worst comment ever made about your weight

superawesomekt

I get these kinds of comments all the time. I don't even have a post-pregnant body. I have been at one party and had two people ask me if I was pregnant. Almost worse is when people look at my belly and don't say anything. I can tell they think I am pregnant and not announcing it. Mostly this happend a year ago after I gained weight from birth control post-wedding, but just a few months ago I went to a party with one of my girlfriends and some girls I hadn't seen in a few years asked me if I'd already had my baby.

Vi0l33t

"Keep doing whatever it is you are doing to lose weight. I don't want to F*** a fat girl." An ex-boyfriend who was overweight himself! That comment set off over a decade of messed up eating habits.

"You'd be perfect if you just had a boob job, lost weight, highlighted your hair, etc." Ex-husband who was a total waste of oxygen but I didn't realize it until after we got married.

Oh, and the heaviest I EVER was (non-pregnant) was 155lbs. I'm 5'8". Yeah...

I haven't been 155 since I was 16, and I'll never be 5'8", but I can imagine how hearing that must have crushed you considering that's nowhere near disgusting, ugly or fat.

The Worst in memory for me was shortly after I had my fist child. I'd returned to work from maternity leave and was talking to a stocker in the store that I didn't know well. She told me she was glad to see me back and that she was happy I was all better. She didn't know I'd been pregnant and instead had assumed I'll fallen sick. When I told her I'd gone to have my fist child she exclaimed "omg I had no idea you were pregnant! You could hardly tell!"

Seriously.... it's bad enough people thinking you're pregnant when you aren't, but being so big they can't tell? I walked to the bathroom and cried for the rest of my break.

Elizabeth0913

Wow, people can be so cruel!! I've had moments here and there but the worst was when a total stranger driving by my house when I was outside yelled out "Fat Wh@#$"!! That hurt.

MsMargie1116

I remember one time I was at a "Dillards" outlet, looking at clothes in the plus-size section. Three skinny little girls came up to some of the clothes and wasn't too far away from me, and made some comment on the size and how all three of them could fit into the pants there, then laughed. I gratiously walked up to them took the pants from them and commented on how cute they are and how I USED to be able to fit into them... Before I lost 100 lbs. They were kind of shocked/embarassed and walked off without saying a word.

Back when I was in high school, I was in a home economics class with a bunch of preps and jocks... Needless to say, I, being the only overweight one in the class, was the brunt of a lot of weight jokes. Finally, at the end of the semester, I was doing a presentation for the class with the teacher there. One of the girls made a snide comment about my weight, and I finally told her, Yes, I may be fat, but I could lose weight. Sadly, she will always be ugly!!! :laugh: The teacher had to excuse herself from the classrooom to keep from busthing out laughing!!! Needless to say, That was the last that I heard of my weight in that class.

I've been overweight since I went through puberty and there is one thing I learned. Peoples words only have as much power as you give them. People only love you the way you love yourself. Just like you want people to accept/love you the way you are, You need to accept/love yourself the way you are yourself. I still battle with this at times, but there are other times that I see that I've won a battle, which gives me ammunition to take on the next battle. I am learning that as I lose more weight, I am hearing less and less comments about my weight.

CannibalisticVegetarian

Man, some of these stories made me tear up.. real talk. I always wondered how people could be so friggin insensitive to others and get a full 8 hours of sleep at night knowing they've scarred someone.

I have been called fat in the past.. a lot, actually.. but most of the ones that I recall clear as a bell are from my father. Still, I think the mother of all comments---the one that caused me to spiral out of control and thus develop those so called 'daddy issues', would be one that occurred when I was about 7 or 8 years old.

We'd gone to a family reunion earlier that day. I was in fact starting to chunk up. I've always been a little bigger than most kids---like.. I had this broader athletic like build, so I was no way a petite little girl. Anyways while at the reunion, barbecue was being served.. and I utterly hate the taste of most of it. Meat isn't my thing (but I'm not a vegetarian in any case despite my username). All day long I maybe had a piece of bread or something like that---but by no means was any of this a fulfilling meal. So later that night as my parents, brother and I are leaving, someone gets the idea to order a pizza from Pizza Hut. I have one slice ... y'know.. having played all day and ate very little. Then I decided to have just ONE more slice. I didn't want the entire frickin pizza pie.. just another slice...

