Women who don't accept male friend requests
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To the girls getting unwanted harrassment, check your profile pic, what you say in posts and overall how you present yourself to the community. I'd imagine a lot could be avoided by not having a profile full of scantily clad photos, what kind of attention did you think you were going to get?
This is the essential "she was asking for it" argument. Just because a woman is showing off her success doesn't give someone the right to sexually harass them by sending unwanted dirty messages or pictures.0 -
I love when women state they don't like accepting requests from males with females only on their lists. They are allowed to prefer female friends but I'm not? :laugh:
My list doesn't have a single male on it and that is how it will stay. Do I have some pretty hot women on my list? Absolutely! However, if they were not focuses on their fitness and supportive of mine, they wouldn't be on my list.0 -
I have accepted men in the past, only to see that their friends list is full of half naked hot chicks (to me this says they are just here for a perve), or I have found they have left inappropriate messages and comments, which just pi**** me off. I just feel that I have much more to relate to with females. I am more focused on what they do, and how they got to where they are. I deleted a guy because of this (we just disn't have any reason to be friends, we had no contact with each other). He then sent me rude and sexist Msgs, like 'you must be a lesbian if you don't want me as your friend' and such things like this. Which is so immature and DUMB! Now I just CBF dealing with them.0
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This is the essential "she was asking for it" argument. Just because a woman is showing off her success doesn't give someone the right to sexually harass them by sending unwanted dirty messages or pictures.
There is a massive difference between a "progress" post to show differences, and rocking a victoria secret get up with your bits hanging out. If guys had profile pics of their D*cks, crotches etc, they'd be removed immediately, yet I can't read a thread without seeing some girls chest or *kitten* in a close up.0 -
sometimes I wanna talk about "lady problems" and not worry about dealing with them. and some are just creepy...like I'm 20 years old, I don't want some 45 year old man as my "friend." As for guys my age, I don't accept because, as I said, idk what kind of stuff I am going to want to post, and I'm already in a relationship and would prefer not to have guys hitting on me. Obviously there are some guys that'd be worth accepting, but I don't want to have to sort through and figure out if they can be my friend or not. Its just easier to say no to all of them.0
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Guys need support too. It's pretty easy to tell if a guy is Fr'ing you because he wants to be friends or he's hoping for a peek at the boobages.0
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I think it's rediculous and unfair, if someone is rude or sending u messages u don't want, delete them.......so one bad apple spoils the whole bunch? And if spouses are the reason, get over it, there are men everywhere, not all are interested in us in a sexual way.0
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err i would also like to add... there is like a 100 to 1 ratio .. on this site.. so guys with friends list full of girls.. this is because they already added all 5 of the men.0
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Very interesting thread. I rarely add females because I always assume they think I am a creeper.,.. I have a great set of friends here, and I'll add anyone who's active and supportive.. But I really like to add those friends who have similar beliefs as mine.
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Out of respect for my husband - although he wouldn't mind & also because I really just want female friends.
I agree I have only ever seen respectful and motivated men on here, it is nothing against them... just something I choose to do. Maybe I will change my mind in the future, but for now, women only.
Exactly. I don't think women (or anybody), who set limits on their friends do so for nefarious reasons. I feel less restricted having a "female only" friends group. Perhaps freer to discuss intimate things. Also, while my husband doesn't get jealous, as the quoted poster said, it can be a respect issue.0 -
On my profile I say I am married. And if they give me any problems --- they will be blocked or if it's more than that, contact the right authorities. But the real men wouldn't do that sort of thing if they know you are married.
Idk... I don't post too much personal stuff just what I eat and exercise :P And I'm not flaunting a bikini pic.... ;-) 0 -
This is a simple personal opinion (I said opinion), which means we are all entitled to do, think, and behave based on our own decisions. When it comes about "respect" to the husband or boyfriend, I wonder if respect is just what they want to see or call it when jealousy or lack of confidence is what's going on.
The reason why I say this is, because there are a lot of guys who will cross the line when it comes about how the communicate with female users here, but there's always the option of deleting and blocking the person here. A simple reply of a man in the forum to a woman is the same as to a reply to her status update. Is that disrespectful? Not at all. I would understand if a private message could be considered an issue, but things can be said right from the beginning to avoid issues.
This also makes me wonder, if the idea that a woman can't have an online male friend who might be able to help with weight loss and encouragement can be disrespectful, how is it in real life with either old male friends from before the woman got married, or those who are coworkers, etc.0 -
I think it's rediculous and unfair, if someone is rude or sending u messages u don't want, delete them.......so one bad apple spoils the whole bunch? And if spouses are the reason, get over it, there are men everywhere, not all are interested in us in a sexual way.
Thank you. To assume that all of us want to hit on everything that walks is moronic. Yes, there are some men that do that but guess what? There are women who do that too!0 -
Lol, guess I'm lucky because I'm the only male on lots of these lists!!!!
I accept all friends...female, male, gay, straight, etc. But believe it when I say if you're not around after 30 days, I delete you.
