Publicly humiliating someone is mental.

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llaurenmarie
llaurenmarie Posts: 1,260 Member
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Last night, for the first time in MONTHS I got up the courage to dress up, go out to dinner in a nice restaurant and have a glass of wine at one of the popular casino bars. People were everywhere, there were huge events yesterday.

I was wearing nothing revealing, unfitting, or skintight. Have to say I at least looked nice.
The only thing making me stand out a little is I wore a pair of heels.. after 2 years.

Night was going fine, I felt great.
Walking by on the way to the bar a guy yelled "That's why fat girls should never come out."
I felt so disgusted I no longer wanted the drink and went home.

This happens even after I lose over 25lbs, could've easily discouraged me altogether.
What kind of people who even have thoughts like that, have the balls to actually make it heard?
Anyone else experienced this while doing nothing wrong?
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  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
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    That's horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.
  • minadeathclutch
    minadeathclutch Posts: 375 Member
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    Last night, for the first time in MONTHS I got up the courage to dress up, go out to dinner in a nice restaurant and have a glass of wine at one of the popular casino bars. People were everywhere, there were huge events yesterday.

    I was wearing nothing revealing, unfitting, or skintight. Have to say I at least looked nice.
    The only thing making me stand out a little is I wore a pair of heels.. after 2 years.

    Night was going fine, I felt great.
    Walking by on the way to the bar a guy yelled "That's why fat girls should never come out."
    I felt so disgusted I no longer wanted the drink and went home.

    This happens even after I lose over 25lbs, could've easily discouraged me altogether.
    What kind of people who even have thoughts like that, have the balls to actually make it heard?
    Anyone else experienced this while doing nothing wrong?

    people are heartless :/
  • Loseweight1980
    Loseweight1980 Posts: 94
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    Oh, honey, I am so sorry!! What a total db!! Whether someone has a thought like that or tells their friend, no one should ever be subjected to that!!! I have heard so many people say so many horrible things. Don't listen to him!! The type of people that say that are the same ones that were bullys in school. No self esteem, hate themselves. You are doing great, and I am sure you looked AMAZING!!
  • bobie1978
    bobie1978 Posts: 204 Member
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    That's so rude.. don't let small minded people ruin your time!
  • radosti1
    radosti1 Posts: 198 Member
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    I'd have thrown that drink right in his face!
  • xXKatrinaXx
    xXKatrinaXx Posts: 234
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    What an a**hole.
  • nnylee
    nnylee Posts: 814 Member
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    That is terrible. People can be so cruel. That person was a jerk, don't listen to crap like that! You're beautiful!
  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
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    I can't even imagine. What a complete ****heel. I hear stories like this and it makes me angry, upset and sad. People don't know the damage they're causing by a carelessly thrown remark and the desire to show off in front of their friends. I know both men and women have been guilty of this cattiness and it's deplorable.

    Please don't let an asinine remark deter you from going out and being proud. You're strong, beautiful, and better than that.
  • SnakeDarling
    SnakeDarling Posts: 352 Member
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    I know the feeling :/

    Something similar happened to me when I went to a concert.
    I didn't wear anything to revealing, just a halter top, jacket and jeans.

    Two older men standing behind me and my friend said "D*mn! I guess fat girls think they can wear anything now-a-days."

    Needless to say, I was very upset.
    Don't let them get you down.
    Prove them wrong :p
  • Stiang
    Stiang Posts: 82 Member
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    And that is why stupid men should never go out...he was obviously WAY lower on the scumbag scale.
  • CuteAndCurvy83
    CuteAndCurvy83 Posts: 570 Member
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    I would have done the same as you...However had my best friend been with me, she would have punched him in the mouth and said something like "that's why *kitten* shouldn't talk"
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
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    *hugs* There seems to be an outbreak of assholism lately. I am sorry you had to deal with this. Do yourself a favor and write down 5 things right now that you are proud of yourself for. Stick that on your bathroom mirror for the week.
  • JennW130
    JennW130 Posts: 460 Member
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    ugh. sorry that happened to you. He was probably drunk. Don't listen to idiots. :flowerforyou:
  • lpblah
    lpblah Posts: 28
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    I'm so sorry that happened to you :(

    I had two guys laugh and say "Ew" as they walked past me on the beach last year. I don't understand how people can be so cruel.

    I hope that when I reach my goal weight I can always figure which new people in my life are cruel like this and avoid them :/
  • Moonbeamlissie
    Moonbeamlissie Posts: 504 Member
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    I wonder what he thinks of himself!!!?? I am sure it isnt much! GIRL YOU GOT THIS! Don't let that red neck mother f... get you down! His parents obviously let him down by raising such a FREAK!
  • mariekphillips21
    mariekphillips21 Posts: 21
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    You should have gotten a beer and dumped it on his fat head.
    keep up with great work with your weight loss, people like that hate themselves....he probably has a fetus penis.
  • latinqueencee
    latinqueencee Posts: 120 Member
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    what a jerk!!!! people can be so cruel! Dont let his ignorant remark stop you from your goals. Keep doing what you're doing, you are beautiful darling!!! :)
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
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    I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm going through the same thing but the person yelling the nasty things is the little voice in my head. When I'm at home, I feel proud I've lost 33 lbs over the past few years. When I go anywhere, I still feel like the "big one" or the fat woman. I trash talk myself...have to convince myself to go places because I don't feel worthy. And, I don't have the right clothes, or shoes, or whatever. I make myself a little crazy over it.

    I still weight 230 lbs and have a lot more to lose, as I would like to reach 135 at some point.

    I don't know the answer, but with rude guys at a casino, I would guess alcohol is involved. One person on MFP who friended me had the perfect comeback line for insults..."I would insult you back, but it looks like nature has already done that job (or taken care of that)."

    In any case, keep going..you're doing really well, and you're going to reach your goal one day.
  • lanzaroteblue
    lanzaroteblue Posts: 198 Member
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    What a BAS%%ARD!

    I know it doesn't help but over few weeks/months/years,
    you'll be slimmer and feeling fabulous. He'll still be a tool.

    I've experienced the same thing in the past and it does
    hurt but as long as you can recognise that you are the better person.
    :flowerforyou:
    Nicola x
  • TriciaZ944
    TriciaZ944 Posts: 317 Member
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    He's just angry person so he needs to try to make others feel like crap. You are better than that jerk, don't let someone like that put you down.

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