny" wants to lose weight or makes comments about her weight doesn't mean she thinks you're fat.
People see themselves through an entirely different lens than they see other people.0 -
How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
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Sounds to me like the person was making an assumption about your apperance without all the facts which is really their problem. Don't let it get to you set them straight hold your head up high and tell them to kiss your ...
I can't say I'm not initially hurt by those types of comments, but it doesn't stop me from being me and obtaining my goal.
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I think it is unfair tha your skinny friends can't be real around you. Just because you consider them skinny does not mean that they don't have their own fitness goals. People are always giving me a hard time for paying attention to what I eat because I am thin. Guess what? that's why I'm thin...hello!0
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I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that we are not allowed to be proud of being at a good weight. When you always have diets and weight loss pushed in your face, it becomes difficult to say out loud 'actually, I'm skinny and I'm happy with my weight', instead you feel obliged to join in the 'oh I'm so fat better drop 5lb' banter. If people would stop all this anti size zero body shaming it would help. I find it difficult to be around conversations about weight loss because I am done losing weight and yet somehow feel obliged to join in at sharing why I hate my body, rather than appear self-satisfied.
That said, I'm a size zero, but look at my pic. I have a muffin top and yes, I will be trimming down the fat before summer rolls around. In clothes, I look tiny, but that's because I dress very well to cover my less great parts so people think I am smaller than I am...maybe don't judge a book by its cleverly decorated cover...0 -
I hate it when I come to the forum boards and it's full of people complaining about meaningless banter.
.....Then dont come to the forum boards. THANKS!
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How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol 0 -
i hate it when anyone constantly complains their fat skinny or large if you think you're fat do something!!0
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How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
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How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol
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How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
That is awesome :drinker:
I've also had the comments from people about how I need to eat, and not lose any more weight. It's frustrating. I'm not trying to lose weight anymore. I set my goal to get back where I started before marriage and kids, which were only a few months apart. lol And I think I eat just fine!0 -
I have a very close friend who gets upset often because she believes she is fat... she is a UK size 10, i am a UK size 20... she genuinely doesnt see me and my weight and how I might feel hearing that she thinks she is fat... thats because she has her own insecurities and her own problems, she believes she is fat... she cant see past this, she thinks I am roughly the same size as her actually! And I genuinely believe she thinks that... because in her head she sees herself as very big and she sees me differently because she cares about me for myself. So I always support her and I dont mind because she needs to get through how she is feeling and she needs my help because I am her friend
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That is awesome :drinker:
I've also had the comments from people about how I need to eat, and not lose any more weight. It's frustrating. I'm not trying to lose weight anymore. I set my goal to get back where I started before marriage and kids, which were only a few months apart. lol And I think I eat just fine!
i think it is just jealous or insecure people feeling the need to comment on how you need to eat more because they can't do what you're doing. if we told an overweight person maybe you should eat LESS we would be completely out of line. it is a double standard really. i think neither should comment on anything, they are both out of line.0 -
How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol
Can I come tooooooo!?0 -
How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol
I invented the closet, I want an invite :[0 -
I will never forget running into one of my former teachers at a WW meeting once. She had been thin and healthy as long as I had known her, and still was then. I told her I was shocked she was there (as a compliment) and she showed me a picture of herself 100 lbs heavier that she carried with her.
You just never know where someone has been before, what they do to keep themselves at that weight/size, or what insecurities they carry with them. Everyone has a right to their own struggles. Considering most of the time those don't really impact us, it's not fair to be harsh and judgey because of them.0 -
I hate it when really SKINNY girls complain that they are fat! Have a "skinny friend" tells me she needs to lose weight becasue she can't even look at herself in the mirror anymore. What that makes me???? A cow??? Do perfect fit people around you say the same thing?
Coming from a big girl (i've been a plus size pretty much since jr high) I do understand your frustration, but at the same time even the smallest women can gain 20 pounds and feel fat. It doesn't mean they can't feel insecure or gross just like the rest of us who have 100lbs to lose. Now I do have friends who need to lose 10lbs who beat themselves up about it and I always tell them they are beautiful regardless (most of them have had kids so it's understandable!). You just have to focus on yourself because you can't change everyone else.0 -
How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol
I invented the closet, I want an invite :[
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How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol
I invented the closet, I want an invite :[
Come on over, we are in the Chit chat fun and games section!! You will have to bring something, it can be anything you like but we prefer alcohol and/or Bacon!!!0 -
Going off on a tangent here, but when my fiance and I were looking at houses a couple years ago, we went to an open house and met a real estate agent who was super, super thin. When we left the open house, I told my fiance the woman looked like she desperately needed a cheeseburger.
She advertises like crazy in our town, and every time I see a picture of her, I feel badly that I said that. Especially now that I'm fit and I know how much hard work most people put into being thin/fit/skinny.
It's not just fat people who get flack for their size.0 -
Going off on a tangent here, but when my fiance and I were looking at houses a couple years ago, we went to an open house and met a real estate agent who was super, super thin. When we left the open house, I told my fiance the woman looked like she desperately needed a cheeseburger.