Somehow this pisses him off. He goes off about how fat I am and how I was so super greedy. Mom then starts to defend me and tells him that he's overreacting.. and me? Well I just start crying because my feelings are so super hurt and that my folks were now screaming at one another all thanks to me.. or so I thought in my head at the time.

Mell00546

Back Story: I have been heavy for as long as I can remember. I would go through stages where I was ok with my body and fit in and then I would have extremes where I would pack on a bunch of weight.

* My dad was taking me to middle school and told me it was a good thing that I always wore jeans instead of shorts. Jeans made my legs look thinner.

* At my college graduation my boyfriend at the time asked me why I wasn't wearing a hotter dress like my younger sister (also at my graduation). I wasn't wearing a hot little dress because I couldn't fit into any of them (thanks for that!)

* After I graduated college I worked for a medical supply company. One of our customers came in to see our respiratory therapist and asked me when I was due. In front of my supervisor and office manager! I was 22 and NOT pregers!

***** Just a side note*****
Screw the people that have made you feel bad about yourself. Yes what people say can hurt but I feel worse for them. I know that I will reach my goal and look freakin HOT! And I'll also be a nice person! Unlike them.

Keep up the amazing work

XxXHillaryXxX

Like when people say "Oh my god! I didn't know you were gonna have another baby, when are you due"?

Elizabeth0913

I remember one time I was at a "Dillards" outlet, looking at clothes in the plus-size section. Three skinny little girls came up to some of the clothes and wasn't too far away from me, and made some comment on the size and how all three of them could fit into the pants there, then laughed. I gratiously walked up to them took the pants from them and commented on how cute they are and how I USED to be able to fit into them... Before I lost 100 lbs. They were kind of shocked/embarassed and walked off without saying a word.

Back when I was in high school, I was in a home economics class with a bunch of preps and jocks... Needless to say, I, being the only overweight one in the class, was the brunt of a lot of weight jokes. Finally, at the end of the semester, I was doing a presentation for the class with the teacher there. One of the girls made a snide comment about my weight, and I finally told her, Yes, I may be fat, but I could lose weight. Sadly, she will always be ugly!!! :laugh: The teacher had to excuse herself from the classrooom to keep from busthing out laughing!!! Needless to say, That was the last that I heard of my weight in that class.

I've been overweight since I went through puberty and there is one thing I learned. Peoples words only have as much power as you give them. People only love you the way you love yourself. Just like you want people to accept/love you the way you are, You need to accept/love yourself the way you are yourself. I still battle with this at times, but there are other times that I see that I've won a battle, which gives me ammunition to take on the next battle. I am learning that as I lose more weight, I am hearing less and less comments about my weight.

Beautiful attitude!!

leannems

OMG I have one!! I had just had our daughter, via c-section. My husband had to help my clean my incision for the first week. We got in an argument one night and he preceeded to tell me how my "FOLD" ( the pouch above my c-section scar) disguisted him. He called me folds, fatas**..you name it I got called it. Yes we are still married..and it makes me smile in my head still every time he tries to have sex with me...Does he really think he deserves me?

Get rid of this dude. Are you kidding me? You deserve someone who loves you.

superdonna

I have been asked a handful of times when I was due...and I was not pregnant. How horrifying!

etavi

"Yeah, I mean, you have a pretty face"
I HATE this one. Yeah, damn straight I have a pretty face. But forget about the rest of me I guess >_>

"Are you sure you have the confidence to wear that?"
Well, I DID, don't anymore...

LucindaLeeMI

ALLL of my life I've heard every comment you can imagine. In Middle school, for an entire year I would walk from class to class and the entire 8th grade class would shout "that's a huge *****!"
But when it comes from family " She's so pretty, if only she'd loose weight", that hits hard.

