Women who don't accept male friend requests

LucyBWL57

I have guy friends, but I wonder if sometimes ladies don't accept requests from guys out of respect for their relationship? If my hubby was uncomfortable with my guy friends they'd be deleted. I'm glad he doesn't mind since they're all pretty awesome.

Wow - congratulations on a terrific job with your weight loss.

LeanerBeef

I've also considered adding a note to my profile that I don't accept male friend requests.......true story.

cohophysh

I am going to send friend requests to everyone who posted...male, female, creeper, perv or what not:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

kstep88

Maybe they only want female friends. Isn't that reason enough?

I guess, but enough to go out of their way to specify that male friend requests won't be accepted? I just don't understand why. It's mind boggling to me. What's wrong with male friends?

boys have cooties?

^^^^ Ya!

Trail_Addict

I have some really bad personal messages sent to me. I block them immediately, but hard to have too many guy friends after that. I wont put up with it.

You have a bellybutton made for shots....just saying...

Lol! Thank you xD One of my friends said that right before you did! xD

Does this count as one of those "deserving it" Pics? Just wondering since I dont usually see many that are bad xD

Actually... your pic makes me think of the scene from Hot Shots, where Charlie Sheen was cooking bacon on Valeria Golino's belly. LOL

slkehl

I have male friends, but I can relate to my female friends much better on a fitness/diet level.

theNurseNancy

I try to limit mine out of respect for my husband. Not that he controls any of that, it just makes me feel more comfortable. I'd feel uncomfortable if the majority of his friends were women (if he were to be a member).

TheBraveryLover

It's not on my profile, but I don't accept them. Plainly put, I don't relate to men when it comes to my fitness goals and since this is MYfitnesspal, I want friends who I can relate to. It's also the reason I decline about 90% of the women who request to add me as a friend.

SergeantSunshine_reused

I just took bacon out of the freezer to have for breakfast
Now I guess ill have to settle and cook it on the griddle though! lol

Ittybitty22

probably everything u said and more men will push u more than women will i think thats y they see quicker results

Karalopolous

Lol, I initially was having a fine time with the males on here, and then recently, heh heh heh. One just got creepy with me....he added me, even sent a personal message with the request. He then went over the line and HE deleted me, am I insane? lmao, some people are so friggin' redonkulous

nammer79

I to have been subjected to this cold way of thought lol but really I had one good friend for about two weeks then she had to get rid of all her male friends hubby didn't like it. Who knew she was married didn't say much on her wall besides the fact she wanted to be a MILF and I for one thought I should support this way of thinking. Lol (true story) but really was a great fitbit friend but that's life.

pg1girl

you know what I"m wondering? Why it matters? Is this really an entire thread dedicated to people having to explain themselves on an issue that doesn't even affect you, as you're not male? yes it is. mind boggling.

As someone whose closest friends are all male, I was just curious why people would go out of their way to avoid male friendships. Not that I need to be "explaining myself on an issue that doesn't even affect you"

I understand what you are saying but as a woman who works in a male dominated industry and watches single people befriending other peoples spouses....flirting, lunching, talking dirty to each other, relationships forming and marriages splitting up....why put yourself in that situation. I chat with the guys I work with but certainly don't go for one on one meals etc with them. The social media has opened so many doors for cheating. Emotionally and physically. This is just how I feel from watching it happen around me and couldnt care less what everyone else does! I know the majority of the men on here are absolutely amazing though and wish them ll the best.

Trail_Addict

Lol, I initially was having a fine time with the males on here, and then recently, heh heh heh. One just got creepy with me....he added me, even sent a personal message with the request. He then went over the line and HE deleted me, am I insane? lmao, some people are so friggin' redonkulous

It wasn't me! :laugh:

nammer79

I just took bacon out of the freezer to have for breakfast
Now I guess ill have to settle and cook it on the griddle though! lol

^^^ Mmm bacon

D446

To the girls getting unwanted harrassment, check your profile pic, what you say in posts and overall how you present yourself to the community. I'd imagine a lot could be avoided by not having a profile full of scantily clad photos, what kind of attention did you think you were going to get?

This is the essential "she was asking for it" argument. Just because a woman is showing off her success doesn't give someone the right to sexually harass them by sending unwanted dirty messages or pictures.