She advertises like crazy in our town, and every time I see a picture of her, I feel badly that I said that. Especially now that I'm fit and I know how much hard work most people put into being thin/fit/skinny.
It's not just fat people who get flack for their size.
Maybe others are different, but I have been out with a few girls who have made similar comments, and though I've laughed and agreed, all it does for me is show that the girl I'm with has totally the wrong mindset and they clearly aren't right for me and that I wish they were more like the girl they are mocking.0 -
I realize skinny girls have insecurities too and they're allowed to have them, but think about who you're complaining about being fat around. Its about being considerate because you imply that your friend is even worse off than you if you think you are fat whether or not you mean to. You put your larger friend in a weird place. All the skinny girls being pissed off about this post, I imagine when you get on the other side of this situation you'll be singing the same tune.
And how do you know that all of the skinny people that are disagreeing with the OP in this thread haven't been on the other side? How do you know? You don't.
I used to weigh 200lbs. I used to be the "Fat friend" who had her skinny friends complaining about their weight. I was always confused as to why they were complaining, but also figured it was THEIR issue and had nothing to do with me. So, I HAVE been on the other side of the fence. Don't assume because someone is skinny they haven't been fat and they don't understand.
And I'm sorry, but I think it is ridiculous that a skinny person can't say "I need to lose weight" without making sure she isn't going to offend someone fatter than her. Is it okay for a fat person to comment that a skinny person should "eat a cheeseburger"? Is it okay for a fat person to call a skinny person a skinny b*tch?
There seems to be a double standard here. Apparently, skinny people need to SHUT UP and fat people can say whatever they want to say.
I think someone who says "eat a cheeseburger" to a skinny person is as insensitive as a skinny friend who berates herself about her weight in front of a fat friend. Clearly they are also sharing their insecurities in a way that is not effective either by being passive aggressive in that instance. If you have an overweight friend who is proud of it and comfortable with it, by all means talk about weight loss as they wont take it the wrong way. However for friends who are working on it , trying, and are insecure about their weight I think sensitivity to that is warranted, you cant lose 100 lbs over night . I had a friend come back from an eating disorder clinic awhile back, and she asked me not to talk about dieting or weight loss with her at all for some time as she recovered. Should I not have tip toed around her insecurities? Or was it considerate of me to support her in a way that she needed? I believe it was right for me to be considerate of her feelings and not just feel entitled to share what I wanted to regardless of how it made her feel. I think its a case by case basis I suppose, as luckily some girls on here seem to be confident enough not have it upset them but obviously from other responses some girls are not.0 -
Its true that everyone has their own insecurities but they should also watch what they say and who they say it around.
Do you know ANYONE that would say they were retarded (after making a mistake) when they are around a cognitively impaired person???
The same should apply to this situation.
If someone around you is obviously bigger than you, then maybe you should complain about being fat in front of them.
I know how you feel. I went to a lake with a group of friends and the thinnest one started saying (Loudly) how disgusting her body was. Deep down inside I wanted to punch her. But I layed down on my towel and feel asleep.0 -
Going off on a tangent here, but when my fiance and I were looking at houses a couple years ago, we went to an open house and met a real estate agent who was super, super thin. When we left the open house, I told my fiance the woman looked like she desperately needed a cheeseburger.
She advertises like crazy in our town, and every time I see a picture of her, I feel badly that I said that. Especially now that I'm fit and I know how much hard work most people put into being thin/fit/skinny.
It's not just fat people who get flack for their size.
Maybe others are different, but I have been out with a few girls who have made similar comments, and though I've laughed and agreed, all it does for me is show that the girl I'm with has totally the wrong mindset and they clearly aren't right for me and that I wish they were more like the girl they are mocking.
and the truth has been spoken.... if they had only been more comfortable with who THEY were, rather than bash someone else for who they aren't, you might still be with them.0 -
How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol
I invented the closet, I want an invite :[
Come on over, we are in the Chit chat fun and games section!! You will have to bring something, it can be anything you like but we prefer alcohol and/or Bacon!!!
I'll bring vodka & chocolate :]0 -
How would you ladies feel if I posted: I hate it when fat girls complain about being fat! Like just shut the *kitten* up already. Don't you see what you look like? You're a bloody cow!
Wouldn't feel too nice now would it? Don't try saying it's a different scenario, because it's exactly the same. You're putting someone down for the way they feel without giving proper advice.
I like you :flowerforyou:
I like you too.
Will you both be joning Ipuffyheart and myself in the closet??? We must hide in order to not offend anyone.
There will be alcohol
I invented the closet, I want an invite :[
Come on over, we are in the Chit chat fun and games section!! You will have to bring something, it can be anything you like but we prefer alcohol and/or Bacon!!!
I'll bring vodka & chocolate :]
Yumm chocolate covered bacon:)0 -
Get over yourself. Fat people aren't the only people allowed to feel insecure and want to better their bodies. This site is so full of people talking **** about skinny/thin people. People can't talk **** about fat people, but skinny/thin people are fair game? Ridiculous.
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