how often do you have 'relations' ;] ?

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  • Rick_SH
    Rick_SH Posts: 71 Member
    I think its interesting that the answers here range from everyday to not in a long time. And in most cases, it seems that whatever the frequency is, it is not enough. Even when doing it everyday!! Oh well, makes me feel better that I am in the norm, at least according to this board.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    My libido is horrid. I don't know if it's my birth control or whatever mental stuff I'm going through that's making things so awkward, but I just can't find enjoyment in it anymore. :<

    Birth Control is awful for that. Very illogical - protects you from pregnancy and also prevents you wanting to do things that could cause pregnancy.
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    Twice a week, maybe less. I don't know why but after 1 year, I am slowly losing interest in intimacy. It is starting to feel like work.

    i know what your saying... for me its been 4 years. everyone says "try new things" but that could be too far out of my comfort zone.
  • Apa93
    Apa93 Posts: 57 Member
    Whenever we feel like it. I don't really count to be honest; I'm sure that's a good sign :P We've been together over 5 years and still going strong - even if I do have to give out "boob sessions" regularly :P
  • k_sharp
    k_sharp Posts: 100 Member
    Well it's been a little over six months and I still have a few more to go before I can have relations again but then it's 5-7 days a week every week! Can't wait till my hubby sees me after loosing weight and getting in shape!
  • Jellyphant
    Jellyphant Posts: 1,400 Member
    Ive been with my dude for almost 8 years and we rarely try 'new things' [aside from those awkward horny teenage years.../shudder/ouch] and IMO, our passions are still smokin'; average about 4-5 times a week. But since I've been seeing some inches going and things tightening up, he's been as grabby as an octopus. :)!
  • Bluesmilie
    Bluesmilie Posts: 161 Member
    Get yourself someone else. You are too dam pretty to get rejected. You should be getting it 7-10x a week.
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    only 4 or 5 times a week. after being married for 12 years we don't do it everyday anymore.
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    My libido is horrid. I don't know if it's my birth control or whatever mental stuff I'm going through that's making things so awkward, but I just can't find enjoyment in it anymore. :<

    Birth Control is awful for that. Very illogical - protects you from pregnancy and also prevents you wanting to do things that could cause pregnancy.

    I suppose abstinence IS the best birth control, but not for the reasons we'd want!
  • Kerri_is_so_very
    Kerri_is_so_very Posts: 999 Member
    My phone bill comes more often than I do....

    Not quite, but I love the saying :wink:

    :laugh: Only funny cause I can relate!!! :drinker:
  • Kerri_is_so_very
    Kerri_is_so_very Posts: 999 Member
    I have occasional threesomes with Ben and Jerry and usually about once a week I swallow Jose.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :sad: :sad: :sad:
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    Get yourself someone else. You are too dam pretty to get rejected. You should be getting it 7-10x a week.

    mm thank you doll ;] but im quite happy with what i have, even if its less frequent
  • crazytreelady
    crazytreelady Posts: 752 Member
    Sadly twicish a week. But only because of distance... If we lived together, it would happen every day, as I have a quota to fill.
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    Me and my husband have weird schedules. I have the regular 8-5 schedule and he has the 4am to 1230am schedule so really only 'expected' on weekends but sometimes have spontaneous moments. Homework really is a big roadblock for that though.

    Otherwise, I battle with a low sex drive. I absolutely hate it. I love my husband to death. But for some damn reason I feel like it's work. I've never been a very sexual person and he's completely fine with that but I still feel like I am missing out on what other women see as a daily expected thing. I'm not on ANY weird medications so not sure what else it would be. We don't have marital problems either >_<
  • ToEKnee213
    ToEKnee213 Posts: 1,031 Member
    Please clarify...Alone or with a partner??? LOL


    THIS!!!
  • AimeeLynn90
    AimeeLynn90 Posts: 94
    Not nearlyyy enough as I want/need. I can do it every day, but my husband on the other hand... Lol.
  • maletac
    maletac Posts: 767 Member
    has this changed since you started your weight loss?

    is it you, or your partner who usually initiates it?


    truth is, im kinda sick of trying and getting shot down. then again, i have the Libido of a bunny.

    males *sigh* cant live with them, but cant live without them. ;]

    men?? hahahah i realised how shallow women are ever since i lost weight.. ya'll are nastier than us.. like i look for personality. now i got ladies who wouldve never second looked me
  • harley0269
    harley0269 Posts: 384 Member
    my weight never mattered in that department. although the more fit i become the more inhibited our time is together.
    the bf & i are both in our late 40's (him closer to 50) & we average 3+ times a day, fri-sun.
    during the week his job leaves him drained, so we only get 1-2 times a day.
    we've been together going on 5 years now. & we started dating when i was at my heaviest.
    wish i would of known him when i was young & hot & my drive was a lot higher!:blushing:
  • sisierra
    sisierra Posts: 659 Member
    I don't bang bang boogie near enough haha.

