"I'm never getting married again."
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Mind your own business. :mad:
Are you the guy shes talking about or something?0 -
She needs to decide if marriage is important to her or not. Many people can be in long-lasting committed relationships without ever having that piece of paper that says they are married.
If it is important to her, then she needs to end the relationship and find a person who values the same things. If she feels like she could spend her life with him without actually being married, then there's no reason to end a good thing. However, making a statement like that in front of her and his friends is really just kind of rude.
She basically needs to decide if not getting married is a deal breaker. If it is, then she needs to end it and move on.
That's what I think, essentially.0 -
Its sad when future plans don't align. But if she is ok waiting around then so be it. I wouldn't wait around if we are not on the same page.
The dude sounds bitter as hell. Who says that kind of thing in front of their girlfriend?
This. He sounds incredibly disrespectful--that's a terrible thing to say at all, let alone in front of her.0 -
What is the point of dating then if there will never be a marriage? It's every girls dream to have that special day. If you love her, and that is the person you want to be with forever, why not get married?
Absolutely not true. Not ever little girl dreams of a big fancy wedding and dress, I actually never dreamed about that stuff. Getting married to my bf would be nice, but I'm happy the way things are so it's not that big of a deal to me if we never get legally married. There is no difference in my lifestyle and what it would be like if we were married except the fact that we'd have the same last name. That's about it. Oh, and we'd inherit each other's debt lol0 -
Walk away. Hes not only misleading her, but hes not afraid to be rude to her in public. I am sure he is fabu but there are other fabu guys who would cherish her.0
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If something ever happened with my marriage, I know I would never get married again. If she went into the relationship knowing that about him, then she shouldn't try to change him. He was wrong for giving her any kind of hope that he "might, someday", but seems to me he was pretty clear from the start.
And guys usually act like horse butt in front of their friends...that's why you mock them back.0 -
Coming from a girl who is unsure about ever being married, it is possible to have a committed relationship without marriage, but if she is dead set on being married, then she needs to leave and get what she wants. If this is something she wants bad enough, then he is just not the right guy for her because it's apparent he doesn't want to be married.0
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Mind your own business. :mad:
Are you the guy shes talking about or something?
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If I were Jane, I would look at the state of my relationship and where it is going. If it were my desire to get married, I would sit down and have a serious talk about his opinion on marriage and where he truly stands (he might have been trying to be macho in front of his friends).
If it were really important to her to get married, and he didn't ever want to get married, that probably a deal breaker. Because, ultimately, she'll end up resenting him and trying to change his opinion, disrespecting his position and causing resentment from him with regards to it.
Sticking around hoping for change sometimes won't make it come. I also wouldn't pose it as an ultimatum (ie, you marry me or I'm gone) I would rather say, "Well then it's obvious we want different things and perhaps it's best to part as friends..."0 -
Coming from someone who is going through a rather long, drawn out, pretty ugly divorce? I've stated to my boyfriend that I have no interest or intention of getting married again. I don't need a piece of paper to know that I love him (because having that piece of paper certainly didn't insure I'd love my ex for the rest of my life, right?). I guess I don't really understand why people are so hell bent on marriage. My boyfriend and I live together and have our lives intertwined with one another, we just don't have a piece of paper that says we have to legally split everything down the middle if it ends.
If someone doesn't want to get married and are open with you about it... then you have two choices;
A) Accept that is how they feel and it may or may not change.Leave.
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they can still be together along time not being married..i think marriage is a preference...0
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That was a jerky move on his part and it seems like they want different things from the relationship. If she wants to get married and he will "one day", I would advise her to move on.0
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Johnny told his friends something different than he told Jane. Jane should have a talk to find out how Johnny really feels about it. If Johnny decides he doesn't want to get married, then Jane should decide how important marriage is and whether to stay with Johnny or move on.0
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How sad. Just another example of someone letting former relationships ruin present ones. If he can't see that these are two different women...that HE is the issue, not them or marriage. I wish her the best, but I would be mortified if my boyfriend said that in front of friends and it is hard to believe if he is that callous in that instance that it doesn't happen at other times as well. Has she told him how this makes her feel?0
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I always said I would never get married again, didnt see the point in it. I never figured I would fall in love with anyone again either but I did. I truely love him and would never do or say anything to intentionally hurt him. That is a private conversation that your friend and him should of had. The announcement in public was a ploy for attention with no thought of how it would hurt or effect her. Serious respect issue here if you ask me.0
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if he doesn't intend to marry again then that is his business. But by making a promise of (eventual) marriage to his gf but then making a public declaration that he intends to never marry again shows a total lack of respect on his part for his gf & that is what I, if I were this guys gf, would be concerned about rather than the not marrying again part.0
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I think a serious discussion with boyfriend needs to happen. If he has no intention of marrying her, and this is what she is looking for, then it's time to say so long and move on.
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the only thing I think is weird about this is that it was apparently NEWS to her when he announced it in the bar?
Also to all you saying that marriage is the only reason to date, good lord. What the heck is the POINT of getting married? I'll tell you the point - legal rights. Everything else is just window dressing that the wedding industry is selling you on. Marriage does NOT equal commitment. Get that out of your heads right now. Commitment is commitment. Marriage is paperwork (and for some people, religious).0 -
Psh....marriage is just a government-issued piece of paper. If they love each other, why do they need a tax statement to prove it?
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EXACTLY!!!0 -
She started dating him knowing he didn't want to remarry.
He changed his mind, he can change it again.
If she loves him, and he loves her, does it really matter if they marry?
If they're a "strong" couple, they can come to aan agreement/understanding.
She is free to change her mind on whether she wants to continue in the relationship.
He is talking legalities, she is talking commitment. Those aren't necessarily the same thing.0 -
Just wondering how much debt your friend has? Is it the getting married again or the paying off of the debt or both that he is against?0
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