Women who don't accept male friend requests

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  • asia_hanebach
    asia_hanebach Posts: 275 Member
    Of course it is no ones business!

    So are a lot of the questions asked on the message boards. Still there is nothing wrong with the OP asking a question about something she is curious about.

    Thank you!! I didn't mean to be rude or anything, I was just wondering if there was a reason for this that I was missing out on
  • asia_hanebach
    asia_hanebach Posts: 275 Member
    Of course it is no ones business!

    So are a lot of the questions asked on the message boards. Still there is nothing wrong with the OP asking a question about something she is curious about.

    She already outed herself several times of not just being curious by trying to force her standards of support on the rest of us. Because she has no problem having male friends on here, she thinks the rest of us shouldn't either. This was a why don't you do the same thing I do thread disguised as an innocent question. She's shown us that in her follow up responses.

    Not at all actually. I don't care if people want to limit their friends to blonde lesbians that are 5 feet tall. Do what you like. I just think that people are cutting out a lot of opportunities for great friends by refusing to accept male friends. I've replied with my opinion, but I don't see how I've been "trying to force my standards of support" at all. Obviously I don't see a problem with having male friends on here, nor could I imagine personally being in a situation where I would have a problem with male friends. If I could understand that position, I wouldn't have ever had the original question.
  • MoreThanMommie
    MoreThanMommie Posts: 597 Member
    I've been on here since the beginning of Feb. and have never gotten a friend request from a male, creepy or otherwise. Mostly the things some males say that might be offensive I fine humorous. :ohwell:
  • QueenKatherineElizabeth
    QueenKatherineElizabeth Posts: 65 Member
    I had accepted a male friend on here but he kept putting up conceded statutes about himself. deleted him. I'm not here to tell him he looks good 24/7. blah.
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    How come creepy guys don't hit on me? Is it because I spam my friends with updates about my boyfriend and his jiggly belly? I want someone to look at my pictures and then send me creepy comments about how good I look. WHERE ARE THESE CREEPS YOU PEOPLE COMPLAIN ABOUT!?
  • Calipalm
    Calipalm Posts: 114 Member
    Glad I came across this! The first time I got a male friend request I wasn't sure what to do, In the end i declined his request. Personally out of respect for my husband. Also because I am on here for me, and the friends ive chosen to add or accept are ones who I have similiar stats with, or are moms like me. I have no interest to befriend male users on here, my husband is my manly support and really all I need!. If i have reall life guy friend use mfp then of course i would add them :) I now have 1 guy friend who seems very supportive to his friends, and as long as respect is kept and no creepy comments show up I will leave him :)
  • DBiddle69
    DBiddle69 Posts: 682 Member
    Out of respect for my husband - although he wouldn't mind & also because I really just want female friends.

    exactly!! and yes i think its wierd when i get requests from men who ONLY (or the very LARGE majority) of friends on their lists are females.

    once i did have had a creep (male) REPEATEDLY send me a friend request. i kept declining and he kept sending over and over again. at least 5 times.

    I am one of those who have a large majority of women....I have two male friends on mine...but it is only because they are the only two males that have ever sent friend requests out to me. It is nothing intentional...I just so happens that comments made by the women, or the locations they are from/have been to is why I selected them as friends. Mine have mostly been for the comments as they show similarities in my likes.

    Wow what a creep...I would have stopped after the fourth time being declined....just kidding! :laugh:
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    I absolutely don't accept men's friend requests. Come to think of it, I don't accept women either.:glasses:
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    I absolutely don't accept men's friend requests. Come to think of it, I don't accept women either.:glasses:

    Anyone else find the irony that she has her cat as her avatar? :laugh:
  • crazytreelady
    crazytreelady Posts: 752 Member
    Quite a few of them added me without a message and when I asked what I could help them do, they hit on me.
    There are a few that are really looking for motivation though!
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Quite a few of them added me without a message and when I asked what I could help them do, they hit on me.
    There are a few that are really looking for motivation though!

    Having you on my FL would be motivation enough for me. :tongue:
  • kvissy
    kvissy Posts: 205 Member

    boys have cooties?

    and they sweat.

    Girls don't sweat. They glow.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member

    boys have cooties?

    and they sweat.

    Girls don't sweat. They glow.

    Exactly :)
  • antoniosmooth
    antoniosmooth Posts: 299 Member

    boys have cooties?

    and they sweat.

    Girls don't sweat. They glow.

    Exactly :)

    I tell my wife it's so incredibly sexy and a turn on when she sweats....
  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    Ladies...I have a fiancee who I love deeply. I get flirtatious from time to time but that's my Brazilian side, I'd never act on it. I'm sorry, but I just can't do it...


    That being said: post some pictures of steak, bacon, or a good Pulled Pork Sammich, and I will stalk the HELL out of your pictures.

    Yes it will be repeated
    Yes it will get weird
    Yes it will be creepy
    Yes you will get single word private messages saying 'MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM'
    Yes you may read on the news how a man died for trying to eat his computer monitor


    So...fair warning.
  • blueeyedcristi
    blueeyedcristi Posts: 304 Member
    Ladies...I have a fiancee who I love deeply. I get flirtatious from time to time but that's my Brazilian side, I'd never act on it. I'm sorry, but I just can't do it...


    That being said: post some pictures of steak, bacon, or a good Pulled Pork Sammich, and I will stalk the HELL out of your pictures.

    Yes it will be repeated
    Yes it will get weird
    Yes it will be creepy
    Yes you will get single word private messages saying 'MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM'
    Yes you may read on the news how a man died for trying to eat his computer monitor


    So...fair warning.