LucindaLeeMI

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LucindaLeeMI

"Yeah, I mean, you have a pretty face"
I HATE this one. Yeah, damn straight I have a pretty face. But forget about the rest of me I guess >_>

"Are you sure you have the confidence to wear that?"
Well, I DID, don't anymore...

I've heard this one too many times.

chickabee5

My grandparents are the worst!

I hate the "you have a beautiful face!" comments. My grandma says it all the time, pisses me right off! It's like shut up I know what you're really trying to say I'm not stupid!

Oh and another one from my grandma. When my grandparents were looking after us while our parents were on holiday (not that we aren't old enough to look after ourselves but, whatever) my grandad bought some muffins from the shop and we asked her does she want a muffin and she said "Oh no thank you, puts too much weight on..." we were like it's not a big deal just one muffin, and then she gives me and my sister and brother a funny look "Oh they do, if you eat too much..."

PineappleMartini

My worst wasn't said on purpose - she's only five, so I could blame my mom since she relayed the story to me. My niece asked my mom if I liked being fat all the time. Stab straight through the heart...

LucindaLeeMI

My worst wasn't said on purpose - she's only five, so I could blame my mom since she relayed the story to me. My niece asked my mom if I liked being fat all the time. Stab straight through the heart...

I've had this happen a couple of times while in a public setting. One that I can specifically remember was a child around 5 or 6 pointed while I was grocery shopping in the same isle as the kid and his father and said " dad look at how big her belly is". I was mortified, but judging from the look on the fathers face he was too. I hit me harder than it should have. I always thought I hid my stomach well.

cathygp58

OMG!! I've been big for a lot of my life, but fortunately have never come across such comments. I really feel for you guys, keep your chin up and at least you can do something about your weight, but it's harder to get rid of the ugly from the inside.

Sorry I don't mean to be rude, but those people are DuMB!!!!! thumbs down to them!

You are SO right. I cannot believe anyone could be so vile as some of these stories show.

ksmith1048

My father - when I was about 13 ( and skinny, just beginning puberty and getting a little curvy) "You look like you are walking around with a rubber tire around your waist".

glenr79

that I am too skinny lol

SamosaurusRex

Little brother: Mum said I can hit you
Me: You just try and see what I do
Mum: You can't beat her. Look at the size of her

Cold_Steel

words from children are what sting the most, they are honest. I always wanted to soccer kick every little kid that said something.

Like - mommy he's big !

mzhokie

Oh about any passive aggressive comment made by my mother would work here......

Last one I remember was I found a picture of you but I know you will not want to see it...... it from when you were skinny. She always could make a little comment that would ruin my whole day. My mother had Alzheimer's and could even make comments about how fat I was when she had no clue it was me she was talking to. Made me wonder what the heck she had been saying all those years when she knew not to say them in from of me.

dmoisson

My 3 year old daughter (at the time) innocently asked "Papa why is your belly so big?" She was right. It was big. That moment was a major turning point in my life. I secretly thank her often for saying that to me.

cwe1229a

man, i feel for everyone. : ( i had to deal with a lot of this stuff too (still kinda do)

i was, and still am the biggest of my group of friends. i'm always the funny, chubby one.

middle school was horrible. i had plenty of friends, but i hid in a big sweatshirt and baggy jeans for those three years, because kids who didn't know me called me crap like 'whale'. i was never that big either.

i lost weight in high school, but i never lost it in my chest...it was awkward trying to wear nice tops and in freshman year have everyone stare at your boobs. went back to wearing a hoodie after being sneered at by the more...well, underdeveloped girls.

my dad and grandmother were always commenting on how 'you'd look so much prettier and get more boyfriends if you lost that weight! no one really cares about just a pretty face'. i think those ones hurt the most. but that's just how my family is. we are bluntly honest people, we use humor in a lot of what we say and do. but when you're in puberty and hearing that almost every day hurts. same with my brother, he's the worst. he tells me no matter how hard i try, i won't lose any weight. time to prove that little *kitten* wrong. >; |

jnhu72

When you try not to think of yourself as a 'fat' person because you exercise and eat healthily and dress nicely, and somebody vocalises it in public, something snaps in your head. Suddenly, you believe with complete certainty that that's what everyone in the world thinks about you and they've just been too polite to say it. It's horrible.