    Part of that is due to morals, another part is actually finding mutual attraction with someone who isnt irritating haha :sad:
  • Nychoecake
    Nychoecake Posts: 4
    :drinker:
    I have occasional threesomes with Ben and Jerry and usually about once a week I swallow Jose.


    You and I share this in common!:drinker:
  • crystalslight
    crystalslight Posts: 322 Member
    As often as we can with 5 kids. LOL :)
  • Maystar80
    Maystar80 Posts: 85 Member
    3-4 times a week. He and I take turns initiating it. If it's a weekend and there's no work, sometimes twice that day.

    ^^^ exactly this
  • BeetleChe13
    BeetleChe13 Posts: 498 Member
    I'm a newlywed and only twice a month. :blushing: We work opposite shifts though, so when we're together, at least one of us is sleeping.
  • Nopedotjpeg
    Nopedotjpeg Posts: 1,805 Member
    Jill never says no.
  • BeetleChe13
    BeetleChe13 Posts: 498 Member
    Ohcrap. Something must be super wrong with my life then.

    Married, young (26) and I'm lucky to get it once a month. o_o

    He spends all his time playing video games. *Cry*

    Me too. Sad day. :frown:
  • RachelsReboot
    RachelsReboot Posts: 569 Member
    :drinker:
    I have occasional threesomes with Ben and Jerry and usually about once a week I swallow Jose.


    You and I share this in common!:drinker:

    Ben, Jerry and Jose are all in trouble, I thought I was the only girl!
  • Zombriana
    Zombriana Posts: 764 Member
    I don't ever want to do it. Weight loss or gain doesn't really affect it.
    I'd give my fiance and I about once per week, if that?
  • Nopedotjpeg
    Nopedotjpeg Posts: 1,805 Member
    Ohcrap. Something must be super wrong with my life then.

    Married, young (26) and I'm lucky to get it once a month. o_o

    He spends all his time playing video games. *Cry*

    Me too. Sad day. :frown:

    That's when you know you've got a problem. I game pretty frequently, but sex has a big priority.
  • caroleslaststand
    caroleslaststand Posts: 176 Member
    has this changed since you started your weight loss?

    is it you, or your partner who usually initiates it?


    truth is, im kinda sick of trying and getting shot down. then again, i have the Libido of a bunny.

    males *sigh* cant live with them, but cant live without them. ;]

    men?? hahahah i realised how shallow women are ever since i lost weight.. ya'll are nastier than us.. like i look for personality. now i got ladies who wouldve never second looked me

    this happens to people after they lose weight. In fact, it happens to all single people who lose weight. The more weight we lose the less we feel we can trust people. I've dumped the weight twice when I was younger and I assure you men are just as shallow. think about this: now you can meet new girls and NEVER know if they would be that shallow - because they weren't around before you lost weight. I finally had to stop driving myself crazy over that one, but I am pretty sure my former boyfriend (still a close friend) will want me back, because he's suddenly interested again and I haven't lost all that much - as big as I am 40lb isn't enough to make that much difference, but he realizes that it';s all coming off this time and doesn't want to lose his chance to get me back and I can't wait to see what excuse he gives me for waiting 8 years to rekindle. Not happening....men are so shallow.
  • nikki91950
    nikki91950 Posts: 647
    truth is, im kinda sick of trying and getting shot down. then again, i have the Libido of a bunny.

    males *sigh* cant live with them, but cant live without them. ;]

    girl, you know me. i had the SAME problem. it was 1x a week TOPS for us. we ran out of balloons one time and i refused to buy any- i wanted him to take some effing initiative for a change and get some for us instead of making me do it. we went 3 weeks with no action and i still ended up being the one to get more -_-

    fts.

    anyways, in other news, i live 100 miles from my current bf now, but when we do see eachother (about every week to week and a half) we usually go at it anywhere from 1-4 times a day, every day that we're together.

    needless to say, i'm pretty dang satisfied now.

    literally :)
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