Having Babies is no Excuse
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The only thing that is sad is your fat shaming women and mothers and refusing to even consider that you are coming across really really badly. It would come across differently if your post was directed at women who are not actively trying to lose weight and get healthier. But the women here are already trying, they are not making excuses.
Womens and moms are coming here for help and advice, not to be shamed and told they are making excuses and are failures. Because thats how your post is coming across. It comes across as I did this and you should be able to do the same exact things and get the results. Which is totaly untrue. Every single women is different, no diet or exercise plan is going to do the same thing.
I personaly have no excuses for how I look. I am likely faster then many women, I am far stronger then any women I have known in my lifetime. I can out do my spouse in pushups and he is certianly no fat slob. Its not going to change how my midsection looks. I get judged so harshly for my apearence, but perhaps you should take a step back and think that others are going threw some altogether different and perhaps way harder then what you have gone threw. Before you start slapping blanket acusations on whole groups. Like having babies is no excuse, bah having babues is the REASON I look the way I do.
I was not motivated by the OP's post at all. I did think it was a tad offensive. That is why I posted that I do not use my children as an "excuse" and never have. I would never blame weight gain on them. How ridiculous. But pregnancy is the reason I did gain weight. My health was the reason I didn't lose it. I am hypo thyroid too (Hashimotos) and it isn't just finding the right dose of meds and "bam" your losing weight. If it were that simple then I wouldn't be here.
Like some others said, to assume that women are using their kids as an excuse is lame. Maybe the OP blamed her kids for her weight gain, but that doesn't mean all of us think of it that way. To me, it would be like being declared infertile after having one baby due to complications, then blaming that baby for not being able to have more. It's senseless.
Did she word her "inspirational post" wrong? Probably. But then again she did start her post off with "this may be harsh"....so she knew some people were going to get their hackles raised by it. But thank the lord she looks great because otherwise she wouldn't have all these people coming to her rescue on this thread lol
I can appreciate both sides. I see where some women do blame their kids for their weight gain....even if I think that is ridiculous....and I see how some find this post a bit offensive...because not all women blame their weight gain on their children, but pregnancy can do a number on a woman's body, and she may never recover from that...you just have to reconcile with it and do the best with what you have. Sometimes that takes time.
Also agree with the post about directing it at the women here, who are obviously doing something about their weight and using no excuses. So it would appear that the post should have been geared more towards women who are not even reading this forum. So what was the point really? That is what some of us were left wondering. Gloating? Bragging? Inspiration? We each saw it differently. We are allowed to. Expect some dissent...take what you like and leave the rest. I think it applies to both sides. While I can appreciate what the OP tried to do...it didn't happen in a positive way and I think even she would have to agree that she didn't exactly write it in the most positive way either.0 -
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So, if my post offended you, then you need to look inside yourself and figure out why. My post was meant to inspire other moms that yes, our bodies have changed and they may never be pre-baby perfect....BUT we are moms and we are women and we can accomplish what we choose to accomplish!!! And if you choose that you want to lose your baby weight and you want to get the best body that you can get back....then DO IT!!! And don't get angry at me and say that I am gloating when I have been pregnant 6 times! When I have sacrificed 17 years of my body to pregnancies and breastfeeding for my children. Do you know what sort of schedule I have with 6 kids from the age of 2-17???? Imagine it for a minute, and re-think that I am gloating or preaching!! (Side note) I also nearly lost 3 children because of 1st trimester bleeding....going through ultrasounds weekly to make sure the baby that I was carrying was still alive...afraid that if I moved wrong I would hurt my baby. I bled through 3 pregnancies...so it was no cake walk for me either!
If your post was meant to be inspiring then why didn't you post what you did here? Instead of posting ..."this may be harsh...."
You are being judgmental of moms who are not even on these forums lol ....the ones who are not getting healthy and blaming their kids...what good does that do? What mom here has not made the decision to be healthy? They wouldn't even be here if they had not already made that decision.
Why is it that if I don't agree that your post is "inspirational", that "I" have to be the one to look inside myself? lol
Thanks but no thanks. I don't need your kind of inspiration lol. and I will look elsewhere.0 -
If your post was meant to be inspiring then why didn't you post what you did here? Instead of posting ..."this may be harsh...."