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For a while I didn't have any male friends on here. I never sent a request or never even received one from males so that's why I didn't have male friends for a long time.. Then one day I got a few male friend request and I figured it wasn't a big deal. But I'm sure some women prefer just female friends out of respect of thier SO or probably just want an all female group just because they want to0
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there are men everywhere, not all are interested in us in a sexual way.
Yes, there are gay men on here too.0 -
To the girls getting unwanted harrassment, check your profile pic, what you say in posts and overall how you present yourself to the community. I'd imagine a lot could be avoided by not having a profile full of scantily clad photos, what kind of attention did you think you were going to get?
This is the essential "she was asking for it" argument. Just because a woman is showing off her success doesn't give someone the right to sexually harass them by sending unwanted dirty messages or pictures.
It is perfectly possible to show off your progress and success without doing so in your underwear. There are a TON of women on here who have ridiculously sexual pictures, and then get pissed people look, and that's absurd. Present yourself as flirty and easy, and you ARE really asking for flirty messages back. Jesus.0 -
Interesting...I have both male and female friends on MFP, and I have many male friends in "real life," but I never ever get hit on by my MFP guy friends...I think all of my male friends are married or in relationships...or maybe they just think I'm ugly LOL...I think people should not be criticized for "girls only" or "guys only" requests...to each their own 0
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To the girls getting unwanted harrassment, check your profile pic, what you say in posts and overall how you present yourself to the community. I'd imagine a lot could be avoided by not having a profile full of scantily clad photos, what kind of attention did you think you were going to get?
This is the essential "she was asking for it" argument. Just because a woman is showing off her success doesn't give someone the right to sexually harass them by sending unwanted dirty messages or pictures.
It is perfectly possible to show off your progress and success without doing so in your underwear. There are a TON of women on here who have ridiculously sexual pictures, and then get pissed people look, and that's absurd. Present yourself as flirty and easy, and you ARE really asking for flirty messages back. Jesus.
Agreed! While these sort of pictures definitely don't justify sexual harassment, if you present yourself as easy, don't be pissed when people treat you as such.0 -
Love my male friends, they Rock. If anyone is weird it's easy enough to delete them0
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A lot of ladies have had some less than enjoyable experiences or might just feel odd having male friends b/c of their relationship dynamic or something. I accept male requests, although I've only ever received a few out of my 180+ friends LOL, I have enjoyed the guys that I have friended, they are great support and fun to support back, it's kind of awesome seeing their insane high calorie burns and several of them feel similarly about certain food issues which is nice. I also requested ninerbuff just b/c he's awesome. :-)0
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i seem to recall the episode of "how i met your mother" where barney called his girl friends at the gym "investments" haha0
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I'll take their share of the man friends! :-)
I'd love more buddies!0 -
i seem to recall the episode of "how i met your mother" where barney called his girl friends at the gym "investments" haha
Such a good episode. I was mildly horrified, but still.0 -
The reason I don't accept male friend requests is something you hit on- the progress pics i've taken have been so helpful to me in seeing my progress but i don't feel comfortable having others guys look at and comment on my body. I'm engaged and i know 1. my fiancee wouldn't be comfortable with it either and 2. he is extremely supportive and always gives me feedback, constructive criticism, and encouragement. Also, men and women are SO different in what they need to train. I read forums and blogs so i do see good advice but i like to talk with women so i can relate.
If i get a male friend request, which is not frequent, i send a polite message explaining why i won't accept and wish them luck and offer encouragement. I have always gotten nice and respectful messages back so it's not really those men i'm guarding against. Just a little more cautious although anything on the internet is pretty public these days...
This! No offense but my husband is the only male I need to get positive comments and encouragement from. It is a respect thing I have for my marriage and I am happy with "female only" friends.0 -
My wife and I are both on here. I have males and females on my friends list including my wife and she has male and female friends on her list as well. Same on facebook and twitter. My wife and I trust each other and we know that we are on here for support in our weight loss efforts.
^^^^^This^^^^^ I have a smaller friends list than my wife, but I have less time to support, so try to keep it small. I find that support is support no matter what the gender.0 -
wow. There's a whole lot of creepers out there........Hide your bikini pics.....If I accept your friend request I am still not showing speedo shots till the second week.........0
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I have some really bad personal messages sent to me. I block them immediately, but hard to have too many guy friends after that. I wont put up with it.
You have a bellybutton made for shots....just saying...
Lol! Thank you xD One of my friends said that right before you did! xD
Does this count as one of those "deserving it" Pics? Just wondering since I dont usually see many that are bad xD0 -
i've had various creepy messages from men. and usually when a guy requests, ALL their current friends are women. and i also find that creepy.Oh that does make sense lol. I hadn't even thought of that. I'm not in a relationship, so I guess that's why the thought hadn't occured to me.
i have quite a few guy friends who are very cool and really nice. and i do have a boyfriend who is also part of the MFP community
edit: and my current pic is as revealing as my pics are so the creepy messages i definitely find as a huge harassment0
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