Exactly! What a ridiculous post. Not only is it completely sexist, but I DON'T have a scantily clad picture, I DON'T have provocative posts, do I deserve to be harassed?! I think it is more of an issue of particular men learning to respect women, then women having to 'cover up' so we don't have to be harassed.

asia_hanebach

Well anyway, any guys who don't intend on asking for/sending strange pictures are more than welcome to send a friend request my way. No girls allowed! Kidding. Seriously though, mfp is about getting/giving support to people just like you that are trying to get healthy. So jeez people, just support each other!

linnyrhea

I never really thought about it to be honest. I have both male and females friends on here and I have never had an issue. My husband doesnt care either way, He has female friends on his fitness pal, doesnt bug me either. As long as these people are here for the same reason as me, and not to be inappropiate, then I'm ok with it

ThaRealNicki

I have guy friends, but I wonder if sometimes ladies don't accept requests from guys out of respect for their relationship? If my hubby was uncomfortable with my guy friends they'd be deleted. I'm glad he doesn't mind since they're all pretty awesome.

I dont deny EVERY request from a guy but same goes for my relationship, its all out of respect. Needless to say I do have guys on my list and my fiance' doesnt really mind when I get request from men

liljgrafix

I say the more the merrier.. ill accept anyone. im not bias as to the sex of the peraon if they can help me with my journey

Apryl546

I need more male friends. LOL.
I have far too many females.

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

I have lots of guy friends here on MFP & they're all nice & respectful. I don't reject any friend request & I also have a boyfriend right now (not on MFP though) but he doesn't mind it if I have guy friends & so am I to his female friends. The only thing that would make me angry is if they're starting to act more than just flirting with my guy. I guess its all about having trust to one another but of course that's just me & my guy and there are people who gets jealous easily even if they know that their partners love them so much.

However I do respect those women who doesn't want male friends. It might be out of respect for their partners, they're probably lesbians who aren't comfortable with having male friends or because of bad experiences in the past.

StrawberrySt

Males or females, doesn't bother me or my boyfriend!

I love my friends on here and try to keep most of them in a similar age and weight range to me so we can compare goals, fodd diaries and successes. And I have a good mix of people who are maintaining and doing lots of strength without a focus on weight loss too.

But I don't have many friends who are trying to lose a huge amount of weight. Just personal preference I suppose (and I would feel too jealous of the bigger losses they get!) I would accept the friend request from them but I probably wouldn't send a request.

But in the end isn't it about support? If someone got creepy I'd delete regardless of gender.

Kenzietea2

I don't get this, "out of respect for my husband/boyfriend" this is a fitness site not a dating site...

Yes, and being on this site many women post progress pictures in their underwear.
My husband is extremely relaxed about things, and even if he didn't care there is no way I would post full underwear pictures considering I am friends with other men on here. I personally find it disrespectful to him and doubt he would like it very much.

Edit to say: If I did ever want to post almost naked pictures, I probably would only be friends with women too and my pictures would be blocked to everyone except friends. I have no judgments towards women who show it off (go you!), I just would feel SUPER uncomfortable with anyone else besides him seeing the goods unless those 'other people' were women.

412HeavyLifter

The men on my profile are all good guys. I'm psychic I can spot a perv just by looking at their pic and friends list

SweetProgression

If they're married maybe they don't trust themselves or they could be single and shy....
I rather guys because they're less concerned about competing or sensitivity and more about honesty and fun when it comes to fitness. I have 3 male pals one is a married motivating jokster, the other always says something to root for me and one is nice and new.

Di3012

So I've seen this many many times, where a girl has it written on her profile that she doesn't accept friend requests from males. I'm just wondering if any of these girls could explain the reasoning behind this?

I've personally only ever had the guys of mpf be super nice and polite, and haven't seen any sort of harassment that's sometimes encountered on other online communities. The guys are here for the same reasons that we're here, right? So is it to avoid harassment?

Is it for the same reasons that some girls don't feel comfortable working out in front of guys (a self-conscious sort of thing)? Is it so that you can post before/after pictures with less clothing than you would if guys you don't really know can see them?

I don't know, I'm just trying to understand what the reasoning for this is. Any ideas??

Perhaps they've been harassed on other sites by blokes.

I have males on my buddy list so I have no idea what their reasons may be.

yeahfatty

wow ... i wish i knew of the MFP you guys know .. that site sounds REALLY exciting.

blueeyedcristi

I don't understand it either but to each their own. I have gotten some rather random messages though...

Peta22

I don't have many male MFP friends but my reasoning was pretty simple... I wanted to be-friend people who were working towards similar things as me and faced similar issues - most of the guys I know seem to lose weight easily which is definitely NOT my experience to start with! I also tended to try and be-friend women who were closer to my age as well... I know I lost weight a lot easier when I was younger so I assume that is also the case for many other late teen/early 20 something's.

Essentially, I wanted to feel that my friends shared MY experience rather than being a guy who loses weight with little effort while eating heaps ect or a teen who can eat nothing but vege's for a few days and lose 5kg! Generalization's I know but hopefully you get the idea...

Having said all that, there is very few things that will make me actually deny a friendship request so my friends list is pretty varied now