You are being judgmental of moms who are not even on these forums lol ....the ones who are not getting healthy and blaming their kids...what good does that do? What mom here has not made the decision to be healthy? They wouldn't even be here if they had not already made that decision.
Why is it that if I don't agree that your post is "inspirational", that "I" have to be the one to look inside myself? lol
Thanks but no thanks. I don't need your kind of inspiration lol. and I will look elsewhere.
The reason why I said it might be harsh, because sometimes the truth is harsh. If you are a mom that was like me, and used the "I had kids" excuse, then it might be a tad harsh to say, don't use that excuse! Don't settle for an unfit body! Work hard to be YOUR best! DON'T say, I can't be my best becaue I have had kids or I am too old (again, MY TWO excuses)
And yes, there are plenty of moms on MFP that use the "I had kids and can't lose the baby weight" excuse. I have read it so many times on different posts. What you think because a woman joins MFP that she is not going to get discouraged and want to quit because she just thinks that she can not do it?? How many moms look at pictures of perfect abs and think, "well, since I will never get my perfect tummy back, I might as well eat what I want"? I know that I did! Heck, I hit this around 2 months ago! Yah, on here! I was pissed at seeing these perfectly sculpted abs knowing that I will NEVER have that again! But, I did not give in...I let that anger motivate me to be MY BEST! I even flooked up and contacted a 45 year old female fitness model mom of 3! She gave me advice...and guess what...I passed it on here. I am constantly passing on her advice!
And I responded to a couple of other ladies that decided to call me a bully, gloating, mightier than thou...that if you took my words as such, then there are more problems within yourself
Again, my thread is for moms that used this excuse for keeping on their baby weight or for not being able to get fit again. If you never used this excuse, then this post will mean nothing to you and you won't "get it" Obviously a lot of other moms "got it"!0 -
Are you sure you know what you're doing? You may well wait 'till after 35 then find that you're not longer able to! I'd suggest you give yourself a head start and start trying earlier.Really? I'm turning 32 and just now thinking about trying in a year....I hate when people say crap like this. RUDE AND UNNECESSARYI agree too...I can't stand it when people question others on when they should have children just because they're older. I'm only 29 and I am not even married yet. Everyone is different and they should respect that!
People only question it because there is PROOF that risk for the child being born with handicaps and problems for the mother getting pregnant at that age. She only meant that if you try a little earlier, and you have difficulties, they have time to figure out whats wrong before your fertility goes down. I'm only 23 and my gyn has found my uterus is odd shaped, and it may cause difficulties with pregnancy. It may require surgery, something I am worried about, but am GLAD they found it NOW rather than when it is too late for me. Your body doesn't always follow your schedule and family planning.
You are 23. Therefore you couldn't understand what it feels like to have someone look at you all sad when you are 31 and assume things about you. I've been married for 8 years to the love of my life. We are having a lot of fun. He is 40. If we want to have a baby, it is our choice. If we don't, it is our choice. If I have one at 32 or 38 or whatever age I feel, I will STILL BE OFFENDED by comments such as yours about 'risk for the child being born with handicaps...'. People should not say things like this. It is not your business to say that my age is the defining factor for what happens in my life or my child's, if I end up having one. Or more.
i swear, some people have such thin skin and get offended by everything.
i used my age as an example, that i have something wrong with my reproductive sysytem NOW and found out. if you are 35+ you are dealing with decreased fertility AND whatever issues you have that may interfere. If you find out if your chances at being able to conceive are less when you are younger, you will be ready when you want to try to start having kids.
And how can you be offended by a FACT? Yeah, you may not want to believe it, but its true. Having a child later in life involves more risk. But it is your choice to have/not have kids whenever you choose. Your body doesn't always do what you want, when you want.0 -
But for those that seem to have poor reading comprehensive skills, I think I will state things a little clearer so even those people can understand.
You look great. I don't think anyone will disagree with that. I also find the photos inspirational. That goes for any weight loss photos, not just post baby weight photos.
I get what you were saying in your original post but I can also see how others may have taken your words and not found them helpful. We all interpret things differently. That being said, I did find your above comment a little offensive to our fellow MFPs. Just because they don't agree with you does not mean they have poor reading comprehension skills. They simply have a different opinion than you. These women already feel insulted and your "clarification" post seemed more of a talking down to them then anything.
