Women who don't accept male friend requests

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  • AmberBarrios
    AmberBarrios Posts: 394 Member
    Honestly, in my opinion, you wouldn't go out on the street and flash your "bits" without expecting some creepers so why would it be any different here. Everyone is entitled to be proud of their progress, but just be aware that there are creepers everywhere.
  • Smuterella
    Smuterella Posts: 1,623 Member
    Actually, is this "out of respect for my husband" more a US thing? Does it go alongside the idea of modest dress etc? Hmmmm.

    Just musing.
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    That would be NOYB. And it shouldn't matter why.
  • Travelfixer
    Travelfixer Posts: 137 Member
    well in my case its not specified on my profile but i accept only guys that are about my age , up to about 26. i have a lot of older guys (40+) add me and i usually deny , its nothing personal but i do have like bikini pics on my profile and i would just feel uncomfortable about having older men on there while i post these things. it feels like my dad seeing them lol. so thats my reason... if someone got offended sorry but you asked opinions...

    I don't understand that, you would go to a beach in a bikini!
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    well in my case its not specified on my profile but i accept only guys that are about my age , up to about 26. i have a lot of older guys (40+) add me and i usually deny , its nothing personal but i do have like bikini pics on my profile and i would just feel uncomfortable about having older men on there while i post these things. it feels like my dad seeing them lol. so thats my reason... if someone got offended sorry but you asked opinions...

    Yet you wear a bikini to the beach right? lol
    exactly.
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    Out of respect for my relationship. Which I'm sure is the same for many other women on here.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    That would be NOYB. And it shouldn't matter why.

    What is the point of even posting in the thread then?
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    i dont think i have male friends anymore..its not a respect for my relationship thing for me, one because im not here to date, and 2 because i am human and have the right to pick my own FRIENDS..i have male friends in person, as well as on FB..i think for me, its just easier to relate to females, since obviously i am also a female
  • Radcliffe83
    Radcliffe83 Posts: 82
    Id say get involved, then again I couldn't really care if someone doesn't want my friendship. To be fair I do bite so I understand if someone wouldn't want my support.
  • Travelfixer
    Travelfixer Posts: 137 Member
    I love the male friends I have on my list, they are funny, very supportive and have lots of good ideas. As for your husbands not liking it, I find that a little archaic were all here for the same reason mostly to lose weight, some to gain. If a guy is rude to you block him! Just my opinion, was married for 22 years to abit of a controlling jealous man , been divorced 9 years .
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    If my boyfriend wasn't comfortable with me having male friends then he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore. If one's bf forces them to delete male friends the guys has serious self-confidence issues.

    Thank you.
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    Golly, if my boyfriend minded something as innocuous as an internet friendship I'd consider him controlling and jealous and, most likely, end that relationship.

    exactly !! thats why i almost ended the relationship with the man im now married to..he got jealous over someone i knew, and decided i wasnt going to cheat..aside from the fact we lived on opposite sides of the country, i was in a happy relationship, so he knew it was ok for me to have male friends, just as he had female friends
  • IrishHarpy1
    IrishHarpy1 Posts: 399 Member
    "Out of respect for my husband/boyfriend/SO?"

    Seriously?

    I don't know about the rest of you, but my husband isn't a narrow-minded, self-centered, controlling man who would be offended or hurt if I were to have male friends on an internet forum. Most of my RL friends are men, and he has no problem with it in the least.

    It's called being comfortable and secure in one's relationship. Try it sometimes...
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Actually, is this "out of respect for my husband" more a US thing? Does it go alongside the idea of modest dress etc? Hmmmm.

    Just musing.

    could be, but I don't think so - least not in my case.
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
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  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    "Out of respect for my husband/boyfriend/SO?"

    Seriously?

    I don't know about the rest of you, but my husband isn't a narrow-minded, self-centered, controlling man who would be offended or hurt if I were to have male friends on an internet forum. Most of my RL friends are men, and he has no problem with it in the least.

    It's called being comfortable and secure in one's relationship. Try it sometimes...

    I think I like you...
  • BruteSquad
    BruteSquad Posts: 373 Member
    You know, I had never considered this a place to look for any form of romance or dating. I guess there is so much out on the internet that I would assume people would go to sites designed for those things. If you are looking for naked women, there is so much of it online that I run across it by accident. Early days of the internet, the top three listings under a google search for "Judo" were porn sites. I guess I underestimate the creeps out there.
    I see a lot of cool people here. And I was fortunate to get a number of guys as friends because there seems to be more women here than men. Well at least more that are active. I love my women friends, but sometimes you want some dudespeak. I can only assume that it is the same with women.
    As a side note, as a guy, I would never marry a woman I didn't trust to not hook up on MFP (or anywhere). The mere thought made me choke on my coffee.
  • shedoos
    shedoos Posts: 446 Member
    I have to say that my male MFP friends have never been anything other than supportive, funny, and respectful. In fact, I think the ratio of "good guys" to "creeps" on MFP is better than IRL.

    If you have issues- block them. Don't condemn the entire sex for a few jerks.

    But if someone is more comfortable with only same-sex friends - why does anyone care?
  • LizJ08
    LizJ08 Posts: 127
    I agree with what some of these ladies are saying. I would never want to come across as flirting or cross any lines because I am married. At the same time, I have maybe two or three male friends on here (one is my Dad). I had one that I de-friended because I got a creepy vibe from him, like he was doing this to hit on women. One of my male friends seems to have a lot of knowledge and I requested him because I wanted his advice and I think it's fine to do that. I'm not saying I won't friend someone who is male, or accept their friend request, but they're getting de-friended if they start coming across like they're hitting on me or other women. This isn't a dating site! I also think it could get confusing for men, wanting to be supportive to their female MFP friends and not knowing what to say for fear that it may be misconstrued as flirting. I know some people who are single flirt on here and I think that's fine, just not fine for me because I'm married. :-)
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    Out of respect for my husband - although he wouldn't mind & also because I really just want female friends.

    I agree I have only ever seen respectful and motivated men on here, it is nothing against them... just something I choose to do. Maybe I will change my mind in the future, but for now, women only.
  • StephySands
    StephySands Posts: 53
    I do have guy friends but when I joined MFP I had a discussion with my husband and told him that if he was uncomfortable with me having guy friends that I wouldn't. He knows that I love him and am only on here for support so he is perfectly fine with me having guy friends. However, if he wasn't then I wouldn't out of respect for the one I love :smooched:

    I have had to delete a guy before because I felt he was on here for the wrong reasons..........GIRL Shopping!!! I don't have time for stupid games :noway:
  • littleredrodeo
    littleredrodeo Posts: 8 Member
    simple, they prefer females only on this journey. period. it is their right. enough said.

    love what you said here. I have male and female friends myself... but I respect those who only want the same sex for support through their weight loss
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    Maybe for any number of reasons. Who cares?

    When you consider a lot of people use this site as a pickup site, some people don't want to be picked up for whatever reason.
  • xo_morgan
    xo_morgan Posts: 298
    There are plently of different reasons. I understand youre just curious, but its really no ones business.

    Whether it be they got harassed by someone from the opposite sex, they are respecting their spouse, they are embarassed to have opposite sex friends.

    Really no ones business.
  • gracielee1
    gracielee1 Posts: 71 Member
    men tend to see a hot picture of a girl standing in a bikini with her *kitten* sticking out and think there might be an opportunity for him so he sends a friend request. That's it. men see an opportunity, they'll go for it. some women find that to be distracting, especially if theyre on this site for the sole purpose of being accountable for themselves on their way to physical fitness. I don't think there's anything wrong with a female choosing not to accept male friend requests, and there's nothing wrong with explicitly stating that on their profile as well. They don't want a male friend and their flirtiness getting in the way of achieving their goals, that's how i see it.
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    "Out of respect for my husband/boyfriend/SO?"

    Seriously?

    I don't know about the rest of you, but my husband isn't a narrow-minded, self-centered, controlling man who would be offended or hurt if I were to have male friends on an internet forum. Most of my RL friends are men, and he has no problem with it in the least.

    It's called being comfortable and secure in one's relationship. Try it sometimes...

    Y'know, I have to disagree with your description of what their husbands / boyfriends are. Maybe they just feel uncomfortable with the idea, as what's the point in having male friends on your friend list any ways? To hear you look good from men? You can get the same advice from a female. That's my fiancé's thoughts and I respect them. I don't need to make him uncomfortable over something that doesn't bother me either way. And he's perfectly fine with me having the male friends that I do as I've known them for years.
  • butterflyliz32
    butterflyliz32 Posts: 124 Member
    Some of these women have had bad experiences with men on the site. You must never have met the man who will offer to send you pictures of his bits after you accept his request.
    Hey, baby. Check out my bits...

    drill-bits-30363.jpg

    Awesome.
  • Laura_beau
    Laura_beau Posts: 1,029 Member
    "Out of respect for my husband/boyfriend/SO?"

    Seriously?

    I don't know about the rest of you, but my husband isn't a narrow-minded, self-centered, controlling man who would be offended or hurt if I were to have male friends on an internet forum. Most of my RL friends are men, and he has no problem with it in the least.

    It's called being comfortable and secure in one's relationship. Try it sometimes...

    I concur

    And I really value my male friends on this site, in my experience I have deleted more females because of their BS!!
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I can't speak for others, but most of my friends are female. I have three daughters, two grandaughters, a wife; I even have a woman for a boss. I just relate to women.

    I rarely send out friend requests. I would guess that about 95% of the friends on my list sent a friend request to me. My demographic seems to be young women that are my daughters' age, families of servicemen and bikers.

    Your choice who you accept as a friend. Men are pigs; we all know that. As soon as a man opens your profile; he makes a quick judgement -- "I'd hit that." or, very rarely "Nope." Just as a woman does when opening a man's profile. Human nature.

    Doesn't mean we can't act and speak with respect.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Of course it is no ones business!

    So are a lot of the questions asked on the message boards. Still there is nothing wrong with the OP asking a question about something she is curious about.

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