    I think anyone posting pics of steak, bacon or pulled pork should definitely be considered a tease.
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    I absolutely don't accept men's friend requests. Come to think of it, I don't accept women either.:glasses:

    Anyone else find the irony that she has her cat as her avatar? :laugh:

    Loving your pet is ironic next to collecting up a bunch of strangers? Ironic=friends (that you don't even know)
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    I absolutely don't accept men's friend requests. Come to think of it, I don't accept women either.:glasses:

    Anyone else find the irony that she has her cat as her avatar? :laugh:

    Loving your pet is ironic next to collecting up a bunch of strangers? Ironic=friends (that you don't even know)

    I didn't think you would find the irony in it.

    As for collecting a bunch for strangers, that is not something I have ever done here or any other social networking site. I make new friends.
  • ryn013
    ryn013 Posts: 116
    Girls and guys go through completely different mind sets and what not when losing weight/building muscle.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Girls and guys go through completely different mind sets and what not when losing weight/building muscle.

    You don't have to share the same mindset with someone in order to support them or receive their support.
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    Girls and guys go through completely different mind sets and what not when losing weight/building muscle.

    You don't have to share the same mindset with someone in order to support them or receive their support.
    This...
  • honeysprinkles
    honeysprinkles Posts: 1,757 Member
    I have plenty of men and women on my friends list. However, I'm much more likely to accept a younger female (someone closer to my age) who sends me a blank friend request than a blank request from a 40-50 year old man. It makes me wonder why they're even adding me, especially without a message.

    I usually only send out requests to girls too, usually if they've already had great results (for inspiration) or if we have similar goals.

    I have great friends on here from all ages, some of my most supportive friends are older males (by older I just mean a good 15-20 years older than myself, or sometimes more) and it's nice to have a variety of friends, but I get why people might not be interested in that and I don't see why it should be a big deal.
  • WingMan380
    WingMan380 Posts: 2,139 Member
    I have a hard time buying the "respect for my spouse" bull *kitten* especially when you go onto threads and they are talking to other guys. I mean come on. In the real world do you only talk and associate with people of your same sex??? Get real.
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    I have a hard time buying the "respect for my spouse" bull *kitten* especially when you go onto threads and they are talking to other guys. I mean come on. In the real world do you only talk and associate with people of your same sex??? Get real.
    LIKE (thumbs up)
  • gmgburton
    gmgburton Posts: 11
    a lot of you girls are hilarious !!!! as a husband and a father I can understand everyone's point of view ... but why post pictures if you don't want someone to see you? everyone is on here for support or to give support and their weight loss journey.... Well, almost everyone ...
  • WingMan380
    WingMan380 Posts: 2,139 Member
    :huh:
  • ryliejaiden
    ryliejaiden Posts: 68
    I don't accept guys because women and men lose weight differently, so its hard to relate to them a lot of the time.
    Also, it's kind of a privacy thing. I think I would feel a little uncomfortable with males on my list. I know I would definitely censor certain posts if I had male friends. For me, it's almost like having a unisex locker room. It's fine, but a little uncomfortable. I wish I could hit, "accept" to every male request that I get, but for now I'm keeping it to ladies.

    Only accepting females because you are in a relationship seems silly to me. I am in a serious monogamous relationship with my live in boyfriend and I wouldn't think it inappropriate to add a man because of that. I mean, its a fitness website, its not a dating/flirting/hookup site. If you're in a real, loving, respectful, trusting relationship, it shouldn't be a problem. But that's just in my case, everyone's different.
  • SorchaRavenlock
    SorchaRavenlock Posts: 220 Member
    I have a hard time buying the "respect for my spouse" bull *kitten* especially when you go onto threads and they are talking to other guys. I mean come on. In the real world do you only talk and associate with people of your same sex??? Get real.

    I agree.
    I respect my husband by accepting that he has both male and female friends, and vice versa. Disrespectful would be flirting with another man. Sharing recipes and weight loss experiences with the opposite sex however... how on earth is that disrespectful? Unless you are really insecure of your relationship and don't have a foundation of trust, it shouldn't matter whom your other half talks to.
  • WingMan380
    WingMan380 Posts: 2,139 Member
    I agree.
    I respect my husband by accepting that he has both male and female friends, and vice versa. Disrespectful would be flirting with another man. Sharing recipes and weight loss experiences with the opposite sex however... how on earth is that disrespectful? Unless you are really insecure of your relationship and don't have a foundation of trust, it shouldn't matter whom your other half talks to.
    My wife and I both are on here and we both have males and females on our list. We have several friends in common. However I am kinda selective on the females that I ask to be my friends, I like to have something in common with the people I make friends with. I do not add females just becaues they are cute, that would be disrespectful to my wife. All of my friends know I am married and all of my wife's friends know she is married. I try to support everyone on my friends list and I enjoy the support I recieve from the guys and gals.
  • dontwantausername1
    dontwantausername1 Posts: 120 Member
    I don't accept male friend request. Men lose weight quicker than girls do; so I don't want to see that. Also, we girls post about our TOMs and cramps and whatnot. I don't want a guy to see that. I don't know how to write on my profile, so I get request from them. Some think that my profile picture is me (it's not) and write telling me I'm hot and want to be friends; I don't need that when trying to lose weight. It isn't motivating. I have nothing against guys at all, but I'd rather have people in the same boat as me. With all girl friends, our fluctuations are similar and if we are up a couple pounds up on a random day, we can better help each other to understand as our bodies work the same way. Same goes for exercise; we girls don't lift like guys do.

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