Sorry, just my two cents.0 -
I just want to say that there is a reason people say "you look great, especially for having X number of children". It is because pregnancy does things to your body and to your emotions that nothing else does. It changes you from the inside out. And then comes the baby. Heaven forbid, you deal with postpartum depression or any other major life events that set you back for time and energy.
Having babies is a challenge, no question. If you're on this site, it means you've chosen to take on the challenge of getting in shape. No need for pissing contests. Just get it done, the best way you can. You're here, we can assume you are done making excuses.
I think this is where the misunderstandings arise. People want respect. The message can get lost if the delivery seems a little...superior. However, the message is still one of motivation. Why wouldn't you take it?0 -
Ladies, do we really need to be so combative with each other? OP is proud of her accomplishments, as she should be, and was looking for a way to show them off (and that's okay) and to motivate others. She didn't mean to be insulting. Lets calm down.
But I do think that we, as mothers, do need to make an effort to put ourselves at the top of our lists occasionally. My mother never took care of her own mental or physical health. Consequently she was a horrible mother as she slipped further and further into depression and she passed away in September as a somewhat indirect result of her failure to take care of her health. She only really knew 2 of her 10 grandchildren. One of the the things that makes me saddest about her death is the knowledge that she was unhappy most of her life. A happy and healthy mother is a good mother.0 -
But for those that seem to have poor reading comprehensive skills, I think I will state things a little clearer so even those people can understand.
That being said, I did find your above comment a little offensive to our fellow MFPs. Just because they don't agree with you does not mean they have poor reading comprehension skills. They simply have a different opinion than you. These women already feel insulted and your "clarification" post seemed more of a talking down to them then anything.
Sorry, just my two cents.
So, I guess you have no problem with them calling me a bully, mightier than thou, bragging, rude, gloating, preachy, hurtful, cruel. I was kind and even offered one a girl an "olive branch" saying that I understood her frustration! Guess what, she still came back to insult me more.
Again, this is HOW I felt. I even got angry at my husband because he did not have to carry 6 kids in his body, he did not get stretch marks on his tummy, he did not have to lose 60lbs 6 times!! Yes, these were defeating me!! Why should I even bother to work hard if I can never get my pre baby body back? Why work hard when I will still have loose skin and stretch marks on my tummy and it looks like an elderly grandmother's tummy? I had 6 kids! Who does that??? These were my thoughts!!
So to those that do not understand my frustration that I was having, chances are, you never felt like that. AND so, my post comes off to you as preachy. To the other moms that felt the same way...they get it. They understand using that excuse as many moms have stated on here!
And yes, we are on here to get healthier and more fit. But, we still will have our ups and downs while we are on here. Read through the posts seeing that other moms said that they needed to read this!! Goodness, I needed to read this around 2 months ago when I was frustrated with my tummy skin!!! I will need to read this in a few months when I get frustrated again. I will post on my home wall my frustrations, and my MFP girls will help me and inspire me to stay strong....they will slap me back into reality!!!
I am by no means Jillian Michaels and would never compare myself to her...but is she sometimes harsh on the people she trains? Does she yell at them to get through to them...to keep them going?? Sometimes we need it!! I need a kick to say, GIRL, KEEP GOING!!! So what that you are 42 and have 6 kids...BE YOUR BEST!!!0 -
My mother never took care of her own mental or physical health. Consequently she was a horrible mother as she slipped further and further into depression and she past away in September as a somewhat indirect result of her failure to take care of her health. She only really knew 2 of her 10 grandchildren. One of the the things that makes me saddest about her death is the knowledge that she was unhappy most of her lift. A happy and healthy mother is a good mother.
I am so sorry. That is heart breaking that your mom was never truly happy. You are right, "A happy and healthy mother is a good mother" ((hugs))0 -
To the OP, you look great, keep it up !!
I know for myself after having kids and a husband who worked 12 hours a day working out and eating right where just not as easy as I hoped. I think for alot of mom's like me once your kids hit a certain age it become easier to make some more time for yourself. When you have babies or toddlers it is hard !! Now that my kids are 10 and 8 I can workout more
My husband is a chef too0 -
Ladies ladies...for all of those that were offended by the OP's 'style' there are many pages of women that found it motivating.
I respond well to the 'get off your *kitten* and stop making excuses mentality'. I was using pregnancy and a baby as a reason to stay heavier than I really wanted to be. I am not anymore. And I am starting to look and feel really good.
The OP's post was really targeting those like me...and I wasn't offended.
So if her style of motivation isnt for you..move on.
The way I see it.
OP...Challenge Accepted! <---In my best Barney Stintson voice0 -
But for those that seem to have poor reading comprehensive skills, I think I will state things a little clearer so even those people can understand.
That being said, I did find your above comment a little offensive to our fellow MFPs. Just because they don't agree with you does not mean they have poor reading comprehension skills. They simply have a different opinion than you. These women already feel insulted and your "clarification" post seemed more of a talking down to them then anything.
Sorry, just my two cents.
So, I guess you have no problem with them calling me a bully, mightier than thou, bragging, rude, gloating, preachy, hurtful, cruel. I was kind and even offered one a girl an "olive branch" saying that I understood her frustration! Guess what, she still came back to insult me more.
Again, this is HOW I felt. I even got angry at my husband because he did not have to carry 6 kids in his body, he did not get stretch marks on his tummy, he did not have to lose 60lbs 6 times!! Yes, these were defeating me!! Why should I even bother to work hard if I can never get my pre baby body back? Why work hard when I will still have loose skin and stretch marks on my tummy and it looks like an elderly grandmother's tummy? I had 6 kids! Who does that??? These were my thoughts!!
So to those that do not understand my frustration that I was having, chances are, you never felt like that. AND so, my post comes off to you as preachy. To the other moms that felt the same way...they get it. They understand using that excuse as many moms have stated on here!
And yes, we are on here to get healthier and more fit. But, we still will have our ups and downs while we are on here. Read through the posts seeing that other moms said that they needed to read this!! Goodness, I needed to read this around 2 months ago when I was frustrated with my tummy skin!!! I will need to read this in a few months when I get frustrated again. I will post on my home wall my frustrations, and my MFP girls will help me and inspire me to stay strong....they will slap me back into reality!!!
I am by no means Jillian Michaels and would never compare myself to her...but is she sometimes harsh on the people she trains? Does she yell at them to get through to them...to keep them going?? Sometimes we need it!! I need a kick to say, GIRL, KEEP GOING!!! So what that you are 42 and have 6 kids...BE YOUR BEST!!!
YES MA'M! :laugh:0 -
Thanks for the nice posts and for the ladies that understand what I was saying. Considering that most of the posts on my thread and the personal letters from FR and PM are from moms that understand what my point was, I think that I stated everything very clearly. And considering that this is the thread that I started, I can write as many paragraphs as I choose.
But for those that seem to have poor reading comprehensive skills, I think I will state things a little clearer so even those people can understand.
IF you are a mom that told yourself that you can not lose the weight because you have had kids. This post is for you. BECAUSE, I told myself this. I told myself that because I just had my 6th kid at age 39, that there was no way that I would ever lose the weight. I had too many kids that destroyed my body and I was older. THOSE WERE MY EXCUSES!! IF you told yourself the same thing....this thread was to speak to you. This thread was to encourage you to not give up.
ALSO, I NEVER SAID THAT YOU WILL HAVE MY RESULTS. I showed pictures to show my improvement and to encourage these same moms to become THEIR best...not to look like me.
IF you are a mom that has never used the excuse that you can not lose weight or get fit because you have kids, then guess what, this post WAS NOT FOR YOU! So move on and stop calling me names and being rude and hateful.
Also, there are moms that are on here and then get discouraged....read the posts and threads and you can see it...we come on here to get strength from each other and to learn from each other. There have been many woman that have posted on here and have sent me PM and FR, they said that my thread inspired them to stick to it and to keep on doing their best.
And yes, the REASON why I was overweight was because I gained 60lbs with my last pregnancy at age 39. BUT, I was no longer going to let that be an EXCUSE to keep this weight on...and even if i could not exercise, I could eat better and eat healthier...that does not take any time or energy.wait, did you just use kids as an excuse to settle for "ok"?
Bravo! As a mom of 3 who also made this excuse, I get it & even though I have dropped that mindset & I am on my journey to fabulosity I still thank you for your original post. Congrats on your success, you are an inspiration.0 -
I just want to say that I got my hair cut on Friday and the stylist (I went to a new one) gasped when I told her that my youngest child was 11 weeks old. She asked me how I managed to look as good as I do with such a young baby at home...and it totally made me think of this thread!
That said, I don't think I look as good as I could/should - even for having an 11 week old baby at home. So, this thread is my inspiration and motivation to keep on keeping on and shed the rest of the pounds! You know...the ones I can't blame on the baby b/c I already lost all my pregnancy weight.
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Ladies ladies...for all of those that were offended by the OP's 'style' there are many pages of women that found it motivating.
I respond well to the 'get off your *kitten* and stop making excuses mentality'. I was using pregnancy and a baby as a reason to stay heavier than I really wanted to be. I am not anymore. And I am starting to look and feel really good.
The OP's post was really targeting those like me...and I wasn't offended.
So if her style of motivation isnt for you..move on.
The way I see it.
OP...Challenge Accepted! <---In my best Barney Stintson voice
THIS ^^^ times 10!0 -
Inspiring post!0
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Again, my thread is for moms that used this excuse for keeping on their baby weight or for not being able to get fit again. If you never used this excuse, then this post will mean nothing to you and you won't "get it" Obviously a lot of other moms "got it"!
Then perhaps you should have just stated that in the beginning. Instead of using a blanket statement and assumption.
You sure use a lot of words to "defend" yourself lol. All your "positive" energy just gets lost in them. JMO.0 -
But for those that seem to have poor reading comprehensive skills, I think I will state things a little clearer so even those people can understand.
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Hmmm....oh yes you definitely sound like someone i want to take advice from. Such intolerance to anyone who has a different opinion then your own...wowIF you are a mom that has never used the excuse that you can not lose weight or get fit because you have kids, then guess what, this post WAS NOT FOR YOU! So move on and stop calling me names and being rude and hateful.
Then you should have just stated THIS in the beginning instead of acting like ALL women blame their children for what is clearly their issue. Maybe you should just admit that you could have reworded your original post better instead of leaving such long rambling replies trying to justify what you wrote.Also, there are moms that are on here and then get discouraged....read the posts and threads and you can see it...we come on here to get strength from each other and to learn from each other. There have been many woman that have posted on here and have sent me PM and FR, they said that my thread inspired them to stick to it and to keep on doing their best.
I do read them, that is why I read them. Your post however I did not find inspiring (as did some others) I found it offensive. Some of us stated that and why....you are the one that got all bent about the dissenting opinions. You are the one that should let it go.
Instead you practically break your arm patting yourself on the back here, and insulting us by implying that we are less intelligent than yourself, since we could not possibly understand what you wrote.....pot...this is kettle....you're black.
BTW...never called you any names...what are we? 8th graders? What names? Just opening up discussion and you are getting your feelings hurt because we don't agree that your post is inspiring.0 -
My profile pic was taken about 5 months after my second son was born! That's my tag line "had a baby not an excuse" I will never have my pre baby body back! My hips are wider, stretch marks and all! But I wanted to feel good about my self so I busted tail after he was born.0
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But for those that seem to have poor reading comprehensive skills, I think I will state things a little clearer so even those people can understand.
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Hmmm....oh yes you definitely sound like someone i want to take advice from. Such intolerance to anyone who has a different opinion then your own...wow
Then get off of my thread! If you don't want to take my advice, why read and reply? Seems to me like you just want to keep coming back to pick a fight with a stranger...like you have anger issues, so lets attack the mom of 6 that has worked her butt off to lose her baby weight. I bet that gives you some joy!!IF you are a mom that has never used the excuse that you can not lose weight or get fit because you have kids, then guess what, this post WAS NOT FOR YOU! So move on and stop calling me names and being rude and hateful.
Then you should have just stated THIS in the beginning instead of acting like ALL women blame their children for what is clearly their issue. Maybe you should just admit that you could have reworded your original post better instead of leaving such long rambling replies trying to justify what you wrote.
Guess what...I never said that ALL moms use this excuse....you just jumped to that conclusion....or MAYBE you do use this excuse but you do not want to admit it....just a thought!Also, there are moms that are on here and then get discouraged....read the posts and threads and you can see it...we come on here to get strength from each other and to learn from each other. There have been many woman that have posted on here and have sent me PM and FR, they said that my thread inspired them to stick to it and to keep on doing their best.
I do read them, that is why I read them. Your post however I did not find inspiring (as did some others) I found it offensive. Some of us stated that and why....you are the one that got all bent about the dissenting opinions. You are the one that should let it go.
Instead you practically break your arm patting yourself on the back here, and insulting us by implying that we are less intelligent than yourself, since we could not possibly understand what you wrote.....pot...this is kettle....you're black.
I had to state this because I had two moms say, that I must be directing this to moms that are not on MFP because since moms are on MFP, they do not deal with this issue....well, yes, there are moms that deal with this issue that are on MFP right now.
So, just curious, when others post their success pictures and tell others what they have done...are they being braggarts or breaking their arms to pat their own back? Or are they doing so because we all enjoy seeing success and this makes us work harder? My guess, is that you get angry and jealous!BTW...never called you any names...what are we? 8th graders? What names? Just opening up discussion and you are getting your feelings hurt because we don't agree that your post is inspiring.
Ummm...I was called a bully! I guess you missed that post!
What is quite funny, is that this could have been a pleasant thread, where moms posted their before and after pictures. Where moms shared what they did. There are going to be moms that are soft spoken and then there are moms that yell and get excited like they are at a game. We all have different styles, why get so bent? I bet you feel good that you attacked a fellow mom, one that has had 6 kids, one that has either been pregnant or breastfeeding for the past 17 years of her life, a fellow mom that also has hypothyroidism (and....still loses weight despite being hypo!), a mom that replies on other success stories and gets excited for those stories, a mom that helps other moms in my gym with their diet and their exercise, and a mom that helps other moms on MFP.. AND then when you insult that mom, you get angry when she hits back! Wow to you girl.
Now make sure when you post your success story and post pictures, that you say it in a super nice way and do not get excited or you might offend someone...because people are just so darn sensitive these days.
You are getting your feelings hurt about a post that was never intended for you!0 -
Ladies ladies...for all of those that were offended by the OP's 'style' there are many pages of women that found it motivating.
I respond well to the 'get off your *kitten* and stop making excuses mentality'. I was using pregnancy and a baby as a reason to stay heavier than I really wanted to be. I am not anymore. And I am starting to look and feel really good.
The OP's post was really targeting those like me...and I wasn't offended.
So if her style of motivation isnt for you..move on.
The way I see it.
OP...Challenge Accepted! <---In my best Barney Stintson voice
THIS ^^^ times 10!
Thanks girl!! I do too!!! I am a competitor and I also respond to "get off your *kitten*" approach! If you lose a ball game, but you played your best...so be it. But, don't make excuses about losing a ball game if you didn't do your best. Fix it and play harder the next game!! Maybe because I have 5 sons, this is just how it is. It might hurt feelings at times, but if it is the truth, then it is what it is!
Honestly, I didn't start seeing results until I got mad and said, THIS IS ENOUGH!!!My profile pic was taken about 5 months after my second son was born! That's my tag line "had a baby not an excuse" I will never have my pre baby body back! My hips are wider, stretch marks and all! But I wanted to feel good about my self so I busted tail after he was born.
Libby...wow...you look great!!! But be careful with that tag line, you might hurt someone's feelings!0 -
I've been overweight most of my life. Not huge-about the weight I am now (oh if only I appreciated myself back then instead of beating myself up!!). With each pregnancy, I gained weight. I didn't bounce back-or rather each time I started to I got pregnant again. gah. I don't blame the kids-it was me all the way. It doesn't matter in the end, really.
Now, I've finally got my head on straight and I'm getting fit, losing weight, and of course I bemoan my tummy. The rest of me is starting to look nice but that belly is still there and shows no signs of slimming. My friends say "You look great. Of course you have a bigger belly, you've had 4 kids!" and I just can't help thinking 'Yes, I've had kids. I've never been 'fit' or 'slim' and you know I may never have a flat tummy or anything close to it. But that's no reason not to go for it. Who knows? I might even get there. The worst thing I can do is give up.
OP, I just want to say thank you for posting. Yes, your story is different from mine, so are your genetics, but I hope I can borrow a little of your determination so I keep going.0 -
Wow....I am alarmed at some of the latest responses on this thread.... If u are so offended by this post PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STOP READING IT...OR AT LEAST STOP POSTING ON IT.
Tink, you are an inspiration to so many women...your Zumba students, your mfp friends, and more than likely women u come into casual contact with daily... I can see your positive nature (however NO NONSENSE your approach is) radiating through your posts.
I know when I see a mom that's in great shape I feel inspired not resentful. I have battled with eating and body image issues for years nor have I not always been this fit or thin. I drew inspiration from moms around me...from women who helped empower me. My workouts are not pain free...nor do I think anyone's are...if it was easy we would all weigh 110 lbs...some of us make that CHOICE...and my (and your) choice is clear....fitness and health WILL take a front seat in my life...honestly it makes me a better mother IMO...but that's jut my opinion.
Opinions are like *kitten*...everyone has one.
Keep up the great work tink!! And please continue to inspire me daily!0 -
Tink, you are awesome!! You have amazing results and motivate me daily!! I can't wait to start the BBL work out. I have 5 kids but I don't want to look great for having 5 kids..I want to look great period!! I want to wear a bikini this summer so i am going to work my butt off!! I want to look and feel amazing!! I love my MFP friends because my hubby does not understand.0
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Amen! And you look more than just "Ok" now! Good job on getting so fit!0
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Ladies ladies...for all of those that were offended by the OP's 'style' there are many pages of women that found it motivating.
I respond well to the 'get off your *kitten* and stop making excuses mentality'. I was using pregnancy and a baby as a reason to stay heavier than I really wanted to be. I am not anymore. And I am starting to look and feel really good.
The OP's post was really targeting those like me...and I wasn't offended.
So if her style of motivation isnt for you..move on.
The way I see it.
OP...Challenge Accepted! <---In my best Barney Stintson voice
THIS ^^^ times 10!
Thanks girl!! I do too!!! I am a competitor and I also respond to "get off your *kitten*" approach! If you lose a ball game, but you played your best...so be it. But, don't make excuses about losing a ball game if you didn't do your best. Fix it and play harder the next game!! Maybe because I have 5 sons, this is just how it is. It might hurt feelings at times, but if it is the truth, then it is what it is!
Honestly, I didn't start seeing results until I got mad and said, THIS IS ENOUGH!!!My profile pic was taken about 5 months after my second son was born! That's my tag line "had a baby not an excuse" I will never have my pre baby body back! My hips are wider, stretch marks and all! But I wanted to feel good about my self so I busted tail after he was born.
Libby...wow...you look great!!! But be careful with that tag line, you might hurt someone's feelings!
Thanks you look amazing as well! I knew that I had to mentally prepare myself so I started when I was 4 months preggers! I still lived pregnant life. Ate and enjoyed! I waited the 6 weeks after till I started working out! If people want to be offended by my tag thats ok I guess cause it isnt meant towards them. It was what I needed to know for myself to push!0 -
ShoeWhore....You look great!!!!!
Thanks, as do you my dear! Well done0 -
You look awesome! I have 4 kids. I had them all at a young age, my last when I was 28. My hubby leaves for work at 4:30 in the morning and gets home at 7 at night. I work weekends to be able to stay home with them during the week, till the last two are in school anyhow. I also babysit a little boy and will also have his soon to be little brother. Going to the gym is impossible for me with our schedules and to be able to afford daycare to go. I get up with my hubby everymorning, like a good wife, and make his lunch and coffee. Well, that left me some time before the kids start their day, so I started running on the treadmill and doing DVD's. No, having babies isn't an excuse. It is just what you want to put into it. Some days it is tough and very unmotivating when the alarm goes off but after it is all done, the feeling is so great and makes it worth it! Great job to you with all those babies:)0
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AMEN girl! I was always thin until I had my son. I gained 60 pounds. Lost most the first year by breastfeeding alone. Finally last year I kicked my own *kitten* and hubby found me MFP and I lost the rest of the weight plus. I have not been this small since college! Now I am focusing on getting a toned body. You are an inspiration for women everywhere!0
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Honestly the comment having babies is no excuse is so dam hurtful.