I completely agree. I have worked so hard to not think of myself as some obese creature that everyone stares at then someone will make a comment and everything goes out the door and your back to square 1.

A few of mine:
-I was at the park running on the trail and their were some kids about my age (20's) and they said how much would you give me to hit the fat girl. Even worse, they actually threw the frisbee at me.
-In dance class when I was 7 and just a chubby kid not obese or anything, one of mom's said to another mom, that she was worried I would go threw the floor when I did a summersault-that was the last day ever of dance class for me, which sucks because I loved it.
-I could not be in my grandma's wedding as the flower girl, even though I was her only granddaughter because I was to fat. She had one of her friends kids do it instead.
-I was at the gym on a treadmill for about an hour. There were at least 5 other treadmills open but none of them together, so these 2 girls that wanted to work out together were mad. One of them said to me, "Why don't you quit wasting your time and let someone who has a chance use the treadmill."

freyaandcorysmum

When you try not to think of yourself as a 'fat' person because you exercise and eat healthily and dress nicely, and somebody vocalises it in public, something snaps in your head. Suddenly, you believe with complete certainty that that's what everyone in the world thinks about you and they've just been too polite to say it. It's horrible.

I completely agree. I have worked so hard to not think of myself as some obese creature that everyone stares at then someone will make a comment and everything goes out the door and your back to square 1.

A few of mine:
-I was at the park running on the trail and their were some kids about my age (20's) and they said how much would you give me to hit the fat girl. Even worse, they actually threw the frisbee at me.
-In dance class when I was 7 and just a chubby kid not obese or anything, one of mom's said to another mom, that she was worried I would go threw the floor when I did a summersault-that was the last day ever of dance class for me, which sucks because I loved it.
-I could not be in my grandma's wedding as the flower girl, even though I was her only granddaughter because I was to fat. She had one of her friends kids do it instead.
-I was at the gym on a treadmill for about an hour. There were at least 5 other treadmills open but none of them together, so these 2 girls that wanted to work out together were mad. One of them said to me, "Why don't you quit wasting your time and let someone who has a chance use the treadmill."

This made me really sad that some people could be soo bloody horrible !!! xxxx

dianacom

There will always be mean, shallow people in the world. That has nothing to do with our weight. I had two babies under three years old. They were both having a melt down as I was trying to leave the grocery story. I stooped down with my bag of groceries to try and restrain one of them, while holding the other on my hip, when a young man, (early 20's), walks in and says, "Lady, get your tubes tied."

Even at 100lbs, 5'3", I was never really skinning because I have a curvy shape-all on the bottom of course. After having my children in my early 40's, I never lost the weight. My heaviest was 160lbs-dr says border line obese but never any concerns. While I was somewhere around 140lbs, my husband and I go out for dinner for our anniversary-something like 15yrs. When I asked him how life was looking to him-he said, Well, I thought we'd be in better shape." Of course, he's 5'10" and weighs slightly more than I do-he works out-alot-and so it's mostly muscle. Not an ounce of fat on this guy. That was a beautiful memory.

Recently, I just finished hcg injections-lost 11 pounds down to 139. This is an expensive diet. Normally, he's hollering about how much I spend,but for some reason, he thinks it will be ok if I spend hundreds of dollars to go another round on the Hcg-all just for my health of course.

So,now I'm bent on getting in shape and I will. He will still be a ____.

leslisa

I'm really not that heavy but I was anorexic for a long time so when my mother saw me and said something to the tune of "My God, you are bigger than you've ever been" and the VP of the company where I work asked when I was due (both were a couple of months after I had my last baby - I do not recoil quickly) it was a little frustrating especially since I was working really hard to eat "normal" so I could nurse.

MindyG150

I suppose the hardest thing for me is understanding why a person would think they even have the right to say something.
I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. :frown: