Women who don't accept male friend requests

transfixedtoast

I'm happy to have any friends...animal, vegetable or mineral. Bring them on! I'm new and really like the community.

As a sodium rich turnip I appreciate this message.
Don't discriminate the vegetables.

Christina1007

I have guy friends, but I wonder if sometimes ladies don't accept requests from guys out of respect for their relationship? If my hubby was uncomfortable with my guy friends they'd be deleted. I'm glad he doesn't mind since they're all pretty awesome.

This!

ladyraven68

Just like in real life, I just have friends.

I don't identify them by their sex, as long as they can help or support me then I add them.

I don't understand the "out of respect for my husband/partner" responses either, unless you think your husband partner doesn't trust you.

I've been married for 22 years, I think my husband knows already that I love him, and he's happy for me to receive all the support I can get as long as I am happy and it gets me to my goal.

beduffbrickie

dont understand this topic, as its only the internet, Im here for my reasons not to harrass people, yea I like a bit of light hearted banter, who doesnt, If any females want to try and have a male friend in there friends list by all means add me I dont bite, I would like to think im quite supportive.

littletinyemma

PERSONALLY I THINK THE WHOLE GENDER SPECIFICATION IN FRIENDS IS A LOAD OF BULL. NO OFFENSE TO ANYONE, BUT TO BE QUITE HONEST SOME OF MY BEST AND CLOSEST FRIENDS ARE GUYS!

chrishgt4

I don't really get it to be honest - and regarding the 'out of respect for my partner' stuff - I wouldn't be bothered if my partner was friends with guys, whether in real life on on the internet, just like I wouldn't put up with a gf of mine being upset that I have female friends.

That said - I have only been denied a friend request once on that basis but it was accompanied by a very cool email explaining it. At the end of the day it's the other person's choice who they want to be friends with, thought I do find a general sweep of the entire male population to be strange...

Topsking2010

Personally I am on here to support as many people as I can regardless of their background, age, male or female.

1Timothy4v8

I like to talk about sex and what not, so to me myfitnesspal is like hanging out with my lady friends cause sense I am married I would never talk about such things with other guy's, big disrespect for my husband!

So I do it as a sign of respect to my hunny!

Matt_Wild

I have some really bad personal messages sent to me. I block them immediately, but hard to have too many guy friends after that. I wont put up with it.

The irony is works both ways, you naughty ladies!

mickipedia

Personally I quite like having male friends.. Simply because they'll give you a direct answer if you're struggling with something whereas women just fluff it up with compliments and "well done for trying"

HorrorChix89

I'd rather have male friends than female friends usually. They aren't all "HEY YOU GO GIRL" when I gain 3lbs and ***** about it -_-

TinkrBelz

I have it on my profile Female Request Only. I am married and have 5 sons (3 are teenagers) and 1 daughter. I am in a male world ALL OF THE TIME! Now, I love it! I am basically a guy at heart. I love sports, actions movies, farts, female jokes (go make me a sandwich), so I just wanted to have a place where I can be a girl and do my girl thing!

Whine about my butt being too big, or what is this jiggly spot on my inner thigh, I am having my period so I am bloated, do my boobs look smaller?? Those sort of girl things that I think would be inappropriate to have with male friends.

But, I get on the message boards and I love reading what our male MFP say and I learn a lot from them, I just wanted my wall to be just for my girl friends.

Blessedmommy_2x

I don't get this, "out of respect for my husband/boyfriend" this is a fitness site not a dating site...

It's supposed to be strictly a fitness site... but that is debatable at times. It's not really for you "to get"... its a matter of personal preference, that's all.Not meant to offend anyone. In my case my hubby doesn't really care if I have guy friends on here, "I" choose not too.

Honestly my MAIN reason for only having females is because we have more in common when it comes to losing weight. We struggle with similar things, and can relate with each other better. That's basically it.

Alicia_Monique

I would prefer to be friends with males because they are much less judgemental than women.

But, if I had to guess why, I would say it's because maybe some of their pictures show a little much and they're uncomfortable/insecure with men they don't know seeing them?

kanmuri

If my boyfriend wasn't comfortable with me having male friends then he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore. If one's bf forces them to delete male friends the guys has serious self-confidence issues.

reztib

I have found good sources of support male and female. I think other offer different perspectives as well on how they achieve goals, lose weight, nutrition and working out. I can understand why some women aren't comfortable with be friends with guys. Every friend request I tried to send has a message. Most of my friends on MFP are doing or have done P90X. That or they have a weight loss journey that is greater than 50 pounds. I check MFP more than Facebook. That is a good thing.

cat3nv

Perhaps it is just to show respect to their husbands. I have male MFP friends, but I have also turned down male friend requests. If they send a message telling me I look pretty in my pic, or they only have female friends and talk sexy back and forth on their walls I have no need for that kind of friend.

graelwyn

I don't care what race, gender, planet my friends come from, so long as they are civil to me, make some effort to keep occasional contact and are honest. A friend is a friend, especially in this strange land of the interwebs. I never came here expecting friends anyway, because I am in a different boat to many, with trying to find a healthy way of living after 2/3 of my life spent with eating issues of one kind or another, and having never been overweight by medical definition.

reaolliemama

I have guy friends, but I wonder if sometimes ladies don't accept requests from guys out of respect for their relationship? If my hubby was uncomfortable with my guy friends they'd be deleted. I'm glad he doesn't mind since they're all pretty awesome.

^^^THIS^^^ My husband is one of my MFP guy friends, and if he didn't want me to have other guy friends I wouldn't...just as he would not have other gals out of respect for me...

yeowiepower

have noticed there is a fair bit of sleeze on this site, which is unfortunate... but it is the internet afterall... each to their own to do whatever they need to, to reach their goals and feel comfortable about it...

kforrest1

I'm always amazed at how many hang-ups women have.

beskimoosh

I can understand why some women don't feel comfortable with it, because I have had a few sleazy messages, but I just delete the guys that are like that, or deny them if they're obviously just looking for women.

Some of my guy friends on here are the most supportive and lovely people tbh, and my boyfriend doesn't have a problem with me talking to men, so long as it's nothing out of line! I didn't realise people would deny men out of respect to their partner, me and my bpyfriend don't really have a relationship like that, but whatever works for the individual is what is important

I've got no shame, I'll talk about anything to anyone on my friends list, it wouldn't stop me posting something!

mickipedia

I don't really get the whole "out of respect to me SO" either.. I mean.. If a guy says something inappropriate then either ask him to stop or delete him.

There is harmless flirting that goes on because we all motivate each other and improve each others confidence.. The more confident you are the more daring you feel so you make a little joke here and there.. There are a few guys I'm friends with who have told me I look good in pics or whatever.. Doesn't mean I'm gonna run off with them.

Saying something like "looking good" when you change your pic is nothing.. Women say it to other women so why can't men?

I think a lot of it is assumption based.. He said you look good so he's obviously a creep.. He's not just a nice guy.

And I agree with kanmuri, if your man isn't happy with you talking to other guys then you need yourself a new man!

ScatteredThoughts

I don't have male friends because I don't think men would understand the situation I'm in. Plus they all attach messages that say **** like "hey qt" or something else stupid. Men, tsk tsk.

Really? Guess I didnt get the memo.

More seriously, Ive seen a lot of unwanted attention given to females from men on various forums. Its one of the sad facts of the Internet. Never associate with anyone who gives you cause for concern.

iron_jj

Sometimes I'm really happy that I'm not in a relationship. Hubby acting up over e-friends on a weight loss related page? That sure is a good one lol. :bigsmile:

BPayton27

I have a few men on my list. They are all incredibly motivating and friendly. One of my biggest supporters AND motivators is an older gentleman. I look forward to his posts and seeing his progress. I am here for one purpose though, and that is to change my life through healthier eating and exercise. If you are hard working and encouraging, I want you as a friend no matter what your gender it.

It is not a popularity contest for me, nor a flirt free for all. I've been sent some pretty inappropriate messages that I ignore. I am married and have respect for my husband. I have a few married women on my list with VERY revealing profile pics and lists full of men. They spend more of their time exchanging sexual innuendo than they do posting workouts, etc. To each is own, but that's just not why I am here.

Some women aren't comfortable talking about periods, gas, bloating, etc. in front of men. They might feel restricted in what kind of progress pics they can share. They might be in a relationship and just aren't comfortable with it. It's their right.

NicoleAmesRN

I think part of it is that the journey in weightloss for males and females is different. We metabolize very differently. Typically our physique and muscle mass is very different. And men don't go through the up and down body changes on a monthly basis that we go through either.
I have no problem accepting guy friends, but I can see how it would be an issue. In my own personal life its really hard to watch how quickly my boyfriend, friends, and brothers can shed weight or get toned anytime they put their mind to it where as I've been struggling to lose weight for over a year. It's great to get their support, but sometimes it's discouraging that I can't stay caught up with them in my own journey.

Smuterella

Golly, if my boyfriend minded something as innocuous as an internet friendship I'd consider him controlling and jealous and, most likely, end that relationship.

huracan_mery

All the guys who have added me as friends have been very respectful and oriented to their own goals. I am happy to add men as friends here. But on the message boards I gravitate toward the threads with productive conversation or shared background/interests and avoid the threads with people acting immature in general so maybe I'm self-selecting.

InnerFatGirl

It sounds quite pretentious to me. I wonder what their reaction would be if all the men put 'no females!' on their profile.

LOL, I'm open to anyone :-)