Publicly humiliating someone is mental.

TeutonicKnight

If I would have been there and heard that, even if I did not know you, I would have decked the guy.

My sister, who is obese, lost almost 100lbs as she wanted to look good for her high school reunion. She went from 360 to 260, and while still overweight, she looked much better. She felt better, she had more confidence than ever before. Well, she went to her high school reunion and someone called her fat and she felt so bad she gained 50lbs of it back within 2 months, had a downward spiral. She was crushed.

I found out who it was and let's just say it was not pretty.

She is back to losing weight again, but it is a daily struggle. Some people have no soul. Congrats on losing 25lbs, keep up the great work.

sauza

absolutely have experienced that, only two times in life, right after having my son and, unfortunately, now. Bottom line for me is the heckling stops when there is nothing to heckle. I go home, cry, and thank the hecklers for their encouragement. I am desperate not to be such a target, so after getting my feelings hurt, I work out twice as hard. What else, right? Good luck, and remember when you are a hottie - hotties don't date hecklers. LOL

HauteP1nk

I think there are a lot of ignorant and rude people out there...especially young people in groups of their friends.

When I was younger I remember lots of people - especially guys - who would say mean or cruel things to girls. They think they are being cool in front of their friends. I remember a friend of mine who used to moo at girls that were overweight...even at girls who weren't just to make himself feel superior I guess...

I think all of us have experienced what you are feeling at one time or another. I remember walking home one day and these young guys were driving by and they said 'cow'...my fiance says they were actually saying 'wow'...but I personally believe he was being nice and trying to make me feel better about myself...lol

I think too when we are feeling bad about ourselves we take everything to heart. We believe everything people say is about us, or being aimed at us...but really they were just a bunch of guys in a bar being stupid. Probably drunk too...and who knows who or what they were really talking about.

Be confident! Continue working hard! Believe in yourself and others will believe in you too! You can do it girl...don't let those jerks bring you down!

kimsciolino

Sorry you had to have an Idiot ruin your night out. First of all DO NOT LISTEN to someone like that, they more than likely have so many insecurities that the only way they feel good about their selves is to make other people feel like crap. Do not let him discourage you, one of my favorite quotes are this;
when someone tells you that you cannot or will not achieve your goals, just turn around, look them in the face and say WATCH ME!!! You are beautiful and you WILL reach your goals. Stay positive and think positive...
YOU GOT THIS!!!

SSTEACY

You are right, he's mental, needs a good slap. You are doing great keep up the good work! I have had a similar experience, waiting in a long holiday line up to cross the boarder into Canada. The guys were all int he vehicle ahead of us and we'd been in line for 45 mins already. I changed lanes to stay in the same line-up as they were, some guy tried to butt in between us, but the Transport behind me was leaving room for him and waving him in.... he yelled at me "B$tch, why don't you go eat more donuts!!"
What is wrong with their heads, they have no idea what goes through people's minds when something like that happens.
The only advice I can give you is keep on doing what you are doing, stand tall, be proud of who you are, and let Karma take care of the jerks!

jwobbly57

When I get comments like that - do you know what I say?

"At least I'm doing something about it but once you're ugly you are always ugly" Makes them think and I normally get an apology.

Chin up honey don't let a *kitten* put you off.

Henni xxx

sculley

I am so sorry that happened to you....To answer your question ONLY A&*holes who are insecure with themselves do that.

butterflyliz32

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I remember a guy in high school following me down the stairs once muttering, "big & fat" under his breath the whole way. It totally crushed me! I wasn't even that big (maybe 165 - which I would kill to be at now!). It really did a number on my head, though.

All I can say is that guys like that don't even deserve a second chance. They are small-minded and pathetic. They may look like they are having fun now, but as they get older, they will never be able to have a decent relationship with another human being because they are too immature to realize that just because something pops into your tiny brain doesn't mean it needs to fly out of your giant piehole.

**hugs** Keep up the good work and ROCK those heels, sister!

MaraDiaz

When I was young I was that a@#hole!

Then I got older and loaded on the weight and got a taste of the other side of the equation!

There is no excuse for my behavior in my youth but today I am working on being a better person.