I was in shape before I got pregnant with my first, I worked full time as a landscaper. I had a perfect pregnancy, gained only the exact 25 pounds I was told to gain. I worked out daily, I drank water. I still got stretch marks. Lost the baby weight.
Started trying for the next. Took 2 years and fertility drugs. I reacted badly and puffed up like a balloon on the fertility drugs and gained weight. Once I got pregnant I right away dropped weight then gained the required 25 pounds. I worked out daily for an hour or more, I drank water, I did everything PERFECT. Then I had an emergency c-section. It was horrific.
Now I have stretch marks and a massive uneven unsymmetrical scar. My upper body looks great, my lower body looks great. My abdomen looks like crap and nothing, absolutely nothing except surgery is going to fix the hideous scar.
So yup, I had children. Nothing baring expensive plastic surgery is going to make me pretty and perfect again. Congrats that you did not have to go threw the horror, physical and emotional pain and the life long issues I did . How wonderful for you.
Sorry you had to go through such a hard time with your pregnancies and that you found this comment hurtful. I didn't appreciate it either.
Honestly, I admire and congratulate all the success stories in here but when they start gloating or preaching to others about all their "excuses" or whatever, that I find hard to tolerate. Thank you.
For those that felt my comments were hurtful, maybe you should re-read my post. I said having babies is not an excuse....that means, if you have been telling yourself that you can not lose the weight that you gained from having babies, then you are using your pregnancies as an excuse. I never mentioned fertility issues, c-sections or anything of the sort. I strictly mentioned having babies.
Also, my comments were that we may never get our perfect pre-baby bodies back, but we can work hard and get back the best body that WE can get. I still have stretch marks and loose skin when I bend over (like the other mom said, she won't due planks in just a tank bra and yoga pants...ditto) , but my tummy looks better than it did last year. I could have said, "What the heck, I am 41 years old, I have carried 6 children in my body, I have stretch marks and loose skin, why even try since I can never get back the cute body that was lost." Trust me, I had these thoughts a lot. I even gave away my smaller clothes and bought bigger clothes!!! I get the frustration.
I know for myself, I needed to see pictures of other moms that have had multiple children. Moms that were not already Hollywood actresses or professional athletes, or swimsuit models....I needed to see real moms that were able to get their body back to shape. Maybe not perfect, but the best that it could be. That inspired me to do the same. And as I became healthier and fitter, I knew that I wanted to give other moms hope to see a normal mom doing the best that she can do.
And for those that can not exercise because of busy schedule, you can control your weight from diet. Sure, you may not get those ripped abs or muscular arms, but you will lose that baby weight. When my kids were little, I watched my weight by what I ate. If I got a chance to do a little something in the house, I did...but most of the time, I could not. So, I did not overeat.
I now teach Zumba classes. I got this job after I joined the gym and decided to make myself healthier. I have all ages and all sizes of women in my class. I make sure that my classes are a hard workout, but nothing that would ever hurt any other their knees. I stay after and tell them things that they can eat, I do not want them to starve themselves. I do a lot for my working, stay home, soccer moms in my gym. I truly care about my moms in my class!!!
So, if my post offended you, then you need to look inside yourself and figure out why. My post was meant to inspire other moms that yes, our bodies have changed and they may never be pre-baby perfect....BUT we are moms and we are women and we can accomplish what we choose to accomplish!!! And if you choose that you want to lose your baby weight and you want to get the best body that you can get back....then DO IT!!! And don't get angry at me and say that I am gloating when I have been pregnant 6 times! When I have sacrificed 17 years of my body to pregnancies and breastfeeding for my children. Do you know what sort of schedule I have with 6 kids from the age of 2-17???? Imagine it for a minute, and re-think that I am gloating or preaching!! (Side note) I also nearly lost 3 children because of 1st trimester bleeding....going through ultrasounds weekly to make sure the baby that I was carrying was still alive...afraid that if I moved wrong I would hurt my baby. I bled through 3 pregnancies...so it was no cake walk for me either!
And to the other moms that have posted their success stories and success pictures...High 5 to you girls!! You get it. You decided that you were going to be the best that you can be, and you are inspiring to me and to other moms!!!
Well said! Thanks again for INSPIRING people!0
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