I am truly heartbroken that you have suffered at the whim of the ignorant.

That you have taken charge of your life and are working hard to be healthy is inspirational. Although it is cold comfort, the advice I have given my children as they have dealt with similar people: Ignore the opinions of the people whom you do not know or respect. It is the opinion of the people who know and care about you that is important.

All the best on your journey!

Since you've repented and paid your debt to society, I guess we'll let you live, and keep your tongue! :laugh:

simoriah_angel

People are ****tards. This is the main reason I don't go to the beach/boardwalk around here lest it be a *family* type beach (yup, I live near THAT Jersey shore and yes, some parts ARE like that).

Wish I wish there. In my 20's I'd prolly go home and cry about it. Now, in my 30's, depending on the night, I'd turn around and tell him to "go **kitten** himself because that's obviously the only person f**ing him tonight". (Or, something about "There is nothing in this bar than your head.") Kinda sad really, the only reason I know all of these one liners is because of the constant ribbing I got about being fat.

SwannySez

I haven't really anything to add, but as I read through all of these responses, I must say that every time I see the words "tiny penis" I hear them in my head to the tune of Don Ho's "Tiny Bubbles."

natalie2271

thats really horrible! somebody said something similar to me once .... i retored ' at least i can loose my weight... you will always be a moron with no brains' he just walked off and retorted something under his breath lol! ignore it completely some people are just that small minded x

AlsDonkBoxSquat

Last night, for the first time in MONTHS I got up the courage to dress up, go out to dinner in a nice restaurant and have a glass of wine at one of the popular casino bars. People were everywhere, there were huge events yesterday.

I was wearing nothing revealing, unfitting, or skintight. Have to say I at least looked nice.
The only thing making me stand out a little is I wore a pair of heels.. after 2 years.

Night was going fine, I felt great.
Walking by on the way to the bar a guy yelled "That's why fat girls should never come out."
I felt so disgusted I no longer wanted the drink and went home.

This happens even after I lose over 25lbs, could've easily discouraged me altogether.
What kind of people who even have thoughts like that, have the balls to actually make it heard?
Anyone else experienced this while doing nothing wrong?

Yeah, I kind of suck at holding my tongue, there would have been a drink in his face and a lashing so brutal he would have needed to pick his ego up off the floor and sew it back on if he still wanted it.

Nicola0000

I'd have thrown that drink right in his face!

Me too!! Some people project their own insecurities onto others. Dont let that A-hole ruin it for you, you're doing amazing!!!

nikkiej2012

I don't know what its like for that to happen to me...but that was so rude

MrsR0SE

You should have said "and retards should wear helmets Where's yours"

And with that, you have succeeded in insulting my daughter, amongst others. I know you meant it as a joke, but please don't use that word, it sinks you to his level and then some.

mmarlow61

Just saw something a friend posted on Facebook thought it might make you smile!

WHILE YOU WERE BUSY JUDGING OTHERS YOU LEFT YOUR CLOSET OPEN AND YOUR SKELETONS FELL OUT.

AtticusFinch

Lauren - the guy was just a fu[/i][/i]ckwit. I'm sorry that you were unlucky enough to come across a loser like that, but we all do occasionally.

Please try to be brave enough to get back out again soon, don't let one arsehole ruin your self confidence.

FlaxMilk

I agree, Mrs.Rose. It's such a common insult that people don't realize it's still the name of a medical condition that people who have it get mocked and ridiculed for so many days of their lives.

Skeemer118

What goes around comes around. I'm really sorry that happened to you. My favorite comeback for people like that is what my dad likes to say "I've been called worse names by better people than you." He's a jerk. You're not. Keep moving beautiful girl, this is yours to conquer. You can do it & you already have been!

lillydlc

In the UK we call them W&nkers.

I have a few stock answers to men who make rude comments.

1. That may be true but you still couldn't afford me
2. You will never get close enough to find out.
3. Yeah but in a few months I will be slim, but you will still be a W&nker
4. I wouldn't kiss you with someone elses lips.

Make up some of your own it's fun. You don't have to say them to the guys face of course that could be dangerous but just hearing them inside your head will make you smile and smiling as you walk away drives them batty. :flowerforyou:

**LIKE**!! Sorry girl, hold your head up and keep up your good work!

ivansmomma

You should have said "and retards should wear helmets Where's yours"

He's a bully and probably has a tiny weenie

As the mom of a mentally handicapped daughter, who is beautiful, smart, and a social butterly, I am pointing out the fact that the 'r' word is very hurtful when used in this context. This guy was stupid, an idiot, but please don't use this word to describe him. For all the parents and family of handicapped children and adults, please think about this before using this word.

ivansmomma

You should have said "and retards should wear helmets Where's yours"

And with that, you have succeeded in insulting my daughter, amongst others. I know you meant it as a joke, but please don't use that word, it sinks you to his level and then some.

Mrs. Rose - I just posted basically the same thing. We also have a mentally handicapped daughter and the use of the 'r' word is very hurtful. God bless!

frosty73

*Hugs* to you. Are you sure he was saying that about you? I think my first thought would have been, he must be talking 'bout someone else! But I would have been mortified. How dare he!

Amyoct

What kind of people who even have thoughts like that, have the balls to actually make it heard?
Anyone else experienced this while doing nothing wrong?

When they do that, they just want to be heard. A good portion of the time, when people put others down, it is so they can make themselves look better. Hang in there. Those are the types of people I avoid. Unfortunately, people like that will always be around.

RAFValentina

Sounds like a right card (no pun intended) You do your thang and don't let that idiot stand in your way... Alcohol does funny things to people and boys and also, he clearly has no respect or grasp of social protocols and you're very pretty looking at your profile pic. He sounds like a pig and he'll pay one day for it.

Helenatrandom

You ARE a pretty woman. Don't let a person with nothing better to do than hang out in a bar and behave like a jerk get into your head.
Speaking of getting into people's heads..... I'm just curious... Were you with friends? I ask, because then, even if you didn't have a come back at the time, you could've made a practice of pointing at him and laughing with them. The mystery of WHAT you were saying would've driven him up a wall!

What a boring life that man must lead that he can only get attention and have fun by making dumb remarks.

FitLink

Last night, for the first time in MONTHS I got up the courage to dress up, go out to dinner in a nice restaurant and have a glass of wine at one of the popular casino bars. People were everywhere, there were huge events yesterday.

I was wearing nothing revealing, unfitting, or skintight. Have to say I at least looked nice.
The only thing making me stand out a little is I wore a pair of heels.. after 2 years.

Night was going fine, I felt great.
Walking by on the way to the bar a guy yelled "That's why fat girls should never come out."
I felt so disgusted I no longer wanted the drink and went home.

This happens even after I lose over 25lbs, could've easily discouraged me altogether.
What kind of people who even have thoughts like that, have the balls to actually make it heard?
Anyone else experienced this while doing nothing wrong?

I'm so sorry that happened to you; it shouldn't happen to anyone. No one who sees anyone in public knows what their history is. People deserve to be treated well because they are PEOPLE.

You know what, I get called crazy several times a week on these very forums because I don't believe this works to motivate people. Apparently, there's a large part of MFP who believes it's not just okay, but it's almost a moral imperative, to humiliate people who are overweight "for their own good." In case anyone wonders? THIS is what the NAAFA (The National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance) is fighting. That a person is a PERSON FIRST, and we accept and treat them with respect because they are a PERSON. Your weight and mine are our own business, and no one who sees you, or me, in public knows what our history is. It's NOT OKAY to humiliate you, or ANYONE in public, and the people who are "only doing it because they CARE and fat is unhealthy" miss the point entirely!

Emilia6909

Some one once told me that my *kitten* was so big, one could park a caravan up it ... LOL

I lost the weight.... she's still as ugly as sin!

Sit back and let karma ***k people like that up. The wheel turns!

FitLink

You should have said "and retards should wear helmets Where's yours"

Mental retardation is a medical term.

I suppose you think you're so much better that the people who called this woman fat. Yet your comment, especially with the added "helmet" comment, is every bit as insulting to people with this medical diagnosis as the "fat girl" comment. Why would you say something like this?